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TABLE OF CONTENTS
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS ii
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LIST OF TABLES v
I. INTRODUCTION 1
Statement of Purpose 1
Review of Literature 2
Determinants of Disengagement 6
Disengagement Strategies 9
Typology of Strategies 9
Strategy Selection 12
Trust 16
Dyadic Adjustment 18
Consequences of Relational
Disengagement 19
Hypotheses 24
11. METHODOLOGY 26
Subjects 26
Materials 26
III. RESULTS 29
Hypotheses 38
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TABLE OF CONTENTS cont'd
IV. DISCUSSION 45
Strategy Selection 45
Consequences of Disengagement 48
Conclusion 51
REFERENCES 55
APPENDIX 58
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LIST OF TABLES
Table
1. Factor Analysis Solution 30
2. Correlations Between All Variables 32
3. Factor Analysis Solution for Intimacy,
Constrained, Unwillingness to Compromise
and Trust 35
4. Correlations Between Relational Variables,
Strategies and Consequences of Disengagement ... 39
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CHAPTER I
INTRODUCTION
Statement of Purpose
While the initiation and development of pair relation-
ships has long been a topic of interest in interpersonal
communication, much less attention has been given to the
dissolution of pair relationships. It has been argued that
disengagements should be studied in order to understand the •
complete life cycle of relationships (Baxter, 1979) . A
considerable body of research exists concerning marital
separation and divorce, but, as Hill, Rubin and Peplau
(1976) point out, "for every recorded instance of the ending
of a marriage, there are many instances of the ending of a
pre-marital relationship" (p. 148).
Despite the pervasiveness of pre-marital breakups,
exploration into the disengagement of friendship dyads and
dating couples has only recently begun to emerge. To date,
the research has examined various factors associated with
the precipitating causes of a breakup, the communication
strategies used in the process of breaking up and the
effects of the breakup on the individuals involved. Also,
some speculative comparisons have been made relating
pre-marital breakups with marital breakups.
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The purpose of the present paper is to extend the work
of previous research in an effort to understand more fully
the disengagement of relationships. Utilizing a social
exchange perspective, a review of literature will be
presented which focuses on factors associated with which
partner disengages and how disengagement is achieved. In
an attempt to build upon the research base, additional
variables which have remained unexplored will be discussed
and hypotheses will then be proposed.
Review of Literature
Social Exchange Theory
Within social exchange theory, human interaction is
viewed as a voluntary exchange of mutually rewarding
objects or activities. Levinger (1979a) notes that although
critics claim this approach is too materialistic to apply
to close interpersonal relationships, social exchange
theory is indeed useful in examining phenomena that occur
in close relationships because exchanges can be interpreted
in either concrete or symbolic terms. Therefore, abstract
concepts such as love and affection are not discounted,
but reinterpreted within an exchange orientation. Five
perspectives of social exchange theory are reviewed in
Roloff (1981): Homans• operant psychology approach (1974);
Blau's economic approach (1964); Thibaut and Kelley's
theory of interdependence (1978); Foa and Foa's resource
theory (1974); and Walster, Berscheid and Walster's equity
theory (1978). Though each perspective approaches social
exchange in a slightly different manner, there is agreement
concerning the major constructs.
The basic constructs of social exchange theory are
rewards, costs, comparison level, comparison level for
alternatives, distributive justice and reciprocity. The
first important concept is that of resources (rewards and
costs) which constitute what is exchanged. Foa and Foa
(1974) posit six types of resources: love, status, services,
goods, information and money. Love involves the expression
of affection and warmth and is considered a particularistic
resource as the value attached to love is largely dependent
upon the particular person who provides it. Status is the
communication of regard or esteem. Services and goods are
more concrete resources since they usually deal with
observable exchanges such as fixing someone's car or
delivering a newspaper. Information takes the form of
advice, opinions or instructions. Money is coin or
currency assigned a standard value within a social system.
Since it is unaffected by the person who provides it, money
is considered a universal resource (Roloff, 1981).
Resources are not equally valued: some people desire
certain resources over others. Preferred resources may be
thought of as rewards or "the pleasures, satisfactions
and gratifications a person enjoys" (Thibaut and Kelley,
1959, p. 12). Also, the value a person attributes to a
resource may vary. For example, if an individual has
accumulated a great deal of one resource, it will become
less valued (Roloff, 1981). Blau (1964) posits that some
rewards may emerge spontaneously such as personal
attraction, social approval and respect, while others are
open to negotiation such as acceptance into a group,
instrumental services and compliance. These types of
social rewards may be distinguished by whether they are
intrinsic or external to the relationship. Extrinsic
rewards (personal attraction, social approval and instru-
mental services), though conveyed within the relationships
exist independent of the relationship. Respect and
compliance are internal, unilateral rewards in that when
one complies with another, it is implicit that superiority
is granted to one at the expense of the other's power.
Determinants of Disengagement
Simpson (1981a) synthesized social exchange theory with
symbolic interactionism to create a framework for examining
the development and/or decay of intimate relationships.
Symbolic interactionism focuses on the analysis of shared
meaning and the role of social interactions in the
development of self (Kimmel, 1979; Simpson, 1981a). The
integration of social exchange theory and symbolic
interactionism—symbolic exchange—has as a central concern
the exchange of symbolic meaning in the development of a
"relationship world view." The relationship world view
consists of a couple's common assumptions of life and
perceptions of the degree of importance these assumptions
hold for the couple. The extent to which a couple has
constructed a shared view of the world is the level of
symbolic interdependence. The relationship world view is
especially applicable to highly intimate couples and
married partners who have supposedly spent a great deal of
time developing shared assumptions and values. Simpson
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Disengagement Strategies
Recently, there has em.erged an interest in studying the
actual process of disengagement. The communication
strategies and variables that affect the use of these
strategies have been the focus of investigations. Further,
while Hill et a_l. (1976) reported some findings concerning
the consequences of thé parties of the breakup (e.g., who
stayed friends), it is clear that how people break up
influences subsequent feelings and orientations.
Trust
Dyadic Adjustment
Dyadic adjustment is a prominent concept in the study of
marital relationships but has only recently been generalized
to unmarried couples (Spanier, 1976). The concept is
utilized in an effort to obtain an evaluation of the
characteristics and interactions of a relationship. Dyadic
adjustment is comprised of four empirically verified
components: dyadic satisfaction, dyadic consensus (the
extent to which a couple agrees on matters important to
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Hypotheses
Replicating Cody (1981), the following hypotheses are
advanced:
H,: As intimacy increases, the selection of justification,
positive tone, de-escalation and negative identity
management strategies will increase, while the selection
of behavioral de-escalation strategies will decrease.
H^: The more the partner is perceived as unwilling to
compromise, the more likely the disengager will be to
select behavioral de-escalation, justification and
negative identity management strategies.
H^: The more the disengager feels that the partner was
personally responsible for the disengagement by
introducing personality problems (i.e., Faults) into
the relationship, the more likely the disengager will
select justification and de-escalation strategies.
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de-escalation strategies.
depressed.
METHODOLOGY
Subjects
Materials
A copy of the questionnaire is included in the Appendix.
The questionnaire consisted of four parts: perceptions of
the relationship, causes precipitating the breakup, how the
breakup was executed and consequences of the breakup.
Part I (perceptions of the relationship) included
questions concerning intimacy, trust and dyadic adjustment.
Items 1-5 were used to measure perceived intimacy. These
items were previously used in Cody (1981). Items 17-22
were used to measure perceived trust. These items
constitute six of the eight items developed by Larzelere
and Huston (1980). Subjects were asked to indicate the
extent to which each item applied to the relationship they
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RESULTS
This chapter presents the results of analyses
conducted to confirm the existence of the five proposed
methods of disengaging and to assess the internal consis-
tency and interrelationships among the independent and
dependent variables. Since the preliminary analyses
indicated fairly high correlations between the independent
variables (i.e., the Faults factor correlated with all other
independent variables except Intimacy), a series of factor
analyses was conducted in order to identify items that were
pure loading items so that more independent indices could
be constructed. The solutions of the factor analyses are
presented. The results of analyses conducted to test the
nine hypotheses are then presented.
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compromise and was used to test the second hypothesis. The
new construct correlated -.21 with the use of justification
strategies. That is, trust and willingness to compromise
were negatively related to justification. This result
provides indirect support for the prediction that
Unwillingness to Compromise and justification would be
positively associated. The correlations with negative
identity management and avoidance were not significant
(r = .06, -.05, respectively).
Hypothesis three dealt with the Faults variable which
was not included in the final analysis because the variable
was not independent of other predictor variables.
Hypothesis four predicted that the more the disengager felt
constrained by the partner, the more likely the disengager
would be to select avoidance, positive tone and
de-escalation strategies. The Constrained variable
correlated positively with de-escalation [r = .12, p < .05).
The correlations with positive tone and avoidance were not
significant (r = -.03, .01, respectively). Significant
correlations were obtained between Constrained and
justification [r = .15) and between Constrained and negative
identity management (£ = .26).
Hypothesis five predicted that as Trust and Dyadic
Adjustment increased, the disengager would be more likely to
employ justification, positive tone and de-escalation
strategies and less likely to employ negative identity
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management and avoidance tactics. As Trust increased,
disengagers were more likely to select positive tone (x =
.22, p < .001) and de-escalation (r = .12, p < .05). A
negative correlation was obtained between Trust and
justification (r = -.21). The correlations with negative
identity management and avoidance were not significant
(X = .06, -.05, respectively). As Dyadic Adjustment
increased, disengagers were more likely to select positive
tone (r; = .15, p < .01). Significant negative associations
were obtained between Dyadic Adjustment and justification
(£ = -,19), negative identity management (r = -.11) and
avoidance {r = -.15). The correlation with de-escalation
was not significant (jr = .10), though in the predicted
direction.
Hypothesis six predicted that the use of positive tone
and de-escalation strategies would increase the likelihood
that partners would remain friends. A negative association
between positive tone and de-escalation and guilt was also
predicted. Significant support was obtained for the first
part of the hypothesis six. Positive tone correlated
positively with "staying friends" {_r = .16, p <• .01);
de-escalation correlated positively with "staying frier.ds"
(r = .27, p < .001). The second part of hypothesis six
was not supported. Positive tone and de-escala^ion both
correlated .25 with guilt.
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DISCUSSION
Strateqy Selection
Consequences of Disengagement
Several of the expectations concerning the consequences
of disengagement were confirmed. When disengagers used
positive tone and de-escalation strategies, the couple was
more likely to remain friends. Positive tone and
de-escalation strategies express caring for the partner
and express possibilities for future reconciliation. The
likelihood of maintaining a friendship is enhanced. When
disengagers used avoidance and justification strategies,
the couple was less likely to remain friends. Avoidance
tactics leave the partner with no reason or explanation for
the disengagment and are likely to cause confusion, hurt
and anger. Justification provides an explanation, but does
not express concern for the rejection needs of the partner.
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Thus, avoidance and justification tactics do not ensure the
continuation of friendship.
Conclusion
The present study provides support for the claim that
relational variables influence disengagement strategy
selection. Although some of the correlations were smaller
than anticipated, the majority were in the predicted
directions. Generally, when a relationship is characterized
by higher levels of intimacy, trust and dyadic adjustment,
disengagers will select strategies which show concern for
the partner, offer possible reconciliation and provide
reasons for the disengagement. When the partner was
perceived as unwilling to compromise, disengagers selecfed
justification strategies, whereas when disengagers felt
constrained by the partner, they selected de-escalation,
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Again, make sure that you answer every item. Your honesty
_and coop^era_tioj\_ are very much appreciated.
1- The relationship was a very intimate one.
_2. I disclosed very intimate information about
myself to this partner.
48. Did you express how much you cared for each other'
_49. Did you show how much you liked each other?
50. Did you show affection for each other?