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YOUTH AND SEX

Dangers and Safeguards for Girls and Boys
by
MARY SCHARLIEB, M.D., M.S., AND F. ARTHUR SIBLY, M.A., LL.D.
1919

CONTENTS.

PART I.: GIRLS.

BY MARY SCHARLIEB, M.D., M.S.

INTRODUCTION

I. CHANGES OBSERVABLE DURING PUBERTY AND ADOLESCENCE IN GIRLS

II. OUR DUTIES TOWARDS ADOLESCENT GIRLS

III. CARE OF THE ADOLESCENT GIRL IN SICKNESS

IV. MENTAL AND MORAL TRAINING

V. THE FINAL AIM OF EDUCATION

PART II.: BOYS.

BY F. ARTHUR SIBLY, M.A., LL.D.

PREFACE TO THE SECOND EDITION

INTRODUCTORY NOTE

I. PREVALENCE OF IMPURITY AMONG BOYS: THE AUTHOR'S OWN

EXPERIENCE

II. PREVALENCE OF IMPURITY AMONG BOYS: THE OPINIONS OF CANON

LYTTELTON, DR. DUKES AND OTHERS

III. CAUSES OF THE PREVALENCE OF IMPURITY AMONG BOYS

IV. RESULTS OF YOUTHFUL IMPURITY

V. SEX KNOWLEDGE IS COMPATIBLE WITH PERFECT REFINEMENT AND

INNOCENCE

VI. CONDITIONS UNDER WHICH PURITY TEACHING IS BEST GIVEN:

REMEDIAL AND CURATIVE MEASURES

NOTE TO CORRESPONDENTS

PART I.: GIRLS.

BY MARY SCHARLIEB, M.D., M.S.

INTRODUCTION.

Probably the most important years in anyone's life are those eight or ten preceding the
twenty-first birthday. During these years _Heredity_, one of the two great developmental
factors, bears its crop, and the seeds sown before birth and during childhood come to
maturity. During these years also the other great developmental force known as
Environment has full play, the still plastic nature is moulded by circumstances, and the
influence of these two forces is seen in the manner of individual that results.
This time is generally alluded to under two heads: (1) Puberty, (2) Adolescence.

By Puberty we understand the period when the reproductive organs are developed, the
boy or girl ceasing to be the neutral child and acquiring the distinctive characteristics of
man or woman. The actual season of puberty varies in different individuals from the
eleventh to the sixteenth year, and although the changes during this time are not sudden,
they are comparatively rapid.

By Adolescence we understand the time during which the individual is approximating to

the adult type, puberty having been already accomplished. Adolescence corresponds to
the latter half of the developmental period, and may be prolonged even up to twenty-five
years.

CHAPTER I

.
CHANGES OBSERVABLE DURING PUBERTY AND ADOLESCENCE IN GIRLS.
1. Changes in the Bodily Framework.--During this period the girl's skeleton not only
grows remarkably in size, but is also the subject of well-marked alterations and
development. Among the most evident changes are those which occur in the shape and
inclination of the pelvis. During the years of childhood the female pelvis has a general
resemblance to that of the male, but with the advent of puberty the vertical portion of the
hip bones becomes expanded and altered in shape, it becomes more curved, and its inner
surface looks less directly forward and more towards its fellow bone of the other side.
The brim of the pelvis, which in the child is more or less heart-shaped, becomes a wide
oval, and consequently the pelvic girdle gains considerably in width. The heads of the
thigh bones not only actually, in consequence of growth, but also relatively, in
consequence of change of shape in the pelvis, become more widely separated from each
other than they are in childhood, and hence the gait and the manner of running alters
greatly in the adult woman. At the same time the angle made by the junction of the spinal
column with the back of the pelvis, known as the sacro-vertebral angle, becomes better
marked, and this also contributes to the development of the characteristic female type. No
doubt the female type of pelvis can be recognised in childhood, and even before birth, but
the differences of male and female pelves before puberty are so slight that it requires the
eye of an expert to distinguish them. The very remarkable differences that are found
between the adult male and the adult female pelvis begin to appear with puberty and
develop rapidly, so that no one could mistake the pelvis of a properly developed girl of
sixteen or eighteen years of age for that of a boy. These differences are due in part to the
action of the muscles and ligaments on the growing bones, in part to the weight of the
body from above and the reaction of the ground from beneath, but they are also largely
due to the growth and development of the internal organs peculiar to the woman. All
these organs exist in the normal infant at birth, but they are relatively insignificant, and it
is not until the great developmental changes peculiar to puberty occur that they begin to
exercise their influence on the shape of the bones. This is proved by the fact that in those
rare cases in which the internal organs of generation are absent, or fail to develop, there is
a corresponding failure in the pelvis to alter into the normal adult shape. The muscles of
the growing girl partake in the rapid growth and development of her bony framework.
Sometimes the muscles outgrow the bones, causing a peculiar lankiness and slackness of
figure, and in other girls the growth of the bones appears to be too rapid for the muscles,
to which fact a certain class of "growing pain" has been attributed.
Another part of the body that develops rapidly during these momentous years is the bust.
The breasts become large, and not only add to the beauty of the girl's person, but also
manifestly prepare by increase of their glandular elements for the maternal function of
suckling infants.
Of less importance so far as structure is concerned, but of great importance to female
loveliness and attractiveness, are the changes that occur in the clearing and brightening of
the complexion, the luxuriant growth, glossiness, and improved colour of the hair, and
the beauty of the eyes, which during the years which succeed puberty acquire a new and
singularly attractive expression.
The young girl's hands and feet do not grow in proportion with her legs and arms, and
appear to be more beautifully shaped when contrasted with the more fully developed
limb.
With regard to the internal organs, the most important are those of the pelvis. The uterus,
or womb, destined to form a safe nest for the protection of the child until it is sufficiently
developed to maintain an independent existence, increases greatly in all its dimensions
and undergoes certain changes in shape; and the ovaries, which are intended to furnish
the ovules, or eggs (the female contribution towards future human beings), also develop
both in size and in structure.
Owing to rapid growth and to the want of stability of the young girl's tissues, the years
immediately succeeding puberty are not only those of rapid physiological change, but
they are those during which irreparable damage may be done unless those who have the
care of young girls understand what these dangers are, how they are produced, and how
they may be averted.
With regard to the bony skeleton, lateral curvature of the spine is, in mild manifestation,
very frequent, and is too common even in the higher degrees. The chief causes of this
deformity are:
(1) The natural softness and want of stability in the rapidly growing bones and muscles;
(2) The rapid development of the bust, which throws a constantly increasing burden on
these weakened muscles and bones; and
(3) The general lassitude noticeable amongst girls at this time which makes them yield to
the temptation to stand on one leg, to cross one leg over the other, and to write or read
leaning on one elbow and bending over the table, whereas they ought to be sitting upright.
Unless constant vigilance is exerted, deformity is pretty sure to occur--a deformity which
always has a bad influence over the girl's health and strength, and which, in those cases
where it is complicated by the pathological softness of bones found in cases of rickets,
may cause serious alteration in shape and interfere with the functions of the pelvis in later
life.
2. Changes in the Mental Nature.--These are at least as remarkable as the changes in the
bodily framework. There is a slight diminution in the power of memorising, but the
faculties of attention, of reasoning, and of imagination, develop rapidly. Probably the
power of appreciation of the beautiful appears about this time, a faculty which is usually
dormant during childhood. More especially is this true with regard to the beauty of
landscape; the child seldom enjoys a landscape as such, although isolated beauties, such
as that of flowers, may sometimes be appreciated.
As might be anticipated, all things are changing with the child during these momentous
years: its outlook on life, its appreciation of other people and of itself, alter greatly and
continuously. The wonderfully rapid growth and alterations in structure of the generative
organs have their counterpart in the mental and moral spheres; there are new sensations
which are scarcely recognised and are certainly not understood by the subject: vague
feelings of unrest, ill-comprehended desires, and an intense self-consciousness take the
place of the unconscious egoism of childhood.
The processes of Nature as witnessed in the season of spring have their counterpart in the
changes that occur during the early years of adolescence. The earth warmed by the more
direct rays of the sun and softened by recurring showers is transformed in a few weeks
from its bare and dry winter garb into the wonderful beauty of spring. This yearly miracle
fails to impress us as it should do because we have witnessed it every year of our lives,
and so, too, the great transformation from child to budding woman fails to make its
appeal to our understanding and sympathy because it is of so common occurrence. If it
were possible for adults to really remember their own feelings and aspirations in
adolescent years, or if it were possible for us with enlightened sympathy to gain access to
the enchanted garden of youth, we should be more adequate guides for the boys and girls
around us. As it is we entirely fail to appreciate the heights of their ambitions, hopes, and
joys, and we have no measure with which to plumb the depths of their fears, their
disappointments, and their doubts. The transition between radiant joy and confident hope
in the future to a miserable misinterpretation of sensations both physical and psychical
are rapid. It is the unknown that is terrible to us all, and to the child the changes in its
body, the changes in its soul and spirit, which we pass by as commonplace, are full of
suggestions of abnormality, of disaster, and of death. Young people suffer much from the
want of comprehension and intelligent sympathy of their elders, much also from their
own ignorance and too fervid imagination. The instability of the bodily tissues and the
variability of their functions find a counterpart in the instability of the mental and moral
natures and in the variability of their phenomena. Adolescents indeed "never continue in
one stay;" left to themselves they will begin many pursuits, but persevere with, and finish,
nothing.
Youth is the time for rapidly-succeeding friends, lovers, and heroes. The schoolfellow or
teacher who is adored to-day may become the object of indifference or even of dislike
to-morrow. Ideas as to the calling or profession to be adopted change rapidly, and
opinions upon religion, politics, &c., vary from day to day. It is little wonder that there is
a special type of adolescent insanity differing entirely from that of later years, one in
which, owing to the want of full development of mental faculties, there are no
systematised delusions, but a rapid change from depression and melancholy to exaltation
bordering on mania. Those parents and guardians who know something of the peculiar
physical and mental conditions of adolescence will be best prepared both to treat the
troubles wisely, and by sympathy to help the young people under their care to help
themselves.
One of the phenomena of adolescence is the dawn of the sexual instinct. This frequently
develops without the child knowing or understanding what it means. More especially is
this true of young girls whose home life has been completely sheltered, and who have not
had the advantage, or disadvantage, of that experience of life which comes early to those
who live in crowded tenements or amongst the outspoken people of the countryside. The
children of the poorer classes have, in a way, too little to learn: they are brought up from
babyhood in the midst of all domestic concerns, and the love affairs of their elders are
intimately known to them, therefore quite early in adolescence "ilka lassie has her
laddie," and although the attraction be short-lived and the affection very superficial, yet it
is sufficient to give an added interest to life, and generally leads to an increased care in
dress and an increased desire to make the most of whatever good looks the girl may
possess. The girl in richer homes is probably much more bewildered by her unwonted
sensations and by the attraction she begins to feel towards the society of the opposite sex.
Probably in these days, when there is more intermingling of the sexes, the girl's outlook is
franker, and, so far as this is concerned, healthier, than it was forty or fifty years ago. It is
very amusing to elders to hear a boy scarcely in his teens talking of "his best girl," or to
see the little lass wearing the colour or ornament that her chosen lad admires. It is true
that the "best girl" varies from week to week if not from day to day, but this special
regard for a member of the opposite sex announces the dawn of a simple sentiment that
will, a few years later, blossom out into the real passion which may fix a life's destiny.
The mental and moral changes that occur during the early years of adolescence call for
help and sympathy of an even higher order than do the changes in physical structure and
function. Some of these changes, such as shyness and reticence, may be the cause of
considerable suffering to the girl and a perplexity to her elders, but on the whole they are
comparatively easy of comprehension, and are more likely to elicit sympathy and
kindness than blame. It is far otherwise with such changes as unseemly laughter, rough
manners, and a nameless difference in the girl's manner when in the presence of the other
sex. A girl who is usually quiet, modest, and sensible in her behaviour may suddenly
become boisterous and self-asserting, there is a great deal of giggling, and altogether a
disagreeable transformation which too frequently involves the girl in trouble with her
mother or other guardian, and is very frequently harshly judged by the child herself. In
proportion as self-discipline has been taught and self-control acquired, these outward
manifestations are less marked, but in the case of the great majority of girls there are, at
any rate, impulses having their origin in the yet immature and misunderstood sex impulse
which cause the young woman herself annoyance and worry although she is as far from
understanding their origin as her elders may be. The remedies for these troubles are
various. First in order of time and in importance comes a habit of self-control and
self-discipline that ought to be coeval with conscious life. Fathers and mothers are
themselves to blame if their girl lapses from good behaviour when they have not
inculcated ideals of obedience, duty, and self-discipline from babyhood. It seems such a
little thing to let the child have its run of the cake-basket and the sweet-box; it is in the
eyes of many parents so unimportant whether the little one goes to bed at the appointed
time or ten minutes later; they argue that it can make no difference to her welfare in life
or to her eternal destiny whether her obedience is prompt and cheerful or grudging and
imperfect. One might as well argue that the proper planting of a seed, its regular watering,
and the influences of sun and wind make no difference to the life of a tree. We have to
bear carefully in mind that those who sow an act reap a habit, who sow a habit reap a
character, who sow a character reap a destiny both in this world and in that which is
eternal. It is mere selfishness, unconscious, no doubt, but none the less fatal, when
parents to suit their own convenience omit to inculcate obedience, self-restraint, habits of
order and unselfishness in their children. Youth is the time when the soul is apt to be
shaken by sorrow's power and when stormy passions rage. The tiny rill starting from the
mountainside can be readily deflected east or west, but the majestic river hastening to the
sea is beyond all such arbitrary directions. So it is with the human being: the character
and habit are directed easily in infancy, with difficulty during childhood, but they are
well-nigh impossible of direction by the time adolescence is established. Those fathers
and mothers who desire to have happiness and peace in connection with their adolescent
boys and girls must take the trouble to direct them aright during the plastic years of
infancy and childhood. All natural instincts implanted in us by Him who knew what was
in the heart of man are in themselves right and good, but the exercise of these instincts
may be entirely wrong in time or in degree. The sexual instinct, the affinity of boy to girl,
the love of adult man and woman, are right and holy when exercised aright, and it is the
result of "spoiling" when these good and noble instincts are wrongly exercised. All who
love their country, all who love their fellow men, and all who desire that the kingdom of
God should come, must surely do everything that is in their power to awaken the fathers
and mothers of the land to a sense of their heavy responsibility and of their high privilege.
In this we are entirely separated from and higher than the rest of the animal creation, in
that on us lies the duty not only of calling into life a new generation of human beings, but
also the still higher duty, the still greater privilege and the wider responsibility of
bringing up those children to be themselves the worthy parents of the future, the
supporters of their country's dignity, and joyful citizens of the household of God.
Another characteristic of adolescence is to be found in gregariousness, or what has been
sometimes called the gang spirit. Boys, and to almost as great a degree girls, form
themselves into companies or gangs, which frequently possess a high degree of
organisation. They elaborate special languages, they have their own form of shorthand,
their passwords, their rites and ceremonies. The gang has its elected leader, its officers,
its members; and although it is liable to sudden disruption and seldom outlasts a few
terms of school-life, each succeeding club or company is for the time being of paramount
importance in the estimation of its members. The gang spirit may at times cause trouble
and lead to anxiety, but if rightly directed it may be turned to good account. It is the germ
of the future capacity to organise men and women into corporate life--the very method by
which much public and national work is readily accomplished, but which is impossible to
accomplish by individual effort.
3. Changes in the Religion of the Adolescent.--The religion of the adolescent is apt to be
marked by fervour and earnest conviction, the phenomenon of "conversion" almost
constantly occurring during adolescence. The girl looks upon eternal truths from a
completely new standpoint, or at any rate with eyes that have been purged and
illuminated by the throes of conversion. From a period of great anxiety and doubt she
emerges to a time of intense love and devotion, to an eager desire to prove herself worthy,
and to offer a sacrifice of the best powers she possesses. Unfortunately for peace of mind,
the happy epoch succeeding conversion not unfrequently ends in a dismal time of
intellectual doubt and spiritual darkness. Just as the embryonic love of the youthful
adolescent leads to a time when the opposite sex is rather an object of dislike than of
attraction, so the fervour of early conversion is apt to lead to a time of desolation; but just
as the incomplete sex love of early adolescence finds its antitype and fine flower in the
later fully developed love of honourable man and woman, so does the too rapturous and
uncalculating religious devotion of these early years revive after the period of doubt,
transfigured and glorified into the religious conviction and devotion which makes the
strength, the joy, and the guiding principle of adult life.
Much depends on the circumstances and people surrounding the adolescent. Her
unbounded capacity for hero-worship leads in many instances to a conscious or
unconscious copying of parent, guardian, or teacher; and although the ideals of the young
are apt to far outpace those of the adult whose days of illusion are over, yet they are
probably formed on the same type. One sees this illustrated by generations in the same
family holding much the same religious or political opinions and showing the same
aptitude for certain professions, games, and pursuits. Much there is in heredity, but
probably there is still more in environment.

CHAPTER II

.
OUR DUTIES TOWARDS ADOLESCENT GIRLS.
These may be briefly summed up by saying that we have to provide adolescent girls with
all things that are necessary for their souls and their bodies, but any such bald and
wholesale enunciation of our duty helps but little in clearing one's ideas and in pointing
out the actual manner in which we are to perform it.
First, with regard to the bodies of adolescent girls; Their primary needs, just like the
primary needs of all living beings, are food, warmth, shelter, exercise and rest, with
special care in sickness.
Food.--In spite of the great advance of knowledge in the present day, it is doubtful
whether much practical advance has been made in the dietetics of children and
adolescents, and it is to be feared that our great schools are especially deficient in this
most important respect. Even when the age of childhood is past, young people require a
much larger amount of milk than is usually included in their diet sheet. It would be well
for them to begin the day with porridge and milk or some such cereal preparation. Coffee
or cocoa made with milk should certainly have the preference over tea for breakfast, and
in addition to the porridge or other such dish, fish, egg, or bacon, with plenty of bread
and butter, should form the morning repast. The midday meal should consist of fresh
meat, fish, or poultry, with an abundance of green vegetables and a liberal helping of
sweet pudding. The articles of diet which are most deficient in our lists are milk, butter,
and sugar. There is an old prejudice against sugar which is quite unfounded so far as the
healthy individual is concerned. Cane sugar has recently been proved to be a most
valuable muscle food, and when taken in the proper way for sweetening beverages, fruit,
and puddings, it is entirely good. The afternoon meal should consist chiefly of bread and
butter and milk or cocoa, with a fair proportion of simple, well-made cake, and in the
case where animal food has been taken both at breakfast and dinner, the evening meal
might well be bread and butter, bread and milk, or milk pudding with stewed or fresh
fruit. But it is different in the case of those adolescents whose midday meal is necessarily
slight, and who ought to have a thoroughly good dinner or supper early in the evening;
One would have thought it unnecessary to mention alcohol in speaking of the dietary of
young people were it not that, strange to say, beer is still given at some of our public
schools. It is extraordinary that wise and intelligent people should still give beer to young
boys and girls at the very time when what they want is strength and not stimulus, food for
the growing frame and nothing to stimulate the already exuberant passions.
An invariable rule with regard to the food of children should be that their meals should be
regular, that they should consist of good, varied, nourishing food taken at regular hours,
and that nothing should be eaten between meals. The practice of eating biscuits, fruit, and
sweets between meals during childhood and adolescence not only spoils the digestion and
impairs the nutrition at the time, but it is apt to lay the foundation of a constant craving
for something which is only too likely to take the form of alcoholic craving in later years.
It is impossible for the stomach to perform its duty satisfactorily if it is never allowed rest,
and the introduction of stray morsels of food at irregular times prevents this, and
introduces confusion into the digestive work, because there will be in the stomach at the
same time food in various stages of digestion.
Warmth.--Warmth is one of the influences essential to health and to sound development,
and although artificial warmth is more urgently required by little children and by old
people than it is by young adults, still, if their bodies are to come to their utmost possible
perfection, they require suitable conditions of temperature. This is provided in the winter
partly by artificial heating of houses and partly by the wearing of suitable clothing. Ideal
clothing is loose of texture and woven of wool, although a fairly good substitute can be
obtained in materials that are made from cotton treated specially.
This is not the time or place in which to insist on the very grave dangers that accompany
the use of ordinary flannelette, but a caution must be addressed in passing to those who
provide clothing for others. In providing clothes it is necessary to remember the two
reasons for their existence: (1) to cover the body, and (2) as far as possible to protect a
large area of its surface against undue damp and cold.
Adolescents, as a rule, begin early to take a great interest in their clothes. From the time
that the appreciation of the opposite sex commences, the child who has hitherto been
indifferent or even slovenly in the matter of clothing takes a very living interest in it;
indeed the adornment of person and the minute care devoted to details of the toilet by
young people of both sexes remind one irresistibly of the preening of the feathers, the
strutting and other antics of birds before their mates.
Girls especially are apt to forget the primary object of clothing, and to think of it too
much as a means of adornment. This leads to excesses and follies such as tight waists,
high-heeled shoes, to the ungainly crinoline or to indecent scantiness of skirts. Direct
interference in these matters is badly tolerated, but much may be accomplished both by
example and by cultivating a refined and artistic taste in sumptuary matters.
Sleep.--Amongst the most important of the factors that conduce to well-being both of
body and mind must be reckoned an adequate amount of sleep. This has been made the
subject of careful inquiry by Dr. Dukes of Rugby and Miss Alice Ravenhill. Both these
trained and careful observers agree that the majority of young people get far too little rest
and sleep. We have to remember that although fully-grown adults will take rest when
they can get it in the daytime, young people are too active, and sometimes too restless, to
give any repose to brain or muscle except during sleep. In the early years of adolescence
ten hours sleep is none too much; even an adult in full work ought to have eight hours,
and still more is necessary for the rapidly-growing, continually-developing, and
never-resting adolescent. It is unfortunately a fact that even in the boarding schools of the
well-to-do the provision of sleep is too limited, and for the children of the poor, whose
homes are far from comfortable and who are accustomed to doing pretty nearly as their
elders do, the night seldom begins before eleven or even twelve o'clock. It is one of the
saddest sights of London to see small children dancing on the pavement in front of the
public-houses up to a very late hour, while groups of loafing boys and hoydenish girls
stand about at the street corners half the night. There is little wonder that the morning
finds them heavy and unrefreshed, and that schoolwork suffers severely from want of the
alert and vigorous attention that might be secured by a proper night's sleep.
Great harm is done by allowing children to take work home with them from school; if
possible, the day's work should finish with school hours, and the scanty leisure should be
spent in healthy exercise or in sleep.
Overcrowding.--In considering the question of adequate sleep it would be well to think of
the conditions of healthy sleep.
For sleep to be refreshing and health-giving, the sleeper ought to have a comfortable bed
and an abundant supply of fresh air. Unfortunately the great majority of our people both
in town and country do not enjoy these advantages. In both town and country there is a
great deficiency of suitable dwellings at rents that can be paid with the usual rate of
wages. In consequence families are crowded into one, two, or three rooms, and even in
the case of people far above the status of day labourers and artisans it is the exception and
not the rule for each individual to have a separate bed. The question of ventilation is
certainly better understood than it was a few years ago, but still leaves much to be desired,
and there is still an urgent necessity for preaching the gospel of the open window.
Exercise.--In considering the question of the exercise of adolescents, one's thoughts
immediately turn to athletics, games, and dancing. As a nation the English have always
been fond of athletics, and have attributed to the influence of such team games as cricket
and football not only their success in various competitions but also their success in the
sterner warfare of life. This success has been obtained on the tented field and in the work
of exploring, mountaineering, and other pursuits that make great demand not only on
nerve and muscle but also on strength of character and powers of endurance.
Team games appear to be the especial property of adolescents, for young children are
more or less individualistic and solitary in many of their games, but boys and girls alike
prefer team games from the pre-adolescent age up to adult life. It is certain that no form
of exercise is superior to these games: they call into play every muscle of the body, they
make great demands on accuracy of eye and coordination, they also stimulate and
develop habits of command, obedience, loyalty, and esprit de corps. In the great public
schools of England, and in the private schools which look up to them as their models,
team games are played, as one might say, in a religious spirit. The boy or girl who
attempts to take an unfair advantage, or who habitually plays for his or her own hand, is
quickly made to feel a pariah and an outcast. Among the greatest blessings that are
conveyed to the children of the poorer classes is the instruction not only in the technique
of team games but also in the inoculation of the spirit in which they ought to be played. It
is absolutely necessary that the highest ideals connected with games should be handed
down, for thus the children who perhaps do not always have the highest ideals before
them in real life may learn through this mimic warfare how the battle of life must be
fought and what are the characters of mind and body that deserve and ensure success. It
has been well said that those who make the songs of a nation help largely to make its
character, and equally surely those who teach and control the games of the adolescents
are making or marring a national destiny.
Among the means of physical and moral advancement may be claimed gymnastics. And
here, alas, this nation can by no means claim to be facile princeps. Not only have we been
relatively slow in adopting properly systematised exercises, but even to the present day
the majority of elementary schools are without properly fitted gymnasia and duly
qualified teachers. The small and relatively poor Scandinavian nations have admirably
fitted gymnasia in connection with their _Folkschule_, which correspond to our
elementary schools. The exercises are based on those systematised by Ling; each series is
varied, and is therefore the more interesting, and each lesson commences with simple,
easily performed movements, leading on to those that are more elaborate and fatiguing,
and finally passing through a descending series to the condition of repose.
The gymnasia where such exercises are taught in England are relatively few and far
between, and it is lamentable to find that many excellent and well-appointed schools for
children, whose parents pay large sums of money for their education, have no properly
equipped gymnasia nor adequately trained teachers. When the question is put, "How
often do you have gymnastics at your school?" the answer is frequently, "We have none,"
or, "Half an hour once a week." Exercises such as Ling's not only exercise every muscle
in the body in a scientific and well-regulated fashion, but being performed by a number
of pupils at once in obedience to words of command, discipline, co-operation, obedience
to teachers, and loyalty to comrades, are taught at the same time. The deepest interest
attaches to many of the more complex exercises, while some of them make large
demands on the courage and endurance of the young people.
In Scandinavia the State provides knickerbockers, tunics, and gymnasium shoes for those
children whose parents are too poor to provide them; and again, in Scandinavia there is
very frequently the provision of bathrooms in which the pupils can have a shower bath
and rub-down after the exercises. These bathrooms in connection with the gymnasia need
not necessarily be costly; indeed many of them in Stockholm and Denmark merely
consist of troughs in the cement floor, on the edge of which the children sit in a row
while they receive a shower bath over their heads and bodies. The feet get well washed in
the trough, and the smart douche of water on head and shoulders acts as an admirable
tonic.
Another exercise which ought to be specially dear to a nation of islanders is swimming,
and this, again, is a relatively cheap luxury too much neglected amongst us. Certainly
there are public baths, but there are not enough to permit of all the elementary school
children bathing even once a week, and still less have they the opportunity of learning to
swim. There is much to be done yet before we can be justly proud of our national system
of education. We must not lose sight of the ideal with which we started--viz. that we
should endeavour to do the best that is possible for our young people in body, soul, and
spirit. The three parts of our nature are intertwined, and a duty performed to one part has
an effect on the whole.
CHAPTER III

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CARE OF THE ADOLESCENT GIRL IN SICKNESS.
If measured by the death-rate the period of adolescence should cause us little anxiety, but
a careful examination into the state of health of children of school age shows us that it is
a time in which disorders of health abound, and that although these disorders are not
necessarily, nor even generally, fatal, they are frequent, they spoil the child's health, and
inevitably bear fruit in the shape of an injurious effect on health in after life.
That the health of adolescents should be unstable is what we ought to expect from the
general instability of the organism due to the rapidity of growth and the remarkable
developmental changes that are crowded into these few years. Rapidity of growth and
increase of weight are very generally recognised, although their effects upon health are
apt to be overlooked. On the other hand, the still more remarkable development that
occurs in adolescence is very generally ignored.
As a general rule the infectious fevers, the so-called childish diseases--such as measles,
chicken-pox, and whooping-cough--are less common in adolescence than they are in
childhood, while the special diseases of internal organs due to their overwork, or to their
natural tendency to degeneration, is yet far in the future. The chief troubles of adolescents
appear to be due to overstress which accompanies rapid development, to the difficulty of
the whole organism in adapting itself to new functions and altered conditions, and no
doubt in some measure to the unwisdom both of the young people and of their advisers.
This is not the place for a general treatise on the diseases of adolescents, but a few of the
commonest and most obvious troubles should be noted.
The Teeth.--It is quite surprising to learn what a very large percentage of young soldiers
are refused enlistment in the army on account of decayed or defective teeth, and anyone
who has examined the young women candidates for the Civil Service and for Missionary
Societies must have recognised that their teeth are in no way better than those of the
young men. In addition to several vacancies in the dental series, it is by no means unusual
to find that a candidate has three or even five teeth severely decayed. The extraordinary
thing is that not only the young people and their parents very generally fail to recognise
the gravity of this condition, but that even their medical advisers have frequently
acquiesced in a state of things that is not only disagreeable but dangerous. A considerable
proportion of people with decayed teeth have also suppuration about the margins of the
gums and around the roots of the teeth. This pyorrhoea alveolaris, as it is called,
constitutes a very great danger to the patient's health, the purulent discharge teems with
poisonous micro-organisms, which being constantly swallowed are apt to give rise to
septic disease in various organs. It is quite probable that some cases of gastric ulcer are
due to this condition, so too are some cases of appendicitis, it has been known to cause a
peculiarly fatal form of heart disease, and it is also responsible for the painful swelling of
the joints of the fingers, with wasting of the muscles and general weakness which goes by
the name of rheumatoid arthritis. In addition to this there are many local affections, such
as swollen glands in the neck, that may be due to this poisonous discharge. One would
think that the mere knowledge that decayed teeth can cause all this havoc would lead to a
grand rush to the dentist, but so far from being the case, doctors find it extremely difficult
to induce their patients to part with this unsightly, evil-smelling, and dangerous decayed
tooth.
The Throat.--Some throat affections, such as diphtheria and quinsy, are well known and
justly dreaded; and although many a child's life has been sacrificed to the slowness of its
guardians to procure medical advice and the health-restoring antitoxin, yet on the whole
the public conscience is awake to this duty. Far otherwise is it with chronic diseases of
the tonsils: they may be riddled with small cysts, they may be constantly in a condition of
subacute inflammation dependent on a septic condition, but no notice is taken except
when chill, constipation, or a general run-down state of health aggravates the chronic into
a temporary acute trouble. And yet it is perhaps not going too far to say that for one
young girl who is killed or invalided rapidly by diphtheria there are hundreds who are
condemned to a quasi-invalid life owing to this persistent supply of poison to the system.
Another condition of the throat which causes much ill-health is well known to the public
under the name of adenoids. Unfortunately, however, many people have an erroneous
idea that children will "grow out of adenoids." Even if this were true it is extremely
unwise to wait for so desirable an event. Adenoids may continue to grow, and during the
years that they are present they work great mischief. Owing to the blocking of the
air-passages the mouth is kept constantly open, greatly to the detriment of the throat and
lungs. Owing to the interference with the circulation at the back of the nose and throat, a
considerable amount both of apparent and real stupidity is produced, the brain works less
well than it ought, and the child's appearance is ruined by the flat, broad bridge of the
nose and the gaping mouth. The tale of troubles due to adenoids is not even yet exhausted;
a considerable amount of discharge collects about them which it is not easy to clear away,
it undergoes very undesirable changes, and is then swallowed to the great detriment of
the stomach and the digestion. The removal of septic tonsils and of adenoids is most
urgently necessary, and usually involves little distress or danger. The change in the
child's health and appearance that can thus be secured is truly wonderful, especially if it
be taught, as it should be, to keep its mouth shut and to breathe through the nose. In the
course of a few months the complexion will have cleared, the expression will have
regained its natural intelligence, digestion will be well performed, and the child's whole
condition will be that of alert vigour instead of one of listless and sullen indifference.
Errors of Digestion.--From the consideration of certain states of the nose, mouth, and
throat, it is easy to turn to what is so often their consequence. Many forms of indigestion
are due to the septic materials swallowed. It would not, however, be fair to say that all
indigestion is thus caused; not infrequently indigestion is due to errors of diet, and here
the blame must be divided between the poverty and ignorance of many parents and the
self-will of adolescents. The foods that are best for young people--such as bread, milk,
butter, sugar, and eggs--are too frequently scarce in their dietaries owing to their cost; and
again, in the case of many girls whose parents are able and willing to provide them with a
thoroughly satisfactory diet-sheet, dyspepsia is caused by their refusal to take what is
good for them, and by their preference for unsuitable and indigestible viands.
A further cause of indigestion must be sought in the haste with which food is too often
eaten. The failure to rise at the appointed time leads to a hasty breakfast, and this must
eventually cause indigestion. The food imperfectly masticated and not sufficiently mixed
with saliva enters the stomach ill-prepared, and the hasty rush to morning school or
morning work effectually prevents the stomach from dealing satisfactorily with the mass
so hastily thrust into it.
There is an old saying that "Those whom the gods will destroy they first make mad," and
in many instances young people who fall victims to the demon of dyspepsia owe their
sorrows, if not to madness, at any rate to ignorance and want of consideration. The
defective teeth, septic tonsils, discharging adenoids, poverty of their parents and their
own laziness, all conspire to cause digestive troubles which bear a fruitful crop of further
evils, for thus are caused such illnesses as anæmia and gastric ulcer.
Constipation claims a few words to itself. And here again we ought to consider certain
septic processes. The refuse of the food should travel along the bowels at a certain rate,
but if owing to sluggishness of their movements or to defects in the quality and amount of
their secretion, the refuse is too long retained the masses become unduly dry, and,
constantly shrinking in volume, are no longer capable of being urged along the tube at the
proper rate. In consequence of this the natural micro-organisms of the intestine cease to
be innocent and become troublesome; they lead in the long run to a peculiar form of
blood-poisoning, and to so many diseased conditions that it is impossible to deal with
them at the present moment. The existence of constipation is too often a signal for the
administration of many doses of medicine. The wiser, the less harmful, and the more
effectual method of dealing with it would be to endeavour to secure the natural action of
the bowels by a change in the diet, which should contain more vegetable and less animal
constituents. The patient should also be instructed to drink plenty of water, either hot or
cold, a large glassful on going to bed and one on first awaking, and also if necessary an
hour before each meal. Steady exercise is also of very great service, and instead of
starting so late as to have no time for walking to school or work, a certain portion of the
daily journey should be done on foot. Further, in all cases where it is possible, team
games, gymnastics, and dancing should be called in to supplement the walk.
Headache.--Headache may be due to so many different causes that it would be impossible
in this little book to adequately consider them, but it would not be fair to omit to mention
that in many cases the headache of young people is due to their want of spectacles. The
idea that spectacles are only required by people advanced in life is by this time much
shaken, but even now not only many parents object to their children enjoying this most
necessary assistance to imperfect vision, but also employers may be found so foolish and
selfish as to refuse to employ those persons who need to wear glasses. The folly as well
as selfishness of this objection is demonstrated by the far better work done by a person
whose vision has been corrected, and the absolute danger incurred by all who have to
deal with machinery if vision is imperfect. Among other causes for headache are the
defects of mouth, throat, stomach, and bowels already described, because in all of them
there is a supply of septic material to the blood which naturally causes headache and
other serious symptoms.
Abnormalities of Menstruation.--The normal period should occur at regular intervals
about once a month. Its duration and amount vary within wide limits, but in each girl it
should remain true to her individual type, and it ought not to be accompanied by pain or
distress. As a rule the period starts quite normally, and it is not until the girl's health has
been spoiled by over-exertion of body or mind, by unwise exertion during the period, or
by continued exposure to damp or cold, that it becomes painful and abnormal in time or
in amount.
One of the earliest signs of approaching illness--such as consumption, anæmia, and
mental disorder--is to be found in the more or less sudden cessation of the period. This
should always be taken as a danger-signal, and as indicating the need of special medical
advice.
Another point that should enter into intimate talk with girls is to make them understand
the co-relation of their own functions to the great destiny that is in store. A girl is apt to
be both shocked and humiliated when she first hears of menstruation and its phenomena.
Should this function commence before she is told about it, she will necessarily look upon
it with disgust and perhaps with fear. It is indeed a most alarming incident in the case of a
girl who knows nothing about it, but if, before the advent of menstruation, it be explained
to her that it is a sign of changes within her body that will gradually, after the lapse of
some years, fit her also to take her place amongst the mothers of the land, her shame and
fear will be converted into modest gladness, and she will readily understand why she is
under certain restrictions, and has at times to give up work or pleasure in order that her
development may be without pain, healthy, and complete.

CHAPTER IV

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MENTAL AND MORAL TRAINING.
The years of adolescence, during which rapid growth and development inevitably cause
so much stress and frequently give rise to danger, are the very years in which the weight
of school education necessarily falls most heavily. The children of the poor leave school
at fourteen years of age, just the time when the children of the wealthier classes are
beginning to understand the necessity of education and to work with a clearer realisation
of the value and aim of lessons. The whole system of education has altered of late years,
and school work is now conducted far more intelligently and with a greater appreciation
of the needs and capacities of the pupils than it was some fifty years ago. Work is made
more interesting, the relation of different studies to each other is more adequately put in
evidence, and the influence that school studies have on success in after life is more fully
realised by all concerned. The system of training is, however, far from perfect. In the case
of girls, more particularly, great care has to be exercised not to attempt to teach too much,
and to give careful consideration to the physiological peculiarities of the pupils. It is
impossible for girls who are undergoing such rapid physiological and psychical changes
to be always equally able and fit for strenuous work. There are days in every girl's life
when she is not capable of her best work, and when a wise and sympathetic teacher will
see that it is better for her to do comparatively little. And yet these slack times are just
those in which there is the greatest danger of a girl indulging in daydreams, and when her
thoughts need to be more than usually under control. These times may be utilised for
lighter subjects and for such manual work as does not need great physical exertion. It is
not a good time for exercises, for games, for dancing, and for gardening, nor are they the
days on which mathematics should be pressed, but they are days in which much
supervision is needed, and when time should not be permitted to hang heavily on hand.
Just as there are days in which consideration should be shown, so too there are longer
periods of time in which it is unwise for a girl to be pressed to prepare for or to undergo a
strenuous examination. The brain of the girl appears to be as good as that of the boy,
while her application, industry, and emulation are far in advance of his, but she has these
physiological peculiarities, and if they are disregarded there will not only be an
occasional disastrous failure in bodily or mental health, but girls as a class will fail to do
the best work of which they are capable, and will fail to reap the fullest advantage from
an education which is costly in money, time, and strength. It follows that the curriculum
for girls presents greater difficulties than the curriculum for boys, and that those ladies
who are responsible for the organisation of a school for girls need to be women of great
resource, great patience, and endowed with much sympathetic insight. The adolescent girl
will generally do little to help her teachers in this matter. She is incapable of recognising
her own limitations, she is full of emulation, and is desirous of attaining and keeping a
good position not only in her school but also in the University or in any other public body
for whose examination she may present herself. The young girl most emphatically needs
to be saved from herself, and she has to learn the lessons of obedience and of cheerful
acquiescence in restrictions that certainly appear to her simply vexatious.
One of the difficulties in private schools arises from the necessity of providing
occupation for every hour of the waking day, while avoiding the danger of overwork with
its accompanying exhaustion. In the solution of this problem such subjects as gymnastics,
games, dancing, needlework, cooking, and domestic economy will come in as a welcome
relief from the more directly intellectual studies, and equally as a relief to the
conscientious but hard-pressed woman who is trying to save her pupils from the evils of
unoccupied time on the one hand and undue mental pressure on the other.
Boys, and to a less extent girls, attending elementary schools who leave at fourteen are
not likely to suffer in the same way or from the same causes. One of the difficulties in
their case is that they leave school just when work is becoming interesting and before
habits of study have been formed, indeed before the subjects taught have been thoroughly
assimilated, and that therefore in the course of a few years little may be left of their
painfully acquired and too scanty knowledge. Free education has been given to the
children of the poor for nearly fifty years, and yet the mothers who were schoolgirls in
the seventies and eighties appear to have saved but little from the wreck of their
knowledge except the power to sign their names and to read in an imperfect and
blundering manner.
Here, too, there are many problems to be solved, one among them being the great
necessity of endeavouring to correlate the lessons given in school to the work that the
individual will have to perform in after life. It would appear as if the girls of the
elementary schools, in addition to reading, writing, and simple arithmetic, sufficient to
enable them to write letters, to read books, and to keep simple household accounts, ought
to be taught the rudiments of cookery, the cutting out and making of garments, and the
best methods of cleansing as applied to houses, household utensils and clothing. In
addition, and as serious subjects, not merely as a recreation, they should be taught
gymnastics, part singing and mother-craft. No doubt in individual schools much of this
modification of the curriculum has been accomplished, but more remains to be done
before we can be satisfied that we have done the best in our power to fit the children of
the country for their life's work.
Another of the great problems connected with the children in elementary schools, a
problem which, indeed, arises out of their leaving at fourteen, is that of the Continuation
School or Evening School, and the system which is known as "half-timing." It is well
known that although young people from fourteen to sixteen years of age are well able to
profit by continued instruction, they are, with very few exceptions, not at all well adapted
for commencing their life's work as industrials. The general incoherency and restlessness
peculiar to that age frequently lead to a change of employment every few months, while
their general irresponsibility and want of self-control lead to frequent disputes with
foremen and other officials in factories and shops, in consequence of which the
unfortunate child is constantly out of work. In proportion to the joy and pride caused by
the realised capacity to earn money and by the sense of independence that employment
brings, is the unhappiness, and in many cases the misery, due to unemployment, and to
repeated failures to obtain and to keep an independent position. The boy or girl out of
work has an uneasy feeling that he or she has not earned the just and expected share
towards household expenses. The feeling of dependence and well-nigh of disgrace causes
a rapid deterioration in health and spirits, and it is only too likely that in many instances
where unemployment is continuous or frequently repeated, the unemployed will quickly
become the unemployable.
So far as the young people themselves are concerned, it would be nearly always an
unmixed benefit that they should pass at fourteen into a Technical School or Continuation
School, as the case may be. Among the great difficulties to the solution of this problem is
the fact that in many working-class households the few weekly shillings brought into the
family store by the elder children are of very real importance, and although the raising of
the age of possible employment and independence would enable the next generation to
work better and to earn higher and more continuous wages, it is difficult for the parents to
acquiesce in the present deprivation involved, even though it represents so much clear
gain in the not distant future.
At the present time there are Evening Schools, but this system does not work well. All
busy people are well aware that after a hard day's work neither brain nor body is in the
best possible condition for two or three hours of serious mental effort. The child who has
spent the day in factory or shop has really pretty nearly used up all his or her available
mental energy, and after the evening meal is naturally heavy, stupid, irritable, and
altogether in a bad condition for further effort. The evenings ought to be reserved for
recreation, for the gymnasium, the singing class, the swimming bath, and even for the
concert and the theatre.
The system of "half-timing" during ordinary school life does not work well, and it would
be a great pity should a similar system be introduced in the hope of furthering the
education of boys and girls who are just entering industrial life. There is reason to hope
that a great improvement in education will be secured by Mr. Hayes Fisher's bill.
Another subject to which the attention of patriots and philanthropists ought to be turned is
the sort of employment open to children at school-leaving age. The greatest care should
be taken to diminish the number of those who endeavour to achieve quasi-independence
in those occupations which are well known as "blind alleys." In England it is rare that
girls should seek these employments, but in Scotland there is far too large a number of
girl messengers. In this particular, the case of the girl is superior to that of the boy. The
"tweeny" develops into housemaid or cook; the young girls employed in superior shops
to wait on the elder shopwomen hope to develop into their successors, and the girls who
nurse babies on the doorsteps are, after all, acquiring knowledge and dexterity that may
fit them for domestic service or for the management of their own families a few years
later.
The girls of the richer classes have not the same difficulties as their poorer sisters. They
generally remain at school until a much later age, and subsequently have the joy and
stimulus of college life, of foreign travel, of social engagements, or of philanthropic
enterprise. Still, a residue remains even of girls of this class whose own inclinations, or
whose family circumstances, lead to an aimless, purposeless existence, productive of
much injury to both body and mind, and only too likely to end in hopeless ennui and
nervous troubles. It should be thoroughly understood by parents and guardians that no
matter what the girl's circumstances may be, she ought always to have an abundance of
employment. The ideas of obligation and of duty should not be discarded when school
and college life cease. The well-to-do girl should be encouraged to take up some definite
employment which would fill her life and provide her with interests and duties. Any other
arrangement tends to make the time between leaving school or college and a possible
marriage not only a wasted time but also a seed-time during which a crop is sown of bad
habits, laziness of body, and slackness of mind, that subsequently bear bitter fruit. It is
quite time for us to recognise that unemployment and absence of duties is as great a
disadvantage to the rich as it is to the poor; the sort of employment must necessarily
differ, but the spirit in which it is to be done is the same.
One point that one would wish to emphasise with regard to all adolescents is that
although occupation for the whole day is most desirable, hard work should occupy but a
certain proportion of the waking hours. For any adolescent, or indeed for any of us to
attempt to work hard for twelve or fourteen hours out of the twenty-four is to store up
trouble. It is not possible to lay down any hard and fast rule as to the length of hours of
work, because the other factors in the problem vary so greatly. One person may be
exhausted by four hours of intellectual effort, whereas another is less fatigued by eight;
and further, the daily occupations vary greatly in the demand that they make on attention
and on such qualities as reason, judgment, and power of initiation. Those who teach or
learn such subjects as mathematics, or those who are engaged in such occupations as
portrait-painting and the higher forms of musical effort, must necessarily take more out of
themselves than those who are employed in feeding a machine, in nursing a baby, or in
gardening operations.

CHAPTER V

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THE FINAL AIM OF EDUCATION.
The great problem before those who have the responsibility for the training of the young
is that of preparing them to take their place in the world as fathers, mothers, and citizens,
and among the fundamental duties connected with this responsibility must come the
placing before the eyes of the young people high ideals, attractive examples, and the
securing to them the means of adequate preparation. As a nation it seems to be with us at
present as it was with the people of Israel in the days of Eli: "the word of the Lord was
precious (or scarce) in those days; there was no open vision." We seem to have come to a
time of civilisation in which there is much surface refinement and a widespread veneer of
superficial knowledge, but in which there is little enthusiasm and in which the great aim
and object of teaching and of training is but too little realised. In the endeavour to know a
little of all things we seem to have lost the capacity for true and exhaustive knowledge of
anything. It would appear as if the remedy for this most unsatisfactory state of things has
to commence long before the years of adolescence, even while the child is yet in its
cradle. The old-fashioned ideas of duty, obedience, and discipline must be once more
household words and living entities before the race can enter on a period of regeneration.
We want a poet with the logic of Browning, the sweetness of Tennyson, and the force of
Rudyard Kipling, to sing a song that would penetrate through indifference, sloth, and love
of pleasure, and make of us the nation that we might be, and of which the England of
bygone years had the promise.
Speaking specially with regard to girls, let us first remember that the highest earthly ideal
for a woman is that she should be a good wife and a good mother. It is not necessary to
say this in direct words to every small girl, but she ought to be so educated, so guided, as
to instinctively realise that wifehood and motherhood is the flower and perfection of her
being. This is the hope and ideal that should sanctify her lessons and sweeten the right
and proper discipline of life. All learning, all handicraft, and all artistic training should
take their place as a preparation to this end. Each generation that comes on to the stage of
life is the product of that which preceded it. It is the flower of the present national life
and the seed of that which is to come. We ought to recognise that all educational aims
and methods are really subordinate to this great end; if this were properly realised by
adolescents it would be of the greatest service and help in their training. The deep primal
instinct of fatherhood and motherhood would help them more than anything else to seek
earnestly and successfully for the highest attainable degree of perfection of their own
bodies, their own minds, and their own souls. It is, however, impossible to aim at an ideal
that is unseen and even unknown, and although the primal instinct exists in us all, its
fruition is greatly hindered by the way in which it is steadily ignored, and by the fact that
any proclamation of its existence is considered indiscreet and even indelicate. How are
children to develop a holy reverence for their own bodies unless they know of their
wonderful destiny? If they do not recognise that at least in one respect God has confided
to them in some measure His own creative function, how can they jealously guard against
all that would injure their bodies and spoil their hopes for the exercise of this function?
There is, even at the present time, a division of opinion as to when and in what manner
children are to be made aware of their august destiny. We are indeed only now beginning
to realise that ignorance is not necessarily innocence, and that knowledge of these matters
may be sanctified and blessed. It is, however, certain that the conspiracy of silence which
lasted so many years has brought forth nothing but evil. If a girl remains ignorant of
physiological facts, the shock of the eternal realities of life that come to her on marriage
is always pernicious and sometimes disastrous. If, on the other hand, such knowledge is
obtained from servants and depraved playfellows, her purity of mind must be smirched
and injured.
Even among those who hold that children ought to be instructed, there is a division of
opinion as to when this instruction is to begin. Some say at puberty, others a few years
later, perhaps on the eve of marriage, and yet others think that the knowledge will come
with less shock, with less personal application, and therefore in a more natural and useful
manner from the very beginning of conscious life. These last would argue--why put the
facts of reproduction on a different footing from those of digestion and respiration? As
facts in the physical life they hold a precisely similar position. Upon the due performance
of bodily functions depends the welfare of the whole organism, and although
reproduction, unlike the functions of respiration and digestion, is not essential to the life
of the individual, it is essential to the life of the nation.
The facts of physiology are best taught to little children by a perfectly simple recognition
of the phenomena of life around them--the cat with her kittens, the bird with its
fledgelings, and still more the mother with her infant, are all common facts and beautiful
types of motherhood. Instead of inventing silly and untrue stories as to the origin of the
kitten and the fledgeling, it is better and wiser to answer the child's question by a direct
statement of fact, that God has given the power to His creatures to perpetuate themselves,
that the gift of Life is one of His good gifts bestowed in mercy on all His creatures. The
mother's share in this gift and duty can be observed by, and simply explained to, the child
from its earliest years; it comes then with no shock, no sense of shame, but as a type of
joy and gladness, an image of that holiest of all relations, the Eternal Mother and the
Heavenly Child.
Somewhat later in life, probably immediately before puberty in boys and shortly after
puberty in girls, the father's share in this mystery may naturally come up for explanation.
The physiological facts connected with this are not so constantly in evidence before
children, and therefore do not press for explanation in the same way as do those of
motherhood, but the time comes soon in the schoolboy's life when the special care of his
own body has to be urged on him, and this knowledge ought to come protected by the
sanction that unless he is faithful to his trust he cannot look to the reward of a happy
home life with wife and children. In the case of the girl the question as to fatherhood is
more likely to arise out of the reading of the Bible or other literature, or by her realisation
that at any rate in the case of human parenthood there is evidently the intermediation of a
father. The details of this knowledge need not necessarily be pressed on the adolescent
girl, but it is a positive cruelty to allow the young woman to marry without knowing the
facts on which her happiness depends.
Another way in which the mystery of parenthood can be simply and comfortably taught is
through the study of vegetable physiology. The fertilisation of the ovules by pollen which
falls directly from the anthers on to the stigma can be used as a representation of similar
facts in animal physiology. It is very desirable, however, that this study of the vegetable
should succeed and not precede that of the domestic animals in the teaching of boys and
girls.
Viewed from this standpoint there is surely no difficulty to the parent in imparting to the
child this necessary knowledge. We have to remember that children have to know the
mysteries of life. They cannot live in the world without seeing the great drama constantly
displayed to them in family life and in the lives of domesticated animals. They cannot
read the literature of Greece and Rome, nay, they cannot study the Book of Books,
without these facts being constantly brought to mind. A child's thirst for the interpretation
of this knowledge is imperative and unsatiable--not from prurience nor from
evil-mindedness, but in obedience to a law of our nature, the child demands this
knowledge--and will get it. It is for fathers and mothers to say whether these sublime and
beautiful mysteries shall be lovingly and reverently unveiled by themselves or whether
the child's mind shall be poisoned and all beauty and reverence destroyed by depraved
school-fellows and vulgar companions.
In the hope of securing the purity, reverence and piety of our children, in the hope that
they may grow up worthy of their high destiny, let us do what we may to keep their
honour unsmirched, to preserve their innocence, and to lead them on from the
unconscious goodness of childhood to the clear-eyed, fully conscious dignity of maturity,
that our sons may grow up as young plants, and our daughters as the polished corners of
the temple.

PART II.: BOYS.

BY F. ARTHUR SIBLY, M.A., LL.D.

PREFACE TO THE SECOND EDITION.

My contribution to this little book was originally intended for the eyes of parents,
scoutmasters, and other adults. Since 1913, when the book was first published, it has been
my privilege to receive from these so many letters of warm appreciation that it seems
needless to retain the apologetic preface which I then wrote. The object which I had in
view at that time was the hastening of a supremely important reform. I have to-day the
very deep joy of knowing that my words have carried conviction to many adults and have
given help to countless boys.

One result of this publication was entirely unlooked for. It did not occur to me, as I wrote,
that the book would be read by boys and young men. It was not written at all for this
purpose. In some respects its influence over them has, however, been increased by this
obvious fact. In this book boys have, as it were, overheard a confidential conversation
about themselves carried on by adults anxious for their welfare, and some at least are
evidently more impressed by this conversation than by a direct appeal--in which they are
liable to suspect exaggeration.

I have received hundreds of letters from boys and young men. These confirm in every
way the conclusions set forth in this book, and prove that the need for guidance in sex
matters is acute and universal. The relief and assistance which many boys have
experienced from correspondence with me, and the interest which I find in their letters
have caused me--spite of the extreme preoccupation of a strenuous life--to issue a special
invitation to those who may feel inclined to write to me.

Great diversity of opinion exists as to the best method of giving sex instruction, and those
who have had experience of one method are curiously blind to the merits of other
methods, which they usually strongly denounce. While I have my own views as to the
best method to adopt, I am quite sure that each one of very many methods can, in suitable
hands, produce great good, and that the very poorest method is infinitely superior to no
method at all.

Some are for oral teaching, some for the use of a pamphlet, some favour confidential
individual teaching, others collective public teaching. Some would try to make sex a
sacred subject; some would prefer to keep the emotional element out and treat
reproduction as a matter-of-fact science subject. Some wish the parent to give the
teaching, some the teacher, some the doctor, some a lecturer specially trained for this
purpose. Good results have been obtained by every one of these methods.

During recent years much additional evidence has accumulated in my hands of the
beneficent results of such teaching as I advocate in these pages, and I am confident that
of boys who have been wisely guided and trained, few fail to lead clean lives even when
associated with those who are generally and openly corrupt. I must, however, emphasise
my belief that the cleanliness of a boy's life depends ultimately not upon his knowledge
of good and evil but upon his devotion to the Right.

"Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control, These three alone lead life to sovereign

power."

Where these are not, it is idle to inculcate the rarest and most difficult of all virtues.

F. ARTHUR SIBLY.

WYCLIFFE, STONEHOUSE, GLOS. _September 1918._

INTRODUCTORY NOTE.
The term puberty will so often be used in the following chapters that a brief account of
the phenomena of puberty may appropriately be given at the outset of this work. Puberty
is a name given to the age at which a boy becomes capable of being a father. In temperate
climates this age is reached at about fifteen years, though some boys attain it at twelve
and some not until seventeen. The one obvious and invariable sign of puberty is a change
of pitch in the voice, which assumes its bass character after an embarrassing period of
squeaky alternations between the high and low tones.
The age is a critical one, as several important changes take place in body and in mind.
The reproductive organs undergo considerable development and become sensitive to any
stimulus, physical or mental. The seminal fluid, which in normal cases has hitherto been
secreted little, if at all, is now elaborated by the testicles, and contains
spermatazoa--minute organisms which are essential to reproduction. Under the stimulus
of sexual thoughts this fluid is secreted in such quantity as to give rise to involuntary
discharge during sleep. These nocturnal emissions are so often found among boys and
young men that some physiologists consider them to be quite normal. My experience
leads me to doubt this conclusion.
Another physical change associated with puberty is the growth of hair on the pubes and
on the face: in this latter situation the growth is slow.
With the capacity for fatherhood comes a very strong awakening of the sexual instinct,
which manifests itself in passion and in lust--the unconscious and the conscious sex
hunger. The passion shows itself in a ludicrously indiscriminate and exaggerated
susceptibility to female attractions--a susceptibility the sexual character of which is
usually quite unrecognised. Among boys who have sex knowledge there is also a
tendency to dwell on sexual thoughts when the mind is not otherwise occupied. Passion
and lust do not at once develop their full strength; but, coming at a time when self-control
is very weak, and coming with all the attraction of novelty, they often dominate the mind
even in normal cases, and may become tyrannous when the reproductive system has been
prematurely stimulated.
A heightened self-consciousness and an antagonism to authority so often follow the
attainment of puberty that they are usually considered to be its results. My own
experience with boys satisfies me that this conclusion is not correct. Self-consciousness,
when it occurs in boyhood, is usually the result of an unclean inner life. Puberty merely
increases the self-consciousness by intensifying its cause. When the mind is clean there is
no marked change in this respect at puberty. The antagonism to authority so often
observed after puberty is the product of unsatisfactory external influences. With puberty
the desire to stand well with others, and in particular the desire to seem manly, increases.
If a debased public opinion demands of a boy the cheap manliness of profanity, tobacco,
and irreverence, the demand creates a plentiful supply, while it also suppresses as
priggish or "pi" any avowed or suspected devotion to higher ideals. A healthy public
opinion, working in harmony with a boy's nobler instincts, calls forth in him an earnest
devotion to high ideals, and causes him to exercise, on the development of his powers
and in a crusade against wrong, the new energies which a wholesome puberty places at
his disposal.

CHAPTER I

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PREVALENCE OF IMPURITY AMONG BOYS: THE AUTHOR'S OWN
EXPERIENCE.
Of the perils which beset the growing boy all are recognised, and, in a measure, guarded
against except the most inevitable and most fatal peril of all. In all that concerns the use
and abuse of the reproductive organs the great majority of boys have hitherto been left
without adult guidance, and have imbibed their ideas from the coarser of their
companions and from casual references to the subject in the Bible and other books. Under
these conditions very few boys escape two of the worst dangers into which it is possible
for a lad to fall--the artificial stimulation of the reproductive organs and the acquisition of
degraded ideas on the subject of sex. That many lives are thus prematurely shortened, that
many constitutions are permanently enfeebled, that very many lads who might otherwise
have striven successfully against the sexual temptations of adult life succumb--almost
without a struggle--to them, can be doubted by no one who is familiar with the inner life
of boys and men.
Of these two evils, self-abuse, though productive of manifold and disastrous results, is
distinctly the less. Many boys outgrow the physical injuries which, in ignorance, they
inflict upon themselves in youth; but very few are able wholly to cleanse themselves from
the foul desires associated in their minds with sex. These desires make young men
impotent in the face of temptation. Under their evil dominance, even men of kind
disposition will, by seduction, inflict on an innocent girl agony, misery, degradation, and
premature death. They will indulge In the most degrading of all vices with prostitutes on
the street. They will defile the atmosphere of social life with filthy talk and ribald jest.
Even a clean and ennobling passion can do little to redeem them. The pure stream of
human love is made turbid with lust. After a temporary uplifting in marriage the soul is
again dragged down, marriage vows are broken and the blessings of home life are turned
into wormwood and gall.
That a system so destructive of physical and of spiritual health should have lasted almost
intact until now will, I believe, shortly become a matter for general amazement; for while
evidence of the widespread character of youthful perversion is a product of quite recent
years, the assumptions on which this system has been based are unreasonable and
incapable of proof.
Since conclusive evidence of the prevalence of impurity among boys is available, I will
not at present invite the reader to examine the assumptions which lead most people to a
contrary belief. When I do so, I shall hope to demonstrate that we might reasonably
expect to find things precisely as they are. In the first and second chapters we shall see to
what conclusions teachers who have actual experience in the matter have been led.
There are several teachers whose authority in most matters stands so very much above
my own that it might seem presumptuous to begin by laying my own experiences before
the reader; but I venture to take this course because no other teacher, as far as I know, has
published quite such definite evidence as I have done; and I think that the more general
statements of such eminent men as Canon Lyttelton, Mr. A.C. Benson, and Dr. Clement
Dukes will appeal to the reader more powerfully when he has some idea of the manner in
which conclusions on this subject may be reached. I have some reason, also, for the belief
that the paper I read in 1908 at the London University before the International Congress
on Moral Education has been considered of great significance by very competent judges.
By a special decision of the Executive of the Congress it--alone of all sectional
papers--was printed in extenso in the official report. Later on, it came under the notice of
Sir R. Baden-Powell, at whose request it was republished in the _Headquarters
Gazette_--the official organ of the Boy Scout movement.
It certainly did require some courage at the time to put my results before the public, for I
was not then aware that men of great eminence in the educational world had already
made equally sweeping, if less definite, statements. Emboldened by this fact and by the
commendations above referred to, I venture to quote the greater part of this short paper.
"The opinions I am about to put forward are based almost entirely on my own twenty
years' experience as a housemaster. My house contains forty-eight boys, who vary in age
from ten to nineteen and come from comfortable middle-class homes.
"Private interviews with individual boys in my study have been the chief vehicle of my
teaching and the chief source of my information. My objects in these interviews have
been to warn boys against the evils of private impurity, to supply them with a certain
amount of knowledge on sexual subjects in order to prevent a prurient curiosity, and to
induce them to confide to me the history of their own knowledge and difficulties. In my
early days I interviewed those only who appeared to me to be obviously suffering from
the effects of impurity, and, of late years, the extreme pressure of my work has forced me
very reluctantly to recur to this plan.
"For several years, however, I was accustomed to interview every boy under my care
during his first term with me. Very rarely have I failed in these interviews so to secure a
boy's confidence as to learn the salient facts of the history of his inner life. Sunday
afternoon addresses to the Sixth Form on the sexual dangers of late youth and early
manhood have resulted at times in elder boys themselves seeking an interview with me.
Such spontaneous confidences have naturally been fuller, and therefore more instructive,
than the confidences I have invited.
"Many people are inclined to look upon the instruction of boys in relation to adolescence
as needless and harmful; needless because few boys, they imagine, awake to the
consciousness and problems of sex until manhood; harmful because the pristine
innocence of the mind is, they think, destroyed, and evils are suggested of which a boy
might otherwise remain unconscious. To one who knows what boys really are such ideas
are nothing less than ludicrous.
"Boys come to our school from many different classes of preparatory and secondary
schools. Almost every such school seems to possess a few boys who delight to initiate
younger boys into sexual knowledge, and usually into knowledge of solitary vice. The
very few boys who have come to me quite ignorant of these matters have come either
straight from home at ten or eleven, or from a school in which a few young boys are
educated with girls. Of boys who have come under my care as late as twelve I have
known but two who even professed total ignorance on sexual subjects, and in one of these
cases I am quite sure that no such ignorance existed.
"In a large majority of cases solitary vice has been learned and practised before a boy has
got into his teens. The lack of insight parents display in relation to these questions is quite
phenomenal. The few who mention the subject to me are always quite satisfied of the
complete 'innocence' of their boys. Some of the most precocious and unclean boys I have
known have been thus confidently commended to me. Boys are wholly unsuspicious of
the extent to which their inner life lies open to the practised eye, and they feel secure that
nothing can betray their secrets if they themselves do not.
"In no department of our life are George Eliot's words truer than in this department: 'Our
daily familiar life is but a hiding of ourselves from each other behind a screen of trivial
words and deeds, and those who sit with us at the same hearth are often the farthest off
from the deep human soul within us--full of unspoken evil and unacted good.' We cannot
prevent a boy's obtaining information on sexual questions. Our choice lies between
leaving him to pick it up from unclean and vulgar minds, which will make it guilty and
impure, and giving it ourselves in such a way as to invest it from the first with a sacred
character.
"Another idea which my experience proves to be an entire delusion is the idea that a boy's
natural refinement is a sufficient protection against defilement. Some of the most refined
boys I have had the pleasure of caring for have been pronounced victims of solitary sin.
That it is a sin at all, that it has, indeed, any significance, either ethical or spiritual, has
not so much as occurred to most of them. On what great moral question dare we leave the
young to find their own way absolutely without guidance? In this most difficult and
dangerous of all questions we leave the young soul, stirred by novel and blind impulses,
to grope in the darkness. Is it any wonder if it fails to see things in their true relations?
"Again, it is sometimes thought that the consequences of secret sin are so patent as to
deter a boy from the sin itself. So far is this from being the case that I have never yet
found a single boy (even among those who have, through it, made almost complete
wrecks physically and mentally) who has of himself connected these consequences with
the sin itself. I have, on the other hand, known many sad cases in which, through the
weakening of will power, which this habit causes, boys of high ideals have fallen again
and again after their eyes have been fully opened. This sin is rarely a conscious moral
transgression. The boy is a victim to be sympathised with and helped, not an offender to
be reproved and punished."
I desire to call the attention of the reader to two points in the foregoing extract. I was
particular in giving my credentials to state the character and limitations of my experience.
Everywhere in life one finds confident and sweeping generalisations made by men who
have little or no experience to appeal to. This is specially the case in the educational
world, and perhaps most of all in discussions on this very subject. Some men, at least, are
willing to instruct the public with nothing better to guide them than the light of Nature. It
would greatly assist the quest of truth if everyone who ventures to address the public on
this question would first present his credentials.
There is danger lest the reader should discount the significance of the statements I make
in the foregoing paper by falling into the error of supposing that the facts stated apply,
after all, to one school only. This is not by any means so. The facts have been collected at
one school; but those which refer to the prevalence of sex knowledge and of masturbation
have reference solely to the condition of boys when they first entered, and are significant
of the conditions which obtain at some scores of schools and in many homes. I venture
here to quote and to warmly endorse Canon Lyttelton's opinion: "It is, however, so easy
to be misunderstood in this matter that I must insert a caution against an inference which
may be drawn from these words, viz. that school life is the origin of immorality among
boys. The real origin is to be found in the common predisposition to vicious conceptions,
which is the result of neglect. Nature provides in almost every case an active curiosity on
this subject; and that curiosity must be somehow allayed; and if it were not allayed at
school, false and depraved ideas would be picked up at home.... So readily does an
ignorant mind at an early age take in teaching about these subjects that there are no
conceivable conditions of modern social life not fraught with grave peril to a young boy,
if once he has been allowed to face them quite unprepared, either by instruction or by
warning. And this manifestly applies to life at home, or in a day-school, or in a
boarding-school to an almost equal degree."[A]
[Footnote A: _Training of the Young in Relation to Sex, p. 1 et seq_.]
One of the facts which I always tried to elicit from boys was the source of their
information, or rather the character of that source, for I was naturally anxious not to ask a
boy to incriminate any individual known to me. In many cases, information came first to
the boy at home from a brother, or cousin, or casual acquaintance, or domestic servant. In
one of the worst cases I have known the information was given to a boy by another
boy--an entire stranger to him--whom he happened to meet on a country road when
cycling. Since boys meet one another very much more at school than elsewhere and
spend three-fourths of their lives there, of course information is more often obtained at
school than at home. My own experience leads me to think that in this respect the
day-school--probably on account of its mixed social conditions--is worse than the
boarding-school.
Before passing from matters of personal experience, it may interest the reader if I give
particulars of a few typical cases to illustrate some points on which I have insisted.
_Case A._--The father and mother of a boy close on thirteen came to see me before
entering the lad. They had no idea that I was specially interested in purity-teaching; but
they were anxious to ascertain what precautions we took against the corruption of small
boys. They struck me as very good parents. I was specially pleased that they were alive to
the dangers of impurity, and that the mother could advert openly to the matter without
embarrassment. I advised them to give the boy explicit warning; but they said that they
were anxious to preserve his innocence as long as possible. He was at present absolutely
simple, and they hoped that he would long remain so. It was a comfort to them that I was
interested in the subject, and they would leave the boy with confidence in my care. As
soon as I saw the boy, I found it difficult to believe in his innocence; and I soon
discovered that he was thoroughly corrupt. Not merely did he begin almost at once to
corrupt other boys, but he actually gave them his views on brothels! In a private interview
with me he admitted all this, and told me that he was corrupted at ten years of age, when
he was sent, after convalescence from scarlet fever, to a country village for three months.
There he seems to have associated with a group of street boys, who gave him such
information as they had, and initiated him into self-abuse. Since then he had been
greedily seeking further information and passing it on.
_Case B._--A delicate, gentle boy of eleven, an only son, was sent to me by an
intellectual father, who had been his constant companion. The lad was very amiable and
well-intentioned. A year later he gave me particulars of his corruption by a cousin, who
was three years older than he. Since that time--particularly of late--he had practised
masturbation. He had not the least idea that it was hurtful or even unrefined, and thought
that it was peculiar to himself and his cousin. He knew from his cousin the chief facts of
maternity and paternity, but had not spoken to other boys about them. He was intensely
anxious to cleanse himself entirely, and promised to let me know of any lapse, should it
occur. In the following vacation he developed pneumonia. For some days his life hung in
the balance, and then flickered out. His father wrote me a letter of noble resignation.
Terribly as he felt his loss, he was greatly consoled, he said, by the knowledge that his
boy had died while his mind was innocent and before he could know even what
temptation was. It is needless to add that I never hinted the real facts to the father;
and--without altering any material detail--I am disguising the case lest it should possibly
be recognised by him. I have often wondered whether, when the lad's life hung in the
balance, it might not have been saved if Death's scale had not been weighted by the
child's lowered vitality.
_Case C._--A boy of fourteen came to me. He was a miserable specimen in every
way--pale, lethargic, stupid almost beyond belief. He had no mother; and the father,
though a man of leisure, evidently found it difficult to make the lad much of a companion.
I felt certain from the first that the boy was an exceptionally bad victim of self-abuse;
And this I told his father, advising him to investigate the matter. He was horrified at my
diagnosis, and committed the great indiscretion of taxing the boy with self-abuse as
though it were a conscious and grave fault. The father wrote during the vacation saying
that he found I was entirely mistaken: not, content with the lad's assurance, he had
watched him with the utmost care. As soon as the boy returned to school I interviewed
him. He admitted readily that he had long masturbated himself daily--sometimes oftener.
He had first--as far as he could remember, at about six--had his private parts excited by
his nurse, who apparently did this to put an irritable child into a good temper! My
warning had little effect upon him, as he had become a hopeless victim. He was too
delicate a boy for us to desire to keep; and after a brief stay at school, during which we
nursed him through a critical illness, he left to finish his education under private tuition at
home.
_Case D._--This boy came to me at thirteen. He was always a conscientious and amiable
boy, but was nervous and dull. By fifteen his dullness had increased, and he complained
of brain-strain and poorness of memory. Finally he began to develop St. Vitus's dance. I
sent him to our school doctor, who returned him with a note saying that his condition was
serious--that he must stop all work, &c. &c. I was in my study when the lad came back,
and I at once told him what was the matter. He frankly admitted frequent self-abuse,
which he had learned from an elder brother. He had not the least suspicion that the habit
was injurious; but was very apprehensive about his future until I reassured him. He
wanted me to write at once and warn a younger brother who had fallen into the habit. By
great effort he got himself rapidly under control. His nervous twitchings disappeared, his
vitality improved, the brain-fag gradually ceased; and when he left, eighteen months later,
he was fairly normal. His improvement continued afterwards, and he is now a successful
man of business and a married man.
_Case E._--This boy entered at twelve. He was very weak physically and highly
nervous--owing, his people thought, to severe bullying at a previous school. He was an
able boy, of literary and artistic tastes, and almost painfully conscientious. He was very
shy; always thought that he was despised by other boys; and was a duffer at games,
which he avoided to the utmost. With my present experience I should have known him to
be a victim of self-abuse. Then, I did not suspect him; and it was not until he was leaving
at eighteen for the University that we talked the matter over, on his initiative. Then I
found that he had been bullied into impurity at eleven, and was now a helpless victim.
After two years at the University he wrote me that, though the temptation now came less
frequently, he seemed absolutely powerless when it did come; that he despised himself so
much that the impulse to suicide often haunted him; but that the cowardice which had
kept him from games at school would probably prevent his taking his life. With the
assistance of an intense and devoted religious life he gradually began to gain self-mastery.
It is some years now since he has mentioned the subject to me.
These are merely specimen cases. Cases A, B, and C illustrate my assertions that parents
are wonderfully blind; Cases B and E, that quite exceptional refinement in a boy gives no
protection from temptation to impurity; Case D, that a boy, even in an extreme case, does
not know that the habit is injurious. In respect of their severity, C, D, and E are not
normal but extreme cases. The reader must not imagine that boys ordinarily suffer as
much as these did.

CHAPTER II

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PREVALENCE OF IMPURITY AMONG BOYS: THE OPINIONS OF CANON
LYTTELTON, DR. DUKES, AND OTHERS.
I propose now to make clear to the reader the fact that the conclusions I have reached as
to the existence of sexual knowledge among boys, and as to the prevalence of self-abuse,
are entirely borne out by the opinion of the most distinguished teachers and medical men.
Canon Lyttelton writes with an authority which no one will question. Educated at Eton,
he was for two years an assistant master at Wellington College; then, for fifteen years,
headmaster of Haileybury College, and has now been headmaster of Eton for over six
years. He has intimate knowledge of boys, derived, as regards the question of purity,
from confidential talks with them. The quotations which follow are from his work
Training of the Young in Laws of Sex. Canon Lyttelton does not think it needful to make
statements as to the prevalence of impurity among boys. He rather assumes that this
prevalence is obvious and, under present conditions, inevitable. I have already quoted one
passage which involves this assumption, and now invite the reader to consider two others.
"In the school life of boys, in spite of very great improvements, it is impossible that
sexual subjects should be wholly avoided in common talk.... Though, in preparatory
schools of little boys under fourteen, the increasing vigilance of masters, and constant
supervision, combined with constant employment, reduce the evil of prurient talk to a
minimum, yet these subjects will crop up.... It should be remembered that the boys who
are talkative about such subjects are just those whose ideas are most distorted and vicious.
In the public school, owing not only to freer talk and more mixed company but to the
boy's own wider range of vision, sexual questions, and also those connected with the
structure of the body, come to the fore and begin to occupy more or less of the thoughts
of all but a peculiarly constituted minority of the whole number.
"Men, as I have shown, have been severely dealt with by Nature in this respect: she has
forced them, at a time of life when their minds are ill compacted, their ideas chaotic, and
their wills untrained, to face an ordeal which demands above all things reverence based
on knowledge and resolution sustained by high affections. An enormously large
proportion flounder blindly into the mire before they know what it is, not necessarily, but
very often into the defilement of evil habit, but, still more often, into the tainted air of
diseased opinion, and after a few years some of them emerge saved, but so as by fire."[B]
[Footnote B: Pages 4 _et seq._: the italics are mine.]
The following are quotations from the _Upton Letters_, written by Mr. A.C. Benson. Mr.
Benson is one of the most distinguished of modern teachers: he has had long experience
of public-school life both as a boy and as a master: he has that insight into the heart of
boyhood which can come only to one who has affectionate sympathy with boys and has
been the recipient of their confidences. It will be abundantly evident from the passages
which follow that in Mr. Benson's opinion no boy is likely to preserve his "innocence" in
passing through a public school.
"The subject is so unpleasant that many masters dare not speak of it at all, and excuse
themselves by saying that they don't want to put ideas into boys' heads. I cannot
conscientiously believe that a man who has been through a big public school himself can
honestly be afraid of that." "The standard of purity is low: a vicious boy does not find his
vicious tendencies by any means a bar to social success." This, of course, assumes that
the vicious tendencies are a matter of notoriety. A similar implication is involved in the
following: "I do not mean to say that there are not many boys who are both pure-minded
and honest; but they treat such virtues as a secret preference of their own, and do not
consider that it is in the least necessary to interfere with the practice of others or even to
disapprove of it." He further gives it as his opinion that "The deadly and insidious
temptation of impurity has, as far as one can learn, increased," and tells us "An
innocent-minded boy whose natural inclination to purity gave way before perpetual
temptation and even compulsion might be thought to have erred, but would have scanty,
if any, expression of either sympathy or pity from other boys; while if he breathed the
least hint of his miserable position to a master and the fact came out, he would be
universally scouted.... One hears of simply heart-rending cases where a boy dare not even
tell his parents of what he endures." It would thus appear that in some of the premier
schools of the world impurity is a matter of notoriety, sometimes of compulsion; and that,
to a boy's own strong inclination to concealment, is superadded, by the public opinion of
the school, an imperious command that this concealment shall, even in heart-rending
cases, be maintained.
No one, I think, will maintain that private schools as a class are in the least degree lees
corrupt than public schools; while there are, I am sure, at least a few schools in which
public opinion condemns open impurity, and will not tolerate impure talk. And while I
am confident that it is possible, not merely to attain this condition in a school, but also to
reduce private impurity to a negligible quantity, impurity--in one form or another--is, in
general, so widely spread in boys' schools of every type, that it is difficult to understand
how anyone familiar with school life can doubt its prevalence.
Let us now consider the opinion of Dr. Clement Dukes, the medical officer of Rugby
School and the greatest English authority on school hygiene. In the preface to the fourth
edition of his well-known work _Health at School_, Dr. Dukes writes: "I have studied
children in all their phases and stages for many years--two years at the Hospital for Sick
Children in 61 Ormond Street, London, followed by thirty-three years at Rugby School--a
professional history which has provided me with an almost unique experience in all that
relates to the Health and Disease of Childhood and Youth, and has compelled constant
and steady thought upon every aspect of this problem." In an earlier work, _The
Preservation of Health_, Dr. Dukes gives his estimate of the prevalence of masturbation,
and quotes the opinion of other authorities whose credentials he has verified; In this work,
on page 150, he writes of masturbation: "I believe that the reason why it is so widespread
an evil--amounting, I gather, although from the nature of the case no complete evidence
can ever be accurately obtained, to somewhere _about 90 to 95 per cent. of all boys at
boarding-schools_--is because the boy leaves his home in the first instance without one
word of warning from his parents ... and thus falls into evil ways from his innocence and
ignorance alone.... This immorality is estimated by some at 80 per cent., by others at 90
per cent. Another says that not 10 per cent. are innocent. Another that it has always begun
at from eight to twelve years of age. Others that it is always worst amongst the elder boys.
Others that 'it is universal.'" Professor Stanley Hall, in his great work on _Adolescence_,
after a similar and exhaustive review of the numerous works on this subject in different
languages, concludes: "The whole literature on the subject attests that whenever careful
researches have been undertaken the results are appalling as to prevalence." And yet there
are people who deprecate purity-teaching for boys because they feel that a boy's natural
modesty is quite a sufficient protection, and that there is danger of destroying a boy's
innocence by putting ideas into his head! To hear such people talk, and to listen to the
way in which they speak of self-abuse as though it implied monstrous moral perversion,
one would think that the condition of morals when they were young was wholly different.
The great novelist Thackeray gives little countenance to this opinion when he writes in
_Pendennis_: "And, by the way, ye tender mothers and sober fathers of Christian families,
a prodigious thing that theory of life is as orally learned at a great public school. Why if
you could hear those boys of fourteen who blush before mothers and sneak off in silence
in the presence of their daughters, talking among each other--it would be the woman's
turn to blush then. Before he was twelve years old little Pen had heard talk enough to
make him quite awfully wise upon certain points--and so, madam, has your pretty
rosy-cheeked son, who is coming home from school for the ensuing holidays. I don't say
that the boy is lost, or that the innocence has left him which he had from 'Heaven, which
is our home,' but that the shades of the prison-house are closing fast over him, and that
we are helping as much as possible to corrupt him."
Before concluding this chapter I would caution the reader against the error of supposing
that the opinions expressed by Canon Lyttelton and Dr. Dukes are indicative merely of
the conditions they have met at Haileybury, Eton, and Rugby. They are equally
significant of the conditions which obtain in the innumerable schools from which
Haileybury, Eton, and Rugby are recruited; and as there is no reason why other
preparatory schools should differ from these, they are significant of the almost universal
condition of boys' schools.

CHAPTER III

.
CAUSES OF THE PREVALENCE OF IMPURITY AMONG BOYS.
The evidence I have adduced in the previous chapters will convince most of my readers
that few boys retain their innocence after they are of school age. There may, however, be
a few who find it impossible to reconcile this conclusion with their ideas of boy nature. I
will therefore now examine current conceptions on this subject and expose their
fundamental inaccuracy.
There are some people who imagine that a boy's innate modesty is quite sufficient
protection against defilement. Does experience really warrant any such conclusion?
Those who know much of children will recognise the fact that even the cardinal virtues of
truthfulness and honesty have often to be learned, and that ideas of personal cleanliness,
of self-restraint in relation to food, and of consideration for others have usually to be
implanted and fostered. Among people of refinement these virtues are often so early
learned that there is danger lest we should consider them innate. The susceptibility of
some children to suggestions conveyed to them by the example and precept of their elders
is almost unlimited. Hence a child may, at two, have given up the trick of clearing its
nostrils with the finger-nail, and may, before five, have learned most of the manners and
virtues of refined people. The majority, however, take longer to learn these things, so that
a jolly little chap of ten or twelve is often by no means scrupulously clean in hands, nails,
ears, and teeth, is often distinctly greedy, and sometimes far from truthful.
That cleanliness and virtue are acquired and not innate is obvious enough from the fact
that children who grow up among dirty and unprincipled people are rarely clean and
virtuous. Were it possible for the child of refined parents to grow up without example or
precept in relation to table manners and morals, except the example and advice of vulgar
people, who would expect refinement and consideration from him? Is there anyone who
has such faith in innate refinement that he would be content to let a child of his own,
grow up without a hint on these matters, and with such example only as was supplied by
association with vulgar people? Yet this is precisely what we do in relation to the subject
of personal purity. The child has no good example to guide him. The extent to which
temptation comes to those whom he respects, the manner in which they comport
themselves when tempted, the character of their sex relations are entirely hidden from
him. He is not only without example, he is without precept. No ideals are set before him,
no advice is given to him: the very existence of anything in which ideals and advice are
needful is ignored.
If in conditions like these we should expect a boy to grow up greedy, we may be certain
that he will grow up impure. At puberty there awakes within him by far the strongest
appetite that human nature can experience--an appetite against which some of the noblest
of mankind have striven in vain. The appetite is given abnormal strength by the artificial
and stimulating conditions under which he lives. The act which satisfies this appetite is
also one of keen pleasure. He has long been accustomed to caress his private parts, and
the pleasure with which he does this is greatly enhanced. He does not suspect that
indulgence is harmful. This pleasure, unlike that of eating, costs him nothing, and is ever
available. His powers of self-control are as yet undeveloped. He can indulge himself
without incurring the least suspicion. He probably knows that most boys, of his age and
above, indulge themselves. The result is inevitable. He finds that sexual thoughts are
keenly pleasurable, and that they produce bodily exaltation. He has much yet to learn on
the subject of sex, and he enjoys the quest. Wherever he turns he finds it now--in his
Bible, in animal life, in his classics, in the encyclopædia, in his companions, and in the
newspaper. Day and night the subject is ever with him. It is inevitable. And at this
juncture comes along the theorist who is aghast at our destroying the lad's "innocence,"
and at our "suggesting evils to him which otherwise he would never have thought of."
"The boy's innate modesty is quite a sufficient protection"!
To me the wonderful thing is the earnestness with which a boy sets about the task of
cleansing his life when once he has been made to realise the real character of the thoughts
and acts with which he has been playing. Boys, as I find them, rarely err in this matter, or
in any other, from moral perversity, but merely from ignorance and thoughtlessness.
Severe rebukes and punishments are rarely either just or useful. The disposition which
obliges the teacher to use them in the last resort, and the rebellion against authority which
is said to follow puberty, arise almost invariably from injudicious training in the home or
at school. Boys who have received a fair home training, and who find themselves in a
healthy atmosphere at school, are almost invariably delightful to deal with; and even
those who have been less fortunate in their early surroundings adapt themselves in most
cases to the standards which a healthy public opinion in the school demands.
It may be thought that the mere reticence of adults about reproduction and the
reproductive organs would impress the child's mind with the idea that it is unclean to play
with his private parts or to talk about their functions with his companions. This is a
psychological error. For some years past adults have avoided any allusion to the subject
of excretion, and the child assumes that public attention to bodily needs and public
reference to these needs are alike indelicate. He does not, however, conclude that
excretion in private is an indelicate act, nor does any sense of delicacy oblige him to
maintain, with regard to companions of his own sex and age, the reticence which has
become habitual to him in his relations with adults. Why should the child think it "dirty"
to fondle and excite his private parts or to talk about them with his boy friends? The
knowledge which makes us feel as we do is as yet hidden from him.
The same thing is certainly true of conversation about the facts of reproduction when
those who converse are uncorrupted. Another element, however, at once appears when
these facts are divulged by a corrupt boy, because his manner is irresistibly suggestive of
uncleanness as well as of secrecy. Similarly when self-abuse is fallen into spontaneously
by a boy who is otherwise clean, no sense of indecency attaches itself to the act. When,
however, it is taught by an unclean boy, there is a feeling of defilement from the first. In
boys under the age of puberty this feeling may overpower the temptation; in boys above
that age it is, as a rule, totally inadequate as a safeguard.
Many people imagine that a boy who is impure must betray himself, and that if no overt
acts of indecency are observed the innocence of a boy's mind may be safely inferred.
Knowledge on these subjects has, however, been almost invariably gained under
conditions of the utmost secrecy, and the behaviour of adults has effectively fostered the
idea of concealment. Hence we might expect that the secret would be jealously guarded
and that any overt act of impurity would be avoided in the presence of adults with even
greater circumspection than the public performance of an excretory act. The habit of
self-abuse, moreover, is practised usually under the double cover of darkness and the
bed-clothes. The temptation occurs far less by day than by night, and a boy who yields to
it in the day invariably chooses a closet or other private place in which he feels secure
from detection.
To many people it is inconceivable that a lad can harbour impure feelings and habits
without obvious deterioration; but even if a child's lapses into these things were
associated with conscious guilt, does our knowledge of human nature justify us in
supposing that evil in the heart is certain to betray itself in a visible degradation of the
outer life? If we believe the language of the devout, we must admit that the most spiritual
of men hide in their heart thoughts of which they are heartily ashamed. It is not into the
mouth of the reprobate but into the mouth of her devoted members as they enter upon
their sacramental service that the Church puts the significant prayer, "Almighty God,
unto whom all hearts be open, all desires known, and from whom no secrets are hid;
Cleanse the thoughts in our hearts by the inspiration of thy Holy Spirit." Inconsistency in
adults is far too well recognised to need proof. In children it is even more obvious, and
for this reason that, looked at aright, it is the faculty of maintaining the general health of
the soul, spite of local morbid conditions--a faculty which is strongest in the simpler and
more adaptable mind of the child.
Impurity as a disease has a long incubation period. When he contracts the disease, its
victim is often wholly unconscious of his danger; and, both because the disease is an
internal one and is slow in development, it is a very long time before obvious symptoms
appear. Meanwhile a corruption may have set in which will ultimately ruin the whole life.
CHAPTER IV

.
RESULTS OF YOUTHFUL IMPURITY.
It is difficult to exaggerate the evils which result from the present system under which
boys grow to manhood without any adult guidance in relation to the laws of sex.
It has already been stated that the immediate physical results of self-abuse are small evils
indeed compared with the corruption of mind which comes from perverted sex ideas.
They are, however, by no means negligible; and are, in some cases, very serious. The
great prevalence of self-abuse among boys, combined with the inevitable uncertainty as
to the degree of a boy's freedom from, or indulgence in, this vice, makes it very difficult
to institute a reliable comparison between those who are chaste and those who are
unchaste. Greater significance attaches, I think, to a comparison in individual cases of a
boy's condition during a period of indulgence in masturbation and his condition after its
total, or almost total, relinquishment. I have no hesitation in saying that the difference in
a boy's vitality and spiritual tone after relinquishing this habit is very marked. The case D
quoted in

Chapter I

. is, in this respect, typical.

In my pamphlet, _Private Knowledge for Boys_, I have quoted a striking passage from
Acton on the Reproductive Organs, in which he contrasts the continent and the
incontinent boy. But in the case of men like Dr. Acton--specialists in the diseases of the
male reproductive organs--it must be remembered that it is mostly the abnormal and
extreme cases which come under their notice: a fact which is liable to affect their whole
estimate. The book can be recommended to adults who wish to see the whole subject of
sex diseases dealt with by a specialist who writes with a high moral purpose.
My own estimate is given in the pamphlet already referred to. After quoting Dr. Acton's
opinion, I add:--
"You will notice that Dr. Acton is here describing an extreme case. I want to tell you
what are the results in a case which is not extreme. My difficulty is that these results are
so various. The injury to the nerves and brain which is caused by sexual excitement and
by the loss of semen leaves nothing in the body, mind or character uninjured. The extent
of the injury varies greatly with the strength of a boy's constitution and with the
frequency of his sin. The character of the injury varies with the boy's own special
weaknesses and tendencies. If he is naturally shy and timid, it makes him shyer and more
timid. If he is stupid and lazy, it makes him more stupid and lazy. If he is inclined to
consumption or other disease, it destroys his power of resisting such disease. In extreme
cases only does it actually change an able boy into a stupid one, an athletic boy into a
weak one, and a happy boy into a discontented one; but in all cases it weakens every
power a boy possesses. Its most prominent results are these: loss of will-power and
self-reliance, shyness, nervousness and irritability, failure of the reasoning powers and
memory, laziness of body and mind, a diseased fondness for girls, deceitfulness. Of these
results, the loss of will-power leaves the boy a prey not only to the temptations of
impurity, but to every other form of temptation: the deceitfulness destroys his self-respect
and turns his life into a sham."
Of incomparably greater importance than Acton's wide but abnormal experience and my
own narrow but normal experience is the experience of Dr. Clement Dukes, which is very
wide and perfectly normal. No man has probably been in so good a position for forming
an estimate as he has been. Dr. Dukes thus sums up his opinion: "The harm which results
is moral, intellectual, and physical. Physically it is a frequent drain at a critical time of
life when nature is providing for growth and development, and is ill able to bear it; it is a
powerful nervous shock to the system ill-prepared to meet it.... It also causes muscular
and mental debility, loss of spirit and manliness, and occasional insanity, suicide and
homicide. Moreover it leads to further uncontrollable passions in early manhood....
Further, this vice enfeebles the intellectual powers, inducing lethargy and obtuseness, and
incapacity for hard mental work. And last, and most of all, it is an immorality which
stains the whole character and undermines the life."
In this passage Dr. Dukes refers to the intellectual and moral harm of self-abuse as well
as to its physical consequences. Intimately connected as these are with one another, I am
here attempting to give them separate treatment. It is, however, impossible to treat
perverted sex-knowledge and self-abuse separately; for though in young boys they are
found independently of one another, and sometimes co-exist in elder boys without any
intimate conscious association, their results are identical. In the following pages,
therefore, I shall refer to them jointly as impurity.
The earliest evil which springs from impurity is the destruction of the intimacy which has
hitherto existed between the boy and his parents. Closely associated with this is that
duplicity of life which results from secrets which may be shared with the coarse but must
be jealously concealed from everyone who is respected. Untold harm follows these
changes in a lad. Hitherto he has had nothing to conceal from his mother--unless, indeed,
his parents have been foolish enough to drive him into deception by undue severity over
childish mistakes, and accidents, and moral lapses. Every matter which has occupied his
thoughts he has freely shared with those who can best lead him into the path of moral
health.
Henceforth all is changed. The lad has his own inner life which he must completely
screen from the kind eyes which have hitherto been his spiritual lights. Concealment is
soon found to be an easy thing. Acts and words are things of which others may take
cognisance; the inner life no one can ever know. A world is opened to the lad in which
the restraints of adult opinion are not felt at all and the guidance and inspiration of a
father's or mother's love never come. How completely this is the case in regard to
impurity the reader will hardly doubt if he remembers that all parents believe their boys
to be innocent, and that some 90 per cent. of them are hopelessly hoodwinked. But this
double life is not long confined to the subject of purity. The concealment which serves
one purpose excellently can be made to serve another; and henceforth parents and adult
friends need never know anything but what they are told. It is a sad day for the mother
when first she realises that the old frankness has gone; it is a very, very much sadder day
for the boy. There is no fibre of his moral being but is, or will be, injured by this divorce
of home influences and by this ever-accumulating burden of guilty memories. "His
mother may not know why this is so," writes Canon Lyttelton; "the only thing she may be
perfectly certain of is that the loss will never be quite made up as long as life shall last."
Another injury done by impurity to the growing mind of the lad is that, in all matters
relating to sex, he learns to look merely for personal enjoyment. In every other
department of life he is moved by a variety of motives: by the desire to please, the desire
to excel, by devotion to duty, by the love of truth, and by many other desires. Even in
gratifying the appetite most nearly on the same plane as the sexual appetite--namely, that
of hunger--he has more or less regard for his own well-being, more or less consideration
for the wishes of others, and a constant desire to attain the standard expected of him.
Meanwhile, as regards the sexual appetite--the racial importance of which is great; and
the regulation of which is of infinite importance for himself, for those who may otherwise
become its victims, for the wife he may one day wed, and for the children, legitimate or
illegitimate, that he may beget--his one idea is personal enjoyment. One deplorable result
of this idea will be adverted to in the next chapter.
When boyish impurity involves a coarse way of looking at sexual relations, as it always
must when these are matters of common talk and jest, the boy suffers a loss which
prejudicially affects the whole tone of his mind and every department of his conduct--I
mean the loss of reverence. It is those things alone which are sacred to us, those things
about which we can talk only with friends, and about which we can jest with no one, that
have inspiration in them, that can give us power to follow our ideals and to lay a
restraining hand on the brute within us. Fortunately the self-control which manifests itself
in heroism, in good form, and in the sportsmanlike spirit is sacred to almost all. To most,
a mother's love is sacred. To many, all that is implied in the word religion. To a few,
sexual passion and the great manifestations of human genius in poetry, music, painting,
sculpture, and architecture. Exactly in proportion as these things are profaned by jest and
mockery, is the light of the soul quenched and man degraded to the level of the beast.
Considering how large a part the sex-passion plays in the lives of most men and women;
considering how it permeates the literature and art of the World and is--as the basis of the
home--the most potent factor in social life, its profanation is a terrible loss, and the habit
of mind which such profanation engenders cannot fail to weaken the whole spirit of
reverence. I must confess that the man who jests over sex relations is to me incomparably
lower than the man who sustains clean but wholly illegitimate sex relations; and while I
am conscious of a strong movement of friendship towards a lad who has admitted
impurity in his life but retains reverence for purity, it is hard to feel anything but
repulsion towards one who profanes the subject of sex with coarse and ribald talk.
As a result of the two evils of which I have now spoken, together with the physical
effects of masturbation, young men become powerless to face the sexual temptations of
manhood; and many, who in all other relations of life are admirable, sink in this matter
into the mire of prostitution or the less demoralising, but far crueller, sin of seduction.
Thrown on the streets, usually through no fault of her own, often merely from an
over-trustful love, the prostitute sinks to the lowest depths of degradation and despair. It
is not merely that she sells to every comer, clean or bestial, without even the excuse of
appetite or of passion, what should be yielded alone to love; but it is also that to do this
she poisons body and mind with spirit-drinking, leads a life of demoralising indolence
and self-indulgence, is cut off from all decent associations, and sinks, under the combined
influence of these things and of fell disease, into a loathsome creature whom not the
lowest wants; sinks into destitution, misery, suicide, or the outcast's early grave. Writing
of the young man who is familiar with London, the Headmaster of Eton says: "He cannot
fail to see around him a whole world of ruined life--a ghastly varnish of gaiety spread
over immeasurable tracts of death and corruption; a state of things so heart-rending and
so hopeless that on calm consideration of it the brain reels, and sober-minded people who,
from motives of pity, have looked the hideous evil in the face, have asserted that nothing
in their experience has seemed to threaten them so nearly with a loss of reason."
Into the contamination of this inferno, into active support of this cruel infamy, many and
many a young man is led by the impurity of his boyhood. Such at least is the conclusion
of some who know boys best. Thus Dr. Dukes writes:
"This evil, of which I have spoken so long and so freely, is, I believe, the root of the evil
of prostitution and similar vices; and if this latter evil is to be mitigated, it can only be, to
my mind, by making the life of the schoolboy purer.
"How is it possible to put a stop to this terrible social evil? How is it possible to elevate
women while the demand for them for base purposes is so great? We must go to the other
end of the scale and make men better; we must train young boys more in purity of life
and chastity BEFORE their passions become uncontrollable.
"Whereas the cry of every moralist and philanthropist is, 'Let us put a stop to this
prostitution, open and clandestine.' This cannot be effected at present, much as it is to be
desired; the demand for it is too great, even possibly greater than the supply. If we wish
to eradicate it, we must go to the fountainhead and make those who create the demand
purer, so that, the demand falling off, the supply will be curtailed."[C]
[Footnote C: _The Preservation of Health_, p. 161.]
To this I venture to add that by teaching chastity we not merely decrease the demand for
prostitutes, but we greatly diminish the supply. Few girls, if any, take to the streets until
they have been seduced; and the antecedents of seduction are the morbid exaggeration of
the sexual appetite, the lack of self-control, and the selfish hedonism which youthful
impurity engenders.
The selfishness, and consequent blindness to cruelty, of which I write, manifests itself
quite early. A boy of chivalrous feeling, whose blood would boil at any other form of
outrage on a girl, will read a newspaper account of rape or indecent assault with a
pleasure so intense that indignation and disgust are quite crowded out of his mind.
If, repelled by the coarseness of the streets, the young man allows lust or passion to lead
him into seduction, he commits a crime the consequences of which are usually cruel in
the extreme; for in most cases the seduced girl sinks of necessity into prostitution. So
blind, so callous does impurity make even the refined and generous, that many a young
man who can be a good son, a good brother, a noble friend, a patriotic citizen, will doom
a girl whose only fault is that she is physically attractive--and possibly too affectionate
and trusting--to torturing anxiety, to illness, to the horrible suffering of undesired travail,
to disgrace, and in nineteen cases out of twenty to ostracism and the infamy of the streets.
Murder is a small thing compared with this. Who would not rather that his daughter were
killed in her innocence than that she should be doomed to such a fate?
Many young men are ignorant of the fact that sexual relations with prostitutes frequently
result in the foulest and most terrible of diseases. Venereal diseases, as these are called,
commence in the private parts themselves, but the poison which they engender soon
attacks other parts of the body and often wrecks the general health. It gives rise to
loathsome skin disease, to degeneration of the nervous system and paralysis, to local
disease in the heart, lungs, and digestive organs, and to such lowering of vitality as
renders the body an easy prey to disease generally. No one is justified in looking upon
this risk as a matter of merely private concern. Health is of supreme importance not
merely to the personal happiness and success of the man himself, but also to the services
he can render to his friends, to his nation, and to humanity. Even if a young man is
foolish enough to risk his happiness and success for the sake of animal enjoyment, he
cannot without base selfishness and disloyalty disregard the duties he owes to others.
Further, the man who suffers from venereal disease is certain to pass its poison on to his
wife and children--cursing thus with unspeakable misery those whom of all others it is his
duty to protect and bless.
One cannot help feeling at times that the blessings of home--and of the monogamy which
makes home possible--are terribly discounted by a condition of things which offer a
young man no other alternatives to chastity than these terrible evils. Now that year by
year the rising standard of living and the increased exactions which the State makes on
the industrious and provident cause marriage to be a luxury too expensive for many, and
delayed unduly for most, the problem of social purity becomes ever greater and more
urgent. The instruction of the young in relation to sex provides the only solution, and is, I
venture to think, incomparably the most important social reform now needed.
I am confident that a boy who receives wise training and sex guidance from his early
days will never find lust the foul and uncontrollable element which it is to-day in the lives
of most men; that in a few generations our nation could be freed from the seething
corruption which poisons its life; and that, while freer scope could be given to the
ineffable joys of pure sexual love, very much could be done to diminish the awful misery
and degradation engendered by lust.
If children had from their infancy an instinctive and growing desire for alcohol, with
secret and unrestrained means of gratifying it; if by its indulgence this desire grew into an
overmastering craving; if throughout childhood they received no word of warning or
guidance from the good, but were tempted and corrupted by the evil, we should have a
nation in which most men and women were drunkards, ready to break all laws--human
and divine--which stood in the way of an imperious need; a nation in which, among those
who declined to yield to iniquity, the craving for drink caused unceasing and life-long
struggle.
On the young man of to-day we lay a burden which no ordinary man was ever yet able to
bear. His boyhood and youth become, through ignorance, the prey of lust; his passions
become tyrannous; his will is enslaved. Even if he contracts marriage, his troubles are not
at an end, for man, _as an animal_, is neither monogamous nor wholly constant. His
neglected sex-education makes him far more susceptible to physical attractions than to
those qualities which make a wife a good companion, a good housekeeper, and a good
mother; and but too often, as a result, the beneficent influence of marriage is transient;
the domestic atmosphere ceases to be congenial; both husband and wife become
susceptible to other attachments, and the old struggle begins all over again.

CHAPTER V

.
SEX KNOWLEDGE IS COMPATIBLE WITH PERFECT REFINEMENT AND
INNOCENCE.
The reader who has followed me through the preceding chapters will, I hope, feel that,
whatever objections there may be to giving explicit instruction on sex matters to the
young, such instruction is immensely to be preferred to the almost inevitable perversion
which follows ignorance. If we had to choose between a state of "innocence" and a state
of reverent knowledge, many people would doubtless incline to the former. No such
option exists. Our choice lies between leaving a lad to pick up information from vulgar
and unclean minds, and giving it ourselves in such a manner as to invest it from the first
with sacredness and dignity.
Even if the reader is still inclined to think that sex-knowledge is, at best, an unholy secret,
he will hardly doubt that it can be divulged with less injury by an adult who is earnestly
anxious for the child's welfare than by coarse and irreverent lips.
I am not content to leave the reader in this dilemma. I am confident that the following
words of Canon Lyttelton spring from the truest spiritual insight: "To a lover of nature,
no less than to a convinced Christian, the subject ought to wear an aspect not only
negatively innocent, but positively beautiful. It is a recurrent miracle, and yet the very
type and embodiment of law; and it may be confidently affirmed that, in spite of the
blundering of many generations, there is nothing in a normally-constituted child's mind
which refuses to take in the subject from this point of view, provided that the right
presentation of it is the first."
Nothing more forcibly convicts the present system of the evil which lies at its door than
the current beliefs on this subject. At present, sexual knowledge is picked up from the
gutter and the cesspool; and no purification can free it entirely in many minds from its
original uncleanness.
"Love's a virtue for heroes!--as white as the snow on high hills, And immortal as every
great soul is that struggles, endures, and fulfils."
This is the prophet's belief, and yet, putting on one side those who actually delight in
uncleanness, there appear to be many people who look upon the marriage certificate as a
licence to impurity, and upon sexual union as a form of animal indulgence to which we
are so strongly impelled that even the most refined are tempted by it into an act of
conscious indelicacy and sin. Such people read literally the psalmist's words: "Behold, I
was shapen in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me." It is surely some such
feeling as this which makes parents shrink from referring to the subject, which underlies
the constant use of the word "innocence" as the aptest description of a state of mind
which precedes the acquisition of sexual knowledge.
That individuals, at least, have risen to a loftier conception than this is certain; and the
only possible explanations of the prevalence of the current idea are that sex-knowledge
has almost always been obtained from a tainted source; and that, while the coarse have
not merely whispered their views in the ear in the closet, but have, in all ages, proclaimed
them from the house-tops, the refined have hardly whispered their ideas, much less
discussed them publicly. Children growing up with perverted views have listened to the
loud assertions of disputants on the one side, have witnessed the demoralisation which so
often attends the sexual passion, but have received no hint of what may be said on the
other side of the question.
An instructed public opinion would be horrified at our sovereign's taking shares in a
slave-trading expedition as Queen Elizabeth did. We are aghast at the days when crowds
went forth to enjoy the torture at the stake of those from whom they differed merely on
some metaphysical point. We have even begun to be restless under man's cruel
domination over the animal creation. But we have made far less advance in our
conceptions on sexual matters; and we are content here with ideas which were current in
Elizabethan days. But for this, no passion for conservatism, no reverence for a liturgy
endeared by centuries of use, could induce us to tell every bride as she stands before
God's altar that it is one of her functions to provide an outlet for her husband's passion
and a safeguard against fornication. Lust is at least as degrading in married life as it is
outside it. No legal contract, no religious ceremony, can purify, much less sanctify, what
is essentially impure.
Those who desire to assist in the uplifting of humanity cannot afford to be silent and to
allow judgment to go against them by default. Courage they will need; for a charge of
indecency is sure to be levelled against them by the indecent, and they may be misjudged
even by the pure.
This is not the place in which so delicate a matter can be fully discussed, nor does space
permit; but if the movement towards sex instruction is not to be stultified by the very
ideas which evidence the need for it, the subject cannot be wholly ignored here, and I
venture to throw out a few suggestions.
Are we indeed to believe that the noblest and most spiritual of men will compromise
themselves in the eyes of the woman they love best, and whose respect they most desire,
by committing in her presence and making her the instrument of an indelicate act? A
great poet, who remained an ardent lover and a devoted companion until his wife died in
his arms--blissfully happy that she might die so--has written:
"Let us not always say, 'Spite of the flesh to-day I strove, made head, gained ground upon
the whole.' As the bird wings and sings, Let us cry, 'All good things Are ours, nor soul
helps flesh more, now, than flesh helps soul.'"
Again: are we, who believe in a Divine government of the world, able to imagine that
God has made the perpetuation of the race dependent upon acts of sin or of indelicacy?
Did He who graced with His presence the marriage at Cana in Galilee really countenance
a ceremony which was a prelude to sin? Did He who took the little children in His arms
and blessed them know, as He said "for of such is the kingdom of heaven," that not one
of them could have existed without indelicacy, and that they were but living proof of their
fathers' lapses and their mothers' humiliation? Is He whom we address daily as "Our
Father" willing to be described by a name with which impurity is of necessity connected?
And has He implanted in us as the strongest of our instincts that which cannot elevate and
must debase?
Again: it needs no wide experience of life, nor any very indulgent view of it, to feel some
truth at least in the words Tennyson puts into the mouth of his ideal man:
"Indeed I knew Of no more subtle master under heaven Than is the maiden passion for a
maid Not only to keep down _the base in man_, But teach high thought, and amiable
words, And courtliness, and the desire for fame, And love of truth, and all that makes a
man."
And yet this passion is indisputably sexual passion, and the chastest of lovers has bodily
proof that the most spiritual of his kisses is allied to the supreme embrace of love. Our
body is the instrument by which all our emotions are expressed. The most obvious way of
expressing affection is by bodily contact. The mother fondles her child, kisses its lips and
its limbs, and presses it to her breast. Young children hold hands, put their arms round
one another and kiss; and, although later we become less demonstrative, we still take our
friend's arm, press his hand with ours, and lay a hand upon his shoulder; we pat our horse
or dog and stroke our cat. The lover returns to the spontaneous and unrestrained caresses
of his childhood. These become more and more intimate until they find their
consummation in the most intimate and most sacred of all embraces. From first to last
these caresses--however deep the pleasure they bestow--are sought by the mother or the
lover, not for the sake of that pleasure, but as a means of expressing emotion. He only
who realises this fact and conforms to it can enter on married life with any certainty of
happiness. The happiness of very many marriages is irretrievably shattered at the outset
through the craving for sexual excitement which, in the absence of wise guidance, grows
up in every normal boy's heart, and by the contemplation of sexual intercourse as an act
of physical pleasure.
And once again: It is the experience of those who have given instruction in sex questions
to the young that by those whose minds have never been defiled the instruction is
received with instant reverence, as something sacred; not with shame, as something foul.
I venture once more to quote Canon Lyttelton, who sets forth his experience and my own
in language the beauty of which I cannot imitate:
"There is something awe-inspiring in the innocent readiness of little children to learn the
explanation of by far the greatest fact within the horizon of their minds. The way they
receive it, with native reverence, truthfulness of understanding, and guileless delicacy, is
nothing short of a revelation of the never-ceasing bounty of Nature, who endows
successive generations of children with this instinctive ear for the deep harmonies of her
laws. People sometimes speak of the indescribable beauty of children's innocence, and
insist that there is nothing which calls for more constant thanksgiving than that influence
on mankind. But I will venture to say that no one quite knows what it is who has
foregone the privilege of being the first to set before them the true meaning of life and
birth and the mystery of their own being."
To the arguments thus briefly indicated it is no answer to say that sexual union is
essentially physical, and that to regard it in any other way is transcendental. Among
primitive men eating and drinking were merely animal. We have made them, in our meals,
an accompaniment to social pleasures, and in our religious life we have raised them to a
sacramental level.

CHAPTER VI

.
CONDITIONS UNDER WHICH PURITY TEACHING IS BEST GIVEN: REMEDIAL
AND CURATIVE MEASURES.
We have now seen that impurity is almost universal among boys who have been left
without warning and instruction; that, under these conditions, it is practically inevitable;
that its direct results are lowered vitality and serious injury to character, its indirect
results an appalling amount of degradation and misery; finally, that there is nothing in sex
knowledge, when rightly presented, which can in the least defile a child's mind. All that
now remains is for us to consider by whom and under what circumstances instruction on
this subject should be given, and what assistance can be rendered to boys who desire to
lead chaste lives.
Without doubt, instruction should be given to a boy by his parents in the home. When
young children ask questions with regard to reproduction, parents should neither ignore
these question nor give the usual silly answers. If the occasion on which the question is
asked is not one in which an answer can appropriately be given, the child should be
gently warned that the question raised is one about which people do not openly talk, and
the promise of an answer hereafter should be made. Then, at the first convenient hour, the
child can either be given the information he seeks or told that he shall hear all about the
matter at some future specified time, as for example, his sixth or eighth birthday.
In the absence of questions from a child, the ideal thing would be for the child, at the age
of six, seven, or eight, to learn orally from his mother the facts of maternity and to
receive warning against playing with his private parts. Whether at this time it is best to
teach him the facts of paternity is, I think, doubtful. Canon Lyttelton is strongly of
opinion that the father's share in the child's existence should be explained when the
mother's share is explained, and there is much weight in what he says. If the question of
paternity is reserved, it should not be on the ground that there is anything embarrassing or
indelicate about the matter, and, when the facts are revealed, the child should clearly
understand that they have been withheld merely until his mind was sufficiently developed
to understand them. The only safe guide in such matters is experience, and of this as yet
we have unfortunately little.
The question next arises: should it be the mother or the father who gives this instruction?
As regards the earlier part of the instruction a confident reply can be made to this
question. The information should be given by the parent whose relations with the child
are the more intimate and tender, and whose influence over him is the greater. This will,
of course, usually be the mother. The subject of paternity may, if reserved for future
treatment, be appropriately given by the father, provided that he and his son are on really
intimate terms. If timely warning is given to a child about playing with his private parts,
no reference need be made to self-abuse until a boy leaves home for school, or until he is
nearing the age of puberty.
There are many mothers whose insight and tact will enable them to approach these
questions in the best possible way and to say exactly the right thing. There are others--a
large majority, I think--who would be glad of guidance, and there are not a few who
would certainly leave the matter alone unless thus guided. It was mainly to assist parents
in this work that I published last year a pamphlet entitled Private Knowledge for Boys.[D]
This embodies just what, in my opinion, should be said to an intelligent child, and it has,
in my own hands, proved effective for many years past. In the case of young children the
teaching should certainly be oral, provided that the mother knows clearly what to say, has
sufficient powers of expression to say it well, and can talk without any feeling of
embarrassment. Unless these conditions co-exist I recommend the use of a pamphlet. As I
have found that children often do not know what one means by the "private parts," I
make this clear at the outset.
[Footnote D: To be obtained post free for nine stamps from Mr. M. Whiley, Stonehouse,
Glos.]
Some into whose hands this book may come and who have boys of twelve and upwards
to whom they have never given instruction, may possibly be glad of advice as to the
manner in which the subject can best be dealt with in their case. For boys of this age, I
am strongly of opinion that it is better in most cases to make use of a pamphlet than to
attempt oral instruction. Probably they already have some knowledge on the subject;
possibly some sense of guilt. If so, it will be found very difficult to treat the matter orally
without embarrassment--a thing to be avoided at all costs. I was interested to find that on
receipt of my pamphlet Professor Geddes--one of the greatest experts on sex--placed it at
once in the hands of his own boy, a fact from which his opinion on the relative merits of
oral and printed instruction can easily be inferred.
Many of my readers who have boys of fourteen and upwards to whom they have hitherto
given no instruction will, I hope, feel that they must now do this. I venture, therefore, to
give a detailed account of the manner in which I should myself act in similar
circumstances. I should arrange to be with the lad when there was no danger of
interruption, and in such circumstances as would put him at his ease. I should tell him
that I was conscious of unwisdom in not speaking to him before about a subject of
supreme importance to him; that I took upon myself all blame for anything he might, in
ignorance, have said or done; that through ignorance I had myself fallen and suffered, and
that I should like him now to sit down and read through this pamphlet slowly and
carefully. When he finished I should try by every possible means to make him sensible of
my affection for him. I should associate myself in a few words with the sentiments of the
writer, and should invite the lad to tell me whether he had fallen into temptation, and if so
to what extent. A confidence of this kind assists a boy greatly and establishes a delightful
intimacy.
There are several points with regard to purity-teaching which need to be emphasised.
Such teaching can hardly be too explicit. "Beating about the bush" is always indicative of
the absence of self-possession. The embarrassment manifested is quickly perceived even
by a young child, and is certain to communicate itself to the recipient. It is of paramount
importance that the child should, from the first, feel that the knowledge imparted is pure;
anything which suggests that it is indelicate should be studiously avoided. The
introduction of a few science terms is advantageous in several ways: amongst others it
relieves the tension which the spiritual aspect of the question may engender, it gives a lad
a terminology which is free from filthy contamination.
It is important that the information given should be full, otherwise the boy lives in a
chronic state of curiosity, which, to his great detriment, he is ever trying to satisfy. If the
reader feels that the information is dangerous, and aims, therefore, at imparting as little as
possible, he is not fitted to do the work at all.
No greater mistake can be made than that of taxing a boy with impurity as though it were
a conscious and egregious fault. I have already expressed my strong opinion that, in
almost every instance, the boy is a victim to be sympathised with, not a culprit to be
punished. This opinion is shared, I believe, by everyone who has investigated the subject.
It is certainly the opinion of Canon Lyttelton and Dr. Dukes. It is, indeed, easy to
exaggerate the conscious guilt even of boys who have initiated others into masturbation.
Apart from the injustice to the boy of an attitude of severity, it is certain to shut the boy's
heart up with a snap.
If a pamphlet is used it should, without fail, be taken from a boy when he has read it.
Much harm may, I fear, result from supplying boys with the cheap pamphlets which
well-meaning but inexperienced persons are producing.
Should the time ever come when parents give timely warning and instruction to boys, a
very difficult problem will be solved for the schoolmaster. But in the meantime what
ought the schoolmaster to do? The following plan commends itself to some eminent
teachers. As soon as a boy is about to enter the school a letter is sent to his parents
advising them to give the boy instruction, and a pamphlet is enclosed for this purpose.
This plan has the decided advantage of shifting the responsibility on to the shoulders of
those who ought to take it. The weakness of the plan arises from the fact that most
parents do not believe in the prevalence of impurity among boys, and are quite confident
that their own boys need no warning. Hence they may do nothing at all, or merely content
themselves with some vague and quite useless statement.
The traditions of most boys' schools make it impossible for those intimate and respectful
relations to exist between masters and boys without which confidential teaching of this
kind may be even worse than useless. Where masters are invariably referred to
disrespectfully if not contemptuously, where a teacher's most earnest address is a "jaw"
which the recipient is expected to betray and mock at with his companions; where to
shield profanity, indecency, and bullying from detection is the imperative duty of every
boy below the Sixth; where failure to avert from a moral leper the kindly treatment which
might restore him to health and prevent the wholesale infection of others is the one
unpardonable sin, only one or two teachers of a generation can hope to do much, and the
risk of failure is immense. I can hardly believe that the present race of teachers will long
tolerate the system I here advert to. Public opinion can be organised and enlisted as
strongly on the side of Right as it is now, but too often, on the side of Evil. Mr. A.C.
Benson is very moderate when he writes: "To take no steps to arrive at such an
organisation, and to leave it severely alone, is a very dark responsibility."
Even in such a school, some good is, I know, done by tactful public references to the
existence of masturbation and to its deplorable consequences.
The question is not free from difficulty even when the general atmosphere of the school
is healthy and helpful. If one dared to leave this instruction until the age of puberty, the
lad would be capable of a much deeper impression than he is at an earlier age, and the
impression would be fresh just at the time at which it is most needed. In the case of boys
who have come to me at nine or ten I have sometimes ventured to defer my interview for
four or five years, and have found them quite uncorrupted. On the other hand, within an
hour of penning these lines I have been talking to a little boy of eleven who commenced
masturbation two years ago while he was under excellent home influence. One such boy
may, without guilt, corrupt a whole set, for impurity is one of the most infectious as well
as the most terrible of diseases. The ideal state in a school is not reached until periodical
addresses on purity can be given to all with the certainty that by all they will be listened
to and treated reverently and respectfully. Such addresses cannot well be made the
vehicle of sex information, but they can be so constructed as to guide those to whom
individual instruction has not yet been given, and to strengthen those who, spite of full
instruction, periodically need a helping hand.
What results may we reasonably expect from adequate and timely instruction? I have so
rarely met a case in which this has been given at home that I can only infer what these
results might be from the cases in which my own instruction has been given in time. In
almost every instance I feel sure that the results have been beneficial, that the temptation
to impurity has been little felt, and that a healthy and chaste boyhood has resulted. Canon
Lyttelton writes: "The influences of school life have been found to be impotent to
deprave the tone of a boy who has been fortified by the right kind of instruction from his
parents." This I can well believe, for, if the schoolmaster can do much, there can be no
limit to a power which has been cradled in the sanctity of home and cherished by a
mother's love. This appears to be the emphatic opinion also of Dr. Dukes. Of a boy thus
favoured, Canon Lyttelton writes: "He will feel that any rude handling of such a theme,
even of only its outer fringe, is like the profaning of the Holy of Holies in his heart, and
he will no more suffer it than he would suffer a stranger to defile the innermost shrine of
his feelings by taking his mother's or his sister's name in vain. All the goading curiosity
which drives other boys to pry greedily into nature's laws, in blank ignorance of their
mighty import, their unspeakable depth, and spiritual unearthly harmonies, has been for
him forestalled, enlightened, and purified."
It is a sad step down from such a boy to the lad who has been given warning after
corruption has begun. Most boys feel such shame in confessing to failure that one has to
accept with reserve the statements made by even the most truthful of those who are
treading the upward path. After making due allowance for this source of error, my
experience enables me to say confidently that, if a boy has not been long or badly
corrupted, a radical change of attitude may be expected in him at once, and the habit of
self-abuse will be instantly or rapidly relinquished. Very different is the case of a lad who
has long practised masturbation, or who has practised it for some time after the advent of
puberty, or who has associated sexual imaginations with the practice. Few such boys
conquer the habit at once, however much they desire to, and, if the above conditions
co-exist, a boy's progress is very slow, and years may pass without anything approaching
cure. If in addition to the temptations from within he has foes also without in the form of
companions who sneer at his desire for improvement, controvert the statements made to
him, and throw temptation in his way, his chance of cure must be enormously decreased.
Of such cases I know nothing; for my experience lies solely among boys who have,
outside their own hearts, little to hinder and very much to help. As I have dealt elsewhere
with the question of aids to chastity, I will make only a brief reference to it here.
The mind is so much influenced by the body that purity is impossible when the body is
unduly indulged. No man exists who could inhale the vapour of chloroform without an
irresistible desire to sleep. Under these conditions the strongest will would not avail even
if the victim knew that by surrender he was sacrificing everything he reverenced and held
dear. The lad past the age of puberty who has much stimulating food, who drinks alcohol,
who sleeps in a warm and luxurious bed and occupies it for some time before or after
sleep, is certain, even if he takes much exercise, to be tempted irresistibly. Dr. Dukes
considers that a heavy meat meal with alcohol shortly before bedtime is in itself sufficient
to ensure a lad's fall.
Meanwhile, no abstinence which it not unduly rigorous, can save a boy from impurity if
he gets into the habit of exchanging glances with girls who are socially inferior, if he
reads suggestive books, looks at stimulating pictures and sights, and falls into the
hopeless folly of entertaining sexual thoughts even momentarily. He who has not the
strength to tread out a spark is little likely to subdue a conflagration.
The best and most timely teaching will never make carelessness in these matters
justifiable, and a boy who has once been corrupted and desires to master his lower nature
has no chance of self-conquest unless he gives them his constant and careful attention.
It is very important to fill a boy's leisure with congenial occupation. Idleness and dullness
make a boy specially susceptible to temptation. On the other hand, the fond parent who
satisfies a boy's every whim and encourages the lad to think that his own enjoyment is the
chief thing in life does his utmost to destroy the lad's chance of purity--or, indeed, of any
virtue whatever.
Can anything be done for boys and young men who have become the slaves of self-abuse
to such an extent that they groan in the words of St. Paul: "The good that I would I do not,
but the evil which I would not, that I do.... I delight in the law of God after the inward
man, but I see another law in my members warring against the law of my mind and
bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members. O wretched man
that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death?" Can anything be done for
the lad who has become so defiled by lustful thoughts that his utmost efforts fail to carry
him forward, and even leave him to sink deeper in the mire. There are many, many such
cases, alas! for as Dr. Acton says, "The youth is a dreamer who will open the floodgates
of an ocean, and then attempt to prescribe at will a limit to the inundation."
Yes there is a remedy--I believe a specific--which can rapidly and, I think, finally restore
strength to the enfeebled will and order the unclean spirit to come out of the man. It is
hypnotic suggestion. Let not the reader, however, think that the matter is a simple one. In
all ages any great advance in the art of healing has, by the ignorant, been attributed to the
powers of darkness. The Divine Healer Himself did not escape from the charge of casting
out devils by the prince of the devils, and, while hypnotic suggestion has long been used
for therapeutic purposes on the Continent and is now practised in Government institutions
there, the doctor or clergyman or teacher who uses it in England runs great risks; for in
this subject, as in all others, it is those who are entirely without experience who are most
dogmatic.
In the case of the schoolmaster, its use in this connection is practically excluded. If he
applies to a parent for permission to use it he probably runs his head against a blank wall
of ignorance; for hypnotism, to most people, means a dangerous power by which an
unscrupulous, strong-willed Svengali dominates an abnormally weak-willed Trilby
whose will continues to grow weaker until the subject becomes a mere automaton; and
most of us would rightly prefer that a boy should be his own master--even if he were
rushing to headlong ruin--than that he should be the mere puppet of the most saintly man
living. The human will is sacred and inviolable, and we do unwisely if we seek to control
it or to remove those obstacles from its way by which alone it can gain divine strength.
Meanwhile the stimulus by which the mind acquires self-mastery usually comes from
without in the form of spiritual inspiration; and to remove from a boy's path an obstacle
which blocks it and is entirely beyond his own strength is equally desirable both in the
physical and in the spiritual realm. Those who think that without this obstacle a boy's
power of self-control is likely to receive insufficient exercise will, of course, object to the
instruction advocated in this book. If it is unwise to remove this obstacle from a boy's
path it is equally unwise so to instruct him as to prevent the obstacle from arising. In
trustworthy hands hypnotic suggestion is a beneficent power which has no dangers and
no drawbacks, and to decline to use it is to accept a very serious responsibility.
For the teacher a further difficulty--not to mention that of time--is that, without betraying
a boy's confidence or inducing him to allow his admissions to be passed on to his father,
it is impossible to give his parents an idea of the urgency of the case.
Altogether the time for hypnotic suggestion in education is not yet, but the day must
come when its use is recognised not only in physical cases such as nocturnal emissions
and constipation, but in all cases in which the will-power is practically in abeyance, as it
is in bad cases of impurity.
For intelligent parents the difficulties are far less, and if any such care to pursue the
subject farther, I would refer them to the volume on Hypnotism in the People's Books
series or to one of the larger medical works on the subject, such as _Hypnotism and
Suggestion_, by Dr. Bernard Hollander.
To those who know boys well and love them much, there is something intensely
interesting and pathetic about the spiritual struggle through which they have to pass. The
path of self-indulgence seems so obviously the path to happiness; self-denial is so hard
and self-control so difficult. "The struggle of the instinct that enjoys and the more noble
instinct that aspires" is ever there. The young soul reaches out after good, but its grasp is
weak. It needs much enlightenment, much encouragement, much inspiration, much
patient tolerance of its faults, much hopeful sympathy with its strivings, if it is ever to
attain the good it seeks. In the past it has met, without light or aid, unwarned and
unprepared, the deadliest foe which can assail the soul. An appetite which has in all ages
debased the weak, wrestled fiercely with the strong, and vanquished at times even the
noble, is let loose upon an unwarned, unarmed, defenceless child. Oh, the utter, the utter
folly of it!
For life after death the writer has no longing. Immortality, if vouchsafed, appears to him
to be a gift to be accepted trustfully and humbly, not to be yearned after with a sort of
transcendental egoism. But to him the wish to--
"Join the choir invisible Of those immortal dead who live again In minds made better by
their presence"
grows ever stronger as the inevitable end draws nearer.
To save young lives from the needless struggles and failures of my own, to secure healthy
motherhood or maiden life to some whom lust might otherwise destroy, to add, for some
at least, new sanctity to human passion--these have been my hopes in penning the
foregoing pages. It has been my privilege and joy, in my own quiet sphere, to preserve
boys from corruption and to restore the impure to cleanness of heart. I am deeply grateful
for the opportunity these pages afford of extending this delightful work. When the hand
which writes these lines has long been cold in death, may the message which it speeds
this day breathe peace and strength into many an eager heart.

NOTE TO CORRESPONDENTS.
TO BOYS.
I warmly invite any boy who has read these pages to write to me if he feels inclined to do
so. Since this book was first published I have received hundreds of letters from boys who
have, without any definite invitation, understood that it would please me much to hear
from them. Many boys feel all the better for frankly confessing their difficulties to a man
who fully understands and sympathises with them. Some desire advice about their own
case. Anyone who accepts this invitation will do wisely to give me a full and frank
history of his difficulties. His confidences will, of course, be strictly respected. He will
also, I hope, remember that I am an extremely busy man with many and urgent claims on
my time, and that I cannot always reply as quickly and as fully as I should like to do.
TO YOUNG MEN.
Before a young man marries he should always seek advice from a trustworthy source
with regard to his conduct as a husband. No satisfactory book is, or perhaps could be,
published on this subject; and even if a young man can make up his mind to consult a
doctor, it is by no means every doctor who has the needful knowledge on this subject or
the best moral outlook. It has been my privilege to help several in this matter, and I am
always happy to do this.
TO BOYS AND YOUNG MEN.
I earnestly warn you against those who, by advertisement in the papers, offer to cure
young men who are suffering from weakness of the private parts and other ills which
impurity entails. Many such advertisers are little better than rogues, who are out to make
money by trading on the fears of their victims; their "treatment"--quite apart from a far
greater cost than at first appears--often does more harm than good. In every case in which
disease or weakness exists, or is suspected, a reliable medical man should be at once
consulted. If this is done, a cure may generally be looked for. Do not write to me; this is a
doctor's business, not mine.

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