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Table of Contents First steps..3 How to meditate4 How to use your subconscious.....5 How to liberate yourself from emotional pain and negative thoughts..7 How to identify your fake/ true Self.8 How to transform unconsciousness into self-consciousness..9 How to get free from emotional dependency10 What do I really want? How to identify your real values and objectives in life11 How to make choices12 Material to read.12
This e-book is written as a practical guide to solve different problems that almost all of us have experienced over the years. I have read different books, I have experienced and now I think that would be good to share with you those things that helped me, so that we can keep on growing together. Do these exercises and, if your life improves a little, Ill be happy! The exercises are really simple, for people who do not necessary have special knowledge, but they will improve your life if you persistently repeat them, until you reach the desired results.
Good luck!
I. First steps
The first and most important step in order to improve your life is to say STOP to your life as you know it; just stay for a moment (or more) and analyze your life. Are you happy with yourself, with the things you got, with how your life looks like? Before doing so, you must put yourself in the center of your life. You are the most important person from your life and this will be our focus in this e-book. Imagine a long road in front of you; it is your life. The people you meet, the life situations, different events, more or less agreeable, they are All Your Creation. As you walk on that road, you are continuously creating your world, your reality. Each person has his own way, as he/ she create it. The problem is that many of us (maybe you, too) live a large part of our life on other people road and not on ours; we improve others life and road and, when we watch back, at our road, we realize that it is ugly, worthless. This happens when you do not take care of your road; you have been too busy with other people` roads. Okwhen you reached this conclusion, that your road is not beautiful enough, or safe enough, or stable enough, you understand that it is necessary to leave those other roads, to get back to yours and start working for it. You see, it is like you would say: I have a home, but it is ugly and weatherbeaten; I better go to my neighbors home, because it is already beautiful, clean and safe. You must understand that your neighbor has a beautiful home because he/she takes care of it and you also can have a home just as beautiful if you start working at yours. Accept reality as it is, that you do not yet have the greatest home, but it is yours, and then think about what you can do to improve it. The rest of this material will help you do this. Briefly, the practical exercise is the following: Imagine the road of your life and walk backwards on it, toward your first years of life. Notice, without judging, everything that was good and bad, notice yourself in different life situations: what you said, how you reacted, how you took important decisions etc. then, write on a piece of paper, on two columns: good things and bad things in my life. As you go further with this exercise, more and more things are going to come
to the surface into your mind, emerging from your subconscious. Write them down. Just do that. You will start feeling much better just through this exercise.
II. Meditation
You can practice meditation in different ways; it is good to practice it every day, if it is possible. It clarifies your mind, your senses, gives you more energy and increases your inner strength. I am going to present you, briefly, the main meditation techniques; you will see, within this material that many of the personal, spiritual, mental or emotional problems can be solved using meditation. To eyewitness is the form of meditation that implies being detached from your thoughts and emotions and just keep track of them; objectively, without judging or analyzing. This form of meditation is very powerful, because, through observation, you withdraw into your inner self and stop identifying with your mind or emotions. In this way, you cease feeding your mind and emotions with energy and you will notice that, in a short period of time, that thought which does not leave you alone or that ugly, teasing emotion just diminish until they disappear completely. Vipassana - is the form of meditation that implies paying attention to your breath, in the same way, as a silent witness; your mind will be too busy with this activity, so that it can not focus on anything else. Listening - is the form of meditation that implies active and conscious listening, not just hearing, a sound, music, a noise. Most of the times we unconsciously hear noises around us, but do not actively listen to them. Practicing listening, we liberate from our mind, our senses become sharper, we are clearer and in peace. Mantra - is the form of meditation that implies repeating certain words. You just identify some words or a phrase that you like to repeat, maybe words to increase your self confidence or to emotionally stabilize you (for ex.: I am fully confident; I remain calm and balanced in any situation). Repeat them as often as you can, especially before an important moment, emotionally heavy.
The contemplative look - is the form of meditation that implies staring at a point; we keep looking at it for a long period of time; any time you feel your mind starts thinking about something else, just come back and focus your attention on that point. The meditation through action it supposes to be present, aware and active, no matter what you do at a given moment. For example, if you wash your hand, pay attention to the way you feel the water on your hands, to the sensation produced by your hands when they touch each other, to what sound produce the water drops when they fall into the sink Another form of meditation supposes just to stay without doing anything, without thinking; it supposes to pass beyond your thoughts. You do not think of anything; the screen of your mind is empty and black and you feel the peace and the silence. Try these types of meditation; one or more of them will like you more than the others. Continue practicing it/ them as often as you can; in any way you meditate, the most important result is the same: you become present and liberate yourself from the identification with your mind, with your thoughts and emotions.
On the other hand, your mind uses this information stored in there to solve different problems you are dealing with. Thus, working with the subconscious mind, we have two great opportunities: 1. We can modify the patterns we do not like, registering into the subconscious the information we like (we just replace the existing information with another one). For example, if our pattern supposes that, when someone shouts at us, we get scared and lose our self confidence, we register something else over this pattern: when someone shouts at us, we remain calm, strong and our answer is firm and confident. Exercise: Step 1: identify a situation in which your response is different than that you want; Step 2: think about how you would really want to react in that situation; Step 3: formulate a sentence with a few words which represent that reaction; Step 4: begin to meditate, as your subconscious is very receptive when you meditate, and repeat that sentence as often as you can. After a while, you will see that the change happened. For the above example, when someone becomes verbally aggressive, we may repeat this sentence: Any time someone is aggressive with me in any way, I remain calm, balanced and confident. It would be good to formulate your own sentences, for each situation, and repeat them as often as you can. After a while the reaction stored into the subconscious mind will be replaced with the desired reaction. 2. We can ask our subconscious to solve difficult problems for us, to find solutions; the truth is that our mind uses only a little part of our subconscious, thus its power remaining unexplored. Exercise: think about a difficult problem, for which you do not have a solution yet. Begin to meditate and say: I ask the infinite wisdom of my subconscious to find a proper solution for the problem x (your problem) until y (set a date). After that, just be at peace, convinced that the solution will show up. After presenting its task, the subconscious starts working, combining information and it will give the answer by the due date.
The practical exercise consists in practicing at all seasons this technique; speak and think only positive things; the more you have good things in your life, the more the bad things grow less.
- to stay in the present as much as you can; you`ll see that in the present you feel good and at peace; our mind distorts the present, makes us worry for something that maybe will happen in a year, a month or maybe or over 10 minutes. It is not important what will happen over 10 minutes; it is important what happens now. - To be always aware of your thoughts, to keep them in the positive area. Although it seems difficult at the beginning, after a while you`ll realize that you have begun to think positive in a natural manner, without any effort. That means, as I already told you in the chapter 3, that your subconscious transformed and acts on your conscious principles; the negative patterns have been replaced with positive patterns. The energy you now spread around is positive and more positive energy comes back to you. Some people need more time to produce these changes, others need less. This ultimately depends on the level of negativity already existent in your subconscious mind. But don`t be disappointed. Keep practicing, be perseverant, until you succeed.
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on his/her road anymore, you think you have nothing left, nothing to come back to, no identity. Then you turn against that person you used to say you love, now that person is seen as absolutely horrible and mean but remember: you invaded his/her territory and not contrarily. You can not own someone else, just as you cant be someone elses slave. We are free people, each one of us has his own road, which looks as good as we keep it. I believe you understood the mechanism. Now, what you have to do is: - first of all, go back to your road, which means you place yourself in the center of your life, just as it is good or bad; also, you understand that you must take in hand your own life; you are the only one responsible for your happiness and bliss. - analyze you flaws and qualities, what is good and wrong in your life, what youd like to change. - try different activities, in order to realize what you want, what makes you happy. - develop you spiritual side. Once you established what you want, apply these exercises to produce the change you need. I don`t say its easy to overcome your statute as a victim and improve your inner strengths, but it is surely possible.
VIII. What do I really want? How to identify your real values and objectives in life
I wrote this little chapter to help you accomplish the tasks from the previous chapter. If you don`t know what you want yet, what suits you best in life, take this exercise: write on a piece of paper all the things that matter to you; everything that comes to your mind. Take care that every concept you use, you understand its meaning very well (for example, if you write down love, what are you referring to? You refer to a feeling, to a relationship, to marriage etc? Keep in mind exactly the meaning of that concept) The second step is to arrange them according to their importance; you take a word from the list and compare it with all the other words. Is there any word more important than this one? If it is, you take that new word/concept and compare it with the others
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eventually, you will have a first concept which represents the most important thing for you in life. You write it down on another piece of paper, and, from the rest of the words, you pick another, which you analyze in the same manner. Arrange all the words; the first 7-8 words from the new list represent your values in life, your purposes and would be good to pursue them in everything you do.
Material to read Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now Joseph Murphy, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind Robin Norwood, Women who love too much The Secret Also, you may find on the Internet a lot of information about meditation
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