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Chei Billedo
Dept. of Psychology
What is LOVE?
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LOVE
• LOVE is a construct
• Construct
– An abstract theoretical variable that is used to explain
some phenomenon which is of interest to scientists
– Operationalize!
Interpersonal Attraction
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Attraction Cues
Attraction Cues
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Romantic Relationships
Socio-Evolutionary Theory
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Triangular Theory
3 important components
– Intimacy: those feelings that promote closeness,
bondedness and connectedness
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What is the Internet?
•A set of numerous interconnected networks that enable
communication between or among computers.
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What is computer-mediated communication (CMC)?
CLASSIFICATIONS OF CMC
CLASSIFICATIONS OF CMC
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CYBERSPACE?
CYBERSPACE?
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Unique features according to Suler (2007):
•Reduced sensation
•Texting
•Identity flexibility/anonymity
•Altered perceptions
•Equalized status
•Transcend spaces
•Temporal flexibility
•Social multiplicity
•Recordability
•Media disruption
•Blackhole experiences
Unique features:
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Communication Online
•Use of emoticons - :-)
•Emotes (verbalization of actions) - *hug*
•Strategic use of punctuations/capital letters – Hello???!!!! I AM
ANGRY!
•Paralinguistic markers – Hmmmm.. Ahhh… Oooohhh..
•Misspellings – Wuv you!
•Acronyms – ctc, gtg, brb, hb, rofl, ttyl
•Territorial behaviors – flooding (sending too many messages
consecutively so that others would have difficulty sending)
Communication Online
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Anonymity and the Self
•Defining the self
•Self-Description (web-pages, social network pages, blog)
•Nick/sn
•Avatar
•Online behavior
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Do people lie then?
Miller (1995): the selves presented in web pages do not seem to be
qualitatively different from “selves” presented in other ways
Clay (2000): in interactive CMC, there is an attempt to express the “real self”
online, especially when one desires to form and maintain relationships
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LOVE online?
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Stage 2: The establishment of intimacy
leading to friendship
• Similarity
• Perceived characteristics
• Perceived quality of communication
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Stage 3 (continuation)
• Long-term plans/meeting in person
• Verbalization of feelings towards each
other
(“pasakalye” – “halabsyu”, “wuv you”)
• Verbalization of the physical aspect of
intimacy
(mwah, “cyber foreplay”, phone sex)
• Physical attractiveness (nick, self-
description, pictures)
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Stage 5: The decision to continue or
terminate the romantic relationship after
meeting in person
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Online versus In-person
• Differences
– Location
– Accelerated intimacy online
• higher levels of self-disclosure on CMC
• hasty verbalization (limited non-verbal cues,
deindividuation effects)
– Physical components of a relationship
Heightened attraction?
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Hyperpersonal Perspective
by Walther,1997
“selective self-presentation”
• editing and off-line processing for the purpose
of presenting self in a more desirable manner
• people may idealize the impressions that they
construct of their communication partners
Computer-mediated In-person
Communication (IRC) Communication
Friendship Romantic
Relationship Romantic Friendship
Relationship
Acquaintance
Acquaintance
Termination of
Relationship Decision
Termination of
to meet Long-term Relationship
In-person Commitment
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• Meaningful relationships are formed through
online interaction.
• The question is not whether the relationship
is real or not, but whether the relationship is
complete or not.
• Friendships, which rely solely on intimacy,
may be complete online.
• A romantic relationship, on the other hand,
demands physical component. This becomes
the impetus for couples to move from online
to “in-person” interaction.
• The theories of attraction based on in-person
interactions are applicable to online
interactions with slight modifications.
• (AND THE INTERNET IS NOT JUST FOR
PORN! – chei monster)
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