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by Yosi Tsitsu
"A man's attitude to the world is his attitude to his woman" - David Deida
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Table of Contents
The Seven Secret Traits of the Successful Man ......................................................................... 1 A legal notice ...................................................................................................................... 3 A friendly notice .................................................................................................................. 3 Thank you ........................................................................................................................... 4 Foreword............................................................................................................................. 5 Introduction ......................................................................................................................... 6 Intro to the 7 traits - Jacques Casanova .............................................................................. 9 7 of the most important traits/attitudes you want to assume and develop to your best: ..........11 Trait 1 - Be positive and cheerful no matter what ...............................................................11 Before we go on - an important note ..................................................................................12 Trait 2 - Have a strong reality .............................................................................................13 Trait 3 - Be proud to be a man ...........................................................................................14 Trait 4 - Be honest - truth is your talisman ..........................................................................15 Trait 5 - Be humorous and take nothing too seriously ........................................................17 Trait 6 - Be sociable and pleasant to be around .................................................................17 Trait 7 - Have your standards .............................................................................................18 Final Points ........................................................................................................................19 Afterword ...........................................................................................................................20 For References, check out this page at getagirl .................................................................21
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A legal notice
Although very valuable, this report was designed to be free - you may not modify or sell it in any way. Feel free to distribute and share it as is with anyone that might benefit from it.
A friendly notice
Warning! This report will not reveal god-forgotten secrets and show you magic formulas for
overnight success (with women) - there is no such thing in the whole world (if you find, pray tell me...) You might have read, heard or practiced any of 1 to a 100 percent of the material contained in this report, but keep in mind: 1. There is nothing new under the sun 2. Repetition is the mother of all knowledge, understanding, skill 3. Practice makes perfect Yet, each of us is unique and has a unique way of putting same old things - the beauty of this is that after you get the same message from different sources, suddenly something clicks within you and the real meaning of what you might have already heard, read, or seen a hundred times, becomes absolutely clear. There is a very true saying that I cannot remember in its exact form, but its bottom line is this. If you anticipate shit, even the gold you get looks shitty. So keep an open mind and positive anticipation. You ARE going to read information that can make a wonderful turning point in your life - with your help and readiness, it surely will. Ive tried my best to put it - you try your best to get the most out of it. And always remember: Practice that is not backed up by a proper theory (observations, organized steps, strategy), cannot consistently yield desired results, as it relies heavily on trial and error, and chance. Similarly, theory that is not followed with practice is nothing but a bunch of thoughts that have but very little effect in your reality - no matter how good the theory. So, resolve to practice what you choose to learn! Keep an eye on my articles and emails - you will learn things that you will be very grateful for. Remember that if you are hearing what you want to hear most of the time, it is not it. On the other hand, if you are uncomfortable most of the time and at times it feels like you are being pushed a bit too hard, thats exactly where you want to be. When it comes to getting successful with women, comfort is your worst enemy.
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If after several weeks, you feel you are not getting anything valuable from me, do yourself a favor and search for other sources - I do it all the time. Whatever serves you, stick to it whatever wastes your time and benefits you not, throw away.
Thank you
First of all (well, after the legal and my most friendly notices), allow me to thank you and give you a friendly slap on the shoulder for the step you have taken, and now, give you a cheering message: Congratulations! Getting this small ebook has categorized you as a man of action and someone who is in search; and those who seek always find - eventually - whether it is what they sought after or a clue to the next step in the quest.
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Foreword
What you can expect to get from this report:
1. A notion of what needs to be done to become successful with women 2. The first steps of becoming the authentic and free you that most women are naturally attracted to 3. Valuable information on attitudes and ways of thinking you need to develop in order to be consistently successful with women (everyone that chooses to, can) 4. Great tips and insights that will boost your confidence and make you feel more in control 5. Some questions that are critical to be aware of and ask yourself every now and then without answering them consistently, you will hardly get lasting success in any area, including women 6. Great pointers on what you might need to learn or do in order to become a better and a more successful version of yourself - with women and in life in general If you get none of the above, either you just need to go out and practice what you already know, learn English or re-read this report a few more times. If you feel you know too much and do too little, having wasted several bitter years in the phase of inaction myself, I think a pickup boot camp is the most effective thing you can do: (Read the report to the end first) http://www.getagirl.info/pickup-bootcamp
What you should not expect and WILL NOT get from this report:
1. Questionable techniques on what to say or do to blow her away instantly 2. ready-made combination of words and sentences you should use to improve your chances to get a girl 3. Tricks and tips on how to cheat her into believing that you are what you are not in order to get laid
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Introduction
A the age of 17 I started to notice that I was rather inhibited with girls and did not know how to handle them - before that I didnt even dare to confess, even to myself, that I was attracted to girls. For reasons I will not mention here, I was pathologically ashamed of being a young man that is most naturally attracted to women. Now, is not that stupid? Even, pitifully stupid - I would say... Every time the topic of a conversation happened to be girls I felt so helplessly uneasy, I wanted to run away and hide myself. I felt miserable, but it did not seem to me so totally wrong back then. Let alone the how, it took me several years only to realize that I needed to change! It was not until in my twenties that I became aware of how bad my condition really was and understood that change was mandatory! As years passed on, having become aware of my problematic self, I was making conscious efforts to change. Even though I managed to date a girl every few months, I consistently messed everything up. I was a mess-up champion - especially when the girl was too good looking for me (thats what my low self-image kept telling me). In addition, I was very apprehensive and indecisive. I always had negative and fearful thoughts about what was to come and never knew what I was supposed to do next (or just did not have the balls to do whatever I thought right to...). In the end, I would scare the shit out of myself, and my insecurity, combined with a losers self image and all the fears I willingly cherished, led me into so fearful a state that my brain would become totally paralyzed. Suddenly being single would seem so attractive that fucking up whatever little had been built up with that particular girl, felt like the optimal and most natural thing to happen. The break up was imminent. I longed and dreaded it at the same time, and like most undesired prophecies that we fear the most, it never failed to realize itself in the most weird and mysterious ways. (Aha, the dreaded and notorious self-fulfilling prophecies) As I told myself and others, I had no idea why, but deep inside, I knew it all too well! I had anticipated the break up - I knew it would happen - even before we came together. What I feared has come upon me; what I dreaded has happened to me - Job By then, I knew that I had a fucked up personality that screamed for help and strongly resolved to get it fixed by all means. (Why I had that personality? Well, thats a long story - maybe I will tell you at another opportunity.) Its curious to note that I was pretty OK with girls that I didnt really like (actually, some of them where the ones to ask me out). But again, I didnt really want them, so I never was content with those rather short-term and undesired relationships. As you would guess, owing to my total
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indifference to the outcome, those miserable relationships ended prematurely - mostly in two or three weeks (or less), and I would remain the same old me I knew so well... I was totally helpless, and the worst part of it was that I was beginning to get used to it. Fortunately! Fortunately, I found out about the self-help industry and delved into books and programs I bought and borrowed. My hopes were revived and I was lost in the bliss of enlightenment - a feeling of growth and fresh anticipations. I spent in that absurd state four more years, alternating between theoretical bliss, waking dreams and frustrating lack of results; taking action was an unrealistic myth to me. Going out and just doing it remained an unrealized slogan and the prerogative of the future - I preferred living in a future I was not hurrying to bring into my present life. Keeping it there, safe, somewhere in the horizon, seemed soothing enough and deceivingly pleasurable to the damaged perception of my sense of being. Fortunately once again, thanks to some people I will mention at some point in our communication, excellent seminars I took and books I read, new skills and traits had begun to sprout - I was beginning to form a new, more solid personality that promised a brighter future. In the last 2-3 years, owing to the kicks and inspiration I received, I managed to take myself out and get results that I could not imagine possible for me. To make that drastic change took me over 10 years (10 years!) of blunders and over-indulgence in too much theory, most of which, in retrospect, I would gladly exchange for real infield experience that I was too lazy to get, as well as for some relatively short but super massively effective live and recorded seminars. I will mention them at a certain stage of our interaction. In a word, to make a long story short, I learned too much without practicing and much of what I learned was a total bullshit a waste of time and money that helped me but very little in building the right personality and becoming successful with girls. So - my goal is to share with you whatever helped me most on my challenging way and spare your valuable time. I will do my best to make sure you dont waste in bitterness and resentment, priceless years that can be spent in utmost pleasure and enjoyment, for you, your girl and the people around you. To sum that up, after 11 painful years, 5 of which I spent in total ignorance and beliefs that never failed to frustrate me, 4 years of pure theory and only the last 2-3 years in considerable action, I can claim the following with unshakable, absolute confidence: Success with women is a matter of who you are. Who you are is determined by who you believe you are and who you eventually become. It is very little about how you look, what you have or 7 http://www.getagirl.info/
what you say in fact, most dating gurus claim that the above qualities have NOTHING to do with success with women at all, and to tell the truth, facts and history are on their side. The only way to be successful with women is to become the man that deserves to be successful with women. Q: How? A: By assuming the traits and attitudes of a successful man. Let me repeat once again what I already said in my friendly notice: 1. There is nothing new under the sun 2. Repetition is the mother of all knowledge, understanding, skill 3. Practice makes perfect Fake it till you make it - it works! Being a fake for years, I have finally become it, and even though I had heard countless times of people that had done it before me, nothing can be compared to first-hand experience, and I finally HAVE it! I urge you to go get YOUR first-hand experience! All you need for that is determination, burning desire and proper information. I can supply you with the last - the first two can come only from YOU. If you learn the best material and practice at the same time, strengthening empowering beliefs, acquiring winning attitudes, developing new skills and keeping going no matter what, you will eventually become the man you need to become in order to attract women and success in every way. I will send you more details on how to get started in the following emails. Now I want to get to the point of this report and give you what I promised - the 7 traits of the successful man - the traits you are going to strengthen and/or develop.
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With that said, here is a partial bottom line of the science of womanology which might be hard to understand, depending on your individual life experience, beliefs and self-development: Success with women is not really a field or area that needs to be handled - it is part of the whole, called life, and means that there are skills, abilities and traits to be developed and/or acquired. And it is an absolute must to develop them! Giving up on this is like giving up on eating the food YOUR body needs to thrive or doing what your parents think is best for you instead of doing what you know you were meant to do. This is not like math or literature that you can decide you dont want to be involved with being with a woman you are happy to be with, is a question of creating a happy generation which begins with you living your dreams. Guys that dont get along well with women usually dont feel right in other aspects of (social) life as well and are intimidated by things that push them out of the comfort zone. Once those root causes are handled, the area of women will get into its place like a charm, possibly, along with some other challenging parts of your life. Once you assume the right attitudes and belief systems which are pretty simple to grasp but not necessarily easy to internalize, women no longer are an issue. It then becomes a question of mastery and expertise that you either choose to develop further or settle down for life full of meaning and accomplishments with your chosen one. Stop and think with me for a moment... What the above means, is basically the following: you will have to take for granted the things that are known to be true from the experience of others, fake them until you make them and take the pain to exercise them(, to death if necessary - ) until they become your second nature only then will you succeed. There has not yet been a human being that knew the way to his goal and did not achieve it, provided he really wanted it and never gave up! The way to your goal is known - all you have to do is be a good pupil and do the homework you are offered. An important note: there will be contexts in life when the beneath do not apply verbatim remember that the human language cannot formulate anything that is a 100% correct and pertinent at all times, in all situations, cultures, states of mind etc. Take the traits/attitudes as guidelines that will be an underlying message through all your actions. These are not rules written in blood that need to be followed word by word no matter what :) You will feel them exactly as they should be when they become a part of you, and with time, the proper attitude and actions they will. Dont worry much if you dont get it 100% right now - I did not either. Feelings and attitudes are always hard to convey, but once you feel them first-hand they are rock solid - and thats exactly the goal weve come together to achieve!
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7 of the most important traits/attitudes you want to assume and develop to your best:
1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Be positive and cheerful no matter what Have a strong reality Be proud to be a man Be honest - truth is your talisman Be humorous and take nothing too seriously Be sociable and pleasant to be around Have your standards
Once you understand that at any given point in life, you are doing your best according to your current knowledge and understanding, you stop being hard on yourself. You become compassionate to yourself and cheer yourself up with your invincible positive attitude to life. You know you are doing your best, and you know that for your best to be better, you need to improve your skills and understanding of what you are doing and how things work. Q: And how do you improve? A: Practice. Repetition. Eventually, you get to a point where it does not matter what they say, what she meant, what you are supposed to say, do, not do etc. You trust yourself, and as you really do, your mind provides you with the correct words and the best actions you can take in every situation. This means you are developing a reality of yours - a reality whose walls are strong enough to resist the poison of any snake and not let it paralyze you.
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Anyway, I will be consulting people that its their profession to answer those questions and I will send you emails that will give you instructions on how to approach those questions, step by step. For now, take a few moments and go though them once again and try to give answers whatever pops out of your head. OK, now that you have a notion of how challenging the above questions can be, lets move on. Once you are aware of those questions and you take constant action for improving your understanding of the answers, you gradually begin to form a stronger sense of who you are. Consequently, as your reality begins to take a clearer shape, you inevitably take control. You realize that you are the one in charge, and as you feed yourself with the correct mental food, your sense of self and reality get stronger and stronger. With time and perseverance, you become absolutely unstoppable. With a strong sense of reality, you can remain calm and in control even when a girl (or life) is trying hard to piss you off in order to test you - see how real you are and what you are made of. You can stay relaxed when people around you are tense or in panic. You can lead people and people will want to be around you. (Hint: women are people too :) Lead the men and the women will follow Of course, I dont mean to say you will have to wait until you become that super you in order to get a girl - not really :) That might be too long to wait - no limit to how perfect one can become at creating his sense of the winning reality, and winning certainly is the natural course of life. As you grow older you should grow better with this stuff. However, for that to happen, you first need to get on the right track. Once you do, you stop simply going through life and start growing through life. Thats when the living = winning begins to hold true for you. So, calm down - getting a girl could be a matter of months, weeks or even days, depending mainly on how practical and diligent a pupil you are and of course your background, before we got to know each other. Strong reality implies several other traits and attitudes which I will discuss on my site - selfleadership and self-confidence are the key points here.
whatever high goals have been imposed upon the human race, whether from an evolutionary, spiritual or any other points of view. Even though women are constantly complaining about men and vice versa, the reasons for mutual resentment are also the reasons for mutual affection and admiration on a deeper level. Men love women for what they are and the reverse is true as well - Mother Nature has taken the pain to design us in a way that the greatest of our problems are often the source of our most profound pleasures and delights in life. You love women and be proud of that - you have been blessed to be a man. To nail this trait most perfectly, get a deeper understanding of how to walk The Way Of The Superior Man.
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qualities are always sub-communicated in your behavior so that there is mostly no need to talk about them. The Self is always coming through. - Owen Cook aka Tyler from RSD Remember: your true personality always shows itself - it happens on a subconscious level and is mostly connected with your facial expressions, body language, voice tonality and other subtle things which (most) women are extraordinarily good at picking up - they can seldom be duped by words, especially when the whole being of the guy is broadcasting something very different from the content of his words. Those subtle communications are something that you need to unlock in yourself and develop further - you have them within you - you had them as a kid. Most of us lost connection with those skills with age and sophistication that we acquired while going through life, caring too much of what others might think about us, what are the right things expected of us to say and do, how to behave in order not to come off as abnormal and other bullshit of the kind. I will make my best to lead you out of that unwanted social sophistication and reconnect with "real you. Be playful - meaning sometimes you will make up things which are not necessarily true, but one can tell by your delivery that you are just being playful, which of course, is totally different from telling lies with the goal of impressing or taking an advantage of her. Truth & integrity are qualities which are valued in every aspect of life - women are not an exception.
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dynamics, enjoy a good laugh, an interesting conversation and in case she is single, find herself a worthy, cool, funny (not in a clownish sense of the word, but a guy with high status humor) and confident young man. When you are sociable and pleasant to be around, you automatically get bonus points with women, since feeling at home in social settings communicates a lot about you at the subconscious level: outgoing has social acceptance outside ones head" - not paralyzed with detrimental self talk confident good natured easy going & fun someone she can show off to her friends and be proud of
Together with a good sense of humor, self-confidence and all the other traits I mention in this report, it makes you a real bargain for most women.
Of course this list might need an update every now and then. As you find out new things about your taste and maybe change your opinion on desired traits, you might decide to prioritize them differently, according to your new discoveries. This attitude will lend you peace of mind and focus; give you the power to dismiss girls that obviously do not fit your standards ('cause there are so many!) and go for those that might. You qualify the candidates, see if they really are for you and choose the one that fits you best to share your life with. For how long? Well, thats totally up to you both: a night, a fortnight, a year, a lifetime... Do me a favor - leave me out of those issues ;)
Final Points
There are some final points I want to make totally clear: I am neither a dating guru nor a "pickup artist" - I am a simple (and unique) guy just like you. You dont need to be a guru a "pickup artist" to be successful with women. I remember that when I started, I found it very hard to really believe with all my being, that what those dating gurus were saying or doing was possible for "simple guy" like me. It was not easy - it was uncomfortable and painful at times. Becoming successful with women is a process one undergoes, and while the principles remain the same, this process is very personal. There are no magic pills. Either you grew in the right environment and developed the right personality that made you naturally successful with women, or you didnt. If you did, fine. If not, you need to reinvent yourself. You need to learn you need to take action!
sun!) This most likely will be a very lengthy and painful process full of confusion and frustration. Give this one a try if you have to - not the best option for most of us I would say. 3. You learn from other guys, video, audio, books etc and practice either alone or preferably, with a partner. You try out what you learn while constantly bettering yourself with reinforcing material and making sure you don't get too mild with yourself. Might be a bit hard when times get tough, especially if there is no one to kick you in the butt and keep you going. This can be an excellent option when combined with the last one: 4. You take a live course/seminar (a pickup boot camp) that gives you the information you need and takes you through the practical process of getting results in the field. If you can afford it, go for it by all means! This might be the best and fastest solution for you. After you do this, you take yourself through options 3 and 4 until you reach the desired level of expertise and get the girl you want. For many guys I know and have heard of (including one of my best friends), a boot camp of this kind has created a whole new world. Check out this page after you are done reading this report. Note that when I recommend something, I am speaking from my experience and expressing my opinion, aiming as I see it, at fastest and best possible results for you. If you want to experiment for yourself and make your own conclusions, you are of course welcome to do so.
Afterword
Here are some of my values and principles I want to share with you: I aspire to perfection and never give up. I am always learning and becoming a better version of myself. I care about people - I care about you. I try to share only the best things that either I or someone I totally trust have tried, am in the process of doing or plan to do ASAP. When doing something I really want and care about, I always do my best I hope to save you tons of frustration that I have gone through and assist you in achieving a point in life where you feel amazing about yourself and women are no longer a problem, but a wonderful gift - a gift life offers for unlocking higher purposes of our existence and getting the inspiration necessary for achieving great achievements in our life, even if they currently seem irrelevant or impossible to you. Read my emails, and see if what I write or recommend you do, make sense and most importantly, do you good. Feel free to contact me at yositsitsu@getagirl.com if you have any questions or want to share your insights with me. 20 http://www.getagirl.info/
My commitment to you is to give you the best answers, to the best of my knowing and understanding and do everything in my power - provided you do everything in yours - to make sure you get a girl (hopefully, the one you choose for yourself). To your success, We are one,
Yosi Tsitsu
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