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ays: When a person intends to send a proposal for marriage, he , praise Allah and recite the following invocation

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hir Rah'maanir Rah'eem. n atazawwaja faqaddirli minannisaa-e- a-'affahunna farjawn ha wa maali wa aw sa-a'-hunna li rizqan wa a'-z'amahunna li aali anna atroko faqaddirli minha waladan t'ayyaban taj-a'lahu ati wa ba'da mauti.

f Allah the Beneficent, the Merciful. Therefore destine for me the most chaste of women and one uard herself and my property. Who shall be most auspicious and bounties. Then from her womb bestow a pure son who scence in my life and after my death.

hose intending to marry in the near future or the newly rt Handbook we have tried to put things in a nutshell. It is led reading of other books on Marriage, references of which book.

w the rules? lim to follow the Islamic laws not only in matters of prayers is actions. Islam has well defined rules about marriage and ollow Islam fully, then you must know the Islamic rules and ried life. Islam has never repressed the natural feelings of rules, which are divine.

ou to be faithful to your religion but would also shield you erature that portrays this natural instinct as one that must be sexual morality permits many things that are prohibited in rohibition of certain actions is not to act as an infringement but because Islam is concerned not only with your physical iritual enhancement. Moreover, we can see the degradation exual freedom prevails.

ook. ew life takes place through marriage. If Islamic rules are hild born will be chaste. Insha Allah, our progeny can then be Prophet (s.a.w.) and his holy Ahlul-Bayt (a.s.) followers.

MARRIAGE IN ISLAM: marry those among you who are single and those who are fit

nd your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing. (Surah Nur

h the words Wa Ankehoo (And marry ...) The imperative mplies that either it is obligatory or highly recommended. ugh marriage is a highly recommended act, it becomes chance of falling into sin.

se has been built in Islam more beloved in the sight of Allah

ophet (s.a.w.) said: "The best people of my nation (Ummat) and have chosen their wives, and the worst people of my kept away from marriage and are passing their lives as

Marry, because marriage is the tradition of the Prophet." The "Whosoever likes to follow my tradition, then he should m my tradition."

arriage. stricted to a platonic relationship between husband and wife, ion. The Islamic term for marriage, "Nikah" literally means has Islam provided extensive rules and regulation regarding m has fully understood that sexual instincts cannot and must only be regulated for the well being of human beings in this the hereafter.

n openly recommended in Qur'an, "When they [i.e., the selves [after menstruation], you go into them as Allah has rah 2:222)

rge. and the Holy Imams (a.s.) also encouraged their followers to xual urges in lawful ways as can be seen. The Holy Prophet g men! I recommend marriage to you."

ree things are from the traditions of the messengers of God: he [excessive] hair and visiting one's wife."

sm is Forbidden. monasticism and celibacy. Uthman bin Maz'un was a close One day his wife came to the Prophet and complained, "O n fasts during the day and stands for prayers during the

If it is delayed or answered in mode. e relations with my wife. The Prophet (s. and in surges and .a." MARRY? marrying is when the individual reaches sexual as well as aturity may mean the capability of establishing a cordial o fulfill rights of family members. remarked. The Prophet (s. The Prophet was angered. it and makes the person perfect." A woman came to the Prophet ad tried everything to attract her husband but in vain.) told her to he reward of sexual intercourse. I fast. When Uthman rned towards the Prophet. which Allah through human beings and is awakened at its particular time and and.a. because Allah (improves it) (under the shadow of marriage) and expands ses their generosity (human values). amily is a natural and instinctive need. he said. ed that marriage is beneficial for us in many ways. value of prayers. therefore he should f." How true! A person who fulfills his sexual urges lawfully in spiritual pursuits. he is cleansed from sins. he does pay any attention to her. If it is answered on time and its requirement fulfilled." Married Life. nd marriage is one of my traditions. e as a way to acquire spiritual perfection. When he s sins fall like the leaves of the tree [in fall season]. So whosoever likes my tradition. "Give spouses to your single ones. it deviates from its natural course. physically and mentally." enance.meant to say that her husband was avoiding sexual relations the day. married people remain healthier.) s already guarded half of his religion. which he described as roaches his wife. "Two rak 'ats (cycles) prayed by a married person are better fast of a single person.w. When he n. He did not even wait to nt to Uthman's house and found him praying. "O Uthman! Allah did not ather He sent me with a simple and straight [Shariah]. he is guarded by two angels and [at that he is like a warrior fighting for the cause of Allah.w.

there is a concept of Rushd which can be a sensible conduct' or maturity. e for taking a woman's hand in marriage. d to puberty. Such things can have serious ter marriage. the divorce and s. be referred for exact details on physical and mental maturity. but also corrupts the man. But this is not enough of marriage. We should never resort to deceive the opposite party the selection process. as He is the Giver go for an early marriage." tended spouses to see each other for the purpose of selection d giving opinions if asked (without it being considered as ditions). Even those who feel they would not be f family are urged to repose faith in Allah. so that they may then be able to live happily together is an y element of truth and validity in this. would not have shown a steady rise. when a boy attains the age of fifteen. an early marriage.es corrupt itself. "The person who . and has attained puberty. The most important criterion or of Youth and Spouse Selection says. We have d of selecting a suitable spouse. Islam has several ng to Islamic laws. OUSE: w much importance Islam has accorded to marriage and haps ask.) has not left us to follow our whims and fancies. . A husband has to be Rashid at the responsibilities of married life are sensibly discharged. "How do we select a spouse? What are the m in this regard? Do we look for some particular o get the best from the worldly point of view?" ecessary? : "The notion that a man and a woman must 'know' each other y.s. or e is Baligh. which practice it. hich take place without such pre-marital contacts would not ppily. y Marriage.

" Holy Prophet (s.a.w." .a. "Some of the faithful are match for others. the Messenger of Allah (s.w. y Prophet (s. will find in her (unpleasing manners) and Allah will gather up all these things r the sake of her faith (religiousness)." n intelligent and wise woman must not be matched except " ssenger of Allah (s.) has given great emphasis on taking amily background when we intend to marry." The same will apply where the ature.w.s. since her company is a dren too get wasted.w.). The marrying partners must be Kufw of e no unnecessary misgivings later. She can never be patient in the rried life." hes?" nded. Allah leaves and one who marries her (only) for her beauty." ness for beauty and wealth.) wrote in reply to a person who had asked him if it was ghter to a person known for his ill nature. Imam Ali (a.a. since the semen and the genes have also said. but on compatibility.w.a. ing upon you to have a religious spouse.a. of a decent family." er of the Faithful. husband miserable. phet of Islam (s. "Look very carefully and minutely as to where you use genes and hereditary qualities are transferred in a al way and have their effect." a (a. It is better for a religious to laws and principles to marry a man like herself. Such a woman. though she may be beautiful and rich.) strongly forbade marrying a "Avoid marrying a stupid woman.s not have anything.) gave no recognition to class distinction.s. "If he is ill-natured y your daughter to him.) ho marries a woman for the sake of her wealth. "Whom must we marry?" matches).) to seek guidance for selecting a spouse.

all married women. h or Christian woman in mut'a only. maternal uncle." Maulana has summarized these laws in a beautiful way: elationship ations. sister-in-law ur'an. maternal aunt. stepson. orbid marriage between first cousins. it lly disregard the physical appearance and beauty of the says. daughter-in-law. "When one intends to marry a woman. son-in-law. foster-mother. he should ask ks about her face (beauty). then it is arry a non-Muslim man. foster-mother's ther-in-law. But he cannot marry a an marry: a Shi'ah Muslim man or a non-Shi'ah Muslim man. nephew.alth: Though religiousness and piety are most important. verse 23-24) aternal uncle. anyone who is your Mahram is forbidden to of such relatives is given in the Qur'an as follows: . but there are opinions ainly due to a probable risk of the offspring inheriting genetic EREMONY: . then it is Haraam. which are considered Haraam for you as far as a general rule. do so. and if there is danger of being misled. niece. 4. since the hair is one of the two "Islamic law has placed certain restrictions on the choice of on blood relationships and religious affiliations. fosterdaughter. Religion marry: a Shi'ah Muslim woman and a non-Shi'ah Muslim is danger of being misled. ch. paternal aunt.

The Quran r Mahr as a free gift. which show disrespect to Islam or weaken the importance of he rituals in marriage ceremonies are absolutely Haraam like also Haraam for ladies to go for mixed gatherings without nvite divine wrath and take away the blessings of this Islamic Law. also do not feature among the Islamic rituals. er price. The t are as follows: process of proposal by a man to a woman for her hand in . s. One must nst the Shariah. orthy of consideration: on by the marrying partners themselves. ng husband is asked to offer a Mahr to the bride. marriage is an Aqd. to her family. Islam considers this natural. is encouraged. nd or non-material (like training or teaching something). Other of coconut etc. it is recommended to be borne by the bridegroom. Muwajjal and Indat-talab (on uch recommended to pay it before or at the time of Nikah . a contract. ch her husband remains indebted. then eat it with enjoyment and with wholesome result. even and woman become permissible for each other only after the ystem of demanding and accepting dowry must be avoided at make any expense incumbent on the bride/bride's parents. even if some people are displeased. ct of respectability and dignity for women. Moajjal (immediate). These customs are either borrowed from none because they are established in past generations. not by parents. It be in form of promise to pay upon demands decided prior to age. ng whatever she wants of her free will. and it will always ms: Many other unislamic customs have crept into the e Muslims.Does not qualify the future spouses to go out together. but if they of themselves be pleased to it.

ze these days into three: (a) There are some ahadith which ecommended) to have a marriage ceremony on the days when ation of Scorpio (this is known as al-qamar fil aqrab or qamar wo or three days of the lunar months. ("I have accepted the s. which have become associated with mic history. on the rief discourse or Khutba before the Nikah formula is Allah is praised for His Wisdom in regulating the lawful then the traditions from the Prophet (s. and on Wednesdays.w. etc. 'Qabiltun Nikaha'. on the degroom) says.") would respond. emony: Though basically marriage is allowed at all times.) are also recited. ("I have given away myself in Nikah to you. of the Islamic calendar. especially in India and Pakistan. on an agreed Mahr. one or two persons d authorized to officiate. ich marriage is not recommended. some of these are based on al. historical reasons. A person who initiate by saying. e not able to recite the formula in Arabic. for example.a.According to Shariah. 'An Kah'tu om'. One who represents the bride would ent to officiate on her behalf. it is socially ously not recommended to have a marriage ceremony on such elver Shias). rarely perform n the 1st of Muharram and the 8th of Rabi al-Awwal as this ng days of Muharram culminating in the martyrdom of Imam . the 10th of Muharram is the day of at Karbala or the day of the Prophet's death in Safar. the wife-to-be says. emorated by the Muslims as days of mourning. there would be a slight variation in the he persons reciting them are appointees. "Qabiltunnikaaha limuwakkili a'lal mah'ril ikah on behalf of the one who has appointed me. and so would the other who acts turally. "Ankah'tu muwakkilati muwakkilaka a'lal away in Nikah the woman who has thus appointed and who has authorized you. they become husband and wife.

the father's or the grandfather's permission is also necessary.al-Awwal is celebrated as Eid-e-Zahra. Then he should perform wuzu and pray two-rak'at te the following du'a: wa wuddaha wa riz"aaha bi. GHT: hat the wedding should take place at night. The hadith says. However. love and her acceptance of me. directly. and make me us together in the best form of a union and in absolute awful things and dislike unlawful things. home during the night. to bed. Fa in qaz"ayta li mubaarakan taqiyyan min Shi'ati Aal-i Muh'ammad (s'al-lalsallam) wa laa taj-'al lish Shayt'aani fihi shirkan wa laa as Your trust and have made her lawful for myself by Your ave decreed for me a child from her. lavish spending is not the same money can be used effectively by the couple. then make him/her ong the followers of the Family of Muhammad [peace be ." When the bride enters the room. r affection. the take off her shoes and wash her feet (in a washbowl) and then he room. Nikah. ma is highly recommended on the groom. be invited for Valima. can be performed at any time. The relatives. the groom should put his hand on the bride's forehead a while facing the Qiblah. is unreasonably withheld under some conditions or the girl dfather it is not necessary. a woman who is not a y permission in case of remarriage. warz"ini biha. wa-ajma' baynana asi i-tilafin. akhadhtuha wa bi kalimaatika is-tah'laltuha. However. fa innaka tuh'ibbul h'alaala wa tukrihul h'araam. e-to-be/Father: The girl's consent is necessary and has to be . de to do wuzu and pray two-rak'at sunnat prayer.

it is neither obligatory nor forbidden ht. hurricane. b. However. .o not let Satan have any part in him/her. Then when they have cleansed themselves. other exception of the vagina and anus) is allowed. and when a person is in e to Mecca. ng the periods is limited strictly to sexual intercourse. It is a private decision between the newly wed couple. not allowed during the post-natal bleeding called nifas g daytime in the month of Ramadan. washes her private parts. y lunar month. then he aw from her." (Surah Baqarah 2:222) he duration of the monthly period is between three to ten or less than three days. lunar months. it ers. At all other times. e. if it is for more nstruation for the regular number of days and istehadha for ing which sex is permitted. ourse is Makruh: occurrences. earthquake.. eclipse. If a person who is rse with his wife discovers that her period has begun. it is body between the navel and the knees. ual intercourse on the very first night after the wedding or can Shariah is concerned. The Qur'an says: They ask ay: "Menstruation is a discomfort (for women). Do not with them during the menses and do not approach them tops.g. entioned above (until the blood stops) that once the blood has mes lawful even if the woman has not performed the major t mujtahids say that it is better to refrain from intercourse till at least. it is not menstruation. you go into ded you. FOR SEX: ? intercourse during menstruation. sexual intercourse is allowed.

w that the husband and the wife should feel completely free . The only limitation to any Shariah rule. UES: es and laws either in foreplay or in intercourse.) said. "When you intend to have sex with your he woman (also) has needs (which should be fulfilled). This obligation stays in force unless he wife waives her right. instead he should be slow in sexual foreplay. The Prophet (s. which say that it is better to have sexual intercourse at these nts to have sex. The only laws hed by the lovers by mutual and often unspoken s pleasing and satisfying to both the husband and the wife is ever is mutually displeasing is wrong.) says. Imam Muhammad al-Baqir (a. this is njugal rights of the wife. Imam Ali says. the Imams have praised a wife who is with her husband.s. which goes against the wishes of the ommended: lay.a.w." Sex equated to cruelty." without foreplay to animal behavior: "When anyone of you he should not go to her like birds. o have Sex? sex with his wife at least once in every four months.d Times for Sex. "Three people s sex with his wife before foreplay. ou is the one who discards the armor of shyness when she and puts on the armor of shyness when she dresses up and chastity in public is the hallmark of a Muslim lady.

" self-stimulation of one's own sexual organ till emission of owed. face to face. there are no restrictions. s mutual pleasure and flexibility. "No problem. The term otes the positions known as the man above. : utual stimulation in foreplay are concerned. face to face. touch. . There is o Islam. Imam Musa al-Kazim (a. side position. but he should not body on her. it is makruh to or to face the Qiblah or keep it on the backside during the to refrain from the acrobatic positions given by some the West. rear-entry position in which the ina from the rear. all the mujtahids are unanimous in saying that the act of mustahab (recommended). The restriction on the use on the following hadith. "There e uses any part of his own body upon her. The operative word is mutual pleasure and satisfaction. as it is known. there is no problem if band's penis till the emission of semen or the husband a till orgasm. smell and stimulate any part of each al sex. which is forbidden in Islam? No! ositions are concerned. in the case of married persons. Ubaydullah bin Zurarah says that he wned a young slave-girl. the Imam said. as she liked it. the Shariah wife to see. which is known as foreplay. However.mutual stimulation. kiss.) rson kiss his wife's vagina?" The Imam said. This is allowed because it does not come under mulation by a lawful partner. Likewise. the Merciful). for a woman to be active and responsive during sex. Because of his old age. If one partner does not like he other should yield to his or her feelings. tion for sexual intercourse. the Shariah has left it on the plore and experiment as they wish. which might even cause physical harm. She would therefore ask him vagina. The old man complied with her wishes e this idea. So he requested Ubaydullah to ask Imam Ali arUbaydullah asked the Imam about it. is allowed. Actually. It is highly mmencement of intercourse the partners should recite ah'eem (In the name of Allah the Beneficent. he could not e-girl during sexual intercourse.s. it is recommended not urse." no foreign object should be used.

nor is it wajib to have children in . Neither is there any ainst birth control. NCY: has taught the following dua: ma laa tadharni fardanw wa anta khairul waaretheen ayaqs'uroo a'n tafakkori bal habli a'afiyata s'idqin aanaso behim minal wah'shate wa askuno ilaihim minal da tamaame ne'matin yaa wahhaabo yaa a'zeemo yaa moee kulle a'afiyatin shukran h'atta tabloghani minha deethe adaaail amaanate wa waqaaain bil 'ahde ot keep me solitary though You are the best of Inheritors." artners may first wipe their genitals with clean pieces of cloth.s. O the Greatest. "I would strongly advise against anal e saying of Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq and Imam Ali ar-Reza (a. Ayatullah al-Khu'i departed from the e ruling that it was precautionarily wajib to abstain from anal her the wife agrees to it or not. by speaking the truth. family planning as a private measure to space or regulate r economic reasons is permissible. I oneliness. O after this bestows me with tawfeeq that I thank You for every e Your kindness by thankfulness. This worry has reduced my thankfulness to You. So that on nty I can thank You. then all mujtahids say that it is precautionarily wajib ecade of his life. same cloth/towel must not be used by both of them. O the greatest Giver. AND ABORTION: h. ad Rizvi says.) oman is a means of your pleasure. The ahids have derived two conclusions: (1) that anal intercourse disliked (karahatan shadidah) provided the wife agrees to it. by illing oaths. therefore do not harm her. ee to it.hids vary on the permissibility of anal intercourse. By which my loneliness is cured. So ness and give me female and male children so that by their ror of loneliness.

but instead of taking it orally it is injected This and other similar contraceptive methods by injection are D): bjects. or spermicidal substances. -after' and RU486 may be taken after the intercourse BUT not at pregnancy has already occurred. but it depends on observing the . and thus avoiding sex during the fertile days thod similar to the first. in a variety of shapes that are implanted inside the gnancy begins at implantation. However. follows: woman learns to recognize the fertile time by checking the on of the cervical mucus discharge. which kill the sperm before reaching device. ly like the pills. conception by inhibiting ovulation. there is no problem in using ce. Further each individual needs to check additional ly as per his Marja'a. There is absolutely no problem in using these le Period: dures to predict ovulation so that sexual intercourse can be mately six days of a woman's most fertile monthly phase. This is done by sheathing r by covering the cervix with a diaphragm.VE METHODS: e most commonly used contraceptive methods and determine le in Islam or not. the individual must t possible side effects. It must be mentioned that we are studying methods from the Shariah point of view only. The cervical mucus y fertile period. the sperm from entering the uterus. For the medical y or any side effects of these methods. cervical cap. the reader must n. Since all such pills inhibit ly no problem in using them.

besides keeping a calendar record of her cycle. This tube or duct passes sperm from the testes to the ctive organs. which may come in the way of her For example. and therefore. she may use ey do not come in the way of her husband's conjugal rights. rrupts): thdrawing the penis just before ejaculation. ove do not involve surgical operation and they are also an) using these methods can stop using them at anytime in n involves surgical operation: n as vasectomy. ethod. she cannot force him to use condom or practice is based upon the principle that the extent of the husband's fe is just that she should be sexually available. does not extend to that of bearing children for him. and the fetus.e year to determine the fertile days. a perature daily to detect ovulation. Abortion after the ed ovum in the womb is absolutely forbidden and is the law of God. It allows cy but forbids them to terminate it. means the severing or blocking of the tube in . he may spill ed on this hadith. nd Abdur Rahman bin Abi Abdillah Maymun asked Imam withdrawal. . She can know her ovulation emperature increases. the majority of our mujtahids believe that but Makruh without the wife's consent. "It is up to the man. Birth Control: he use of contraceptives even without the approval of her ould not use a method. responsive. Bearing l decision of the woman. This was the irth control before the invention of modern devices. The Imam said. own as tubal ligation. involves the blocking or severing of the sport the ovum. ization depends on whether or not it is reversible. ue of birth control and abortion is very balanced.

(2) spurting ed after the discharge. intentionally or otherwise. then owing three signs: (1) emission with passion...TION (GHUSL JANABAT): nabat" is a ritual impurity caused by the discharge of semen nd the person on whom ghusl janabat becomes wajib is r'an says: t go near prayers (salat) when you are. the names of d Fatimah (the daughter of the Prophet).Nor (are asjid) if you are junub until you have washed yourself except Nisa 4:43) Based on this verse and relevant ahadith. In Islamic laws. and verse 19 ot to recite even a single verse from these chapters. These verses .. ghusl both the man and the woman. es not make any difference whether the intercourse was th or without discharge of semen. in lawful way or n). FOR A JUNUB (The following 4 acts are Haraam before the Qur'an. then it is precautionary wajib for her to do ame with sexual passion and she felt relaxed after it. then purify (yourselves). But if ut the sexual passion or without the feeling of relaxation after najis and therefore ghusl is not wajib upon her. If these signs are found together on er the liquid as semen. "O you who believe!. the . verse 38 of chapter 41. In all these cases ghusl janabat becomes obligatory a man and he does not know whether or not it is semen. the names and attributes of Allah.. from a woman. verse 62 of chapter 53. junub until you have Nisa 4:43) O you who believe! When you stand up for re junub. The Qur'an says. sexual e penetration of the glens into the vagina or anus of the anabat to become wajib it is not necessary that full semen should take place. otherwise not. e mosque. e Qur'an in which sajdah (prostration) is wajib. In case of sexual intercourse. (Surah Maidah 5:6) USL JANABAT (There are two causes of janabat): oes not make any difference whether this discharge is while light or profuse.

taking it out from a mosque.. water reaches the hair-roots.that a junub is totally forbidden from staying in the mosque. ambulation of the Ka'bah in hajj). performed in three stages. while washing the left . However. which can be e of janabat. semen or blood) from the body and after niyyat. in three stages: First. ALIDITY DEPEND ON GHUSL JANABAT: latul-mayyit (the prayer for a dead Muslim). A ough them. This applies to other than the four mentioned above. the left side of the body.g. wingly remains junub until dawn in Ramadan. his fasting will RMING GHUSL: volves washing of the whole body. one can pass through the mosques (by entering from one other). wuzu. this exception of passing through does not es: the Masjidul-Haraam (the Sacred Mosque at Mecca) ue of the Prophet at Medina).g. While washing the right side of left side must be washed too. jasat (e. head down to the neck. and the other is known as ghusl ordinal bath. d thoroughly in such a way that the water reaches the skin. he Qur'an. and shrines of the Imams.. the hair should be combed (e. and also. There are two methods of nown as ghusl tartibi. and lastly. en while washing the head. then the right houlder down to the foot. DISLIKED) FOR THE JUNUB: makruh for a junub except after doing wuzu or gargling or n verses from the Qur'an. s.

not gradually. It a ghusl can only be done in a body of water. He (s. nefit of istibra: If a liquid comes out of one's penis after he doubts whether it is semen or urine.w. wards her. bath involving immersion of the whole body in the water. i. he has fulfilled his wife's ng the rights of a wife can be gauged from the hadith of the ) wherein he says.. referred to ghusl irtimasi. So and a chance to adjust herself in the new environment. AND BEHAVIOUR: as just left her loved ones.w. men or blood from the body and after niyyat. then I swear by Allah. e. ACTS OF GHUSL (These recommendable acts are five): o the elbows three times before the ghusl. in the present context.) that some egarding the rights of a wife over her husband.) answered.g.of the right side must be washed.s. after fulfilling her needs. Al Waafi in the chapter of "A Woman's right hat it is narrated from the Holy Prophet (s. then he can assume that the ave to repeat the ghusl.a. including hair and the skin under it. the whole body ersed in the water all at once. ni in his book. "The best among you is the one who . Istibra. then should he repeat done istibra before the ghusl.a.) concerning the rights of a He (a. tibra before ghusl janabat.e. whole body to ensure that every part has been thoroughly he fingers to ensure that the water reaches the hair-roots. "He should fulfill all her basic necessities by getting angry time and again. he just has to do wuzu for his salat. e had not done istibra before the ghusl.s.) look her minor faults and if she commits a major mistake " es that I asked Imam Sadiq (a. One has to make all parts of the body. a pool. then he has to assume men and he will have to do the ghusl again. She might be new to this place.

Hazrat Dawood (a. Your son is in great agony .).a.) that you should know that Allah has made her for you a worry).) erving this Holy Prophet (s.w." ording to Imam Sajjad (a.s. "He behaved very badly with his family members. n on gaining paradise. ent upon both of you to thank Allah for your partner and to grace of Allah upon you.) remarked.w. So she has the right of love and fellowship.e.a.) avior with the Family ery man should strive to make his wife and children is capacity for if he is strict and unkind to them and because ved they will desire his death. "O Ali.a.w. Anyone who helps his wife in her domestic affairs ar of worship equal to the amount of hair on his body.a.s." ing one's wife at home Allah (s. And it is obligatory to have good of Allah (i.a. wife).w. the mother of Saad cried. and to respect her and be kind to her." great companion of the Holy Prophet (s.) was sieving the pulses and Fatemah (s. Then he laid it in the grave and buried him with his zeal of the Prophet (s.wife in the best possible way and I am the best among you to ives." is Wife er his wife are numerous.s. and a friend and shield (against sins). The most important among them is . I do not led to me." On hearing this the Messenger of ot make haste in divine affairs." When the people inquired about the reason for this ed. house) so that natural desires may be fulfilled. he d in the funeral procession and shouldered his bier quite a e respect. al to the reward of all the patient ones. her are greater and her obedience to you is final in all your s it is not a sin.) expired.) paid a visit to the house of Imam Ali and t Imam Ali (a. This if he has fasted during its days and prayed during its nights. and this in here is no strength but by Allah.

" ing one's Husband a group of people paid a visit to the Messenger of Islam and we have seen such people who prostrate before each other. In exchange of one drop of water which she provides for lt in paradise for her and sins of sixty years are forgiven. She must not donate ithout his permission nor can she keep recommended fasts must NEVER deny him his physical rights nor deprive him of ut of the house without his permission." answered. which would have drastic d contract of marriage. The duty of a wife is to submit herself and. the angels of the rath and mercy. t of misunderstandings.a. nside the house without his permission in his absence. "First and foremost m and refrain from disobedience.a. once a lady inquired from the Holy Prophet (s. He (s.relationship with her. "A wife who gives her husband ward of one year of worship. Rather she should be his closest confidante. This right of the husband i.) said.w." Akhlaq narrates on the authority of Imam Muhammad Baqir en is to be patient while facing the difficulties of life with anguage said. She must not spend his wealth without his permission rets. "If at all I could permit prostration before anyone I would have ordered the wives to prostrate before their is also reported to have said. For.e.) and enjoys over his wife. of having a physical as and when he wants. a year whose nights were passed ng. none of her deeds either obligatory or pted from her until and unless her husband does not express . plans and ared for her and other family members and obey him under t not disobey him come what may nor must she do any such Rather she must try her best to attract his attention towards em can lead a life of harmony. is obviously a reciprocation of her husband the duties of the wife include the protection of his espect. curse her till she returns to her house.w. She must value his ideas. "Any woman who converses indignantly with her is sentiments.

It might also n adult life.ven if this woman fasts during the days. Islam has laid down clear guidelines about the ollowing rules about privacy within the family circles: . FAMILY MEMBERS: should also know that the time and attention of the newly ed and previous expectations may have to be changed to suit t families.s. She must not be unduly suspicious. He must help d assist in bringing up children. She must forgive her ust learn to cope with her husband's relatives. she will be first to ar will be the fate of the husband who usurps the rights of his Rights Marriage and Family Ethics.) as follows. She must help ess. He should e loving towards her. ties of Men: The man is the guardian of the family. He should be clean at home also. She must not She must observe Islamic Hijab. for that matter. prays during the tes the best of horses in the way of Allah. the NaMehram ladies must observe hijab if they house with their husbands. Professor Ibrahim Amini has he duties of husband and wives. s have emphasized that when you engage in sexual no child (or. any other person) sees you or es Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq (a. The Prophet used to dislike this a child sees and hears the parents engaged in sexual rough a shocking psychological experience. She must have a pleasant comfort for her husband and appreciate him. He should overlook her mistakes. He must respect her and be well ot complain unnecessarily. "Be careful not to hile a child can see you. She must be kind and should respect complain unnecessarily. s about her. often quoting incidents to ies of Women: According to the author the purpose of ves with her husband.

In retrospect. l. ld be taught that during times of privacy they are not allowed ir parents or adults without first asking their permission. H: permitted. Mutahhari h Seestani mah Majlisi Peermohammed Ebrahim Trust Shabeeb Rizvi ic Network . discouraged. e Velde n Islam . ay of life not only assures happiness and satisfaction of an s a whole benefits by implementing the laws of Shariah. AMIC TERMS: hibited. ary. legal. desirable. disliked. the Holy Qur'an is clear that they may enter the r other adults at all times only after asking their permission. lawful. of families and families come into being by matrimonial y that this basic unit of society is properly understood and atens its existence.Ibrahim Amini Akber Mazaheri Mujtaba Musavi Lari and in the Western World . B: recommended. FUQAHA): a jurist.Sayyid Muhammad Rizvi thics . en and adults. ren are free to come and go into the bedroom of their parents rmission.M. allowed. high-ranking mujtahid. early morning and afternoon. which are acy.a day: night. better. incumbent. ionary wajib. this means that the parents should be ther times.

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