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10 Tips on How to Be a Successful Husband Prophet Muhammad ( ) said, the best amongst you are the ones who

ho are best to their wives. So dear Muslim brother! Your obligations towards your wife are not limited to earning money and supporting her financially. A wife needs love from her husband, and emotional support too! 10 Tips on How to Be a Successful Husband 1) Dress Up Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasulullah ( )would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells. (Dress up for your wife when you are at home also. Some brothers only dress up when they go out and that is not a good practice. A husband should dress up for his wife when they are at home. it makes a wife feel special.) 2) Sweet Names Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasulullah ( ) had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings. (Remember, you are your wifes only boyfriend, and her only best friend. She does not go out seeking boyfriends and she shares a halal relationship with you. Love her unconditionally for the sake of Allah.And express your love to her. A woman likes to be told that she is loved. Call her from your work to make sure she is doing fine. These things are very important in a relationship.) 3) Reward Her Actions Dont treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it bugs us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day which brings no attention from the husband until she does something to bug him. Dont treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that. (Whenever there is a fight or argument, just remember all the things she does for you. she cooks for you, she takes care of your home, she takes care of your children and the most important thing is that she guards her modesty. So do not upset her if she is upset with you. Hold her and tell her that you love her. Only your love can repel her anger. Communicate with her and discuss with her if there are any misunderstandings.)

4) Remain Silent If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasulullah ( ) used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives ( .) Its a technique that few Muslim men have mastered. (Do not criticize her all the time. Trust her and trust her decisions. If she is doing something that you dont like, or that goes against the teachings of Islam, then do advice her gently.) 5) Smile! Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah.Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also thoseAhadith when Rasulullah ( ) would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting. (Do let your wife know that you are very happy and blessed to have her. A wife always wonder how her husband feels about her. She may have some insecurity about you, so make her feel secure. Always give her a hug whenever you come back from work. appreciate her and thank her for taking care of everything whole day. If you are not too tired, go out for star gazing for an hour or so.) 6) Acknowledge Her Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgment she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Dont let that be; thank her! (Write thank you notes for her and place those notes in her books, her purse, her socks, and anything else that belongs to her. You can use your own creativity to thank her. You can thank her by writing something on a mirror with her lipstick, so that she can read it when she wakes up in the morning. You can also thank her by arranging a candlelight dinner AT HOME, you be the cook and let her rest. So far I have learned that a nice romantic dinner at home is much better than going out for dinner. This way a couple saves themselves from many fitnahs. You can thank her by writing her letters and emails. Remember, in Islam, everyday is special. So celebrate wifes day with her, and do it very often without having a particular date.She will always wonder when the wifes day is going to be. Thank her by giving her a gift, and a gift does not have to be expensive. Be creative! You do not have to give her Roses, you can give her a leaf too! :) So remember, thoughtful and creative gifts makes a wife feel secure and happy.

If you visit her parents or your parents, hold her hands and tell your parents how happy you are after marriage. Give your wife an Islamic book as a gift after praying Tahajjud. Use your imagination and think about unique gifts. Remember, she does not need a diamond, she needs your sincerity and your heart, so always give her the gifts that are thoughtful. Whenever you do something to make her happy, observe her facial expressions and ask yourself about how you feel when you become her happiness.) 7) Ten Blessings From Allah Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You dont have to play a guessing gameask her and work on repeating those things in your life. (Also ask her to write down the things you did that she did not like, or the things you did that made her unhappy. Try to not do those things in future. If she falls ill, let her lay down, and read different surahs from Quran while placing your hand on her forehead. mashaAllah. Remember, a wife needs her husband the most when she is not feeling well. Take good care of her because a healthy wife makes a healthy family. Do not expect too much from her when she is sick.) 8) Validate her Feelings Dont belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasulullah ( ) set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah ( ) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel. (If there is a time of sadness, give her your shoulder to cry on. Hold her and tell her that everything will be fine.Muslim husbands who would even have tears in their eyes if their wives are sad. Remember, a woman does not like to cry alon in a corner. She needs someone to hold her when she is sad, so never let her feel lonely. Remind her the verses from Quran that talks about Patience and Piety.) 9) Have Fun! Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how Rasulullah () would race his wife Aisha ( ) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that? (A sense of humor plays a very important role in a marital relationship. Most women wish to have a husband who has a good sense of humor. Tell her decent and modest jokes that make her happy. A wife appreciates it very much if her husband makes her smile. You can play various games at home. Play with crayons, or have a pillow fight. Or hide different notes in your bedroom and ask her to find it. Think of different games you can both play. Let her win sometimes!

Adopt interesting hobbies, such as reading, cooking together and gardening (grow a surprise rose plant in your garden, when you have the first rose blooming, take her to the garden and show it to her. Newspaper and Sports Issue! Men like to watch sports, or read newspaper.So be very careful. If you are watching sports, turn the TV off if your wife comes around. Give her attention. Do not spend too much time reading newspaper, and do not read newspaper on the breakfast table, rather have an Islamic discussion. If you want to get her to like newspaper, then try to find something that interests her. Such as, try to find a news about Hijab. Or try to find a news about Muslim women for her.) 10) Be The Best Always remember the words of Allahs Messenger ( :) The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family. Try to be the best! In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah ( ) to make your marriage successful. And Allah taala knows best! (And once again: your wife is your best friend, and your girlfriend. Share everything with her. Remember she is your garment and you are her garment, so hide her faults and mistakes. Learn to forgive her. Also communicate a lot with her family. It really makes a difference if husband communicates with his in laws. It helps both husbands and wifes family to share a beautiful relationship. Respect her parents and show your love to her family. This will inspire her to love and respect your family. Spend lots of time praying to Allah swt. Do fast often even if it is not Ramadan. Fasting brings patience and taqwah. Lead her in the prayer. There is nothing better than praying together. Remember Allah, so that Allah remembers you. May Allah bless us and guide us all. Ameen!