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NEWSLETTER
Spring, 2012
CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Conflict in relationships, whether it be between spouses, family members, friends, or coworkers, is virtually inevitable. Conflict itself isnt the problem, however; how its handled can bring people closer together or push them farther apart. Poor communication can potentially weaken the bond between people, resulting in mistrust, frustration, and resentment. Disagreements and misunderstandings can be grounds for intense anger and distancing. On the other hand, effective communication can enable sharing of information, perspective taking, and profound understanding. When communication flows well, conflict can be resolved in a cooperative manner, instead of escalating to a destructive level. Good communication is essential to achieving and sustaining a healthy relationship. Collaborative strategies for negotiating conflicts include the following steps: 1. Choose a mutually acceptable time and place to discuss the conflict 2. Talk it out- Each person takes a turn stating his or her position and needs, while the other person attentively listens and tries to understand the speakers perspective. 3. Brainstorm solutions to resolve the conflict 4. Choose a solution that meets each persons needs and one on which they can both agree. The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. ~George Bernard Shaw
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I-Message Formula: I feel ______________ (State your feeling) when you ____________ (Describe the behavior that elicits the feeling) because ______________ (State why the behavior causes that feeling). Id like ______________ (State what youd like instead.) Example: "I feel hurt and ignored when youre texting while were eating dinner together, because it seems like youre not interested in being with me. Id like you to put the cell phone away when were at the dinner table."