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2. My Brilliant Ideas
3. Daily To-Do List
4. Weekly To-Do List
5. Monthly To-Do List
6. Calendar of Events
7. Who Pays For What
8. Budget Worksheet
9. Bridal Gown Worksheet
10. Bridal Attendants Worksheet
11. Attendants Gown Worksheet
12. Grooms Attendants Worksheet
13. Mens Formalwear Worksheet
14. Ceremony Time Table
15. Ceremony Site Worksheet
16. Reception Location Worksheet
17. Caterer Worksheet
18. Buffet Reception Menu Worksheet
19. Wedding Cake Worksheet
20. Candies and Favors Worksheet
21. Rehearsal/Dinner Worksheet
22. Invitation Worksheet
23. Floral Worksheet
24. Photographer Worksheet
25. Photographer Checklist
26. Videographer Worksheet
27. Reception Music Worksheet
28. Bridal Shower Guest List
29. Wedding Guest List
30. Wedding Survival Kit
31. Transportation Worksheet
32. Traditions Around The World
33. Old World Customs and Traditions
34. Engagement Customs & Traditions
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Calendar of Events
Marriages made in heaven are paid for in hard cash right here on earth. The ritualistic
and traditional steps to a formal wedding are complex, time consuming and
expensive, running for a period of six months to a year.
From the moment he pops the question, until you say, I Do, there seems to be an
infinite number of things to do and plans to be made. The following is a guideline
provided to assist you in taking it One Step at a Time.
Six to Twelve Months before OurMarriage
First things First. . . Determine your wedding date.

Choose the style and formality of your wedding which best suits your lifestyle and
personality. Classic Formal, Formal, Semi-Formal or Informal.
Discuss your wedding budget. Who pays for what? Will your parents contribute?
Choose a color scheme and theme for your wedding.
Explore possible chapels, churches or synagogue locations. Be sure to put a security deposit
on your desired selection. Remember - to guarantee your favorite wedding and reception site,
reservations must often be made a year or more in advance.
Choose your honor attendants, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and ushers, requesting their
participation in your ceremony.
Carefully select a bridal gown and veil to reflect your personality and style. When you find
the gown of your dreams, order it immediately. It often requires a minimum of three to four
months for a special order gown to arrive from the factory. Allow additional time for
alterations and final fittings. Be prepared to make at least a 50% deposit. There are NO
REFUNDS on wedding gown purchases. Be sure of your selection! If it is a one-of-a-kind
gown and no longer re-orderable, or on a sale rack, buy it today. In some areas, rental of your
wedding gown may be an option to consider.
Select your bridesmaid gowns and accessories. Place gown orders, for each maid, at the same
time, to assure an identical dye lot.
Interview caterers, if not already included in your favored reception site. Once you have
made your final choice, be sure to secure the date with a signed contract and a security
deposit. Here again, be certain of your selection, as your deposit may well be nonrefundable
in the event you cancel or change your date.
Compile your guest list. Remember, you have five lists to combine and refine. Yours, his,
your familys, his familys and your master list of the four. When the guest list must be kept
to a specific or limited number, be sure to give your familys the number of guests they may
add to their list. Do this when you request the list, rather than after you receive it, to keep
from having hurt feelings in the event you must eliminate names.
Begin interviewing wedding photographers, videographers and musicians. In many areas, it
may behoove you to make your selection and put a deposit on your date to insure their
availability for your event. Because your deposits will likely be nonrefundable, and many
times, nontransferable, be certain of your date and time before placing your reservation.
Engagement parties are appropriate during this time. Also see Pre-Wedding Parties and
Events.
Send your engagement announcement to the local newspaper.
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Four to Six Months Before OurMarriage
Obtain the completed guest lists from fianc and both families. Compile your final master list
to determine the number of invitations and announcements to be ordered. Also see How to
Order Invitations for OurMarriage
Select your wedding cake, giving careful consideration to style, flavors, size, decoration and
color. Consider fresh flowers and strings of removable pearls. Also see Tips on Cutting and
Serving your Wedding Cake
Order wedding invitations, announcements, thank you cards and personal stationary.
Reserve your florist, plan your floral display and order all wedding flowers. Also see
Flowers for OurMarriage
Choose your wedding music, secure musicians and soloists. Also see Music for
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Consult with your travel agent and discuss honeymoon destinations. Make arrangements early
for lowest airfares.
Three to Four Months Before OurMarriage
Select Mothers gowns and accessories. Order immediately if not in hanging stock. Also see
Responsibilities of the Mother of the Bride and Responsibilities of the Mother of the
Groom
Select tuxedos for your groom, his attendants and fathers of the couple. Measurements
should be submitted to the tux shop within the next month. It is preferable for attendants to be
measured at the formal wear shop to insure proper fit and minimize returns and exchanging
garments the morning of the wedding.
Arrange accommodations for out-of-town guests.
Arrange transportation or limousine service for the wedding party to the ceremony and
reception.
Discuss final menu options and costs with your caterer. Confirm arrival and departure times.
Also see When Choosing a Caterer for OurMarriage
Order wedding favors and imprinted items such as napkins, matches and engraved attendant
gifts.
Arrange for rental of items needed for your ceremony and reception. Items such as,
candelabras, arches, alter baskets, kneeling bench, flowing punch fountains, china, crystal,
flatware and silver serving accessories, if desired.
Begin counseling sessions with wedding Officiant when required.
Six to Eight Weeks Before OurMarriage
Begin addressing invitations and announcements.
Draw map to ceremony and reception for inclusion in your invitation.
Finalize your Order of Service for the ceremony and order wedding program.
Arrange for physical examinations and blood tests if required to obtain marriage license in
your state.
Select a location for your rehearsal dinner and make necessary reservations.
Confirm formal wear shop has received measurements of your male attendants. Follow up
immediately with anyone not yet fitted.
Schedule alterations and final fitting for your wedding gown.
Schedule fittings for bridesmaids and flower girls.
Finalize honeymoon plans and confirm reservations.
Make arrangements for your Bridesmaid Luncheon and other Pre-Wedding Parties and
Events.
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Four to Six Weeks before OurMarriage
Discuss and finalize details with your:

Pastor/Officiant Church Soloist
Caterer Florist Baker/Cake Decorator
Bridal Shop Tux Shop Limo Service
Photographer Videographer Travel Agent
Musicians/DJ Jeweler/Engraver Rehearsal Dinner Site
Schedule appointment with hairdresser for bride, attendants and mothers. A popular
alternative today is to hire a hairdresser and makeup artist to meet with the wedding party at
the church.
Complete trousseau shopping.
Send Wedding Invitations four weeks prior to your wedding date to local/regional guests.
Guests needing to make travel arrangements should receive their invitation six weeks in
advance.
Attend parties given in your honor.
Two to Four Weeks before OurMarriage
Apply for your marriage license. Be sure to call ahead for a list of required documents.
Confirm rehearsal plans with your Officiant and church wedding coordinator.
Send Thank You Cards as gifts begin to arrive. Also see How to Write a Thank You Card.
Arrange to move belongings to your new home.
Arrange for name change, as necessary.
Bank Accounts Driver License Vehicle Registration
Passport Post Office Social Security Card
Credit Cards Voter Registration Insurance Policies
Subscriptions Dr./Dental Records Employment Records
One to Two Weeks before OurMarriage
Host Bridesmaid Luncheon. Give attendants gifts at this time.
Confirm rehearsal plans with attendants and request their timely arrival.
Confirm reservations for Rehearsal Dinner.
Confirm reservations for out-of-town guests.
Confirm final guest count to caterer.
Delegate last minute errands and details.
Grooms Bachelor Party should be at least one week prior to wedding.
Pack your Wedding Survival Kit
Begin Packing for your honeymoon.
The Day before OurMarriage
Decorate for ceremony and reception, if possible, early in the day. Confirm delivery times
with your party rental shop.
Keep your appointment for manicure and pedicure.
Arrive thirty minutes early for rehearsal to greet your attendants.
Attend Rehearsal Dinner.
Present attendants with your gift of appreciation during the rehearsal dinner, if not given
previously at the Bridesmaid Luncheon or Bachelor Party.
Give Best Man the Officiants fee in a sealed Thank You Card for delivery after the
ceremony.
Get a good night sleep.
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Who Pays for What

Working out a budget for your wedding is one of the first things that should be done, once the date
is set. Will the ceremony be formal, semiformal or informal? A formal wedding, of course, will
be the most expensive and the informal, the least. Nothing is set in concrete. Who pays for what?
In the 90's, the lines are no longer so rigidly drawn. The burden of paying for the wedding has
shifted in recent years from the shoulders of the father of the bride, to include the grooms family.
Also, with many couples marrying later and having money of their own, they are sharing in the
expenses.
There are no longer any hard and fast rules as to Who Pays for What, but a general guideline
follows as to the traditional breakdown.
Traditional Breakdown of Expenses

Wedding Gown, Headpiece & Accessories
Wedding Ring for Bride
Wedding Ring for Groom
Wedding Gift for Groom
Wedding Gift for Bride
Bridesmaid Gifts
Groomsmen/Usher Gifts
Bride's Bouquet
Bridesmaid Bouquets
Mother's Corsages
Grandmother Corsages
Groom's Boutonniere
Groomsmen Boutonnieres
Usher's Boutonnieres
Ceremony/Reception Flowers
Alter Baskets/Arches
Canopy/Carpet
Kneeling Bench/Candelabras
Rented Items for Wedding
Rented Items for Reception
Invitations/Announcements
Wedding Programs
Napkins/Matches/Printed Items
Marriage License
Medical Visit for Bride
Medical Visit for Groom
Church Fee
The Bride's Family

The Groom
The Bride
The Bride
The Groom
The Bride
The Groom
The Groom
The Bride's Family
The Groom
The Bride's Family
The Groom
The Groom
The Groom
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Groom
The Bride
The Groom
The Bride's Family
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Clergyman/Officiant Fee
Musician/Soloist
Church Janitor
Reception Hall Fee
Catered Reception/Professional Services
Wedding Photography
Video Photography
Orchestra/Band/DJ
Wedding Cake
Wedding Favors
Groom's Cake
Rice Bags
Rehearsal Dinner
Bridesmaid Luncheon
Bachelor Party
Wedding Breakfast
Bridal Brunch
Bridesmaid's Gowns
Maid of Honor Gown
Matron of Honor Gown
Best Man Formal Wear
Usher's Formal Wear
Groomsmen's Formal Wear
Gloves/Ties/Ascots for Attendants
Father of Bride Formal Wear
Father of Groom Formal Wear
Children's Formal Wear
Limousine Service
Honeymoon Arrangements
Travel Expenses to the Wedding
The Groom
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
The Groom's Family
The Bride's Family
The Grooms Family
The Bride
Best Man/Groom's Attendants
The Bride's Family
The Bride's Family
Bridesmaid's
Maid of Honor
Matron of Honor
Best Man
Ushers
Groomsmen
The Groom
Bride's Family
Groom's Family
The Children's Parents
The Groom
The Groom
The Out-of-town Attendant or Family Member
Accommodations for out-of town Guests

Gifts for the Couple
The Bride
Guest, Attendants and Family
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Budget Worksheet
Traditionally, weddings have been paid for almost entirely by the brides family. However, today,
weddings have become more of a family affair, with no strict rules as to Who Pays for What.
Early in your wedding planning, it is suggested you talk with one another and with your parents
concerning the kind of wedding that best suits your style and budget. Be realistic. Set a budget
you can afford and stick to it. Remember, you can have an exquisite wedding on almost any
budget. Its all in the planning. The following Budget Worksheet is provided for your
convenience, to keep track of not only your anticipated budget, but your actual costs incurred,
deposits paid and amounts still due.
Budgeted
Amount
Actual Cost Deposit Paid Amount Due
Wedding Attire
Bridal gown/veil
Alteration Charges
Bride's accessories
Bride's trousseau
Attendants' Gowns
Groom's tuxedo
Groomsmen's tuxedos
Children's attire
TOTAL ATTIRE
Wedding Flowers
Bridal Bouquet
Attendants' Bouquets
Groom's boutonniere
Groomsmen's boutonnieres
Mother's corsages
Father's boutonnieres
Ceremony arrangements
Reception flowers
Going away corsage
TOTAL FLOWERS
Wedding Stationery
Invitations
Response cards
Announcements
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Thank you cards

Personal stationery
Ceremony programs
Matches
Wedding scrolls
Maps
TOTAL STATIONERY
Wedding Photography
Engagement Portraits
Wedding Pictures
Wedding Videography
TOTAL PHOTOGRAPHY
Wedding Music
Ceremony soloist
Ceremony organist
Ceremony sound man
Reception DJ/band
TOTAL MUSIC
Wedding Ceremony
Site rental
Officiant fee
TOTAL CEREMONY
Wedding Reception
Site rental
Wedding cake
Caterer/food/beverage
Decorations/balloons/etc.
Rental items
TOTAL RECEPTION
Attendant Gifts
Bridesmaid gifts
Groomsmen gifts
Children's gifts
TOTAL GIFTS
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Wedding Parties
Bridesmaid Luncheon
Bachelor Party
Bridal Brunch
Wedding Breakfast
Rehearsal Dinner
TOTAL PARTIES
Wedding Rings
Engagement ring
Bride's wedding ring
Groom's wedding ring
TOTAL RINGS
Wedding Transportation
Limousine to ceremony
Limousine to reception
Limousine for attendants
Limousine after reception
TOTAL TRANSPORTATION
Wedding Miscellaneous Expenses

Marriage license
Physical examinations
Gratuities and taxes
Wedding favors
Alterations
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TOTAL MISC. EXPENSES
Honeymoon
Transportation
Lodging expenses
Food expenses
Entertainment
Admissions
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Bridal Gown Worksheet

One of the most important decisions you will make when planning your wedding is in the selection of
just the perfect gown, meant to dazzle your beloved. You know exactly what you are looking for,
having dreamed about and imagined yourself floating down the aisle, in a sea of satin and lace, ever
since you were a little girl. Or you may begin your search for that all important dress with little more
than a general idea of how you want to look on your special day.
This is your wedding and it has to be perfect. You want a gown that is feminine, flattering and
romantic. Whether planning an elaborate church wedding or a simple intimate affair, your gown should
reflect your personality, taste and style. Traditional styling is never outdated. Something Old is still
Something New.
Name of Bridal Shop:____________________________________

Address:_______________________________________________
City:________________________ St:______ Zip: ______________
Phone:______________________________ Contact Person: _________________________
Date Gown Ordered: ______________________ Expected Arrival Date: ________________
My Wedding Gown:
Designer/Manufacture _____________________________________
Description/Style _________________________________________
Color _________________ Fabric _________________ Train Length___________________
Gown Cost ____________ Deposit __________ Balance Due__________ Terms _________
Date Ordered ________________
Expected Arrival Date ________________
My Bridal Veil/Headpiece:
Designer/Manufacture ____________________________________
Color _________________ Style _________________ Length____________________
Veil/Headpiece Cost _______ Deposit ________ Balance Due__________ Terms _________
Date Ordered ______________________ Expected Arrival Date ________________
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My Accessories:
Crinoline Slip___________________
Bra/Foundation_________________Garter________________Shoes___________________
Specialty Nylons______________ Gloves _________________
Necklace_______________________________ Earrings_____________________________
Alterations:
Name of Seamstress__________________________________
Phone ________________
Address_______________________________________________
Fitting Dates and Time 1st:__________ 2nd __________
3rd __________ Final Fitting __________
Needed Alterations ______________________________________
Alteration Charges ____________ Pick up Date ________________
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Bridal Attendants Worksheet
Maid/Matron of Honor___________________________________
Address________________________________________________
City______________________________________ State ________ Zip _______________
Home Phone _____________________ Work Phone _____________________
E-mail _________________________________________________
Dress size_______ Bust _______ Waist _______ Hips _______
Height _______ Weight_______ Shoe size _______
Birthday ___________________ Anniversary ___________________
Spouse/SO______________________________________________
Bridesmaid_____________________________________________
Address________________________________________________
City___________________________________________ State ________ Zip ____________
Home Phone ____________________ Work Phone ____________________
E-mail _________________________________________________
Spouse/SO____________________________
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Bridesmaid_____________________________________________
Address________________________________________________
City___________________________________________ State ________ Zip ____________
E-mail _________________________________________________
Spouse/SO____________________________
Bridesmaid_____________________________________________
Address________________________________________________
City___________________________________________ State ________ Zip ____________
E-mail _________________________________________________
Spouse/SO____________________________
Bridesmaid_____________________________________________
Address________________________________________________
City___________________________________________ State ________ Zip ____________
E-mail _________________________________________________
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Spouse/SO____________________________
Flower Girl___________________________________________________
Address________________________________________________
City___________________________________________ State ________ Zip ____________
E-mail _________________________________________________
Birthday ___________________
Flower Girl___________________________________________________
Address________________________________________________
City___________________________________________ State ________ Zip ____________
E-mail _________________________________________________
Birthday ___________________
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Attendants Gown Worksheet

Once your wedding gown has been selected and the formality of the wedding decided upon, it is time
to consider choosing gowns for your attendants. Your goal will be to select gowns that coordinate in
style and color with the formality and color scheme of your wedding. Remember, traditionally it has
been the responsibility of the attendants to purchase the formalwear worn for your wedding. However,
the decision still rests with you as to what you want them to wear.
Name of Bridal Shop:________________________________________

Address:___________________________________________________
City:_________________St._________ Zip______________
Phone:_______________________________________
Contact Person:_________________________________
Date Gowns Ordered: ____________________________
Expected Arrival Date: ____________________________
My Maid/Matron of Honor Gown:

Designer/Manufacture ______________________
Description/Style___________________________
Color _________________Fabric ____________________
Length________________________ Gown Cost _____________
Deposit ________ ___ Balance Due__________ Terms _________
Date Ordered ________________Expected Arrival Date ____________
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My Bridesmaids Attire:
Designer/Manufacture _______________________
Number of gowns ordered_____________________
Description/Style____________________________________________
Color/Dye Lot _________________Fabric ____________________
Length_______________________ Gown Cost _____________
Deposit ________ ___ Balance Due__________ Terms _________
Date Ordered ____________Expected Arrival Date ___________
Actual Arrival Date_________
My Bridesmaids Accessories:
Headpiece/Hairpiece___________________________________
Cost __________
Date Ordered ________________ Expected Arrival Date _____________
Crinoline Slip________________ Bra/Foundation ___________________
Shoes______________________ Specialty Nylons __________________
Gloves _________________ Jewelry____________________________
Total Cost of Accessories______________
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Color____________ Fabric _______________
Accessories_______________ _______________ _______________
Total Cost _________
Alterations:
Name of Seamstress________________________________________
Phone ________________
Address____________________________________________________
Fitting Dates and Time 1st:__________ 2nd __________
Final Fitting __________
Needed Alterations ____________________ Charges _____________
Pickup Date___________
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Grooms Attendants Worksheet
Best Man__________________________________________________
Address____________________________________________________
City__________________________________________
State ________ Zip ______________
Home Phone ___________________ Work Phone __________________
E-mail ___________________________________
Coat size_______ Neck size_______ Sleeve______ Waist______
Outseam______ Inseam______ Shoe size_____
Birthday ___________________ Anniversary _____________________
Spouse/SO___________________________
Groomsmen/Usher_________________________________________
Address__________________________________________________
City__________________________________________
State ________ Zip ______________
E-mail ___________________________________
Outseam______ Inseam______ Shoe size_____ Birthday _______________
Anniversary ________________ Spouse/SO___________________________
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E-mail ___________________________________
Groomsmen/Usher_________________________________________
Address__________________________________________________
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State ________ Zip ______________
E-mail ___________________________________
Groomsmen/Usher_________________________________________
Address__________________________________________________
City__________________________________________
State ________ Zip ______________
E-mail ___________________________________
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State ________ Zip ______________
E-mail ___________________________________
Groomsmen/Usher_________________________________________
Address__________________________________________________
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State ________ Zip ______________
E-mail ___________________________________
Groomsmen/Usher_________________________________________
Address__________________________________________________
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Mens Formal Wear Worksheet

The purpose of this page is to have a record of the designer/manufacture, style, color, fabric and
accessories of the mens formal wear for your wedding. Individual sizes and other necessary
information concerning each attendant is found on the Grooms
Attendants Worksheet:
Name of Tuxedo Shop ______________________________________
Address __________________________________________________
City _____________________ State _____ Zip ___________________
Phone __________________________________
Contact Person ___________________________
Date Tuxedos Reserved ____________________
Pickup Date _____________________________
Important Information
Address of main warehouse ___________________________________
Phone ___________________
Alterations included in rental fee Yes No
Security Deposit Required
Yes No
Grooms Formal Wear

Designer/Manufacture ________________________________________
Description/Style ____________________________________________
Color _______________________ Fabric ________________________
Accessories _________________________
Shoe Style ____________________ Shoe Color ___________________
Total Rental Fee _______________ Deposit To Reserve _____________
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Groomsmen Formal Wear

Color _______________________ Fabric ________________________
Accessories _________________________
Ushers Formal Wear

Color _______________________ Fabric ________________________
Accessories _________________________
Fathers Formal Wear

Color _______________________ Fabric ________________________
Accessories _________________________
Ring Bearers Formal Wear

Color _______________________ Fabric ________________________
Accessories _________________________
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Your Ceremony Timetable

Planning a timetable to follow for your wedding day must be customized to each
individual situation. The following guidelines assume a church wedding with
wedding photos taken in advance of the ceremony, which is becoming more popular
every
year.
Two and a half to three hours prior to the ceremony: The bride, her mother, and
attendants arrive at the church and begin putting on their makeup, curling their hair,
(if not previously done by a professional salon) and dressing. This is expected to take
approximately one hour, leaving a full hour, plus, for wedding photographs.
Two hours prior to the ceremony: The florist should arrive with the alter baskets,
bouquets, corsages, boutonnieres, and other assorted wedding flowers. The groom,
his parents, and attendants will arrive at the ceremony site and pin on their wedding
flowers. The brides father should also arrive at this time if he did not come earlier
with the bride and her mother. The ushers will assist in pinning corsages on the
mothers and other honored guests who have arrived early for the photography
session. Photographs begin at this time especially when you have a large wedding
party.
One hour prior to the ceremony: Pre-wedding photos should be completed no later
than one hour prior to the ceremony. The bride and her attendants will take this
opportunity to freshen makeup, possibly touch up the wedding gown with a puff of
steam where it may have wrinkled during the photo session, and take a quick
breather. Snack trays are a great idea in the dressing area, but be sure not to include
items that will stain or mark clothing. Fresh vegetable trays are a great idea. (You
may want to consider forgetting the ranch dressing, as if it is spilled on a garment it
will leave a grease mark when quickly spot cleaned).
Forty-five minutes prior to the ceremony: The ushers will want to be certain of the
seating arrangements and be available in the vestibule of the church for early arrivers.
The best man should see to it that the marriage license has been given to the pastor if
it was not done so earlier.
Thirty minutes prior to the ceremony: The organist begins to play the prelude
music as the ushers escort guests to their seats.
Ten minutes prior to the ceremony: Time for a final once over for the wedding
participants.
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Five minutes prior to the ceremony: The head usher will escort the grooms mother
to her seat. The grooms father follows a few feet behind the usher, and then takes
his seat beside his wife. It lends a nice touch to the wedding for a son to escort his
mother down the isle at his brothers wedding whether or not he is the head usher.
Mothers have also been escorted to their seat by the groom, when that is the desire of
the couple.
Immediately following the seating of the mother of the groom, the brides mother is
escorted to her seat. If the ushers are also the grooms attendants, they will now take
their place with the wedding party.
Ceremony time: Special music plays as the candle lighting ceremony begins. Music
changes to the chosen processional as the candle lighters leave the auditorium or
find their seats. Also see The Procession
The minister, groom and best man step into their places at the front of the church.
The wedding party enters, either as couples or the bridesmaids only, if the
groomsmen took their place at the front of the church moments earlier with the groom
and best man.
The maid of honor follows behind the bridesmaids, and the flower girl and ring bearer
behind her. As everyone takes their places at the front of the church, the organist will
change to the music for the bride and her fathers entrance. The congregation will
rise in honor of the bride.
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Ceremony Site Worksheet

Name of Ceremony Site______________________________________
Address___________________________________________________
City_________________________ Phone ________________________
Coordinator/Contact __________________________________________
Clergyman or Officiant ____________________________
Phone ________________________________________
Clergyman fee ________ Church rental fee ________
Organist fee ________ Soloist fee ________
Amount due to reserved church for wedding __________
Balance due_____________ Date _________________
Seating capacity in auditorium _______________

Sitting and standing capacity ______________
Center aisle? Yes/No
Two side aisles? Yes/No
Center aisle and two side aisles? Yes/No

Is there a reception facility on premises? Yes/No
Rental fee _________ Hours available ____________________________
Is there a dressing room for the bridal party? Yes/No ________________
Does the site provide:
Candelabras
Kneeling bench
Aisle runner
Canopy
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Is there a membership or attendance requirement to be married in this church?

Yes/No ________________________
Is pre-marital counseling required? Yes/No
Counseling dates ____________ thru ____________
Directions to ceremony site
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Restrictions and Requirements

Photography (restrictions and requirements)
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Videography (restrictions and requirements)
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Music (restrictions and requirements)
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Musical instruments provided (piano, organ)
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Soloists, Musicians available
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PA setup, Microphone, Speakers (restrictions and requirements)
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Electrical (restrictions and requirements)

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Throwing of rice/birdseed (restrictions and requirements)
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Early entry for setup and decorating (restrictions and requirements)
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Decorating (restrictions and requirements)
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Cleanup (requirements) ________________________________________
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Parking (restrictions and requirements)
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Reception Location Possibilities

Reception Location _________________________________________
Address ___________________________________________________
City ______________________________________________________
Phone ___________________________________
Contact __________________________________
Directions to site
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Appointment date ____________________ Time __________
Referred by ___________________________
Total Rental fee ________ Deposit required for reservation _________
Balance due date ________
Refund policy for cancellation
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Time allowed for rental: From ________ To ________
Handicap Accessible? Yes/No
Addition hourly charges when reception goes longer than planned?
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Time available for decorating the day before wedding:
From ______ To ______ Cost? _________
Janitor provided for cleanup? Yes/No Cleaning deposit? Yes/No Refundable?
Yes/No
Requirements assuring refund of cleaning deposit?
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Are outside caterers allowed or can we provide our own food? Yes/No
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Kitchen facilities?
Stoves
Dishwasher
Refrigeration
Other __________________
china available _____
stainless flatware _____
glassware/stemware _____
Other ______
Punch bowls ______
Champagne fountain ______
Linen napkins ______
Reception Hall capacity? ________ Standing capacity? _________
Seated capacity? ________
Reception fixtures?
6' tables _____
8' tables _____
round tables _____
chairs ______
Bar Facilities? Yes/No Bartenders provided? Yes/No
Liquor Liability? Yes/No _________
Servers provided? Yes/No Gratuities included in contract price?
Percentage? ____________
Yes/No
Dance Floor? Yes/No Dimensions? __________________

Capacity? _________
Microphone? Yes/No Amplifiers? Yes/No PA System? Yes/No Band/DJ
allowed? Yes/No
Is security provided? Yes/No Cost _____ Parking fees? _______ Valet provided?
Yes/No ____
Throwing of rice/birdseed allowed? Yes/No
Confetti? Yes/No
My impression of this site:

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Caterer Worksheet
Name of Caterer ___________________________________________
Address ___________________________________________________
City __________________________ Phone ______________________
Contact ___________________________________________________
Kind of Reception desired:

Formal sit down dinner
Buffet
Hor doeuvres
Cake and punch
Estimated guests _______________ Cost per/serving ________________
Total cost ____________
Required deposit ___________ Final payment due __________________
Gratuity included? Yes/No
Sizes of portions ________________ Hours of service _______________
Overtime charge ________________
Scheduled setup time _________________
Scheduled time for departure ___________________
Cancellation terms __________________________________________
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Questions to ask caterers
What specialty items do you offer?
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What is the per/person charge for your basic service?
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Do you have different menus to choose from? Yes/No
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What sizes are your portions?
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How do you determine head count?
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How many guests do you overestimate for?
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Will you be allowed to take left over food home?
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Is the gratuity included in your charges? Yes/No Percentage? ____
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What is your hours of service included in basic service?
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What is your overtime charge?
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Do you have your own reception facility? Yes/No Location?

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Can you do off site receptions? Yes/No Is there an additional charge?
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Do you provide the servers? Yes/No
Do you provide bartenders? Yes/No
Who assumes liquor liability? _______________________________
Is the setup and cleanup included in the basic price? Yes/No
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Can you provide the wedding cake? Yes/No Additional charge?
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Do you provide tables and chairs? Yes/No How many and style?
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Do you provide china and glassware? Yes/No Style? ___________
Do you provide linens and napkins? Yes/No Color _____________
Do you provide silver serving accessories? Yes/No
Silver punch bowl? Yes/No
Do you provide a contract? Yes/No
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Buffet Reception Menu Worksheet

Suggested menu selections for your buffet reception are included here for your consideration.
The cost to provide the suggested number of items for 200 guests will range in the $600 price
range when you, your family, and friends do-it-yourself. Recipes for many of the
following items are included in the OurMarriage.com Recipe Collection.
Select three HOT ENTREES:

Sliced Hamr Sliced Turkey
Sliced Salami
Cocktail Smokies
Hot Roast Beef
Baked Beans
BBQ Meatballs
Sweet and Sour Meatballs
Swedish Meatballs
Barbequed Chicken Wings
Other _______________
Other _______________
Select four SALADS:
Potator Macaronir Three Bean
Carrotr Cole Slawr Pina Colada
Parfaitsr Fresh Fruit
Artichoke Rotini
Orange Delightr Green Garden
24 Hour Salad
Strawberry Walnut
Select two CHEESES:
American
Swiss
Monterey Jack
Dill Cheese
Colby
Hot Pepper
Other _______________
Relish Bowl:
Black Olives
Green Olives
Dill Pickles
Sweet Pickles
Pickled Corn
Pickled Vegies
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Fresh Vegetables:
Broccoli
Cauliflower
Celery
Carrot Sticks
Radish Onions
Green Onions
Fresh Fruit:
Cantaloupe
Honeydew
Watermelon
Strawberries
Star Fruit
Grapes
Kiwi
Orange Slices
Cherries
Breads:
White
Wheat
Sourdough
Bread Sticks
Dinner Rolls
Rye
Condiments:
Mayonnaise
Mustard
Dijon
Margarine
Ranch Dip
Salt/pepper
Sauces for hot entrees:
Brown Gravy
Mushroom Gravy
Country Gravy
Brown sugar glaze
Marinara
BBQ Sauce
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Wedding Cake Worksheet

Name of Bakery ____________________________________________
Address ___________________________________________________
City _________________________________
Phone ________________________________
Decorator _______________________________
Date Cake Ordered ________________________
Expected Delivery Time _____________________
Number of Servings__________ Cost per/serving _________
Total Cost _________ Required Deposit ________
Final Pmt. Due __________
Our Wedding Cake Flavors
Cake Flavor ______________ Filling ________________ Size ________
Additional Sheet Cakes _______________________ Filling ___________
Design of Our Wedding Cake
Description of decoration(s)
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Description of our cake top
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Other items for our cake (fountain, stairways, arch pillar setup)
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Suggestions for saving your top layer for your First Anniversary
Ask a responsible person to take your top tier home and without wrapping it, put it
into the freezer immediately to harden the icing and its beautiful decoration. Allow
it remain for only a couple hours until frozen. Remove cake and loosely wrap in
saran until the cake is well encircled many times with saran. Place in cake box, wrap
in freezer paper and return to freezer. When removing cake from freezer, immediately
remove wrapping and thaw. Your cake will be as beautiful as the day of your
wedding. Another important hint for preserving your cake for a year is to never keep
it in a frost-free freezer. The constant defrosting to keep frost from accumulating in
the freezer will draw all the moisture out of your cake and leave you with a dry,
tasteless confection.
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Candies and Favors Worksheet

Name of Shop _____________________________________________
Address __________________________________________________
City _____________________ Phone __________________________
Contact __________________________________________________
Grooms Cake
Cake Flavor ____________________ Filling _____________________
Servings ________________________
Description _______________________________________________
Cost per serving __________________ Total Cost _________________
Delivery time ____________________ Pickup time ________________
Candies and Mints
Flavor(s) __________________________________________________
Shape(s) __________________________________________________
Color(s) __________________________________________________
Quantity __________________________________________________
Cost per pound ________________ Pounds ordered ________________
Total Cost _____________________
Recipe for making your own wedding mints
Mix all ingredients and knead until creamy and smooth. Roll into tiny balls, dust with fine
granulated sugar and press into rubber or plastic molds. Immediately remove from mold and
place on wax paper. Allow to dry.
8 oz. cream cheese 2 pounds powdered sugar 1/8 tsp flavoring food color
Wedding Favors
Netting Color(s) ____________________________________________
Ribbon Color (s) ___________________________________________
Filling(s) __________________________________________________
Number needed ___________________ Total Cost ________________
Ideas for favor fillings include: Hershey kisses, pastel candy coated almonds, assorted mints,
chocolate covered coffee beans, wrapped caramels, gummy bears, and mixed nuts. Any
small candy can be used as wedding favors.
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Rehearsal/Dinner Worksheet
Ceremony/Rehearsal Site ____________________________________
Address ___________________________________________________
City ______________________________
Phone ________________________________
Coordinator/Contact___________________________________________
Clergyman or Officiant _________________________________________
Phone _______________________
Date of Rehearsal ___________________________
Time of Rehearsal _________ to _________
Rehearsal Dinner Location ___________________________________

Address ___________________________________________________
City __________________________________
Phone _________________________________
Contact ________________________________
Date of Rehearsal Dinner _________ Time ________ to ________
Number confirmed __________
Cost per/person ________ Total cost ____________
Deposit to reserve ________ Due date ___________
Map to Location
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Rehearsal Dinner Guests

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Invitation Worksheet
Wedding Invitations can be ordered from your favorite bridal shop, stationary shop, Christian
bookstore or wedding retailer. The prices rarely vary, as the catalogs are priced by the
stationary companies. However, be sure to ask about special discounts given by bridal shops
or other wedding providers, when using their services.
Name of Invitation Shop: ____________________________________
Address: __________________________________________________
City: __________________________ St.: ________________________
Phone: _______________________________
Contact Person: _____________________________________________
Date Invitations Ordered: ____________________
Expected Arrival Date: _______________________
Our Choice:
Name of book we ordered from: _________________________________
Page No. ________
Description of Invitation:
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Invitation Style Number _________________ Lettering Style __________
Quantity Ordered ___________
Paper Color ________________ Ink Color ________________________
Foil Lined Inner Envelopes ______________
Return Addresses Printed on Outer Envelopes:
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Our Costs:
Count:
Invitations __________________
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RSVP Cards _________________
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Colored Ink _________________
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Thank You Cards _____________
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Extra Lines __________________
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At Home Cards _______________
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Corner Copy _________________
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Our Costs:
Wedding Programs _____________
Foil Lined Envelopes ____________
Count:
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Wedding Napkins ______________
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Printed Return Address __________
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Wedding Matches ______________
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Wedding Scrolls ________________
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Party Favors ___________________
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Total Cost: ______________
Our Invitation Wording:

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Floral Worksheet
Name of Flower Shop: _______________________________________
Address: ___________________________________________________
City: _________________ St.: _______
Phone: ____________________________________________________
Contact Person: _____________________________________________
Delivery Time:
Flowers will be delivered?
Flowers will be picked up?
Church ______________________________________________
Reception ____________________________________________
Person responsible to open Reception Hall for delivery
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My Wedding Flowers:
My Bridal Bouquet:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
Cost _______________
Description (style, flowers, colors, ribbons)
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My Wedding Headpiece:
Fresh
Silk
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Cost ______________
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My Toss-away Bouquet:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
Cost ______________
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My Going-Away Corsage:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
Cost _______________
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My Maid/Matron of Honor
Maid/Matron of Honor Bouquet:
Fresh
Silk
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Cost ________________
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Maid/Matron of Honor Headpiece:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
Cost ________________
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My Bridesmaids
Bridesmaid Bouquets:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
Cost ________________
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Number Ordered ______________ Cost _______________
Bridesmaid Headpieces:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
Cost ________________
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My Junior Bridesmaids
Jr. Bridesmaid Bouquets:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
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Number Ordered _____________ Cost ______________
Jr. Bridesmaid Headpieces:

Fresh
Silk
Dried
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My Flower Girl(s)
Flower Girl Basket:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
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Number Ordered ________ Cost _________
Flower Girl Headpiece:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
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My Groom and His Attendants

Grooms Boutonniere:
Fresh
Silk
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Cost ______________
Description ( flower, color)
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Groomsmens Boutonnieres:
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Number Ordered ___________ Cost _____________
Ushers Boutonnieres:
Fresh
Silk
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Number Ordered ___________ Cost ____________
Ring-bearers Boutonniere:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
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Pastors Boutonniere:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
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Our Honored Guests

Brides Mother Corsage:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
Cost ____________
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Grooms Mother Corsage:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
Cost ____________
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Fathers Boutonnieres:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
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Number Ordered ________ Cost _______
Grandmothers Corsages:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
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Grandfathers Boutonnieres:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
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Host/Hostess Boutonnieres:
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Dried
Description (flower, color)
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Cake Cutters Corsage:

Fresh
Silk
Dried
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Guest Book Attendants Corsage:
Fresh
Silk
Dried
Cost ____________
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Our Ceremony Flowers
Altar Arrangement(s) Cost ___________
Description (style, flowers, color, ribbons)
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Candelabra Arrangement(s) Cost ___________
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Pew Arrangement(s) Cost ____________
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Our Reception Flowers

Wedding Cake Flowers Cost _____________
Description (flowers, color, ribbons)
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Cake Table Arrangement(s) Number Ordered ________ Cost __________
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Brides Table Arrangement(s) Number Ordered ________ Cost _________
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Buffet Table Arrangement(s) Number Ordered ________ Cost __________
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Guest Table Arrangement(s)

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Our Floral Accessories

Balloons
Number Ordered ________ Cost ____________
Description (style, color, ribbons)

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Candles
Description (color, length)

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Candelabras
Description (style) ___________________________________________________________

Aisle Runner
Cost ____________
Description (length)
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Other Item __________________________________ Cost ___________

Other Item __________________________________ Cost __________
Other Item __________________________________ Cost ___________
Total Floral Budget vs. Actual Cost
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Photographer Worksheet
Name of Studio ____________________________________________
Phone _______________________
Address ___________________________________________________
City _________________________
Phone ________________________________
Contact ________________________________
Name of Photographer ________________________________________
Phone ___________________
Important questions to ask your photographer

Two most important:
Will the photographer you are meeting with, be the person actually attending and
shooting your wedding photos? Yes/No

Did the photographer responsible for your wedding photographs actually take all the
wedding pictures and special effect pictures, shown in the sample album, being presented to
you as examples of his/her work?
Yes/No
Additional questions:
Do you prefer taking photos before or after ceremony?
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What type of camera do you use?
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What kind of lighting setup and additional equipment do you use?
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Do you bring a backup camera in case yours fails? Yes/No
What kind of special effects lens will you be using?

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Explain special techniques offered
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Will you follow a checklist of photos I request?
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What are the number of hours you will available for my wedding?
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How do you charge? (per print, per hour, flat rate)
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Cost per hour? ___________ Is travel time included? Yes/No
Type of payment arrangements? ____________________________
Do you offer special package prices? Yes/No
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Print sizes available and cost? ______________________________
Can proofs be purchased? Yes/No How much? ______________
Can negatives be purchased after a substantial order? Yes/No How much?
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What is your minimum order requirement? _____________________
How long after wedding will proofs be ready? __________________
How does the photographer dress for your wedding? Tuxedo/Business suit/Casual
Are their any restrictions? (time, number of photos, split locations)
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Family albums available? Yes/No Number and size of prints _______ Cost _________
Additional Services available? Engagement photo/portraits/retouching negatives
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Name and phone number of two references:
Name _____________________________________ Phone _________

Name _____________________________________ Phone _________
Arrival/Setup Time _______ Cost Per/Hour _____ Total cost ________
Deposit Required _______
Cancellation Terms
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Photographers Checklist
Before The Ceremony

Bride leaving homer

Bride getting into car with father
Bride doing hair and makeup
Bride arriving at church
Bride dressing in gown
Mother assisting bride in dressing
Mother arranging veil
Bride in gown
Maid/matron of honor putting on garter
Maids dressing
Attendants receiving flowers
Groom alone
Groom with best man
Groom with groomsmen/ushers
Groomsmen/ushers receiving boutonnieres
Ceremony Photos

Front view of church

Guests arriving
Bride and father arriving at church
Ushers escorting guests
Soloist and organist
Seating of grooms parents
Seating of brides mother
Groom and attendants at altar
Bridesmaids coming down the aisle
Maid/matron of honor coming down aisle
Bride and father coming down aisle
Father giving the bride away
Bride and groom exchanging vows
Exchange of rings
Lighting of unity candle
The kiss
Introduction of husband and wife
Bride and groom recessional
Wedding party recessional
Bride and groom on church steps
Bride and groom leaving ceremony site
Bride and groom getting into limo
Bride and groom looking out back window
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Reception Photos

Bride and groom arriving at site

The receiving line
Wedding cake and buffet tables
Bride and grooms first dance
Bride and her father dancing
Groom dancing with his mother
Both sets of parents dancing
Wedding party dancing
Guests dancing
Bride and groom cutting cake
Feeding cake to one another
Bride and grooms first toast
Best mans toast to couple
Musicians
Bride tossing her bouquet
Groom throws brides garter
Bride and groom in going away cloths
Other Photos

Guests throwing rice/birdseed

Bride and groom in limo waving goodbye
Formal Wedding Pictures

Bride alone (close-up)

Bride alone (full photo)
Bride and Groom together
Bride with maid/matron of honor
Bride with her attendants
Groom with best man
Groom with his attendants
Couple with all attendants
Couple with honor attendants
Couple with child attendants
Bride and father alone
Bride and mother alone
Bride with mother and father
Bride with parents and siblings
Bride with grandparents
Groom with father
Groom with mother
Groom with mother and father
Groom with parents and siblings
Groom with grandparents
Couple with both families
Couple with Officiant
Flower girl and ring bearer
Couples hands with rings
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Videographer Worksheet
Name of Studio _______________________________________
Phone ____________________
Address ___________________________________________
City _________________________
Phone ________________________________
Contact _________________________________
Name of Photographer ___________________________________
Phone ___________________
Services Requested for

Rehearsal
Pre-wedding shots
Ceremony
Reception
Important questions to ask your Videographer

Two most important:
Will the videographer you are meeting with, be the person actually attending and
shooting your wedding video? Yes/No

Did the videographer you are considering actually take the video and edit the special
effects shown in the sample video, presented to you as examples of his/her work? Yes/No
Will you take video before, during and after our ceremony? Yes/ No
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What type of camera do you use?
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What kind of lighting setup and additional equipment do you use?
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Do you bring a backup camera in case yours fails? Yes/No
What length will my edited version be? ___________
Number of tapes?
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Explain special techniques offered
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Will you follow a checklist of video shots I request?
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What are the number of hours you will available for my wedding? _________________
How do you charge? (per hour, flat rate) ________________
Total cost ____________
Cost per hour? ___________ Is travel time included? Yes/No

Type of payment arrangements? ____________________
Required deposit __________
Do you offer special package prices? Yes/No
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Can additional copies be purchased? Yes/No How much?
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Will I be given the master copy as well as an edited version? Yes/No
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How long after the wedding will my video be ready?
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How does the videographer dress for the wedding? Tuxedo/Business suit/Casual
Are their any restrictions? (time, split locations)

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What is your editing process? (can we include childhood photos, etc.)
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Will you interview guests and family members on tape?
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Additional Services available? (household inventory, etc.)
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Name and phone number of two references:
Name _________________________________ Phone __________
Name __________________________________ Phone _________
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Reception Music Worksheet
Our Reception Music

Name of Band or DJ __________________________________________
Phone __________________________
Type of musical instruments _____________________________________
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Equipment provided __________________________________________
Restrictions _________________________________________________
Arrival/Setup Time _____________________________
Closing Time _________________________________
Cost Per/Hour _____________
Total cost _____________
Deposit Required____________
Cancellation Terms
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Questions to ask your Booking Agent

Will you provide a list of satisfied customers? Yes/No
What is your attire for the event? ____________________________
Do you have a demo tape for our consideration? Yes/No
Will the DJ or band leader act as master of ceremonies? Yes/No
What are your setup time and requirements? ___________________
Do you have a list of selections we can choose from? Yes/No
Do you provide a contract guaranteeing your services? Yes/No
Special Selections
Bride and Groom arrival _______________________________________
Background Dinner Music ______________________________________
Cake Cutting Ceremony _______________________________________
Our First Dance together _______________________________________
Brides Dance with Father ______________________________________
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Favorite Songs to be played during the reception
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Shower Guest List

Name ____________________________________________________
Address __________________________________________________
City ________________________ St. __________ Zip ____________
Home Number (
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E-mail ______________________

RSVP Received
Thank You Sent
Gift Received __________________________________________
Name ____________________________________________________
Address __________________________________________________
City ________________________ St. __________ Zip ____________
Home Number (
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Name ____________________________________________________
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Wedding Guest List

Name ____________________________________________________
Address __________________________________________________
City ________________________ St. ___________ Zip ____________
Home Number (
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E-mail ____________________________________________________

RSVP Received
Number Confirmed ______
Gift Received __________________
Thank You Sent
Name ____________________________________________________
Address __________________________________________________
City ________________________ St. ___________ Zip ____________
Home Number (
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Gift Received __________________
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Name ____________________________________________________
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Wedding Survival Kit

The Wedding Survival Kit is a must for every bride. The following list includes items you
will want to assemble and take to your wedding in the event of a minor emergency. A
beautiful hat box makes a great survival kit or you can simply take these things along in your
overnight bag.

Makeup Kit
Hand Mirror
Hair Spray
Nail Glue
Deodorant
Toothpaste
Tampons/Kotex
Curling Iron
Electric Curlers
Dress Shields
Bobby Pins (secure veil)
Extra Nylons
Clear Fingernail Polish
Polish Remover
Needle/Thread
Scissors
Safety Pins
Straight Pins
Ironing Board
Iron/Steamer
Aspirin
Breath mints
Masking Tape (for decorations)
Scotch Tape (tape cards to gifts)
Two sided Tape (last minute hems)
Floral Wire (possible repairs)
Kleenex
Super glue
Extra pair of black mens socks
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Transportation Worksheet
Transportation Service ______________________________________

Address ___________________________________________________
City _________________________ Phone _______________________
Contact ___________________________________________________
Transportation available

Limousines
Lincoln Continental
Standard
Stretch
Super-stretch
Cadillac
Standard
Stretch
Super-stretch
Luxury Automobiles
Lincoln Town Car
Rolls Royce
Cadillac Sedan
Mercedes
Vintage Cars
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Unique Transportation

Horse drawn carriage

Hot air balloon
Helicopter
Boat
Bicycle built for two
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Description of Vehicle Ordered

Model ___________________________________
Color ____________________________________
Capacity ________________
Amenities ________________________________________
Time of Reservation
Pickup Location _____________________________________
Time _________________
Drop off Location ____________________________________
Time ________________
Exclusive reservation from _______________ to _____________
Cost of Transportation
Charges are based on:

Flat fee
Hourly
Overtime
Charges ________________
Are gratuities included in fee:
Yes/No _______________________
Date reservation confirmed ___________ Total Cost __________

Amount of Deposit _____
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Traditions Around the World

Traditions are simply memories of the past, still taking root in our lives today. As you read
through these long cherished practices of ages gone by, choose for yourself those that will
make your day more meaningful and special.
AFRICA: Holding hands at the alter and the walk back up the aisle after your ceremony may
well be a custom derived from the tradition still performed in some tribes today of binding
the bride and grooms wrists together with plaited grass.
BELGIUM: A lovely tradition has long been practiced in Belgium to make and embroider a
handkerchief for the bride to carry during her wedding. The brides name would also be
embroidered on it. Following the wedding, she would them frame the handkerchief and hang
it on the wall until the next wedding in the family, at which time it was to be taken down and
the new brides name embroidered on it as well. This was handed down from generation to
generation.
BERMUDA: An old custom which is certainly catching on today as we look forward to the
new millennium is that of planting a tree to memorialize the wedding day. Even yet today,
some Islanders top off their wedding cake with a small tree sapling. The tree is planted
during the reception which is often held at the home of one of their parents, if not the new
home they will share together as man wife.
CHINA: Red is the color of Love and Joy in China. At one time it was the brides favorite
color of choice for the wedding garment, candles, guest gift favors and everything that went
along with her wedding. In China today, many girls still choose to go by the old traditions of
their forefathers, but more and more, the country is becoming westernized and brides are
opting for the exquisite white gowns worn throughout the world. An interesting point of
interest may be the number of wedding gowns made in China today, finding their way to your
favorite bridal shop. Almost without a doubt as you have shopped for your gown, you have
either tried on or looked upon gowns made on mainland China.
CZECHOSLOVAKIA: Rosemary wreaths, handmade by the mother or grandmother of the
bride is a century old tradition for brides in the countryside. A variation of this today is seen
as wreaths of babys breath and miniature roses, worn as often by the attendants as the bride
herself.
ENGLAND: The familiar tradition of a flower girl throwing rose petals as she passes down
the aisle before the bride is a reminder of days gone by when the bride walked to the church
with her maids in waiting. Leading the procession was always a young girl throwing flower
petals along the lane, so the brides path through life would be happy and laden with flowers.
FINLAND: In Finland, brides once wore crowns of gold. Following the wedding and during
the reception, the tradition known as the Dance of the Crowns took place. The bride would
be blindfolded, while her unmarried maids would dance around her in a circle. She would
remove her crown and place it on a maiden, and whoever she crowned was said to be the
next to marry. This custom could be easily be reborn by the bride who wears a wreath rather
than a veil, and she too could dance the Dance of Crowns.
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FRANCE: A lovely custom coming to us out of France comes in the form of a two handled
cup called the coup de marriage. The cup was saved to be used from one generation to
another. Of course, the custom has long been established of drinking a toast to one another,
but the two handled cup adds a special touch to the weddings of today. Until recently, these
cups have been very difficult to find. Drinking from the same cup denotes togetherness.
GERMANY: The tradition coming to us out of Germany includes the bride and groom
holding candles trimmed with flowers and ribbons. This beautiful old tradition could be
included in a wedding of today, with the couple placing candles they have carried to the alter
beside their unity candle. These candles could then be used to light the unity candle at the
end of the ceremony.
HOLLAND: A canopy of fragrant evergreens meaning everlasting love was where the
bride and groom would sit following their ceremony to receive best wishes and gifts from
their friends.
INDIA: Flowers have always played a very important part in the Indian wedding. A lasting
tradition passed along from generation to generation is that of the brother of the groom
sprinkling flower petals over the heads of the couple following the wedding vows and at the
end of the ceremony.
IRAN: When this country was called Persia, back in the Bible times, the groom would
purchase ten yards of sheeting fabric and wrap it around and around his bride. Just think how
fun it must have been to unwrap her :). Today, of course, the fashionable Iranian bride wears
the traditional wedding gown fashioned in Paris or other European countries.
IRELAND: For a touch of tradition from the lovely green isle, you might well want to
consider their traditional wedding cake, which is a far cry from the sugary delight we call a
wedding cake. Theirs is the true fruit cake well laced with raisins, almonds, cherries, and
spice. In the true Irish spirit the recipe is laden with brandy or bourbon.
ITALY: Sugared almonds have for centuries been tossed by guests at the Italian wedding.
This is called confetti. Today, sugared almonds are a popular favor found bound in netting
and tied with matching ribbon as a treat to your wedding guests.
JAPAN: The bridal couple in Japan takes nine sips of sake, becoming husband and wife after
the first sip. They will set across the table from each other, looking directly into the eyes of
the other, each taking a sip at the same moment, being very careful to set the cup down on the
table at the same exact moment. The purpose of this is to keep one from dying before the
other. The tradition being, that whoevers cup is set on the table last will be the first to die.
MEXICO: The guests at a Mexican wedding have a lovely old custom of forming a circle
around the couple in the shape of a heart. The newlyweds will then dance their first dance
together within this circle of love.
POLAND: The custom of pinning money to the gown of the bride is centuries old in Poland.
It was once done to help the young couple set up housekeeping and gave them money to
begin their new life together. Today, it is more popularly known as the money dance and
money may be pinned on both the bride and groom in payment for dancing with them.
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ROMANIA: Rather than throwing rice at the couple making their get away in Romania, the
guests would throw sweets and nuts at the couple as they made their exit. A far cry from the
oft thrown bird seed of today.
RUSSIA: Wedding guests received small thank you gifts when attending the traditional
Russian wedding of days gone by. Popular items included small pictures, bud vases or other
tiny items. These were in appreciation of their presence and well wishing.
SPAIN: Long ago, in certain regions of Spain, the bride wore a black silk dress and mantilla.
Orange blossoms in her hair was the flower of the day. The groom wore a tucked shirt which
had been hand embroidered by the bride.
SWEDEN: Imaginary trolls, once thought to bring misfortune to the young couple, were kept
away by the bride, as well as her bridesmaids, carrying bouquets of pungent herbs and
stinking weeds. Today, those stinking herbs and weeds have been replaced by the lovely
bouquets carried on the arms of brides throughout the world.
SWITZERLAND: Following the ceremony, a junior bridesmaid would lead the procession
to the reception by passing our colored handkerchiefs to the guests along the way. Each guest
would then in turn give a coin to the bridesmaid for the starting up of the new home.
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Old World Customs and Traditions

The wedding is one of lifes primeval and surprisingly unchanged rites of passage. Nearly all
of the customs we observe today are merely echoes of the past. Everything from the veil,
rice, flowers, and old shoes, to bridesmaids and processionals, at one time, bore a very
specific and vitally significant meaning. Today, although the original substance is often lost,
we incorporate old world customs into our weddings because they are traditional and
ritualistic.
Always keep in mind, that customs we memorialize today, were once brand new ideas, an
obvious truth we often overlook. Although historical accuracy is hard to achieve, because
myths and legends abound and are interspersed with facts, the historical weight attached to
old world wedding customs and traditions are significant. While reading through these pages,
consider ways to use old customs and traditions in your own wedding.
Remember, as you plan for your wedding, to create new family traditions and customs to be
handed down to your children and their children. Just think, maybe someday, your new
custom will become as common and exciting as these presented here.
Why Does the Bride Wear a Veil?

The brides veil and bouquet are of greater antiquity than her white gown. Her veil, which
was yellow in ancient Greece and red in ancient Rome, usually shrouded her from head to
foot, and has since the earliest of times, denoted the subordination of a woman to man. The
thicker the veil, the more traditional the implication of wearing it.
According to tradition, it is considered bad luck for the bride to be seen by the groom before
the ceremony. As a matter of fact, in the old days of marriage by purchase, the couple rarely
saw each other at all, with courtship being of more recent historical emergence.
The lifting of the veil at the end of the ceremony symbolizes male dominance. If the bride
takes the initiative in lifting it, thereby presenting herself to him, she is showing more
independence.
Veils came into vogue in the United States, when Nelly Curtis wore a veil at her wedding to
George Washingtons aid, Major Lawrence Lewis. Major Lewis saw his bride to be standing
behind a filmy curtain and commented to her how beautiful she appeared. She then decided
to veil herself for their ceremony.
Why a Wedding Ring?
The circular shape of the wedding ring has symbolized undying, unending love since the days
of the early Egyptians. A primitive bride wore a ring of hemp or rushes, which had to be
replaced often. Durable iron was used by the Romans to symbolize the permanence of
marriage. Todays favorite is of course, gold, with its lasting qualities of beauty and purity.
Why is the Ring Worn on the Third Finger, Left-hand?
In ancient times, it was believed there was a vein in the third finger of the left hand that ran
directly to the heart. Thus, the ring being placed on that finger denoted the strong connection
of a heartfelt love and commitment to one another. Although during times of modern
autopsy, this long held belief was found not to be so, the tradition continued to this day.
Medieval bridegrooms placed the ring on three of the brides fingers, in turn, to symbolize
God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. The ring then remained on the third
finger and has become the customary ring finger for English-speaking cultures. In some
European countries, the ring is worn on the left hand before marriage, and is moved to the
right hand during the ceremony. However, in most European countries the ring is still worn
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on the brides left hand. A Greek Orthodox bride wears her ring on her left had before
marriage, and moves it to her right hand after the ceremony.
Why an Engagement Ring?
In the early days of Marriage by Purchase, the betrothal ring served a twofold purpose.
This twofold purpose included partial payment for the bride and was a symbol of the grooms
honorable intentions. The diamond was found first in Medieval Italy, and because of its
hardness, was chosen to stand for enduring love. (Also see Engagement Customs)
Giving the Bride Away?
In times when women were granted few privileges and even fewer personal rights, the bride
was literally given away to the groom by the father, usually in exchange for monetary gain.
Today, it is seen as symbolic of the blessings and support of her union as a promise of
continued trust and affection. Often when the question is asked by a clergy during the
ceremony, Who gives this woman to be married to this man, the fathers response is, Her
mother and I.
Why Old Shoes and Rice?
The throwing of rice on the couple has always been symbolic of wishing prosperity and good
luck. In the Orient, throwing rice means, May you always have a full pantry. Wheat and
other grains are sometimes thrown in addition to rice, thereby also wishing prosperity and
lack of want. Each shower bestows Goodwill Traditions of wealth upon the newlyweds.
To this day, rice remains a token of a life of plenty.
Why Carry the Bride Across the Threshold?
During the days of Marriage by Capture, the bride was certainly not going to go peacefully
into the bridegrooms abode; thus, she was dragged or carried across the threshold. In even
earlier times, it was believed that family demons followed the woman and to keep her family
demons from going into the grooms home, she was carried across the threshold upon her
entering for the first time. After that, the demons could not enter as she would come in and
go out of the home.
The Tradition of the Bridal Shower?
Tradition says that the first bridal shower was given to a poor couple in Holland who was
denied the bridal dowry because of the grooms lowly miller status. The millers friends
showered the bride with gifts to help them set up housekeeping. Also see our section on
Pre-Wedding Parties and Events
Why a Wedding Cake?
Beginning in early Roman times, the cake has been a special part of the wedding celebration.
A thin loaf was broken over the brides head at the close of the ceremony to symbolize
fertility. The wheat from which it was made, symbolized fertility and the guests eagerly
picked up the crumbs as good luck charms. During the Middle Ages, it became traditional
for the couple to kiss over a small cluster of cakes. Later, a clever baker decided to amass all
these small cakes together, covering them with frosting. Thus, the modern tiered cake was
born. Also visit our section on Choosing your Wedding Cake.
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Why Something Blue?

Brides of ancient Israel wore blue ribbons on the border of their wedding cloths to denote,
love, modesty and fidelity. These are ideals still associated today with that color. Blue also
denotes the purity of the Virgin Mary and is the most popular of all colors. Also see, Why
the Blue Satin Garter.
Why Does the Bride Carry Flowers?
For centuries, flowers have stood for a variety of emotions and values. Roses for love, lilies
for virtue and so on. In ancient marriages, the brides carried herbs beneath their veils to
symbolize fidelity. Greek brides carried ivy as a symbol of never-ending love. Orange
blossoms, (the world renowned wedding flower) were chosen by the Spaniards to represent
happiness and fulfillment, because the orange tree flowers and bears fruit at the same time.
During even earlier times of primitive marriage, when the fear of demons was most
prevalent, the brides carried stinking garlands of herbs and spices for the purpose of
frightening off evil spirits.
Today, brides carry flowers in the color scheme of their wedding, bringing beauty and
elegance as well as old world customs to their special day. Have you considered spelling out
the name of your groom in the flowers of your bouquets? Be sure to visit our section on
Your Wedding Flowers.
Why Does the Bride Wear White?
The color white has been a symbol of joyous celebration since early Roman times. At the
beginning to the twentieth century, white stood for purity as well. Today, it holds it original
meaning of happiness and joy.
Why a Trousseau?
The word trousseau came from the French word, trousseau, which meant bundle. The
trousseau originated as a bundle of clothing and personal possessions the bride carried with
her to her new home. This was later expanded upon into a generous dowry. Today, the
trousseau includes all of the new items for the household, as well as for the bride herself.
Why a Matchmaker?
For centuries, the matchmaker enjoyed the honored, if occasionally ridiculed position of
ensuring ethnic identity and compatibility. Groups that wanted this assurance regularly
employed the services of a matchmaker, whose commission was a certain percentage of the
dowries. Today, the modern version of the matchmaker is found as easily as turning on your
computer. Computer programs can allegedly match individual backgrounds and traits so
accurately that two people brought together for a date can be assured of common interests
for the very least. In any event, it is only the dating that can be arranged, not marriage. So
matchmaking of a sort has not disappeared; it has merely changed its appearance and
emphasis, as is the case with any custom that expresses enduring human needs. (Also see
Engagement Customs)
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Why the Blue Satin Garter?

Why this Something Blue? In ancient Israel, brides wore a blue ribbon to signify
fidelity. The garter-throwing itself derive from a bawdy ritual called flinging the
stocking. In Britain, the guests would playfully invade the bridal chamber. The ushers
grabbed the brides stockings; the maids; the grooms. They took turns sitting at the foot of
the bed flinging the stockings over the heads of the couple. Whosevers stocking landed on
the brides or the grooms nose would be the next to wed.
Today, many brides will wear two garters. The one she wishes to keep as a memento of her
wedding day, possibly to be displayed on her grooms rear view mirror, and another, to be
retrieved and tossed by the groom to all the young unmarried men attending the event. The
toss garter is likely to be in the color of the wedding, and not as elaborate as the more
decorative garters kept by the bride. Be sure to visit our site of Exquisite Wedding
Accessories.
Why Do the Attendants Dress Alike?
Who hasnt noticed that the maids, ushers, and entire bridal party dress very much like the
bride and groom? It was once common for the bride, her groom and all their friends to walk
together to the church on the morning of the wedding. Afraid that someone, maybe a rejected
suitor, would spot the happy couple and put a curse on them, the grooms friends wore
clothes almost identical to his, and the women costumed themselves like the bride. These
disguises tricked evil wishers into letting the real bride and groom live happily ever after.
Of course, today we dress our attendants alike for the beauty and pageantry of the event.
Why the Honeymoon?
In ancient times, many of the first marriages were by capture, not choice. When early man
felt it was time to take a bride, he would often carry off an unwilling woman to a secret place
where here relatives wouldnt find them. While the moon went through all its phases, (about
30 days) they hid from the searchers and drank a brew made from honey. Hence, we get the
word, honeymoon.
Why a Brides Handkerchief?
Early farmers thought a brides wedding day tears were lucky and brought rains for their
crops. Later, a crying bride meant that shed never shed another tear about her marriage.
Today, we carry a handkerchief to dab away the tears of happiness and joy. How special to
keep your wedding hanky and pass it down from mother to daughter capturing all the love
and emotion of such a special event from one generation to another.
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Engagement Customs and Traditions

Who Was the Matchmaker?
In countries where marriages are arranged, go-betweens play a time honored and respected
role. In China, a matchmaker must determine if astrological signs are compatible. In
Uganda, the brides elder brother and paternal uncle speak to the prospective groom and
barter for the best price to be paid to the family. (Also see Old World Customs and
Traditions.
What Were Love Tokens
What a charming custom the Welsh and Pennsylvania Dutch couples had of giving one
another hand crafted gifts, useful for their future home. Such things as cake molds, butter
prints, carved spoon which were covered with symbols and announcements of their love for
one another.
Todays love tokens could include a song or poem written by the groom to his bride, or a
hand embroidered handkerchief for the groom. Whatever your special craft, whether it be
tole painting, crocheting, wood carving, or any number of other ideas, just remember, the idea
behind the gift is to give something of yourself, created with loving thoughts to the one you
love.
What Was a Betrothal Ring?
The betrothal ring, has for centuries symbolized the promise of a future together, sealed with
the giving and accepting of a ring. The diamond engagement ring as we know it has been
around since 1477, but other rings have been used throughout the centuries to mark
engagements. Rings featuring gem stones were popular in the 18th and 19th centuries.
Often, the first letter of the stones within the setting spelled out the name of the giver or a
word, such as dearest (diamond, emerald, amethyst, ruby, epidote, sapphire, turquoise).
There was also a ring known as the Gimmal Ring. This three part ring had two clasped
hands on it. During the engagement, one part was worn by the bride, one by the groom, and
the third by a witness. It was reunited as the brides wedding ring, on the day of their
marriage. Diamonds are the first choice among brides today for an engagement ring, because
of their beauty and durability.
What Was Flouncing?
Flouncing was a special party held for an engaged couple to meet with friends of both
families. This flouncing established a formal contract. If either changed his mind about
the marriage, the other could lay claim to half of his, or her, property. Following a flouncing,
the couple could no longer be seen with, or be found talking to, other suitors. In China, the
betrothal was looked upon as a family obligation. If an engaged man died before the
wedding, his intended bride was treated as his widow.
What was the Custom of Collecting?
In Finland, the bride-to-be was considered snobbish if she did not go door-to-door to
receive her gifts in a pillowcase. Accompanying her, an elderly married man, carrying an
umbrella (for shelter), came along and was given a drink at each door. Today, an umbrella is
used as a decoration symbolizing protection. This custom can be included very
beautifully in your wedding by having your maids carry parasols to match your wedding
colors.
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What is a Dowry?
When families arranged marriages, they were trying their best to guarantee their offspring a
pleasant and comfortable life. The bride was expected to bring a dowry of money, jewels,
animals, or something of substantial value to the marriage. This substantial value was
provided by the family of the bride and portrayed her perceived worth. On the other hand,
the groom paid a brides price to her family and promised to faithfully support the bride.
Also see, The Origin of the Dowry, Betrothal Ring and Elopement.
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