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W.O.M.E.N.~SV
Directory
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Domestic Viol ence Directory:
Part Three: Educational &
Reference Material s
Women-Of-Means Escape Network,
Silicon Valley
Directory
Ruth Patrick, M.A.
Program Director
W.O.M.E.N. ~ SV
A Los Altos Community Foundation
Non-Profit Program
Phone: 650-996-2200
Email: womensv@losaltoscf.org
Website: www.losaltoscf.org/womensv
DISCLAIMERS
W.O.M.E.N.~SVs Domestic Violence Directory contains samples of the many
resources available, obtained from three main sources:
1)direct contact with WOMEN~SV wherein the providers have demonstrated
integrity, competence, and commitment to advocacy on behalf of survivors of
domestic violence
2) referral by reputable agencies such as Next Door and YWCAs Domestic
Violence Support Network
3) clients who have had positive experiences in working with these providers.
W.O.M.E.N.~SV is not guaranteeing a provider will produce a desired result.
It is best to interview several, ask for references, etc. This list is for
convenience only. Many providers are willing to negotiate fees and offer a
sliding scale, flat fee, or reduced rate if you ask.
If you are a provider with expertise in domestic violence and a track record of
committed advocacy on behalf of domestic violence survivors, particularly
those with affluent abusive partners, you are invited to submit your contact
information and/or colleague(s) for consideration in this directory to:
womensv@losaltoscf.org; subject heading: Provider Referral.
If you have been in a relationship with an affluent abuser, and if you have
been helped by an experienced provider who consistently demonstrated
commitment, competence, and integrity in advocating on your behalf, you are
invited (with their permission) to submit their contact information for
consideration in this directory to: womensv@losaltoscf.org; subject heading:
Client Referral.
W.O.M.E.N.~SVs Domestic Violence Directory is designed to continually
evolve as a result of feedback from clients, providers, and agencies. However,
inclusion in the directory is in no way to be construed as an absolute
endorsement for any of the providers listed. Similarly, the absence of a
particular provider is in no way to be construed as censure. Caveat emptor.
As a client, you might consider asking attorneys, consultants, financial
planners, etc. if 2-3 of their former clients would be willing to speak with you
about their experiences. Try calling at least 3 references in a category, then
choose the one best suited to your needs. These references may lead you to
others. Please note: therapists may not be able to give references due to
confidentiality.
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PART THREE
REFERENCE MATERIALS
HOW TO FILE FOR A RESTRAINING ORDER
SELF-HELP (Not recommended)
http://www.scscourt.org/self_help/restraining/elder_restraining.shtml
TO CHECK ON THE STATUS of your Temporary Restraining Order (ex
parte request):
http://www.sccsuperiorcourt.org/family/exparte/exparte.pdf
HOW TO FILE FOR A DIVORCE
http://www.scscourt.org/self_help/family/divorce.shtml
This page tells you about:
How to file for a divorce
Temporary Orders for child or spousal support, emergency child custody or
visitation, or restraining orders
Mediation and collaborative law
Children and divorce
How to finish your divorce
How to dismiss your case
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Its not your fault. Its against the law.
It affects your health and your children.
Local agencies can offer:
support to decide what to do
legal options
counseling for you and children
a safe place to go in an
emergency
Emergency 911
ask police to take pictures
get name and badge # of ofcer
get police case #
you have a right to be protected,
see below
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Community Solutions (Gilroy/MHill) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-877-363-7238
Next Door Solutions (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 408-279-2962
YWCA Support Network (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-572-2782
Asian/All. . . . . AACI (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 408-975-2739
South Asian . . Maitri (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-888-862-4874
GLBT . . . . . . . CUAV (San Francisco) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 415-333-4357
Men . . . . . . . . Next Door Solutions (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . 408-279-2962
Deaf . . . . . . . . Deaf Hope . . . hotline@deaf-hope.org TTY 510-267-8800
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Childcare, Housing, Employment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 211
Crisis/Stress Hotline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-855-278-4204
Child Abuse/Neglect Hotline . . . . . . . . .408-299-2071 . . . 650-493-1186
Elder or Dependent Adult Abuse/Neglect Hotline . . . . . .1-800-414-2002
Victim Witness Assistance Program . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 408-295-2656
Can repay costs of medical/counseling for you/kids, moving, lost wages
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DV agencies above free general legal information and help with forms
Family Court Clinic free info and legal aid referral . . . 170 Park Ave. SJ
Santa Clara County Bar Assoc. Lawyer Referral Service . . 408-971-6822
Self Help - http://www.scscourt.org/self_help/restraining/ro_help.shtml
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Emergency Protective Restraining Order (EPRO)
You ask police for this at the scene - good for up to 7 days - it can
stop your partner from contacting you/your children, or living at home
Temporary (TRO) or Permanent (DVRO) Restraining Orders
You file papers for TRO at Family Court 170 Park Ave. SJ if TRO is
approved, a long term or permanent RO is possible after a court hearing
Victim Notification System (if the abuser is arrested)
Register to be notified of release on bail . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-464-3568
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National Domestic Violence . 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) [TTY 1-800-787-3224]
National Teen Dating Abuse . . . . . . . 1-866-331-9474 [TTY 1-866-331-8453]
National Sexual Assault . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-656-4673
National Stalking Resource Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . www.ncvc.org/src
National Suicide Hotline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-273-8255
Form 100-1216
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Its not your fault. Its against the law.
It affects your health and your children.
Local agencies can offer:
support to decide what to do
legal options
counseling for you and children
a safe place to go in an
emergency
Emergency 911
ask police to take pictures
get name and badge # of ofcer
get police case #
you have a right to be protected,
see below
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*644<50;@+64,:;0*=063,5*,(.,5*0,:/6;305,:
Community Solutions (Gilroy/MHill) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-877-363-7238
Next Door Solutions (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 408-279-2962
YWCA Support Network (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-572-2782
Asian/All. . . . . AACI (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 408-975-2739
South Asian . . Maitri (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-888-862-4874
GLBT . . . . . . . CUAV (San Francisco) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 415-333-4357
Men . . . . . . . . Next Door Solutions (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . 408-279-2962
Deaf . . . . . . . . Deaf Hope . . . hotline@deaf-hope.org TTY 510-267-8800
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Childcare, Housing, Employment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 211
Crisis/Stress Hotline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-855-278-4204
Child Abuse/Neglect Hotline . . . . . . . . .408-299-2071 . . . 650-493-1186
Elder or Dependent Adult Abuse/Neglect Hotline . . . . . .1-800-414-2002
Victim Witness Assistance Program . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 408-295-2656
Can repay costs of medical/counseling for you/kids, moving, lost wages
3,.(3/,37
DV agencies above free general legal information and help with forms
Family Court Clinic free info and legal aid referral . . . 170 Park Ave. SJ
Santa Clara County Bar Assoc. Lawyer Referral Service . . 408-971-6822
Self Help - http://www.scscourt.org/self_help/restraining/ro_help.shtml
796;,*;065
Emergency Protective Restraining Order (EPRO)
You ask police for this at the scene - good for up to 7 days - it can
stop your partner from contacting you/your children, or living at home
Temporary (TRO) or Permanent (DVRO) Restraining Orders
You file papers for TRO at Family Court 170 Park Ave. SJ if TRO is
approved, a long term or permanent RO is possible after a court hearing
Victim Notification System (if the abuser is arrested)
Register to be notified of release on bail . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-464-3568
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National Domestic Violence . 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) [TTY 1-800-787-3224]
National Teen Dating Abuse . . . . . . . 1-866-331-9474 [TTY 1-866-331-8453]
National Sexual Assault . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-656-4673
National Stalking Resource Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . www.ncvc.org/src
National Suicide Hotline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-273-8255
Form 100-1216
0::64,65,/<9;05.@6<&
Its not your fault. Its against the law.
It affects your health and your children.
Local agencies can offer:
support to decide what to do
legal options
counseling for you and children
a safe place to go in an
emergency
Emergency 911
ask police to take pictures
get name and badge # of ofcer
get police case #
you have a right to be protected,
see below
:(5;(*3(9(*6<5;@
*644<50;@+64,:;0*=063,5*,(.,5*0,:/6;305,:
Community Solutions (Gilroy/MHill) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-877-363-7238
Next Door Solutions (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 408-279-2962
YWCA Support Network (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-572-2782
Asian/All. . . . . AACI (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 408-975-2739
South Asian . . Maitri (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-888-862-4874
GLBT . . . . . . . CUAV (San Francisco) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 415-333-4357
Men . . . . . . . . Next Door Solutions (San Jose) . . . . . . . . . 408-279-2962
Deaf . . . . . . . . Deaf Hope . . . hotline@deaf-hope.org TTY 510-267-8800
6;/,9*644<50;@:,9=0*,:/6;305,:
Childcare, Housing, Employment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 211
Crisis/Stress Hotline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-855-278-4204
Child Abuse/Neglect Hotline . . . . . . . . .408-299-2071 . . . 650-493-1186
Elder or Dependent Adult Abuse/Neglect Hotline . . . . . .1-800-414-2002
Victim Witness Assistance Program . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 408-295-2656
Can repay costs of medical/counseling for you/kids, moving, lost wages
3,.(3/,37
DV agencies above free general legal information and help with forms
Family Court Clinic free info and legal aid referral . . . 170 Park Ave. SJ
Santa Clara County Bar Assoc. Lawyer Referral Service . . 408-971-6822
Self Help - http://www.scscourt.org/self_help/restraining/ro_help.shtml
796;,*;065
Emergency Protective Restraining Order (EPRO)
You ask police for this at the scene - good for up to 7 days - it can
stop your partner from contacting you/your children, or living at home
Temporary (TRO) or Permanent (DVRO) Restraining Orders
You file papers for TRO at Family Court 170 Park Ave. SJ if TRO is
approved, a long term or permanent RO is possible after a court hearing
Victim Notification System (if the abuser is arrested)
Register to be notified of release on bail . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-464-3568
5(;065(39,:6<9*,:(5+/6;305,:
National Domestic Violence . 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) [TTY 1-800-787-3224]
National Teen Dating Abuse . . . . . . . 1-866-331-9474 [TTY 1-866-331-8453]
National Sexual Assault . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-656-4673
National Stalking Resource Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . www.ncvc.org/src
National Suicide Hotline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1-800-273-8255
Form 100-1216
Domestic Violence Council
Hotline Tip Sheet--1
Everyones plan might be different.
You know what works best for you. Here are some options.
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Plan now where you can go if you dont feel safe.
If any of the following are true, your situation may be more dangerous.
Has the violence been getting worse, more often, or scarier lately?
Has your partner ever choked you, or hurt you when you were
pregnant?
Has your partner ever injured pets or someone outside the home?
Does your partner have an alcohol or drug abuse problem?
Is there a gun in the house?
Are the children in danger?
Does your partner know you are planning to leave?
Has your partner threatened to kill you/him/herself?
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Increase safety at home
try to remove yourself and children before violence begins
you can ask police to remove a gun from your home
in an argument avoid rooms with no exits or possible weapons
avoid wearing scarves and long necklaces at home
put a phone in a room you can lock, and plan an escape route
tell someone choose a signal with neighbors to call police
Increase safety for your children
teach them to call 911 and know their address and phone number
make a code word for them to call 911
plan and practice an escape route and a safe place to go
teach them not to get in the middle of a fight
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Pack a bag and hide it, or give it to someone you trust
clothes, jewelry, money
cash, change for pay phones, credit & ATM cards
checkbook, bank account #s, pay stub
keys (house, car, office, safety deposit box)
phone, phone calling card, phone/address book
medications, glasses, toiletries, diapers, pictures, keepsakes,
toys, books
Make copies (if safe) or take important papers
birth certificates/passports/soc. sec./immigration/work permits
drivers license/picture ID/marriage/divorce/custody papers
titles/deeds/car registration/car and other insurance
lease/rental papers/rent receipts
health insurance cards/important medical records
school records/immunization (shot) records
evidence of abuse: journal/photos/police or medical reports/ROs
photos of abuser to give to school, office security, etc.
Santa Clara County DV Council 2012 download at dvc.sccgov.org
Leaving is a time of high risk for injury or death
Before you leave, call a hotline for advice on your plan
You can ask police to protect you when you leave
DONT TELL YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU GO
www.thehotline.org www.womenslaw.org
Everyones plan might be different.
You know what works best for you. Here are some options.
/6>:(-,(9,@6<&
Plan now where you can go if you dont feel safe.
If any of the following are true, your situation may be more dangerous.
Has the violence been getting worse, more often, or scarier lately?
Has your partner ever choked you, or hurt you when you were
pregnant?
Has your partner ever injured pets or someone outside the home?
Does your partner have an alcohol or drug abuse problem?
Is there a gun in the house?
Are the children in danger?
Does your partner know you are planning to leave?
Has your partner threatened to kill you/him/herself?
0-@6<:;(@
Increase safety at home
try to remove yourself and children before violence begins
you can ask police to remove a gun from your home
in an argument avoid rooms with no exits or possible weapons
avoid wearing scarves and long necklaces at home
put a phone in a room you can lock, and plan an escape route
tell someone choose a signal with neighbors to call police
Increase safety for your children
teach them to call 911 and know their address and phone number
make a code word for them to call 911
plan and practice an escape route and a safe place to go
teach them not to get in the middle of a fight
0-@6<+,*0+,;63,(=,
Pack a bag and hide it, or give it to someone you trust
clothes, jewelry, money
cash, change for pay phones, credit & ATM cards
checkbook, bank account #s, pay stub
keys (house, car, office, safety deposit box)
phone, phone calling card, phone/address book
medications, glasses, toiletries, diapers, pictures, keepsakes,
toys, books
Make copies (if safe) or take important papers
birth certificates/passports/soc. sec./immigration/work permits
drivers license/picture ID/marriage/divorce/custody papers
titles/deeds/car registration/car and other insurance
lease/rental papers/rent receipts
health insurance cards/important medical records
school records/immunization (shot) records
evidence of abuse: journal/photos/police or medical reports/ROs
photos of abuser to give to school, office security, etc.
Santa Clara County DV Council 2012 download at dvc.sccgov.org
Leaving is a time of high risk for injury or death
Before you leave, call a hotline for advice on your plan
You can ask police to protect you when you leave
DONT TELL YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU GO
www.thehotline.org www.womenslaw.org
Everyones plan might be different.
You know what works best for you. Here are some options.
/6>:(-,(9,@6<&
Plan now where you can go if you dont feel safe.
If any of the following are true, your situation may be more dangerous.
Has the violence been getting worse, more often, or scarier lately?
Has your partner ever choked you, or hurt you when you were
pregnant?
Has your partner ever injured pets or someone outside the home?
Does your partner have an alcohol or drug abuse problem?
Is there a gun in the house?
Are the children in danger?
Does your partner know you are planning to leave?
Has your partner threatened to kill you/him/herself?
0-@6<:;(@
Increase safety at home
try to remove yourself and children before violence begins
you can ask police to remove a gun from your home
in an argument avoid rooms with no exits or possible weapons
avoid wearing scarves and long necklaces at home
put a phone in a room you can lock, and plan an escape route
tell someone choose a signal with neighbors to call police
Increase safety for your children
teach them to call 911 and know their address and phone number
make a code word for them to call 911
plan and practice an escape route and a safe place to go
teach them not to get in the middle of a fight
0-@6<+,*0+,;63,(=,
Pack a bag and hide it, or give it to someone you trust
clothes, jewelry, money
cash, change for pay phones, credit & ATM cards
checkbook, bank account #s, pay stub
keys (house, car, office, safety deposit box)
phone, phone calling card, phone/address book
medications, glasses, toiletries, diapers, pictures, keepsakes,
toys, books
Make copies (if safe) or take important papers
birth certificates/passports/soc. sec./immigration/work permits
drivers license/picture ID/marriage/divorce/custody papers
titles/deeds/car registration/car and other insurance
lease/rental papers/rent receipts
health insurance cards/important medical records
school records/immunization (shot) records
evidence of abuse: journal/photos/police or medical reports/ROs
photos of abuser to give to school, office security, etc.
Santa Clara County DV Council 2012 download at dvc.sccgov.org
Leaving is a time of high risk for injury or death
Before you leave, call a hotline for advice on your plan
You can ask police to protect you when you leave
DONT TELL YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU GO
www.thehotline.org www.womenslaw.org
Domestic Violence Council
Hotline Tip Sheet--2
National Sexual Violence Resource Center - Visit NSVRC.org.
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence - This non-profit
organization provides crisis intervention, information, and referral to
victims of domestic violence, perpetrators, friends and families. Visit
NCADV.org.
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Books
Adults - General
The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans
Surviving Domestic Violence: Voices of Women Who Broke Free by
Elaine Weiss
Not To People Like Us by Susan Weitzman
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
by Lundy Bancroft
Coercive Control by Evan Stark
The Domestic Violence Sourcebook by Dawn Berry
Family and Friends' Guide to Domestic Violence: How to Listen. Talk...
by Weiss
It's My Life Now: Starting Over After... by Dugan and Hock
Women Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence by Jocelyn Anderson
No Visible Wounds: Identifying Non-Physical Abuse... by Mary Miller
Family Interventions in Domestic Violence by Hamel & Nicholls
Controlling People by Patricia Evans
Hectic at Home: Teens Write About... by Youth Communication
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engel
Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence by Philip W. Cook
Defending Our Lives: Getting Away From Domestic Violence... by
Murphy-Milano
Rape in Marriage by Diana E.H. Russell
I Will Survive: the African-American Guide to Healing... by Robinson &
Boyd
If I Am Missing or Dead: A Sister's Story... by Janine Latus (true story)
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Articles
Batterered Women Face Pit Bulls and Cobras
http://www.nytimes.com/specials/women/warchive/980317_1928.html
Chart of differences between Pit Bulls and Cobras
http://www.focusministries1.org/brochures/CobrasandPitBulls.pdf
Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
http://www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com/
Care Kit for Women in Upscale Abusive Relationships
http://www.theweitzmancenter.org/docs/carekitforweb.pdf
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Equality Wheel
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Nurturing Children Wheel
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Equality Wheel for Teens
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Judicial Responses That Empower Battered Women Wheel
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Community Faith Leaders Wheel
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Community Accountability Wheel
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Successful Collaboration Wheel
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