Your Self-Identification by Gator Ash The only person in charge of your Identity and the ways that you

identify yourse lf is you, no one else. Even if other people attempt to frame your Identity acco rding to their ideas about you, it is still only you who has the final word on y our self-image. Think of it this way. Your Identity/Self-Identifications is simply a mental "con struct" and isn t a "real" thing. It may feel real enough, but can you go to Wal-Mar t and buy a new identity or go see a medical specialist for an Identity transpla nt? Obviously not. So be sure to identify yourself in ways that serve you well and enhance your lif e. When updating/editing your Identity it may help to adopt new identifications tha t are process oriented. For example the Self-Identification of "I am horrible wi th women" could be updated to "I am becoming better with women because I m improving my hygiene, getting great information from the internet, improving my self-imag e, etc." Another example would be taking the Self-Identification of "I m a Loser" and change that to "I am capable of taking control of my life" or "I am slowly improving in all the major areas of my life and will be a winner in the near future." The reason I would advise against updating your Identity/Self-Identification wit h the exact opposite of the old, unresourceful way of identifying yourself is th at there may be a higher frame of reference (concept, belief, thought, etc.) tha t says "bull!" when you suddenly identify yourself as a Winner, Great with Women , etc. Here are some questions to ask yourself to "loosen up" those old unresourceful w ays of identifying yourself. By the way, you use the sentence stem "I am..." to elicit your Identity/Self-Identifications. Ask yourself these questions about the negative Self-Identification: 1. Does this way of identifying myself really serve me well, enhance my lif e, and make me a more resourceful person? 2. Do I really like this 3. What will happen if I continue identifying myself in this way for the re st of my life? What won t happen? Do I like that? 4. Who chose this way of identifying myself? Was it me or someone else (par ents, teachers, society)? Do I really want to run around with someone else s percept ion of me in my head? Here are some questions to help solidify a new way of identifying yourself: 1. Do I like this way of identifying myself? 2. Will this way of identifying myself help me to be more resourceful, empo wered, joyful, etc? 3. Will this way of identifying myself bring me closer to my goals? How wil l it do that? Would I like that? 4. How much do I like the fact that I am consciously and deliberately takin g control of my Identity, Self-Image and the ways that I identify myself? Could this lead to me taking control of my thinking and possibly eliminating any negat ive, unresourceful thought, attitude or belief from my mental-emotional space? C ould this lead to me taking absolute control of my life? Would I like that? Repeat this process several times a day over the next few days and see what happ ens. Come up with additional questions to ask yourself if you like. Even if you think this is total garbage, at least you will be doing something o ther than feeling sorry for yourself. Thanks for reading and God Bless.