Listen to episode 51 of the Inspirational Living podcast: The Psychology of Love & Marriage. Adapted from The Mental Highway by Thomas Parker Boyd.
Educational Podcast Excerpt: The truth is, we are never in love with a man or woman. We love a perfect ideal, and someone who more or less fills that ideal, steps into the picture and furnishes an objective upon which love may express itself. Such an objective may move into the picture at anytime, and he or she may move out at anytime, because they no longer fill the picture, while another who more perfectly fills the ideal takes the place.
This may seem to make love a fickle and undependable thing. However, its fickleness is not in the love, nor in the lover, but in the objective that has failed to fill the ideal, which has failed to grow and more perfectly express the perfect spiritual reality in objective form. The glamour of love is likely to be dimmed the moment that the humdrum of life renders the relationship commonplace.
A common idea after the marriage ceremony is: "Now I have my mate, I don’t need to work at making myself any better and more appealing." That thought is the death knell of love, and the first step toward the divorce court.