DELIBERATE LIVING

COBIS 2-3 November 2012 Head Boys and Girls Sylvia Brett Roedean School Deputy Head

WHAT WILL YOU BE DOING IN 20 YEARS?

NANO MEDIC

VERTICAL FARMER

SPACE TOUR GUIDE

ALTERNATIVE VEHICLE DEVELOPER

OLD AGE CONSULTANT

BODY PART MAKER

FASTFUTURE REPORT 2010

survey attracted 486 responses from 58 countries on 6 continents possible new careers emerging from advances in science and technology (2010 2030) you may have 7-10 careers in your lifetime others:

Quarantine Enforcer Climate Change Reversal Specialist Personal Brander Weather Modification Police

WHY DELIBERATE LIVING?

Choice Uncertainty World completely different economically, demographically, technologically You need:

Confidence Self knowledge Emotional Intelligence Resilience Health and wellbeing

Deliberate choices about how to live your life

I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear; nor did I wish to practise resignation, unless it was quite necessary. I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life.

Henry David Thoreau, Walden (1854)

Extract from Chapter 2, Where I Lived, and what I lived for

BEING CONFIDENT

DO YOU BITE OFF MORE THAN YOU CAN CHEW?

STEPS

Confidence comes gradually

Step by step

Recognise and build on your successes

Practise

Teamwork

SMALL STEPS

List you can never complete/ 10 mile run every day Never feel you have achieved anything/ failure

Irritable/ angry/ negative about self

Deny self satisfaction or self confidence of knowing you are in control and you can trust self Dont let PERFECTIONISM destroy you! Stack the odds in your favour

HARD WORK

Nelson Mandela we each took turns leading training sessions in order to develop leadership, initiative and self confidence

SELF KNOWLEDGE

SUBCONSCIOUS MESSAGES Subconscious messages are incredibly powerful The subconscious is a storeroom full of past experiences out of reach of our every day mind The subconscious

absorbs things around us that our conscious cant take in stores feelings and hopes that we may not be aware of tells us when we are overdoing things

PRIMING

A group of notoriously impatient young people were tricked into queuing patiently by being asked to complete a wordsearch beforehand which had words like polite, courteous and patient

OVERDOING THINGS

Digestive or stomach problems Sleep disturbances bad dreams sleepwalking Skin complaints Hair loss Long term voice loss Asthma Nausea Frequent colds Unexplained pain could be your subconscious telling us to stop! or you could be ill

SELF HANDICAPPING

Rather than fail at something we think we cannot achieve we sabotage our attempts subconsciously:
Party the night before a big performance Study half an hour before a test

Or because our subconscious is telling us something:

We are taking the wrong direction in life We are travelling at a self damaging pace We are keeping bad company

CARING FOR YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS

Plenty of sleep Exercise at least 3 times a week for 45 minutes Listen to your body Talk to those who know you and may know your subconscious better than you

LIVING DELIBERATELY

LIVING DELIBERATELY
Being confident enough to make choices Know yourself what you value what you want to achieve Choose where your life goes dont let your life be chosen for you or happen to you Dont give in to pressure know who your real friends are Do what you believe to be right Take time to reflect Enjoy what you are doing now dont always wish for tomorrow Ask for help when you need it

FRIENDS

central to living deliberately is the ability to learn from the strengths of our friends and to care for ourselves in the way our friends care for us

FRIENDSHIP

I shed a tear today silently, I felt it fall you caught it, shared it, held it felt it, then suddenly, it wasn't that big after all.
Shakirah Gulzar

WHO ARE YOUR REAL FRIENDS?

COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

Psychology professors, Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough asked one group of research participants to keep a journal of the things for which they were thankful each day; the other group wrote about neutral subjects or their daily worries 10 weeks later the blessing counters exercised more, reported fewer illnesses, were more optimistic and felt better about their lives in general; they were more likely to offer help to others whilst having more enthusiasm, determination and energy for their own goals.

TRY IT
Each night list three good things that have happened that day This does not deny the challenges or sadnesses It fills your reserves and gives you strength

WELLBEING

Self knowledge

Self confidence

Wellbeing
Deliberate Living Emotional intelligence

Resilience
Sylvia Brett, Roedean School, Deputy Head Roedean School 6th form Programme Professor Nick Bayliss, University of Cambridge & Wellington College

Sylvia Brett, Roedean School, Deputy Head, Roedean School 6th form Programme, Professor Nick Bayliss, University of Cambridge, & Wellington College