Free Sex Phenomena in Indonesia

By: herdian putri rahayu

What is free sex?

Free sex is a relationship between a girl and a boy who did sexual contact without marriage (Sofyan, 2000:25).

Is Free sex one of morality problems in Indonesia?

60 percent of teens in Indonesia have premarietal sex

Data based on (Kenakalan Remaja Sebagai Prilaku Menyimpang, 2004:95) sample : teens in Padang city
Read porn books 33,3 % Saw porn pictures 16,7% Watched porn movie 23,3% Drunk 16,7% Sex before marriage 80% Abortion 72,3%

Nb: 1 person can do more than one.

FACTORS
Internal factor - from their personal self and their desire to do something that they want without coercion from others
External factors - because of the influence of environmental and getting wrong in their social life. (ex: friends, technologies development, entertainment, influence of western culture, etc)

The most impacted to free sex behaviors for teens nowadays are external factors.

Technologies
Young generation should really gets special attention, due to the technological development, it can indirectly lead to free sex behaviors among the teens, such as the access of porn sites on the internet and there will be a desire to try the scene.

Western Culture Influence

Our culture known because its cultural values that have strong religious , but now it 's all been gradually disappear due to the influence of foreign cultures for example in terms of dress. Doing sex activity is the general things to do for westerns, even it is ok to have homosexual couple. Totally different to Indonesia culture, which are always appreciate about manners, morality, and respectful.

Parrenting
- Conflict w/ their parrents - Parrents didnt do early sex education - Parrents are too busy w/ their own job

Friends
Friends might forcing them to try something new.

IMPACT
Pshycological disturbance Pregnancy before marriage Abortion Venereal disease AIDS

HOW TO PREVENT?
Giving early sex education Parrents must pay attention for their children Giving conseling in school about impact of free sex Controlling their social life without make them feel controlled

Early sex education

Toddler ( 1-5 years ) - introducing of their sex organ - tell them that they mustnt show their sex organ to people -if theres someone try to touch it, scream loudly and report to parrents -no need to give detail information because toddlers attention time is usually short

 Age 3-10 years - they will asking about sex - the question like where do i come from? or where are the babies come from? -answer them with simple and straightforward answer is usually effective

 Age by Teens - its time to explain about menstruation, wet dreams, and also physical changes that happen to a teenager. - explain about change of their breast shape and existance hair in some of their body.

 Age Teens -Give an explanation of the impact of free sex and emotional consequences. -no need to be taboo to talk about sex in familly, because teenagers need to get right information from their parrents not others.

THANK YOU

foreigners
Western culture Sains book 12yo Pontianak and the solution What will we do to support them to not doing the free sex again.