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Passive do not confront problems & people, dislike rocking the boat Aggressive ignores other peoples feelings, open & direct, not good at taking criticism Assertive able to state views/opinions w/o upsetting others, win-win situation, proactive
Assertive Self-enhancing
Expressive
Others choose Choose for self Uncertain, anxious, Confident, feels depreciates self good about self Does not achieve desired goal(s) May achieve desired goal(s)
Aggressive Self-enhancing at expense of others Over-expressive Choose for others Depreciates others
Achieves desired goal(s) at expense of others
You simply Maintain self accept criticism esteem if criticism is true and defuse critics anger
Negative Inquiry
Critic: I think youre really selfish. You: Hhmm, can you give examples of how and when Ive acted selfishly?
Critic: Im really disappointed at your performance in this project. You: Oh, can you tell me what Ive done to disappoint you?
Technique?
Try and anticipate their attack and plan ways to allow them to save face.
To allow a person to save face you must find something to agree with in their argument against your idea.
Last note
In most situations we have the choice to be passive, assertive, or aggressive.