us to the them Grounding principle What God has joined together , no human being must separate. (Mt. 19:6) Man and woman are no longer two but one. Oneness of personal love, love of God and procreation and education of children. Marriage is a union of spouses and children in the love of God. A union that demands Fidelity. A union that is for a Life-time. Fruitfulness of Marriage Children are gift of married love. Children enrich marriage by their presence Children contribute to the family By their very presence, By their love, By their activities, By their care and attention when their parents are already old. Fruitfulness of Marriage Marriage and conjugal love are by their nature ordained toward the begetting and educating of children. Children are really the supreme gift of marriage and contribute very substantially to the welfare of their parents.
Fruitfulness of Marriage "Parents proper mission transmitting human life educating those to whom it has been transmitted. They are cooperators with the love of God the Creator, and are, so to speak, the interpreters of that love" (Gaudium et Spes, 50). Planning for family Parents own welfare the welfare of the children being planned for of those already in the family. Consider the following: Material conditions Interest of the family group Spiritual conditions of the times 1. Material conditions the immediate and long term financial situation of the parents and family. Could we afford to give what is due to the children? Good living conditions, health, education, etc. The dignity of every child is of the utmost importance. 2. Interest of the family group how and in what way the family can help the rearing of children. how best the family can help in the human development and education of children. We are born into a family and we must live within it also. 3. Spiritual condition of the times refer to the ability to link spiritual growth to physical and psychological development. Integration of religious belief into the everyday activities of the home. Education of children in the real and true Christian-Catholic values.
Life is a gift to be shared, and the Christian couple are called to be generous in the service of life according to their circumstances. What method? "When there is a question of harmonizing conjugal love with the responsible transmission of life, the moral aspect of any procedure does not depend solely on sincere intentions or on an evaluation of motives. It must be determined by objective standards. These, based on the nature of the human person and his acts, preserve the full sense of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love.
(Gaudium et Spes, 51) The practice of NFP helps 1. Improve communication and relationship, 2. the absence of feelings of being used, 3. development of non-genital courtship, 4. peace of conscience, and 5. no fear of the dangerous effects of some unnatural methods, and 6. strengthen character which are necessary for marital fidelity and life-long marriage. To pill or not to pill Artificial Method Rule of the thumb In view of some existing goods weightier than the openness to the possibility of transmission of life, the couples option to use appropriate means to plan their family is justified. Situations that could lead to the openness to other possibilities 1. The assurance of the present childrens education which may now cost more money than before. 2. The promotion of better conditions for the familys greater growth of love and intimacy. 3. The welfare of the community being served by the couples who need more precious time.
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