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Friendship, Love,
and Intimacy
Chapter Outline
The Need for Intimacy
Gender and Intimacy: Men and Women as Friends
and Lovers
Showing Love: Affection and Sexuality
But What is This Crazy Little Thing Called Love?
How Love Develops: Spinning Wheels and Winding
Clocks
Importance of Love
The Transformation of Love: From Passion to
Intimacy
True or False?
True
True or False?
False
Love styles are linked to gender and ethnicity.
Different styles tend to characterize Asians,
African Americans, Latinos, and Caucasians.
Asian Americans have a more pragmatic style
of love than do Latinos, African Americans, or
Caucasians, and they place a high value on
affection, trust, and friendship.
Latinos often score higher on the ludic
characteristics.
Intimacy
Companionate Marriage
Marriage wherein spouses are each others
best friends, confidants, and romantic
partners.
Selecting a spouse on the basis of romantic
love may lead to a greater tendency to
idealize the partner, display affection toward
the partner, and to attach more importance to
sexual intimacy.
Trust
Caring
Honesty
Friendship
Respect
Concern for the
others well-being
Loyalty
Commitment
Acceptance of the
other
Supportiveness
Wanting to be with
the other
Interest in the other
Central Attributes of
Commitment
Loyalty
Responsibility
Living up to your
word
Faithfulness
Trust
Being there for the
other in good and
bad times
Devotion
Reliability
Giving your best
effort
Supportiveness
Perseverance
Concern about the
others well-being
Behavioral Expressions of
Love
Verbally expressions of affection, such as
saying I love you
Revealing intimate personal facts
Offering emotional and moral support in times
of need and showing respect for the others
opinion
Expressing nonverbal feelings such as
happiness, contentment, and security when
the other is present
Behavioral Expressions of
Love
Providing gifts or small favors or doing more
than the others share of something
Physically expressing love, such as by
hugging, kissing, and making love
Tolerating and accepting the others
idiosyncrasies, peculiar routines, or annoying
habits
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6.
Similarities Between
Attachment and Love
Attachment
Love
Lovers share
experiences and goods
and give gifts.
Similarities Between
Attachment and Love
Attachment
Love
Important Factors in
Commitment
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2.
3.
Intimacy
Stalking
Love obsessional stalking (erotomania) is
based on delusions in which the stalker
believes they are involved in relationships
with their victims.
Simple obsessional stalking, where real
relationships exist or existed between stalker
and victim.
It is used to punish the person who ended
the relationship or to try to force him or her
back into the relationship.
Jealousy
Occurs because of a partners real, imagined,
or likely involvement with a third person.
Most likely in committed relationships
because of the presumed specialness of the
relationship.
Fear of loss, coupled with insecurity,
increases the likelihood of jealousy.