Couples for Christ

HOUSEHOLD LEADERS TRAINING

Talk No. 11:

CORRECTION
A PASTORAL TOOL

Being corrected is something we

experience from childhood to old age.
We are corrected by family, friends,
Clergy, coaches, bosses, teachers,
etc Sometimes we accept these
corrections but at other times we dont
want to hear them. Have you ever
wondered why you didnt want to hear
or accept a correction from someone
even though it would benefit you for the
better?

CORRECTION:
the act of offering an
improvement to replace a
mistake
punishment intended to reform,
improve or rehabilitate

Worldly Sense of
Correction

As a Christian,
we correct to
One try to
try to help
undermine
each other and
someone else
were fueled by
which is
Love and
fueled by
Christ.
pride, anger,
and/or hate. Christian Sense of
Correction

INTRODUCTION
All scripture is inspired by God and
is useful for teaching, for refutation,
for correction, and for training in
righteousness so that one who
belongs to God may be competent,
equipped for every good work
2 Tim 3:16-17

The experience in
most cultures,
however, is
RESISTANCE of
people to
correction
at the bottom of it is FEAR

Experience of being laughed at

Correction is
because of our
associated with
mistakes(sometimes get
embarrassed in front of other
rejection
Societys expectation:
people
We are evaluated in terms of what
we know and have achieved.

Secular societys expectation of self reliance

It
painful
to
have
our failuresof
or
and
independence
leadswhy
toishesitation
in afraid
Some
reasons
we
are
pointed out
accepting somebodys opinion shortcomings
or judgement
correction.
over us especially in case of weaknesses
and failures being pointed out

Some reasons why we are afraid of

giving corrections.
Thesolution:
solution:
The
solution:
The
The
solution:
Jesus
meant
that
should
condemn
others
One
key
to overcoming
the
fear
of correcting
We
are
afraid
thatwe
if we
try not
to
correct
someone

What do we do?
Misunderstanding
We
are aware
of
of
Matthew
7:1,
Inadvertently
bought
We
do not
know
Laziness
and
The
fear
intonot
theour
tolerant,
sin
in
own
Do
judge
so
whether
or
not
we
procrastination
relative
morality of our
do it not
lives
thatshould
you
will
factor
culture.
be judged

We
think
love means
ItSome
ismistakenly
always
more
ofinthat
a resolved
hassle
toascorrect
thanwithout
tothe
problems
get
weaccepting
pray
for
minor
things
their
lives
while
we
ignore
those
in
sin
or
error
is
to
recognize
what
God
says
else, hesin
(or
she)
point
the finger
back at
us,
person,
and
all,will
with
nonot
moral
about
let
it go.
Always!
It
takes
effort
to
arrange
aout
saying
anything.
And,
all judgments
matters
warrant
major
sins
in
our
own
lives.
First
take
the
log
in
the
Holy
Bible,
if you
know
Christ,
you
and
we
know
thatthat
were
guilty
as
charged.
Soare
we
his
behavior.
But,
Gods
Word
gives
us absolute
time
to get
together.
It
is
stressful
to
about
correction.
Were
all
imperfect
and
intalk
process.
God
of
your
eye
and
then
you
can
help
your
brother
the
bond-servant.
As such,
He will
hold
you
do Lords
not bring
up the
other
persons
sin If
in hopes
standards
for
right
and
wrong
behavior.
seeat
such
matters.
You
risk
a not
backlash
from we
the
Himself
isspeck
patient
with
us,
confronting
us
all
with
the
in
his
eye.
accountable
for
being
faithful
to
Him.
You
need
to
that
he
will
not
bring
up
our
sin!
But,
Scripture
someone
violating
biblical
standards,
is heading
other
person.
we
arewecommanded
to we
once for
every But,
area
where
fall he
short.
So,
fear
Godcliff.
more
than
youwith
fear any
people
and
recognize
commands
us
tousdeal
known
sin
in our
for
the
Let
that
Love
requires
pursue
love,
and
that
always
requires
effort
and for
wonder
whether
aremember
particular
matter
calls
that
to Pauls
His command
to here
love on
others
lives.obedience
Thats why
instruction
the
attempting
risk
correction,toorcorrect.
whether we should just bear with
requires
themfollows
if you his
see exhortation
them heading
ministry correcting
of correction
on
the person. It requires waiting on the Lord and
for
the a
cliff.
being
cleansed vessel. We do not have to be
applying biblical wisdom to know when its right to
perfect to practice this ministry (or it would never
correct or when to remain silent.
get done), but we do have to judge our own sins..

We hide our faults. We cover up

We argue when corrected

How should we
regard
correction?

The Context of
Correction:
CHRISTIAN PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP
In CFC we have
a committed
relationship.
Correction is not
a sign of
lifelessness and
legalism in a

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We
often
don't
SCRIPTURE SAYS WE ARE FOOLISH TO REJECT
see all the
At the heart of scriptural
appreciation of correction is things in our
Prov
a hatred of sin, and
a12:1, 15 lives which
realization of human
need to
fallibility (Ps 141:5.)
change.

CORRECTION

(Ps 19:1213)

With God's help, we must overcome our

dislike for correction.

Don't expect to be always corrected nicely

Response to correction for

something we have done wrong
requires repentance, asking
forgiveness and change.
But correction for something done poorly requires only a
resolve to do it better next time.

What are the concrete

What are the

practical
aspects of
correction?

How to correct?
Correction should be simple and straightforward

When giving correction, expect your brother to

repent (or resolve to do better).

Give correction in a way that will help a person to

change.

In Case of Disagreements

In
When
case
Butaif
there
person
it involves
is fails
still no
to
accept
something
apparent
correction,
remedy
seriously
the
or
two
resolu
wrong,
par
tion,
ties
the
one
concerned
rule
of in
the
should
parties
Matthew
ask
may
18:15
a have
mature
17
to
practice
Christian
should forbear
be
toapplied.
mediate.
ance.

CORRECTION WORKS DIFFERENTLY IN A

VARIETY OF PASTORAL SITUATIONS
Where we don't have a pastoral responsibility for
a person
The pastoral
(i.e., not
nature
a member
of a relationship
of our household;
may allow
or
If theWhere
person
wewe
have
are pastoral
correcting
responsibility
is in authority
for over
inthe
case
leader
of a Unit
to probe
Head,
more
not deeply
a member
intoof
the
hislives
unit),
of
someone
us
we still have a people
responsibility
in his charge.
of love and care for
our brethren in CFC.
becomesrespectfully,
We should Correction
give our correction
Correction
In serious
many
pastoral
leaving one
the of
final
judgment
about any
here is
cases, talk to
toolsup
totohelp
person
This is true ofchange
training
relationships,
such
as parents with
the aother
person.
offered in a
his household
inwith
relationship
children, or a pastoral grow
leader
a man who has placed himself
spirit of
head or Unit
with
Lord
under personal headship
in the
order
to and
be formed in character and
helpfulness.
Head
other
people..
service (this is not
normally
the case in CFC).

STRATEGY for LEARNING

CORRECTION

Look to our own behaviour and

attitudes
Overcome fears about giving
correction
Learn to handle anger
Be willing to learn

Correction is a very important pastoral

tool.
For the spiritual life and direction of every
Christian..
For the life of our community, for the sake
of our mission in CFC.

Correction is something done out

of love for the other person. We
need to take it seriously as one
very important aspect of loving
our neighbour.

Conclusion

Brothers and sisters, As the Lords servants, in love

we must wisely correct those in sin and serious
doctrinal error We are the Lords bond-servant and
there is a need to be obedient in this ministry because
someday we will answer to Him for whether or not we
loved the people that He brought into our life. We cannot
truly love someone and let him head toward a spiritual cliff
without warning him. Do correct himDo it! Gently correct
those you know that are in sin or error. Do it wisely. Do it
in love. Do it in accordance with Gods Word. Do it
prayerfully, being aware of spiritual warfare. But do it! Do it
because you love God more than anything and you love
your brother or sister as you love yourself. Thats what it
takes for us Christians to truly love God. To be loyal and
faithful servant for GOD!

Thank you and GOD Evening!

Bible Verse
2 Tim 3:16-17

"Ang

tibuok nga Kasulatan

gisulat pinaagi sa gahom sa Dios, ug
mapuslanon kini sa pagtudlo sa kamatuoran,
sa pagbadlong, sa pagtul-id sa sayop, ug sa
pagtudlo sa matarong nga pagkinabuhi, 17
aron nga ang tawo nga nag-alagad sa Dios
maandam sa pagbuhat sa tanang maayong
buhat

Bible Verse
Proverbs 12:1
loves

"Whoever

knowledge,

correction is stupid.

but

loves discipline
whoever
hates

Proverbs 12:15 The way of fools seems right

to them, but the wise listen to advice.

Bible Verse

Ps. 141:5
141:5 Let a righteous man strike methat is a kindness;

let him rebuke methat is oil on my head. My head will not

refuse it, for my prayer will still be against the deeds of
evildoers.
Itugot nga ang matarung modaug kanako, kini maoy
usa ka kalooy; Ug ipabadlong niya ako, kini maoy ingon sa
lana nga anaa sa ibabaw sa ulo; Ayaw pagpadumilia ang
akong ulo niini: Kay bisan pa sa ilang pagkadautan, ang
akong pag-ampo magapadayon

Bible Verse
Ps 19:12-13.
But who can discern their own errors? Forgive my
hidden faults.13 Keep your servant also from willful
sins;may they not rule over me.Then I will be
blameless,innocent of great transgression.
12. Walay tawo nga makakita sa kaugalingon niyang
sayop. Luwasa intawon ako O, Ginoo sa mga kasaypanan
nga wala ko hibaoi!
13. Ilikay usab ako sa mga sala nga tinuyuan, ug ayaw
itugot nga maulipon ako niini. Sa ingon mahingpit ako ug
makalikay sa makalilisang nga sala

Bible Verse
Mt. 18:15-17 15 If your brother or sister[b] sins,[c
] go and point out their fault, just between the two of
you. If they listen to you, you have won them
over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two
others along, so that every matter may be
established by the testimony of two or three
witnesses.[d] 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to
the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the
church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax
collector..