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Kiss that frog

Tracy asks, What is the frog in your life

that you need to kiss before you can
achieve all that is possible for you? What
are the negative experiences in your life
that you need to embrace, deal with, and
use to transform yourself into the amazing
person you are capable of becoming?

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I am Brian Tracy
I am christina his daughter

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Brian Tracy

A professional speaker, trainer, consultant

based in California
Brian learned lessons the hard way He left
school without graduating , worked as labourer
and became salesman and rose to CEO of a
$276 m development co.
His books, audio programmes, video seminars,
webinars translated into 38 languages and
used in 58 countries.
Author of more than 50 books and Kiss that
frog is the latest.
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Christina Tracy Stein

Graduated in Psychology from University of
Southern California
Master in Clinical Psychology
With her passion for facilitating personal
growth Christina focuses on helping
individuals discover their strengths and
accomplish goals leading to inspiring life.
She has a private practice.

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The authors explore topics such as

confronters versus evaders, gunny sackers,
worry busters, starving negative thoughts
and refilling with positive ideas, anger as the
core of all negative emotions, blame and fear
of rejection. This book is just packed cover to
cover with revealing messages about
emotions, feelings, unhappiness, happiness
and success.

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Stein, who is a psychotherapist in private

practice, provides a medical look at why
some people are depressed and unhappy
and others are the exact opposite. In the
end, it all boils down to taking action now.
The last few pages of the book provides a
summary of ideas that should provoke
action.

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The authors end the book with Action is

everything! Resolve today to put these ideas to
work, to kiss your frogs, to face unpleasant
situations in your life, and to become a
completely, positive, happy, healthy person.

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Kiss that frog- contents

7 truths about you

Imagine your handsome prince
Look your frog in the face
Clear the Pond of ugly frogs
Drain the swamp
Change the water in your pond
Look for the beauty in frogs
Leap forward confidently
Kiss your ugly frogs good-bye
Expect the best of your frog
Let go the painful frogs
Seven keys to a positive personality
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The frog and the Princess

A handsome prince
was turned to a ugly
frog by a witch and
the curse could be
broken only when
kissed by a princess.
What is frog in you
needs to be kissed
before you get all
that you want.

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7 truths about you

Natural state is to be happy (sat Chit ananda)

If you are unhappy something is not right in your
thoughts, feelings or actions and needs to be
corrected.
You are thoroughly good and excellent person.
You are important (the broken pot story?)
You have unlimited potential atma
You create your world
You are free to choose your thoughts(garden)
You are put in this world with a great destiny
There are no limits
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7 truths about you

As Shakespeare wrote in The Tempest
whats past is prologue
Everything happened to you in the past has
been a preparation for the wonderful life
that lies ahead of you in the future.

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Michelangelos David
In the gallery of the Academy in Florence, Italy,
stands the David, by Michelangelo, considered to
be the most beautiful piece of sculpture in the
world.
He said I saw the David in the block of marble
at the very beginning. My sole job from then was
to remove everything that was not the David, until
only perfection was left.
You may be like the David imprisoned in the
marble. Your job is to Kiss that frog and find the
positive elements Identify the negative or self
limiting beliefs.

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Now do this

Identify the negative or self-limiting beliefs

that might be holding back. Then ask
yourself what if they werent true?

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Imagine your Handsome

Prince
The magic wand exercise. Idealise blue
skythinking.
Decide upon the goal, that if you could
achieve it within 24 hours, would have
positive impact on your life
Resolve to take one action immediately to
begin creating your ideal life

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Now do this
Start dream big - a perfect life
Imagine you have a magic wand to wave
over your career, family and relationship,
health and fitness, and financial situation
how would you make these perfect
Practice blue sky thinking no limits
Decide whats ideal
Decide your ideal future
Resolve to take one action immediately

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Look your frog in the Face

Confronter & evader
Be realistic (lower your expectations)
Deal with reality (acceptance of the
situation)
Stop over reacting to set backs. Separate
facts from problems = fact is
unchangeable ; problems are changeable
Past and Future facts are in past; problem
in future.

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Look your frog in the Face

A rained out Picnic 5 years ago
The Gunnysacker carrying the negative
feelings and showing to others, because it
protects them taking new decisions
Analyse the situation
Use Worry Buster- define worry clearly;
determine the worst possible outcome;
accept the worst; Begin to improve upon
the worst immediately.

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Now do this
Ask
What exactly happened
How did it happen
What can be done
What actions will we take now
See whether there is a process changes in
your experience of the situation

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Clear the pond of ugly

frogs
The main obstacle negative emotions
See the positives in negatives
Control of mind choose to be positive
In Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Golman speaks
of emotional snow balling feed the positive
thoughts and starve the negatives
Thought feeling-decision- action.
Law of substitution interpretation style- reinterpret
choose the correct words otherwise it evokes
wrong feelings.
Find out that negative area like the small part in
Brians car.

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Now do this
Identify one area where you might still be
harbouring anger at a person from your
past.
Resolve today that you are going to
reinterpret that experience into a positive
way, learn to let it go.

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Drain the Swamp

Emotions distort Evaluations - The abnormal
behaviour of some during their emotionally
stressed situations / times are eg.
The Roots of Negative Emotions: The roots
must be recognised to get rid of them Five
major factors cause people to create
negative emotions- Justification,
identification, hypersensitivity,
judgementalism, and ration alisation.

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Drain the Swamp

Justification: defend negativity
you may talk to yourself while driving
arguing vehemently with people who are
not there you can choose to hold on to the
issue or let it go.
identification with yourself take things
personally. A 1000 people swept away in far
off China would not hurt you and you
develop no negativity.
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Drain the Swamp

Hypersensitivity- people who are brought
up under extreme criticism develop
inferiority and inadequacy. A slight
disapproval will crush them and a word of
appreciation make them hyperactive. (third
cause of negativism)
judgementalism: When you judge others,
you bring negativity in yourself. Free
yourself from this. Let this attitude go

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Drain the Swamp

Rationalisation: (it is rational lies)
Even the worst criminal feels they are
innocent and victims of circumstances.
Anger : The Core Negative emotion.- All
unhappy people are angry. Depression is
inwardly directed anger caused by inability
to expresss ones felings about a situation
openly and honestly.Rage is outwardly
directed anger.

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Drain the Swamp

The roots of anger: The primary reason for

anger is feeling attacked, hurt or taken
advantage of by another person. Both anger
and fear trigger the fight or flight response.
(The fastest way to calm the angry person is to
empathy.)
The Centrality of Blame: It is impossible to
hold any negative emotion unless you can
blame someone or something that you are
angry about.- The antidote is to accept
responsibility
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Drain the Swamp

Three Magic words Iam responsible

Find reasons Not to express negative emotions
You can control your responses- you make
yourself happy or unhappy by the way you
react to an unhappy experience
Get over it.
Two fires burning (emotional desire & negative
emotions burn the desire and the other dies
out) stop the negative by three magic words.

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Now do this
Write down the names of all the people
whom you are still angry with. Next to their
names what they did that causes you to feel
justified in your anger. Now list the reasons
they are not to blame and decide to let
them leave the swamp.
Burn this piece of paper ceremoniously.

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Change the water in your

Pond
A reason for everything
Programming
New habit pattern of thought
power of positive affirmations
you believe what you see- visualise

Prepare before the event

The most powerful word for success is ask

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Now do this
Think of an upcoming event where you feel
apprehensive or fearful of the outcome.
Create a positive affirmation on it.

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Look for the Beauty in

frogs

Have a happy childhood

Never complain
Great power- you will not learn until the lesson hurts;
The great power sends you lessons to learn; learn
from each problems;
When it is darkest, men will see stars
Change your vocabulary
Seek and you will find
Suffering and pain learn from sufferings
Resistance and Acceptance- accept that a new change
in you
No regrets, no blaming avoid if only
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Look for the Beauty in

frogs
Think of the future
Gain or loss
Accept the loss as a sunk cost

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Leap forward confidently

Destructive criticism and lack of love in
childhood 2 major sources of unhappiness
and dysfunction in adulthood
Fear of loss and criticism
Fully functional person contentment

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Kiss your ugly frogs good

bye
Feeling of guilt
Unlearn the feeling of guilt
Avoid victim language- criticising and
complaining are the forms of victim
language
Refuse to criticise yourself ; refuse to
criticise others; refuse to use guilt on other
people; refuse to be manipulated by guilt

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Expect the best of your

frog

Developing personality
Some people are perpetually unhappy
because life was not fair to them. This leads
to resentment, envy two negative emotions
Envy the deadly sin
Admiration vs envy
Always want for others what you want for
yourself
Resolve never to envy who is successful
than you are
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Let go of those painful

frogs
Forgiveness
Brain has success mechanism and failure
mechanism- failure mechanism works
automatically when there is no positive
thoughts.
Green buttons and Red buttons
Forgive Parents, Intimates, Others,
Yourself

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7 keys for positive

personality
Positive self talk I am responsible, Ill do it
Positive visualisation:
Positive people Avoid negative people
Positive mental food inspirational books
Positive training formal education will
make you a living, self education will make
you a fortune
Positive health habits
Positive expectations

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Action is everything

Resolve today to
kiss your frogs, to
face unpleasant
situations, and to
become a
completely positive
happy, healthy
person

1.identify the frogs

2. Realise that you
are a good person
3.decide to
confront any
negative situation
4.identify causes
repeat iam
responsible.

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Action is everything

Refuse to criticise
Accept yourself repeat I like myself
Decide exactly what you want in life talk of
it all the time to get rid of negative thoughts
Free from the guilt feeling
Look for good in every problem
Seek valuable less in setbacks
Treat every person to make him most
important
Practice 7 keys to become purely positive
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Turning Tragedy into Triumph

Zig

Ziglar

For

many generations before this century the standard

procedure for developing skilled craftsmen was for the father
to teach the sons his trade. The skills necessary for the craft
were passed from one generation to another. Many years ago
a shoe-maker was teaching his nine-year-old son his craft to
prepare him for life. One day while working, an awl fell from
the shoe-makers table and tragically put out the eye of his
nine-year-old son. Without the medical knowledge and
expertise of today, the son ended up losing not only that eye,
but the other one as well.

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Turning Tragedy into Triumph

His

father put him in a special school for the sightless. At

that time the blind were taught to read by using large, carved
wooden blocks. They were clumsy, awkward to handle and
required a considerable amount of time to learn. The shoemakers son, however, was not content only to learn to read
himself. He knew there must be an easier, better way. Over
the years, he devised a new reading system for the blind by
punching dots into paper. To accomplish his objective, the
shoe-makers son used the same awl that had blinded him.

His name was Louis Braille.

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Turning Tragedy into Triumph

The

old saying is still true:

Its

not what happens to you; its how you handle what

happens to you that count. I love what President Reagan said
about his first term in office: Since I came to the White House
I got two hearing aids, a colon operation, skin cancer, a
prostate operation and I was shot. He paused. Ive never
felt better in my life. I believe you will agree that attitude
will propel you farther than bemoaning unfortunate incidents
in your life. Give it a try.
Take the advice of Helen Keller, who said, If the outlook is
not good, try the uplook. Its always good. If you do, I will
see you at the top!
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