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Breohn Anderson
Anger Value
Anger is a valuable signal, because it lets
us know when something is wrong or a
when there is a problem, It does not solve
the problem. Things that happen
We want something and are not getting it
From past experience, we expect trouble
We have feelings of powerlessness
Sad Feelings
Etc.
3 Options
confronting Anger
1. You can choose to react angrily or not
2. You can become aware of what you are
feeling.
3. You can be aware of the intensity of
your anger, if you are in control of your
anger, it controls you.
Causes Of Anger
Anger is caused by external events
called provocations, which create angry
thoughts, angers arousal, and angry
actions.
6 Major Causes
Dependency Relationships ,Resentment
Grief, Victim Mentality
Abusive Relationship, Low Self-Esteem
Ten steps to
Control Anger
1. Make a list of things that make you mad, and
memorize it.
2. Talk about your feelings, let people know when
something is bothering you.
3. When you feel angry, do something with the energy.
Slowly breathe in and out ten times. On the exhale,
spread your fingers.
4. When you feel the urge to strike out at at someone,
raise your shoulders, as you breathe in deeply;
rapidly lower your shoulders as you exhale. Notice
your jaw muscles, shoulders, chest, and torso
muscles.
Ten Steps
7.Notice if you feel like yelling, screaming,
or hitting. Before you act on your
anger, think of why you are angry. Is
your angry feelings legitimate, or did
you create a situation to justify your
need to be angry.
8.Talk your way through your anger. Tell
yourself you can change from being a
reactor of your emotions to being a
processor. Notice your thoughts,
change negative thoughts to positive.
9.Change the image you have of yourself
Myths
That all anger is unhealthy or
destructive
That anger is an all-or-nothing
phenomenon
If you dont let your anger out, it builds
and explodes out
That angry people yell and scream a lot
That anger management means keeping
your mouth shut.
Facts
Not all anger is unhealthy or Destructive
Sometimes Anger is Justified
Facts Cont.
Not all angry people yell or scream
Many people keep their anger to
themselves or show it in their behavior
Definition of
Anger
Anger
Noun- A strong feeling of
displeasure and belligerence
aroused by a wrong; wrath; ire.
Verb- To arouse anger or wrath in
Personal
Relations
I think Anger Management has helped
me since 6th grade where I was mostly
angry and a lot of people perceived as
an angry kid
I think the main reason I was angry
because I felt lonely and even though I I
had a lot of friends I was still lonely so
that brought my anger and sometimes I
would do something that would damage
me
5 Good Ways of
Anger
Anger Protects
Anger SignalsAnger rules
Anger Talks
Anger Teaches
Passive Aggressive
Anger
Meaning : People showing their anger
indirectly so they dont have to admit
their mad.
Displaced Anger
Meaning: People often doing things
unconsciously
Anger in
relationships/
Triggers
Your partner doesnt call when he says
he will
Your partner ignore your phone calls or
text messages
You see your partner talking to another
girl or boy
You catch your partner in about where
they have been
Jealousy
The biggest source of anger in
relationships
Its a mixture of insecurity, fear, and
anger
HATE
Is the feeling of extreme dislike and
anger toward someone
Hate is the angriest thing you can say
to someone
HATE is when you are unwilling to let go
of that anger
That built up hate and anger can cause
you to stress and and physically harm
yourself
Signs of anger
turning into Hate
You often think about the person
youre angry at
You burn inside when someone even
mentions the persons name
You feel a need to tell other how you
were hiurt, wanting them to feel your
anger too
You start seeing yourself as completely
innocent and the other person as totally
at fault, instead of admitting your role
in the problem
What leads to
anger in
friendships
Gossip
Keeping secrets
Competitiveness
Teasing and name calling
Balancing Time between Friends and
Dating Partners
Being Able to
handle anger in
friends
Be clear on what you expect from
friends
Dont let your anger build up
Disorders and
Anger
ADHD- you get angry quickly without
thinking about how you express
Your anger doesnt last very long, and
you may regret your action later
School is likely frustrating for you and
contribute stress and anger poblems
Sources
www.selfgrowth .com
www.angermgmt.com