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Terms

Character / Personality Ethic

Maturity Continuum
Upward Spiral of Growth
Inside-Out Process
Habit
Private Victories
Public Victories
P/PC Balance
Social Mirror
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Deterministic Paradigms
Who Am I?
Genetic
Psychic
Environmental

Genetic Paradigm
You are as you are because it
was biologically set by parents,
grandparents, ancestors.

Psychic Paradigm
Your parents determine
how/who
you are.

Environmental Paradigm
People & situations around you
determine what you are.
Someone or something in your
environment is responsible for
who you are.
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Genetic, psychic & environmental

paradigms may be seen as maps
indicating that we are conditioned to
react in a certain way to stimulus.
Stimulus
Response
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We look at a world that is largely a

result of our internal programming.

What we see is therefore what we

subconsciously expect to see.
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You have control over three things:

what you think, what you say, and how
you behave. To make a change in your
life, you must recognize these gifts are
the most powerful tools you possess in
shaping the form of your life.
Sonya Friedman
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Habit 1 Be Proactive

Habit of Personal Vision

We are responsible for our own lives

Behavior is a function of our

decisions,
not conditions
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Self-Awareness
The capacity to stand apart from
ourselves and examine our thinking,
motives, history and scripts

Self-awareness sets us apart from

the animal kingdom.
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Proactivity

The power to choose our own responses

Proactive choices are based on our values,

not our feelings

Focusing on creating results

Absence of judgment and blame

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Proactivity

We accept responsibility for who we

are, what we have, and what we do.

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Conditions that Support

Proactivity

Identification of values things that you

stand for
Consciously and consistently use those
values to guide your choices within your
Circle of Influence
Avoid looking at other peoples responses
as a way of evaluating yourself.
Live from imagination rather than
memory

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Language

Reactive

Proactive

Weakness of Others
Blaming
Victimization
If Only Statements
I cant / I must
Theres nothing I can do
Thats just the way I am

Positive
Enlarging /
Magnifying
I can be
Using inside-out
paradigm
I can choose a
different approach
I prefer / I will

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Transition Person
We do not have to pass on
the negativism we receive.

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Circle of Concern
Those things that we cannot affect at
all
Circle
Of
Circle
Concern
of

Influence

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Circle of Influence

Habits 1, 2, 3
Things we
influence directly
by our choices
Habits 4, 5, 6
Things we can
affect indirectly
by our influence

Things
We Can
Influence

Directly
By
Our Choices

Establishing
Inner
Integrity

Must Make
& Keep
Commitments

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Four Tools

Self-Awareness: I can stand apart from myself

and observe my thoughts and actions.

Conscience: I can listen to my inner voice to

know right from wrong.

Imagination: I can envision new possibilities.

Willpower/Choice: I have the power to choose.

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