Achieving Your Life Goal

Tools & Techniques

 20 minutes

Your Challenges
Please list the top 3 challenges that
you face or will face in your immediate
future
What is your strategy to overcome
them?

Because only Overcomers are rewarded

Others become statistics

 The Winning Attitude
Because the mind is where it starts
 Move from
Entitlement
to
Contribution
 Window of Opportunity
In the life of every man and woman comes a
time when they have a unique opportunity to
make an impact and influence others.
To succeed we need to anticipate, prepare
and act with courage when it opens

Once the window closes, your life is over

Even if you remain alive

Master or Victim
Stances of Success
 The Essential Truth
Living life is about making choices:
Choosing to be a Victim
Or choosing to be a Master

Both stances are subject to the same givens

of society, environment, organization etc.

But have very different implications in terms

of your development and happiness
 The Price of Success
Success always has a price.
Most people dont succeed because
they are not ready to pay that price
Because
1. They have not defined success
2. They have not chosen to pay its price

Whats the price of your success?

 Ask Yourself
What is your definition of success?
What investment will you need to make?
Are you ready to make the investment?

Focus on the expected gains

4, Drivers of Failure
And their solutions
 1. Complacency
Good enough, never is
Create the phantom competitor
Create Big Scary Goals

It is the nature of the extraordinary goal

to inspire extraordinary effort

2. Aiming low
Satisfaction is directly proportional to the
degree of difficulty in reaching the goal.
Nobody rises to low expectations
Compare with your own potential, not with
others who may make you look good

Nobody knows the best that they can do

Losers compare
with others.
Winners are too
busy beating
their own goals
 3. Excuses and blaming
Stop blaming others for your situation
Analyze what went wrong and create a plan to
avoid it in the future.
Being objective, even hard, on yourself is the
best way to avoid repeating mistakes.

What mistake will you not repeat?

 Excuses dont
change failure to
success
 4. Worship of the Self
Sloth, laziness, unwilling to take hardship,
seeking instant gratification, seeking
pleasure & avoiding the pain of learning
The surest sign of emotional maturity is to
move from like to right.
The highest form of pleasure is to give

We are our own worst enemies

 Please reflect

Which long term goal

are you sacrificing for
short term pleasure?

Believe me, a day will come

when you will regret it

So what to do?
Tools for self development
 Planning
Specific
Measurable
Achievable
Result Focused
Time Bound

Plan but be flexible

 Performance
Focus on performing your current job and deliver
more than expected.
Develop a reputation for delivering results beyond
expectations
It is okay to talk about career development but
secondary to how you perform your current job.
The one who contributes most is heard first

Only results build credibility

 Expertise
Get recognition as an expert in your area. Then
look for opportunities to apply your expertise in a
broader context.
Learn the language of finance. It is the language
of business.
Be prepared to accept the more 'problematic' and
inconvenient job and to offer to help others.

Trust = Expertise + Willingness to help

 Ownership
Track your career and make your
own development plan
Like a professional athlete, make a
habit of constant self improvement
Never whine. Ask how you can change
things. Others can give advice but only
you can implement it
 Challenges & Visibility
Take the hard job. Err on the side of the
bigger challenge. Play offence with your career.
But be brave, not stupid
Seek out assignments with visibility, but
recognize that it cuts both ways
Be sensible. If you fail, you will not be
rewarded for trying. Ensure a 70% chance to win

Leadership = Visibility + Credibility

 Mentors & Role Models
Seek feedback. Dont be defensive. Be
thankful.
Listen carefully. Take notes. Take your own
decisions
Treat the relationship seriously.

The one who is afraid of feedback

Is afraid of development
 Build a network of
supporters
Dont judge people of other cultures by your
standards and value systems
Be willing to share information and
talk about your own culture so others
learn
Ask questions but with sensitivity to
local manners

Be willing to learn and help

 Success is where

Opportunity

meets

Preparedness.

Ambivalence Passion
Managing Time
 What is your Lifes Goal?
Today is your last working day and you are retiring.
There is a farewell party for you and a friend of
yours is giving a speech about you and your
achievements

What would you like to hear in that speech?

How do you want to be remembered?

 Techniques for Life Goal
Imagine someone is delivering your eulogy or
farewell speech on your retirement day. What would
you like to hear?
Imagine your picture on the cover of your favorite
magazine. Write a caption for it.
Think of those things in your past which gave you
the most pleasure. Recall the incidents in as much
detail as possible. What did you do? What happened?
Why did you enjoy it? This will point you in the
direction of your life goal
Time Log
Time Activity
5.30
6.00
6.30
7.00
7.30
8.00
8.30

Record what you do every half hour for the whole day
 Effective Time
Actual Time Maintenance Time
= Available Time

Available time used in Life Goal

= Effective Time (E T)

Is this enough to achieve your Life Goal?

 Maximize Effective Time
1. Prioritize: Effort versus Impact

2. Delegate: Urgent versus Important

3. Learn to say the magic word: No.

Productivity is directly proportional to ET

 20% of what you do, produces 80% of the results

Waste Hard Work

INVESTMENT

Do if you have
Leverage
to

IMPACT
 The 3 x 3 rule
1. Everyday make a list of 3 activities you need to do
in order of priority according to impact.
2. Then start on the 1st and continue until you finish
it. If you are interrupted, go back to it and
complete it. Then go on to the next.
3. If any are left over, re-write the list the next day
in the same way.
 Urgent but not Urgent and

Important Important
URGENT

Neither Urgent Important but

nor Important not Urgent

IMPORTANT
 The magic word No!
Develop Assertiveness:

Self expression through which one

stands up for ones rights without
violating the rights of others.
 How to say No!
1. Develop a reputation for being goal
focused
2. Never drop-in on anyone without notice
3. Never Forward chain emails. Delete the
ones you receive, unread. And tell
everyone that you do this.

Make punctuality an obsession

 Who is smart?
You or your phone?
https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/20
17/04/27/well/family/27well_phone.html

What is your score and what do

you intend to do about it?

Smart phones and stupid people recipe for disaster

 Friends
Remind you of the Hereafter
You learn something new every time
You can confidently introduce them to
your parents

Your cant afford those

that dont fit this model

 In the Final Analysis
1. Remember it is not about Time at all.

2. It is about Life.

Your Life
Force Field Analysis
Problem Solving tool
 What to do?
Strengthen positive forces (Enablers)
Remove negative forces (Inhibitors)

Removing negative forces is more

important than strengthening positive
forces because there is an internal
push towards good in all of us
 Exercise

Goals Enablers Inhibitors

 Locus of Control
Concept of Internal Control Development of a New
Scale
Hanna Levenson, American Psychological Association,
1982
Questionnaire by : Prof. Udai Pareek, IIMA
 Disclaimer
Psychometric instruments are not an
assessment of you but your own
assessment of yourself
Scores indicate trends and are not exact
Scoring depends on frame of mind
They are meant to begin exploration,
not conclude

Validate scores with your own real-life data

 Scoring
Internal
> or = 33 VERY HIGH
32 29 HIGH TRUST IN SELF
28 22 LOW TRUST
21 18 VERY LOW CONFIDENCE
< or = 17
External Others
DYSFUNCTIONAL DEPENDENCE
> or = 30
REALISTIC DEPENDENCE
29 21
INDEPENDENCE
20 17
REBELLION
< 17
External Chance POSSIBLE PROBLEMS IN
< 10 COPING
 What is Locus of
Control?

Where is the control point of your success?

 Internal Locus ofCautions
Control
1.
Strengths
1. High confidence in
self and ability to
influence others,
career, relationships,
happiness, fulfillment
2. Belief that you can 2.
control yourself,
others and situations
Any strength maximized, is a weakness
Need to control,
others feel trampled,
low empowering,
listening, empathy,
low need to
collaborate or help
others
If failure: Blaming,
guilt, self-punishment,
unrealistic drop in
confidence
 I (Internal Locus of
Control)
A score of 28 to 18 indicates that
the individual lacks such self-trust
and needs to examine his or her
strengths by using feedback from
others.
A low score (17 or less) in this area
represents little self-confidence
and could hinder a person from
utilizing his or her potential.
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 External Locus of Control
Strengths
1. High willingness to Cautions
follow, obey orders, 1. Helplessness, confusion,
loyalty, good team frustration when needs
player, realistic not met because
dependence leadership takes you for
2. Works in a stable granted, playing politics
environment where 2. Unrealistic dependence,
rules are known & high stress, low
leadership lines are empowerment, blame
clear game
Take back your remote
 EO (External Others)
A score of 29 to 21 reflects a
realistic dependence on
supervisors, peers, and
subordinates.

A score of 20 to 17 shows an
independence orientation and a
score below 17 indicates counter
dependence or rebellion.
 Managing Externality
Do
1. They are not you, Dont
so they need 1. Treat them like
more strokes than you would like to
you be treated
2. Be aware of what 2. Take them for
you say and do it granted
thoughtfully

They can become highly productive

 External Chance
1. Believe that what
1. Be cautious
happens is
controlled by non- 2. Ask questions
human forces luck, respectfully
stars, fate 3. Dont argue or try to
2. Often a copout push your beliefs
strategy 4. Help them to see
3. Cultural, religious how they can
beliefs influence their
success stars
favor the brave

Cross-cultural sensitivity is critical

 Home work
Reflect on the implications of your
score on the achievement of your
vision.
What changes, if any do you
believe you need to make in order
to succeed?
What are the implications of your
current scores on personal stress,
frustration, energy and the ability
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 Going forward
Some of the attributes that got you
to this point in your success will
continue to be assets in your role
as a business leader
Some will have to change

What can you leverage?

What must you change?

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 3 questions for
today
Where are you today?
Where do you want to be
tomorrow?
How are you going to get there?

Success is directly proportional to clarity

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 Goal Setting
Where do you want to go?
How do you know if you are headed right?
 Being & Doing Goals
Being Goal
I want to be the head of the organization.
Doing Goal
I want to create and share a vision that will take
this company to the Fortune 100 list.

To do you dont have to be

Unless you do you will never be

 SMART Goals
Specific
Measurable
Actionable
Realistic
Time bound
 Gaining Commitment
What is the goal?
Write it down clearly
Why should it be done?
Understand how it impacts globally
Whats in it for me?
Understand its significance for yourself
 Roadmap & Beyond
How do I know that I am on track?
Create a Roadmap with Milestones
By when should it be done?
Set time frames for completion
Celebrate small successes

If you want to know what someone values,

see what they measure. ~ Mikel Harry, 6 Sigma

 Skill Practice Pairs
Using the learnings from this module
please set one goal for yourself
In pairs please see if the statements
satisfy the SMART format

20 minutes
 Action Plan
What do you need to start doing?
Start

Stop
What do you need to stop doing?

What do you need to continue?

Continue
 Watch Yourself Others
do!!
Watch your thoughts, they become words,
Watch your words, they become actions,
Watch your actions, they become habits,
Watch your habits, they become character,

Watch your character

for it becomes your destiny

People remember us not
by what we consumed

But by what we
contributed
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