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Thriving Teens
Rachel Kitson, Ph.D.
Marvin Ridge High School 9.26.17
The world is passing through troubled times. The
young people of today think of nothing but
themselves. They have no reverence for parents or
old age. They are impatient and lack all restraint.
They talk as if they know everything, and what passes
for wisdom with us is foolishness with them. As for the
girls, they are forward, immodest, and unladylike in
speech, behavior, and dress.
The world is passing through troubled times. The
young people of today think of nothing but
themselves. They have no reverence for parents or
old age. They are impatient and lack all restraint.
They talk as if they know everything, and what passes
for wisdom with us is foolishness with them. As for the
girls, they are forward, immodest, and unladylike in
speech, behavior, and dress.
- Peter the Hermit, 1074 A.D.
Your Teens Generation
Generation Z
Born between the years of 1996-2010
What Theyre Known For
Cynics- overall happy and well-adjusted but
more realistic than idealistic. jaded by the
world they are inheriting (terrorism and
recession).
Procrastination Stress
Comparison
Eating Disorders/Body Dysmorphia
Out of balance relationships
Drugs/Alcohol/Risky Behaviors
Withdrawing
Acting Out
Self-Harm
Healthy Coping
Getting support
Having Boundaries
Avoiding comparison
Taking time to reflect
Enjoy things for the
sake of it
Volunteer, Give Back
Spending time with
someone younger or
older
Mindfulness
Live a life in
accordance to values
Promoting Healthy
Teens
Adolescents with a good sense of self, self-
esteem (how you feel about yourself), and
self-image (how you see yourself) are more
likely to be well adjusted adults. How to
foster this in your teen?
Be curious about your teens perspective (not
what they do, but how they feel about the
world, relationships, current events, etc.)
Touch on affective aspects of life, dont focus
on performance and outcomes, describe the
process and feelings associated with it
Avoid interrogation or checklist questions
Do check in about adaptive aspects: diet,
exercise, sleep, promote seeing the
connections between these things and mood
and performance
Staying Involved and
Connected
Open ended questions promote reflection
Schedule times to talk
Are you reactive or reflective? Encourage
reflection, allow them to process
information; allow your teen to set the
pace and tone
Technology has its limits: what does it
enhance, what does it inhibit?
See stress and anxiety as learning and
growth opportunities, dont always have to
rescue, but be present; its okay to feel the
weight of these things from time to time
Promoting a solid sense of self, grounds
them and allows them to make decisions
with internal conviction
Implementing Parenting
Skills
Discuss the notion of respect
Monitor passive aggressive and
nonverbal communication
Employ problem solving skills:
identify the problem accurately,
don't assign blame hastily, own your
emotions, value your teen
Reinforcement > Punishment
Let teens make choices, show
respect for their struggle
Avoid judging your teens choices
Avoid mixed or unclear messages
Develop a family mission statement
For every negative thing said it
takes ~5 positive things to repair the
damage
Validating your Teen
Doesnt mean you
agree
Doesnt mean they
should keep doing it
Isnt an endorsement
Isnt offering help,
advice, or that you can
relate (yet)
Just listen and reflect
that you hear them
Opens the door to next
steps and discussion
Self Care
Take care of yourself as a
parent of a teen
Model healthy self-care
Have conversations about
respect and maintaining
healthy relationships
Limit your own social
media and technology use,
be aware of how you
speak about other people
and interact
Its okay to ask for help or
not know all the answers
Questions?
Dr. Rachel Kitson
rkitson@southeastpsych.com