Personal Strategies

for Improving Human Relations

Improving Interpersonal Relations with
Constructive Self-Disclosure
Dosen : Deny Irawan Derajat, SE, M.Si
Improving Interpersonal Relations
with Constructive Self-Disclosure
Constructive self-disclosure improves
relationships and teamwork
Benefits gained from self-disclosure
Elements of the Johari Window model
Criteria for appropriate self-disclosure
Barriers to constructive self-disclosure
Applying knowledge and practicing
constructive self-disclosure

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Self-Disclosure: An Introduction
Relationships grow stronger when people
reveal themselves and experiences
Lack of self-disclosure weakens the
communication process
Self-disclosure can lead to more open and
supportive environments
Self-disclosure can be an apology or
forgiveness

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Self-Disclosure Defined
The process of letting another person
know what you think, feel, or want
Revealing private, personal information
that can not be acquired somewhere else
Usually involves some degree of risk
Can improve communication, resolve
conflict and strengthen relationships

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Self-Description Defined
Self-description involves disclosure of
nonthreatening information
Age
favorite food
where you went to school
Information that can usually be acquired in
some other way
Differs from self-disclosure

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Total Person Insight
Its great when employees can read the subtle
nuances of your behavior and figure out exactly
what you require of them. But lets face it: Most
people arent mind readers. Even if theyre
smart, they may be oblivious to whats important
to youunless you spell it out for them.

Albert J. Bernstein and Sydney Craft Rozen

Authors, Sacred Bull: The Inner Obstacles that Hold You Back
at Work and How to Overcome Them

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Four Benefits of Self-Disclosure

Increased accuracy in communication

Reduction of stress
Increased self-awareness
Stronger relationships

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Increased Accuracy in
Communication
People cannot read minds
Takes the guess work out of the
process
Reporting both facts and feelings
improves accuracy

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Reduction of Stress
Emphasis on privacy and concealment
of feelings creates stress
Sharing inner thoughts and feelings
usually reduces stress
Stress symptoms can include
high blood pressure
perspiration
decline in immunization
rapid breathing
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Increased Self-awareness
Self-awareness
The ability to recognize and
understand your moods, emotions,
drives and their effect on others
The foundation on which self-
development is built
Increases as you receive feedback from
others

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Stronger Relationships

When two people engage in an

open dialogue, they often develop
a high regard for each others
views
Enhances awareness of common
interests and concerns

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Self Disclosure/Feedback/ Self-Awareness
Cycle

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