Mastering Mindfulness-EQ Exceptional Leadership -

Psychosomatic Psychology Approach

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 Open the minds of leadership team to
broader perspectives & new ways of
thinking

 Focus on long-term lifestyle skills derived

from the practice of emotionally
intelligent, mindfulness, & deep awareness
of the connection of body & mind

 Gain sustainable tools for stress reduction,

communication, purposeful action, &
energy management to solve their
toughest in and out of work challenges.

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• Understand the fundamentals of
mindfulness • Find deeper purpose and meaning in one’s
work
• Open an awareness of mindfulness as a
path of work and life • Acquire greater presence in both the
moment & in one’s character
• Unlock emotional intelligence traits
• Increase mental clarity to make better
• Build mindfully daily routines and decisions
rituals
• See things as they are by reducing the
• Translate mindfulness into core noise of one’s busy mind
leadership values
• Gain an easy-to-implement skill set to
• Understand what it really means to be manage stress.
authentic, transparent & open

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• Ability to practise mindful listening • Ability to be creative & effective
problem solving
• Be aware of your needs, beliefs,
values and principles • Improved communication across
department and staff
• Ability to increase focus and
concentrate • Greater capacity to lead and
prioritise
• Ability to validate needs and
objectives (before moving forward) • Significant stress reduction

• Know when to pause when you • And a more healthy, sustainable

need …a break or triggered way to work

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 Program Agenda
M orning Break
10.30am – 10.45am
Video
Presentations
Lunch Break
1.00pm – 2.00pm
Day 2:

Psychosomatic Psychology Tea Break

3.30pm – 3.45pm
• Face Personality Profiling
Group Interactive
Activities Discussion
• Body-M ind Analysis

Day 1:

M indfulness-EQ Leadership Breakthrough

Practical • M indful Leadership

Demonstration • M indfulness Practices
• Neuroplasticity
• Emotional Intelligence 5
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 My Bigger Mindfulness-EQ Leadership Excellence P#4:
Relationship
Purpose Management

Personality Profiling Social Intelligence P#3: Social

How I Connect
with Others
Awareness

Neuroplasticity
Beliefs, Thoughts, Emotions,
P#2: Self-
Emotional Intelligence
Habits Management

Psychosomatic Psychology Mindfulness

Understand My Form
P#1: Self-Awareness

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 KEY STEPS IN THE MINDFULNESS-EQ LEADERSHIP DEVELOPMENT PROCESS

Third Step
Neuroplasticity

Self-Affirmation, Self-
Direction,
Learning New Mental
Habits
Fourth Step Leadership
Excellence
First Step Emotional & Social
Intelligence
Psychosomatic
Psychology Self-Management
Fifth Step
Self-Regulation Personal Leadership
Self-Awareness, Socio-Emotional Balance Transformation
Self-Reflection
Self-Development Focus, Responsive,
Self-Empowering Empathy,
for Change Second Step Compassion,
Creativity
Mindfulness
Practices

Present moment-
by-moment
PSYCHOSOMATIC PSYCHOLOGY

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 Psychosomatic process is described as pattern of
behavior that forms the “character” of an individual which
is also portrayed on the somatic level by the form and
movement of the body. Muscular tensions in the body are
seen as the “body expression” of the individual.
Learning to understand the psychosomatic relationship
and reactions deepen our self-awareness towards a
variety of “characters” and “body expression” that are
identified as being “unhealthy”.

Dr. Alexander Lowen

Psychotherapist, Bioenergetic Scientist

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 Psychosomatic Analysis

 Brings awareness to your “issues in your tissues”

 Release unwanted buried memories and unhealthy behaviours

 Learn to acknowledge and appreciate the fantastic intelligence of

every part of your body-mind and its miraculous capacity to act,
react and maintain well-being

 Self-acknowledgement and self-awareness are the greatest

healers as the body-mind and spirit create a closer relationship
and work together for you

 Create new constructive and empowering behaviour patterns as

the molecules of positive emotions start to nourish and
strengthen the body

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Concept of Mindful Leadership
Embedded PowerPoint Video

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 To do things faster

 Not get caught up with multiple tasks

 Manage multiple objectives

 Prioritise attention

 Do most important things well

 Stay connected to self, others & the big picture

 Open mind and wisdom

 Manage stress and uncertainty

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 Clarity of Intention
4 Primary
Mastery of Attention
Elements of
Mindful Attitude & Emotional Quotient
Leadership
Integration into Daily Life

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Someone that Someone that is Someone that Someone that is
able to increase able to discover
cultivates their leadership
bring benefits
when his/her
mindfulness & presence as a to the people leadership fall
compassion point of power to around them short or
make effective and to counterproductive
decision making &
themselves
execution

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 Benefits of Mindfulness for Leaders
Become more
clear about what is
happening in the
mind, moment-by-
moment basis.
Empathy in the
words they speak,
conscious in their
decision &
empowering in the
actions they take.

Close the gap

between how
others see them,
and how they see
Recognize that they themselves.
can only control
their thoughts,
attitudes, emotions &
imaginations.

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LONG-TERM BENEFITS FOR THE ORGANISATION O1 |
Reduces employee absenteeism and
turnover, increases productivity &
improves job satisfaction

O2 |
Improve decision-making by helping
clarify objectives and generating
options

O3 |
Improved innovative thinking, better
communication skills, and more
appropriate reactions to stress

O4 |
Improves cognitive functions (i.e.,
concentration, memory, and learning
ability)

O5 |
Enhances employer/employee and
client relationships. Able to handle
conflict at work and experience
improved teamwork and team relations 19
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 HOW ORGANISATIONS ARE CULTIVATING MINDFULNESS IN THE WORKPLACE

Google, “Search Inside Yourself”

Part 1: Self-Development
• Designed as a training
1 2
program that helps
participants learn to better • Self-development focuses
relate to themselves and to on becoming more aware
others. of one’s self, creating a
quality of self-knowledge
and self-awareness that
improves over time.

Part 2 : Attention Training

• Focuses on developing the ability to

bring one’s mind under any Part 3: Create Mental Habits
circumstance and at any time, to a
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place that is calm and clear. • Creating a mental habit of
kindness. Participants are
Google says this program is good for the company because taught to look at every person
they teach emotional intelligence, which helps people better they encounter and think “I
understand their colleagues’ motivations. want this person to be
happy.” Once it becomes a
Participants report being calmer, more patient, and better able mental habit, kindness comes
to listen. They also say the program helped them better handle naturally (Baer, 2014).
stress and defuse emotions (Kelly 2012).
 HOW ORGANISATIONS ARE CULTIVATING MINDFULNESS IN THE WORKPLACE

Target
Aetna Lowers Healthcare Costs As
A Result Of Mindfulness Training • The mindfulness training is
• 3,500 employees have 1 2 open to all employees and
participated in the programs. now includes nearly 1,000
employees at several
• They also become more company locations.
effective on the job, gaining
an average of 62 minutes per
week of productivity, each
which Aetna estimates is
worth $3,000 per employee
per year.

Intel Employees Report Increased Goldman Sachs & Blackrock

Creativity And Focus
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• Employees reported increase Even businesses with no
in “having new ideas, reputation for so-called “new
insights, mental clarity, age” practices see mindfulness as
creativity, the ability to a good investment.
focus, the quality of
relationships at work and the
level of engagement in
meetings, projects and team
efforts”.
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Mindfulness Exercise 1: Coming to your Senses

Mindfulness begins when we move from a mode of doing and thinking,

and into a way of being, where sensing takes centre stage.

Feeling, Hearing, Seeing, Smelling, Tasting

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Mindfulness Exercise 2: Mindful Exercise

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7 Myths of Meditation 26
Mindfulness Exercise 3: Meditation

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Benefits of Meditation 28
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 The Brain
Logical Computer or Chemical Factory?

In 1997, Susan Greenfield,

a British scientist at
Lincoln College, Oxford
University model the brain
as a chemical factory and
that thinking is a skill or a
combination of 10
contributory skills

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 Brain Anatomy
Parietal Lobes
• Manage sensation, handwriting, Frontal Lobes
body position • Responsible for problem solving,
• Sound, touch, sound & decision making, judgement,
movement rational, logical, higher order
function, reasoning, language

• Become active when asked to

Occipital Lobes empathise, make predictions or
tackle problems that involve
• Visual processing
planning, complex decision or
system creative thinking

Temporal Lobes
• Involved with emotional
responses, memory, hearing,
language comprehension, visual
perception, facial recognition,
speech
Cerebellum
Spinal cord • Damage to this part result in
problems with memory,
understanding language &
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emotional control
 Monitor & coordinate internal organ functions

Nervous System

Central Nervous System

Processing Center Peripheral Nervous System

Sensory Nervous Motor Nervous Somatic Nervous Autonomic

System System System Nervous System Sympathetic Parasympathetic

Control Skeletal Control Involuntary Controls activities that Controls activities

increase energy usage that conserve energy
Organs, muscles, glands & external stimuli Muscles Muscles
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Brain  All cells of the nervous system are comprised of
neurons.
Spinal cord  Responsible for sending, receiving, and interpreting
information from all parts of the body.
 Axons and dendrites are bundled together into what
are called nerves.
Neurons  These nerves send signals between the brain, spinal
cord, and other body organs via nerve impulses.
 Nerve impulses are received at the neuronal
dendrites and are carried along the axon to the
terminal branches.
 These branches end at a junction called a synapse. It
is at the synapse where chemical or electrical
impulses must cross the gap and be carried to the
dendrites of adjacent cells.
 At electrical synapses, ions and other molecules pass
through gap junctions allowing for the passive
transmission of electrical signals from one cell to the
other.
 At chemical synapses, chemical signals called
neurotransmitters are released which cross the gap
junction to stimulate the next neuron.
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Its is the quantity & quality of neuron
connections that determines mental
• Thinking skills & learning takes place in the
potential & mental performance
brains through chemical reactions that causes
the +vely and –vely charged molecules to
move up and down the axons of the brain cells,
jumping across synaptic gap to the next brain
cell to enable to connect parts of the brain
together via the neural connection that the
chemicals created.

• Once a particular chemical pathway has been

run, the residue chemical left on that route
predispose the same route to be run again
readily.

• Learning new things is a good way to put new

neuron connection in place, as well as
thickening the neural pathway, more often a
new neural pathway is run, the thicker the
myelin insulation becomes on the axons, the
deeper is the learning.

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 Applied Thinking – A Combination of 10 Thinking Skills
Source: Horne &
Applied Thinking Wootton, 2003)
Highest order thinking

Creative Thinking Critical Thinking Reflective Thinking

Predictive Thinking Ethical Thinking

Recollective Empathetic Verbal Thinking

Visual Thinking Numerical Thinking Thinking Thinking
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Basic level thinking
The mind has two distinct
functions, thinking and
awareness. When the
thinking is turned up, the
awareness is turned down.
• But for learning to happen, the thinking
skills must be followed by action or learn to
use them. This is what it is called “Applied
Thinking”.

• For the learning to be deep, action must be

taken i.e. involving behaviour change.
Emotional engagement will be key for deep
learning & applied thinking.

• These dynamics interactions of the mind-

brain and how they affect you and those
around you, you can set a course toward
forming mindful strategic leadership habits,
thoughts and actions.

• Our brain keeps shaping itself and growing

according to our thoughts and behaviours.

• This is the foundation of neuroplasticity.

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In making right business decisions in difficult and uncertain circumstances, leaders normally focus their attention in
one of two basic patterns of mental activity.

The other pattern, the High

Pattern 1 is known as the Low
Road (lower prefrontal cortex),
because it favours expedient
actions aimed at giving what
leaders want and giving others
what they want, as rapidly and
efficiently as possible.
The relationship between
them illuminates the source
of Mindfulness Leadership.
Road (dorsal prefrontal cortex),
manifests itself as the mental
construct like “Wise Advisor”, a
voice within the mind, making
the case for fundamental
solutions with longer-term and
broader benefits.
The Low Road is tactical and
the High Road is Strategic.
Both are habit forming.

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• The challenges that leaders face everyday such as
promises to fulfil, problems to solve, situations to
manage, making deals, designing rewards & incentives
or think about satisfying your needs and needs of
others made leaders occupy the Low Road most of the • Those choices such as self-awareness, patience,
time in an expedient way. compassion, empathy, clear communication will
strengthen the related circuits in their brain.
• This activity usually elicits powerful emotions, such as,
desire, anxiety, fear, frustration, disappointment, • This makes it easier to stay on the High Road and give
anger and relief. leaders greater facility and sophistication for leading
others.
• Leaders can consciously use self-directed
neuroplasticity to train their brain towards more
constructive and stronger leadership role by making
choices that favour the High Road in their mind.
Brain Waves – Critical Thinking vs Creative Thinking

• If you need to produce creative solutions in your decision making, you need to
produced slower and bigger brain waves (11 -17 cycles/second).
Right brain is specialised for divergent thinking.

• If you need precise solutions & critical thinking, then you need to produce
faster and smaller brain waves, (20 – 23 cycle/second) .
Left brain is specialised for convergent thinking.

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Mindfulness Exercise 4: Breathe in Inspiration To Improve Creative Thinking

Push every last bit of breathe out of your body by squeezing the muscles of the
stomach and buttocks.

Hold this state as long as you can and then allow the breathe to rush in and
appear to fill all the cavities in your body, from your abdomen Up to the upper
regions of your chest.

Raise your shoulders to suck in the last breathe. Hold as long as you can. Repeat
three times. Use your finger to lightly. Close one nostril and breathe normally.

Jot down every idea that occurs to you – however crazy the ideas may seem.

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Breathe in Inspiration To Improve Critical Thinking

Quicker, shallower upper chest breathing favours critical thinking. To do this,

stand with knees relaxed, feet apart as the shoulders, and imagine squeezing a
rug on the floor in between the feet.

Hold arms straight out in front and slide the palms back and forth over each
other as fast as possible without a break, while counting backwards from 100.
Do not ease off. Accelerate at the last 50 counts.

When reach 0, straighten knees and drop off head as near to the floor as
possible.

Use one hand to tap up the opposite side of the body from ankle to the head,
slowly straighten up. Bend down again and repeat with the other hand tapping
the other side of the body.

The electrical brainwave cycle will be much quicker for a quick ‘thinking-on-
your-feet’.

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 • These beneficial patterns can be replicate at
a larger scale in the organisation.

• Over time, this practice can help leaders take

on a quality of mindfulness leadership:
inspiring others, helping the organisation
transcend it limits and navigating towards
beneficial goals.

• Better strategic leaders can be developed by

combining two cognitive habits: mindfulness
(clear-minded awareness of one’s own
mental activity) and mentalising (paying close
attention to what other people are thinking
and are likely to do next).
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 The Brain in Your Heart

Changes in emotions are accompanied by predictable

changes in heart rate, blood pressure, breathing & digestion.

The heart has intrinsic nervous system that sends information

to the brain where it may influence perception, decision
making & cognitive processes.

When the heart is smooth & orderly rhythm patterns, the

information sent to the brain help brain function.

The effect is heightened mental clarity, improved decision

making and increased creativity.

This also supports positive feeling and emotional intelligence.

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 The Brain in Your Gut

The gut through enteric nervous system sends & receives

impulses, records experiences an responds to emotions.

The gut’s brain play a major role in human happiness and

misery.

When the brain encounters frightening situation, it releases

stress hormones that prepares the body to fight or flight.

The health of the gut is critical to emotional intelligence.

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 EQ is define as the capacity to recognize our own
feelings and those of others, to manage our
emotions and to interact effectively with others.
It includes the abilities to accurately perceive
emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to
assist thought, so as to promote emotional and
intellectual growth

Daniel Goleman
Psychologist, EQ Author

An ability to validly reason with emotions and to use

emotions to enhance thought.
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EQ is about EQ is about EQ is about
EQ is about Developing
Attitude Awareness Self-
Relationship EQ is about
Management
Practice

What Is Emotional Intelligence?

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 Why EQ Matters?
Many people have a tendency to suppress,
ignore or dismiss feelings, especially when
they are uncomfortable.

Over time, this habit reduces one’s

capacity for self-awareness, limiting our
potential to perform and undermining our
Why EQ Matters?
health.

Businesses that lack Emotional Intelligence

may see rigid or defensive behaviour in
their people, poor team working, low
levels of personal resilience and
reoccurring emotional outbursts.

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 Why EQ Matters?

Businesses high in Science has shown that feeling

Emotional Intelligence precedes thought and
benefit from more engaged behaviour. The business
employees and leaders, evidence is clear; taking
staff who are more able to emotion out of work does not
adapt and cope with increase employee engagement,
change, better team drive customer satisfaction or
working, collaboration and build high performance –
innovation. managing emotion effectively
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 Why Are Emotions So Important?

Science has demonstrated the

fundamental nature of emotion in all
human interactions and cognition.
Emotion is at the heart of scientific
investigation into theories of leadership,
motivation and change.
Emotions play a central role in the
interaction of brain, mind, and body –
without emotions we cannot make
decisions or relate effectively.
It is the intelligent use of emotions that is
crucial to sustainable high performance
and decision making.

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Research Data

Korn Ferry Hay Group Research

Emotional Self-Awareness: This

research found that among leaders
with multiple strengths in
Emotional Self-Awareness, 92%
had teams with high energy and
high performance
Australian Researches

Emotional Self-Control : They

found that leaders who manage
emotions well had better business
outcome.
Dr. Richard Boyatzis,
Case Western Reserve University
& Others

Adaptability: In a study of financial

services sales executives done by
Dr.Boyatzis, the more adaptable, the
greater their effectiveness is shown by
revenue and sales growth. Other
researches found that a leader’s
adaptability predicts better overall team
performance.
Center for Creative Leadership

This research found that

empathy predicts better job
performance for managers
and leaders.
University of North Carolina

Positive Outlook: People who

experience and express positive
emotions more frequently are
more resilient, more resourceful,
more socially connected, and more
likely to function at optimum
levels.
• Do you become defensive
criticised?
• Do you stay calm under pressure?
• Do you handle setbacks effectively?
• Do you manage stress, anxiety, anger,
and fear in a pursuit of a goal?
• Do you utilise criticism and others
feedback as growth?
• Are you positive?
when • Do you see things from another’s
perspective?
• Do you recognize how your behaviors
affects others?
• Do you air grievances skillfully?
• Do you listen without jumping to
judgement?
• Do you freely admit to making mistake?
• Do you maintain a sense of humor?
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Behaviour Personal Competence Social Competence

Self- Self- Social- Relationship

Awareness Management Awareness Management

Empathy
Emotional Self- Influence Change
Feeling

Emotional Achievement
Awareness Balance/Self- Positive & Building Catalyst
Drive/
Control/ Outlook Bonds
Trustworthiness Conscientiousness Understand &
Develop
Accurate Self- Others
Conflict Team
Assessment Capabilities
Service Management
Innovation/ Orientation/
Attitude

Adaptability/ Initiative/ Empathy

Diversity
Commitment Optimism
Self-Confidence Inspirational Communication
Political
Leadership & Collaboration
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 EQ Can Be Developed
EQ requires effective communication
between the rational & emotional
centers of the brain.

I KNOW

RATIONAL BRAIN Source of EQ

LIMBIC SYSTEM
Emotions are generated,
where we have emotional
reactions to events before
rational mind is able to engage.

I DO

Primary senses enter here

Spinal Cord
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 Neuroscience of EQ
Learns through doing
Knowing

Therefore, in order to turn good

intentions into habits of behaviour
an individual needs to put them
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Emotions & Thinking

Emotion information is processed in a part of

the brain called Amygdala, which constantly
sending messages to the prefrontal lobes.

There is constant emotional information flowing

to the part of the brain that involves decision
making & perception & judgement.

When fear or anxiety rises beyond a certain

level, ability to think, decide & remember is
impaired.

On the other hand, when the feeling is positive,

the messages sent by amygdala appear to
improve ability to think and come up with
original solutions.

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Using strategies to increase your EQ
allows the billions of microscopic
neurons lining the road between the
rational and emotional centers of
your brain to branch out in small arms
to reach out to the other cells.

This chain reaction of growth ensures

it’s easier to kick this new behaviour
into action in the future.

Repeatedly training your brain using

new emotional strategies, emotional
intelligent behaviours become habits.

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 #1. Accurate Diagnostic:
Recognise emotions in the face, body, voice &
physiology

Skills of Emotional #2. Addressing Underlying Attitudes:

Intelligence: Understand the cause & consequences of emotions

The Capacity to
Link Emotions to #3. Applied Neuroplasticity:
Labelling emotions with the correct vocabulary
Thinking
#4. Making Change Experiential:
Express & regulate emotions appropriately and
effectively

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Use the conscious approach to mental condition yourself in developing EQ strategies.

Identify areas where you need improvement and implement a daily plan
of action to address gaps.

Regularly assess the alignment of your beliefs and actions.

Deliberately refine your ability to identify and develop the best

strategies for effectively engaging with different type of individuals in
the workplace….” I need to flex my style just to be able to adapt to
different characters.”
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Five keys to quickly improve one's emotional intelligence

The ability to deal with one's own negative emotions

One of the most important aspect of EQ

is our ability to effectively manage our
own negative emotions, so they don't
overwhelm us and affect our judgment. In
order to change the way we feel about a
situation, we must first change the way
we think about it.
Reducing Negative Personalization

 When you feel adversely about someone’s

behaviour, avoid jumping to a negative
conclusion right away.
 Instead, come up with multiple ways of
viewing the situation before reacting.
 When we avoid personalizing other
people's behaviours, we can perceive their
expressions more objectively.
 People do what they do because of them
more than because of us. Widening our
perspective can reduce the possibility of
misunderstanding.

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Reducing the Fear of Rejection

 One effective way to manage your fear of

rejection is to provide yourself with
multiple options in important situations,
so that no matter what happens, you have
strong alternatives going forward.

 Avoid putting all of your eggs in one

basket (emotionally) by identifying a
viable Plan B, and also a Plan C, should
Plan A not work out.

 Decreased fear of rejection: “I’m going to

propose three great ideas. If one doesn’t
pan out, there are two more that he might
accept.”

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The ability to stay cool under pressure

Most of us experience some level of

stress in life. How we handle pressure
situations can make the difference
between being steady versus frazzled.
Quick tips:

A. If you feel nervous and anxious, put cold water

on your face and get some fresh air. Cool
temperature can help reduce our anxiety level.
Avoid caffeinated beverages which can
stimulate your nervousness.
B. If you feel fearful, depressed, or discouraged,
try intense exercise. Energize yourself. The
way we use our body affects greatly the way
we feel. As the saying goes - motion dictates
emotion. As you experience the vitality of
your body, your confidence will also grow.
C. If you feel overwhelmed, confused, stuck, or
uninspired, go outdoors and clear your head.
Go into nature and surround yourself in colours
of green and blue, which have a calming effect.
Find a panoramic view and look out into the
distance. Walk. Take deep breaths. Empty your
mind. Come back with a fresh perspective.

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The ability to stay proactive, not reactive in the face of a difficult person

Most of us encounter unreasonable

people in our lives. We may be “stuck”
with a difficult individual at work or at
home. It’s easy to let a challenging person
affect us and ruin our day. What are some
of the keys to staying proactive in such
situations?
Quick tips:

A. When you feel angry and upset with someone,

before you say something you might later regret,
take a deep breath and count slowly to ten.
B. Another way to reduce reactivity is to try to put
yourself in the difficult individual’s shoes, even for
just a moment. For example, consider the person
you’re dealing with, and complete the sentence: “It
must not be easy….”

“My boss is really demanding. It must not be easy

to have such high expectations placed on her
performance by management…”

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Quick tips:

C. Set Consequence. The ability to identify and assert

consequence(s) is one of the most important skills
you can use to "stand down" a difficult person.
Effectively articulated, consequence gives pause to
the difficult individual, and compels her or him to
shift from violation to respect.

D. Seek clarification when needed. If necessary, inquire

with the other person for clarification on why she's
behaving the way she does. Ask opened ended
questions such as: "I'm just curious, can you tell me
why...," and avoid accusations and judgements.

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Quick tips:

It's important to set our boundaries appropriately, so

people know where we stand. These can include
exercising our right to disagree (without being
disagreeable), saying "no" without feeling guilty,
setting our own priorities, getting what we paid for,
and protecting ourselves from duress and harm.

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Quick tips:

 Avoid using sentences that begin with

"you" and followed by accusation or
judgment, such as "you are...," "you
should...," or "you need to....“

 "You" language followed by such

directives put the listener on the
defensive, and make them less likely to
be open to what you have to say.

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 Low High
Emotional Intelligence Emotional Intelligence
Aggressive Assertive
Demanding Ambitious
Egotistical Driving
Bossy Strong-Willed
Confrontational Decisive

Easily Distracted Warm

Superficial Enthusiastic
Selfish Sociable
Poor Listener Charming
Impulsive Persuasive
Resistance to Change Patience
Passive Stable
Un-Responsive Predictable
Slow Consistent
Stubborn Good Listener

Critical Detailed
Picky Careful
Fussy Meticulous
Hard to Please Systematic
Perfectionist Neat
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Right now I am noticing…(e.g.. person,
colour, sound smell, taste, texture)

Right now I am thinking..(opinion,,

judgement, fragment of internal
dialogue)

Right now I am feeling…( emotion

– a single word)

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 • How you feel is changed by what you think

• What you think is related to what you notice

• You can control what you notice by where you choose to focus.

• You can exert increasing control over your thoughts and your emotions

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• When leaders feel over-anxious, agitated, resentful, angry or bitter, or
when they seem helpless or sad, this has an adverse effect on ability
to lead.

• Unmanaged emotions disables leadership effectiveness because it

disables some of the thinking skills.

• For emotionally distracted leader, it is hard to take interest in new

information, or to persist trying to make sense of information that is
confusing, incomplete or inaccurate.

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 What behaviors do I tend
to fall back on when faced
with adversity, pressure or
uncomfortable situations?

Do I bury my head in
the sand to avoid
facing the head wind?

Do I blame, critisise, or judge

the actions of others instead
of taking responsibility for
outcomes?

Am I short
tempered,
disengages, easily
depressed or
lethargic?

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 Negative Thinking leads to Negative Emotions

Less than
Things are good perfect equals
or bad. failure.

This sees a single

Performance is event as part of
judged only by never ending &
comparison with inevitable pattern.
other people Use of ‘always’ and
‘never’

You give yourself 1 bad

Believing you can label & assume any related
tell when others bad labels apply to you.
think negatively Frequent use of ‘should’ and
about you ‘ought’

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 6 Steps to Avoid Negative Thinking

Discover that you

Skills, resources, do not need
knowledge. constant approval
of others

Let go negative
memories that steal When you are doing
your space in your your best at difficult
head. You need your tasks, your best is
head space for more good enough.
positive thoughts

Feel now how you

will feel when you You cannot be the cause of
all that is bad, or of all the
receive applause
bad feelings of others.
and recognition
from the success.

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 EQ Exercise 2:
Self-Esteem Exercise –
Accepting Your Emotions
(motivation, self-esteem)

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 Behaviour/Reactions Reward

Trigger
Angry, Upset, Scream Feel Powerful & In Control

Staff not living up

to expectation

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Diagnostic: Self-Awareness

"Okay, I have this habit here

that makes me feel powerful
and in control, but actually it's
counterproductive because I'm
losing employees. I'm losing
influence. I'm losing respect, so
how can I change it?"

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Address Underlying Attitude: Self-Management

"Okay, what is the reward I'm looking

for? I'm looking for feeling powerful and
in control.

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Re-Labelling

Learn to recognise how you LABEL

your emotions.

These labels could influencing

decision-making and performance.

Freedom to change the way emotions

are label and how it’s been label, these
influences behaviour, this is a turning
point.

Just by choosing different labels for

situations, leaders are already
transforming their experience and
subsequently themselves.

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Making Change Experiential - Re-wire the Mind & Trigger Neuroplasticity

Now, what if I shifted that reward to a

different behaviour, that I feel powerful
and in control every time I have a mindful,
kind, compassionate response to another
person.

So I get the same reward. I feel powerful

and in control but for a different
behaviour, showing kindness, compassion,
understanding, and good just leadership.

Then, the next time the trigger arises, a

person doesn't live up to my expectation,
I have now the choice to get the same
reward by enacting a different behaviour."

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 • Assess the condition &
causes that brought on
stress
• Identifying the trigger to
make you more aware

• Pay attention to mental &

• Calm the mind, increase focus physical signs and
• Improves mental agility when experiences during stressful
switching between tasks situations
• Mindfully train to maintain
greater composure in the
moment

• Pay attention to the moment

at hand
• Few deep breathing will • Stop rehashing the stress in
oxygenate your brain your mind
• Improve clarity of thinking • Focus on positive or solution-
focused

5 Ways to Triumph Over Stressful Situations in the Workplace

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 • Avoid blame or victim mentality
• Learn to overcome emotional
distress

• Pay attention to the cycle • Don’t judge yourself

of the emotion • Don’t let emotion takeover
• How long does it take to your behavior
subside from the trigger • Make mental effort to
point choose your action

• Acknowledge the emotion

in the present moment • Create a mental buffer
• Tune in to your feeling btw your emotion & the
situation/person

Few simple steps to take that will help you develop and increase your emotional intelligence through a mindful

leadership approach.
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Entering into a stressful situation with a positive
mental approach leads to a challenge state. But, if
you approach a tough situation with negativity,
you’re more likely to enter into a threat state.

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EQ Exercise 3: Turning a
Bad Experience to A Good
One

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 Focus Points

 Chemical reactions in your brain determine whether you feel

high or low which in turn affect how well you think and how
well you think affects your leadership performance.

 You can control these chemical reactions through what you

do, what you think, what you eat and what you drink.

 You should explore what you are feeling before you try to
think or act.

 Hope enhances performance. Anxiety and fear diminish it.

 Optimistic self-suggestion increase success in thinking tasks.

 Obstacles to feeling good can be minimised.

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Face Personality Profiling

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 Face to Face with Facts – Personality Profile

The art of reading faces creates an atmosphere of

comfort, acceptance and understanding at a
subconscious level between the observed and the
observer, an attitude of “I know you so well, it is
good to meet you”.

The features tell their own story which can make a

difference in a relationship, a business proposition or
just understanding your potential more.

The systematic, step-by-step approach of the face

and each of its separate parts bring together all the
characteristics of the individual.

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 The Face Framework
The Face is Our Personality!

The face is the center of the 5 senses.

With 27 major muscles at work constantly
Acting and reacting to life and everything
The body-mind experiencing and expressing,
we create a face that is unique and individual.
This face shows the world who we are.

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 The Face At First Glance – First Impression

Head shape
Most prominent
feature
Frame of the mind
Eyes
Ears
Nose, mouth & lips
Jaw & Chin

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 In All Faces Observe The Size & Balance Of The Three Zones

Compare the % of mental, emotional,

physical volume of face exposed.

Evaluate Left (emotional or feminine) and

Right (mental or male).

Study the details of the separate parts of the

face.

Note the most prominent feature.

Accept the face presented.

Apply the basic facts to understand the

personality or potential.

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 Right Side Front View Left Side

Left Brain – Analytical

Right Brain – Creative
Personality - Mental
Soul - Emotional

Masculine– Actions -
Doing Feminine – Reactions-
Caring

Width of the face from

Height of the face from the
the centreline shows the
Hairline to chin tip shows the
adaptability and expression
Capacity of Mental, Emotional
of the relevant side of the
And Physical
face

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 The Three Zones – Mental, Emotional & Physical

Creative-Analytical Mind
Mental
See the Big Picture

Communication, Thoughts & Emotions

Emotional
Emotional Balance, Love, Compassion
Physical Personal Identity & Self-Expression
Creativity, Relationships, Intuition

Grounding, Support, Physical Vitality

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 Structure and Shape Indicates Performance
Basic Face Shapes – Characteristics in General

Round - easy going, happy,

very sensitive, easily
influenced, nurturing &
affectionate

Oval -feminine, sensitive, soft , warm, idealistic,

affectionate, caring for others & their point
of view. Curved lines show the willingness to
change & be flexible. Stand up for her ideals
and inner values.

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Square - solid, basic, down to earth, resolute, practical,
less imaginative, a doer rather than a thinker with a
strong earthy passion. Can be fiery by nature with
physical vitality and a tendency to hold their ground.

Rectangular - this one has high ideals. A humanitarian with an

intellectual drive to represent these in life with the strength &
determination to stand up for them. She can be supportive, reliable,
has good mental & emotional balance with good vitality to carry it
out. With a high mental energy, this one may need grounding.

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 Triangle - Resolute & stubborn. This one can be
unreasonable, introverted or close-minded.
Tends to have some frustrations & anger from
suppressed emotions. Vindictiveness could be a
result of the fixed focus. Needs to be more
relaxed and receptive of others’ opinion.

Inverted triangle (heart shape) -This one is highly

intellectual, very sensitive, quick & open-minded.
Can get easily upset when misunderstood and
needs grounding. The high mental energy could
cause physical burnout and over-sensitive.

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Combination of rectangular &
inverted triangle – high ideals
& intellect, quite emotional,
can be over-sensitive & easily
upset. Need to stay focused &
centered.

Combination of square on top &

oval at the bottom - practical in
thinking, solid with a balanced
emotional attitude

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 Assessment of the Individual Parts – Forehead/Frame of Mind

H
 The height of the forehead shows the degree e
of intelligence. Width i
g
 The width show the degree of understanding – h
a narrow or broad-minded person t

 If forehead is straight up the person likes &

needs detail to make decisions & is more
imaginative
Imagination
 One with a sloping forehead is much quicker to
make decisions & does not like detail because Memory
of their quick observations & assessment.
Observation
 If the central dome is protruding the person has
good long term memory recall.

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Imagination
Memory
Observation

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 Hairlines – Window of the Mind

M-shaped, the Widow’s Peak – high creativity

without encumbrances, artistic, love themselves,
sensitive but need to be applauded & accept help
readily.

High and wide – practical, methodical, strong and

open-minded. The observation area is wide open
for a broader point of view.

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High, narrowing towards the top – high ideals
however could be a bit closed-minded.

Curved – could be over-imaginative, open, intuitive mind,

wide open outlook, could be influenced by others yet
likes to keep her individuality

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 Peaked – a high degree of conditioning that could
restrained his outlook on life, high intelligence but
narrow point of view, emotional at times, single-minded.

Jagged – could feel rebellious & frustrated at times, due

to conditioning & restraint early in life. When the forehead
is high they can make something out of life. A good energy
to create a change.

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 Eye Brow – Emotions & Thinking
The degree of understanding between the head and the heart.
Creator of expression or suppression and point of view
The hair growth, thicker in the center – focus
Thinning out the outer ridges – increase peripheral vision
Thicker, darker and coarser the hair – more earthy, vital and passionate
Finer, lighter and scantier – more sensitive, imaginative with less energy & drive

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Well-balanced eyebrow- moderately spaced apart, gentle curving
arch above each eye, with the thickest in the beginning gradually
thinning towards the edge.

Indicate a balance energy flow and communication between the

mind and emotion.

Have a sense of focus, enthusiasm and passion for what they set
their mind and heart on.

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Boomerang shaped eyebrow – indicate
independence and a strength of will. They like
their own way and want to get ahead.

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Low set eyebrows – strong mind that supresses and
control emotions. Prudent, cool and calculating
nature and may also have restricted view. Could face
stress and tension due to feeling frowning upon life.

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Very high-set eye brows – trusting of
others or to open-minded leading to
possible disappointments. The
openness of emotional expression can
make this person feels criticised and
unable to speak up for themselves.

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Straight eyebrows – practical and rather unimaginative person,
difficult to change views, like to stick to facts and get on with the
job. Down to earth manner and not easily swayed by their own
or other people’s emotions.

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Eyebrows that are sloping upwards from midline – a high degree of
one-pointedness and can be egotistical. This mental point of view
could lack of warmth and understanding of others’ feelings. Tend
to look down on others and themselves. Open peripheral vision
and observant of many things. Can be too strong and controlling
of their own feelings.

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Eyebrows curve downwards at the outer edge – tend to protect or reduce
peripheral vision. Shy and keep a lot of emotional feelings inside. Need to
build more self-confidence. Nature of this person maybe outwardly gentle
and soft-spoken, may have frustration of suppressed feelings inside.

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 Eyes – World View
The eyes represent the deeper, inner feelings of the personality, the feelings of the heart.
The right eye the physical personality and the left eye the soul quality.
Balance, size, equality, shine and glitter or glaze, steadiness of the glaze, are all important factors to
consider in this very sensitive part of the face.
It is the point of focus of the Body-Mind as a whole, its expression and impression of the world.

Well-balanced eyes
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 Size of Eyes

Large eyes - show a bold, responsible

and commanding nature or artistic
talents.

Small eyes – cautious and less outgoing, one

who prefers thinking to doing. Enjoys
challenges and prefers working alone. Can be
demanding & shrewish.

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 Eye Set

Deep set eyes – show cautious and a restricted point of view,

careful about expressing his own heartfelt feelings. Reasons
with the emotions before speaking.

Protruding eyes without the whites showing above or

below- shows she can be accepting of others point of
view and may be misled. Due to the increased vision
this one can be distracted and not centred.

When the whites are showing all around, this one can
be nervous and excitable condition with the possibility
of violence and temper.

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 Eye Level

Slope upwards from the midline – the sign of

proud, self-important person who wants to make
the most out of life, outgoing, energetic, and
ready to take risks.

Slope downwards – decency, generosity,

good-natured, ready to believe any hard-luck
story, a constant heart and likes a lasting
relationship.

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 Eye Colour

Brown-Black: brown shows warmth, openness

extrovert, excitability, less sensitive to pain.
The darker the colour the deeper the passion
and a lessening of warmth and sensitivity.

Hazel: warmth, sensitivity, with greater intellectual vigour.

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 Nose
Qualities of Honesty, Truthfulness, Loyalty, Healthy Sex
Drive, An Optimist Outlook and a Sound View of
Themselves and Their Abilities

Long Narrow Nose – have the attributes of strength &

curiosity, but does not have the width at the base. Not able
to stand up & support her intent. Witty and engaging to
cover up this insecurity. Lead others to work.

Broad Nose – sign of stability & purpose, better

concentration & staying power and success, the
width should be concentrated in the lower half
of the nose, signifying the determination of the ego
to hold his ground.

Short Nose – show less strength & determination, a freer,

less responsible person who enjoys a good time. Have
emotional sensitivity that can feel vulnerable and lack
of personal power. Hard worker.
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Snub Nose – turns up at the end so the nostrils are
visible, this signifies a happy go-lucky & somewhat
irresponsible person who has difficulty in saving
money or flirtish. When the line from the base to the
tip slopes upwards she aims too high.

Prominent Arched Nose – creative, practical, mentally

aggressive and likes to direct others. She likes efficiency,
seeks to implement her best ideas and likes to see that they
are carried out. She is practical in handling things in life.

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Large Nose with a good base – Have a great need to project his personality
and make a difference in the world where he works. Does especially well
in managerial and supervisory jobs where he can show others how good he is
and want others to do the same.

Long Nose with Turned Down Tip – strongly sexed

person, insistent and demanding of his own
personal needs. This person could be also creative,
sensuality & nurturing. He likes tidiness, order and
is a good organiser, manager and/or accountant.

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Nose Bridges

High Nose Bridge – bone structure commence straight from

the forehead. This personality have a strong mind expressed
more physically & see things in black or white.

Low Nose Bridge – bone structure

commences between the eyes. Enables
this personality to experience greater
emotional balance in in issues of the
heart. Softer and have a great
understanding of life.

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 Shape of the Nostrils

Flattened wings & narrowed nostrils – show poor money sense and
may find money hard to acquire.

Large nostrils financially careless & let money

slip through their fingers.

Square nostrils – conservative,

thick-skinned & determined.

Small nostrils – careful and steady with money

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 Tip of the Nose

Soft Fleshy Tip – shows the person is sensitive & projects her actions
and speech with a great deal of feelings of consideration, warmth &
gentleness. Good sense for art & beauty.

Pointed Tip – indicates that she comes to the point or makes

her point felt promptly. She is inquisitive and likes to “poke
her nose into other people business”.

Groove Tip – shows indecision in

making her point or deciding what
to do. Work can be emotionally
unsatisfying and likes to make her
point of view stick.

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 Ears
Listening Carefully to Reality

When the top of the ears are rounded they indicate an open &
enthusiastic nature, can be very flexible & has an emotional
understanding of others.

When the top of the ear is pointed, this

indicates a person who is more demanding
of others, this person tends to listen to the
mind rather than the emotion.

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 Ear Flare

When the top of the ear is flat to the head, it indicates a more controlled
person, one who functions best in a settled & controlled environment.
This one will agree & conform to standards set. This understanding to what
others want, and how to conform, could be a valuable marketing asset.

When the top of the ear stick out, they

indicate a difficult childhood. The range of
hearing is also restricted & the person
listens to what he wants to. This one is a
rebel that wants to create change. They
can be great leaders with strength & balance
with other features.

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 Ear Lobes

Large long lobes that hang free – indicate a spiritually, intellect &
emotionally sensitive person with a great understanding of personal
needs and well-balanced.

Attached lobes – indicates an emotionally controlled type person.

Personal needs are important to him and his higher ideals are not
shared freely by his physical actions.

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 Mouth and Lips
The most mobile part of the face. It speaks, feeds, expression or suppresses thoughts and emotions

Large Mouth – outgoing, extrovert, open, generous, attracting attention

and popularity. They can have a weakness of speaking too loosely.

Well Balanced Mouth – signifies warm,

honest, caring yet open nature, with a
strong character and purpose.

Small Mouth – introverted, careful & cautious.

lack of confidence, suspicious, avoids company
and avoid spending money.
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The Top Lip and its fullness shows the degree of sexuality & sensuality – Hot Lip
The Bottom Lip shows the freedom of vocal expression – Tight Lip

Thin Lips – lack warmth & genuine sympathy for others, has an
inferiority complex, can be lonely, unbalance & can be cruel
in nature . Thin lips curved down at the corners – lonely, bitter, hard &
tight-lipped with suppressed grief.

Straight Lips – careful calculating, with an orderly mind that interferes

with the emotional responses. When the straight line is uneven, there is
a tendency to be uptight, impulsive, troubled & misunderstood.

Even upward curving line – persuasive, outgoing, creative

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 Jaw & Chin
The strength of the jaw & chin gives the characteristics of grounding and foundation. The chin signifies the will
power, need for love, security and good health. The chin should be broad, deep and full, showing generosity, physical
strength and emotional warmth.

Receding Chin – either too narrow or too pointed or lacks of support and
determination to stick to her intention when challenged or speak up

Forward Chin – shows an extra sense of determination,

strong mental drive & sometimes driving himself too
hard.

Pointed Chin – shows a very sensitive

person that can get easily upset. She
needs to be aware of the need to
stay grounded. This part of the face
lacks vitality

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 Jaw
Wide Jaw – shows great strength & energy of will, could be sacrificing emotional
needs as she is dominated by a strong mind. This wide jaw shows determination to
support whatever she puts her mind & heart to do and have the vitality to carry out.

Deep Jaw – shows great strength of will, resolute

and determined nature with an ability to achieve,
in spite of difficult challenges. The depth of the
jawbone shows how deeply he lays the foundation
for what he plan to do.

Curved Jaw –shows a flexible

person that can be swayed by
others. Sometimes can be
lacking in direction & purpose.
Can be academically high
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 Case Study
Mental – 48%
Wide & high Very prominent rounded forehead
Highly intellectual dominant With an excellent memory & creativity.
with a broad & open-mind Quick, versatile & inventive.
Over-balance the rest of the
personality

Emotional – 26% Hooded, careful, deep set &

Shorter & tapering Calculating eyes that are narrow,
Quite controlled & guarded Slightly pointed nose. Careful & tight
in expressing personal feelings With money. Expresses feelings sharply.

Physical – 26% This one will get upset easily when

Long but narrowing sharply He cannot get what he wants. The
Long shows good depth of Full bottom lip says he will freely
sensitivity in the business world vocalise his thoughts.
But narrowing creates a weaker
foundation & grounding

Fleshy protruding chin – one that will push his way to get what he wants 143
 Rectangle/Oval – Steadfast & Ambitious/ Flexible
Logical, strategic personality with strong ambition
who projects himself out in the world, likes to get on
with it and see results. (based on mental, emotional,
physical ratio split on the face)

Straight hairline – decisive, makes decisions easily,

processes logically not emotionally, straight to the
point, focuses on facts as he sees them and getting
practical results.

Forehead/Brow - Represents frame of mind. Long

forehead – broad, open mind, intellectual, good
memory, observant fact based perspective.

Eyebrows & Eyes – processes mentally 1st, practical,

balanced thinking, sharp , can be self critical and/or
judgemental at times, high expectations of self and
others.

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Long pointed nose – Totally focused on the objective
- being the leader regardless of obstacles, single
focused and practical. Has high expectations of self
and can be critical and judgemental of self and others
(which is often bitten back not expressed). Can
appear aloof and disinterested when trying to
process information intellectually before expressing,
but wants to make a difference for people from a
results perspective.

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Highly confident, strong and dependable (results
based). The practical outcome is what matters to this
man. Believes he knows the answers (superior attitude
at times) and can stretch the facts to what he believes
is true (his model of the world).

Leadership based personality, likes to be helm of the

ship and is able to work alone without a team. This type
of personality enjoys projecting himself out into the
world.

Prominent, strong, pointed chin & strong jawline – can

be decisive, grounded and determined, bordering on
stubborn and single focused at times. Wants to get the
job done and get on with it with low tolerance for
aspects that don’t fit into his plan.

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Ear position – decisions made from observation and logic,
not from emotions.

Cheekbones – is highly ambitious and determined

characteristics, with the intention to generate positive
results, high heart energy.

Mouth – Enjoys life – strong creativity to express new

ideas, can be critical of self as much as others. Not always
able to express feelings clearly even when he cares,
experiences sense of failure when he doesn’t achieve
practical results and meet his own high expectations. This
personality is able to articulate well when he has the facts
and open to listening.

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 OUR OWN BODY MIND AS WHOLE

We usually think our mind is in control and telling our body

what to do. But there is a lot of scientific evidence that
shows the chatter between mind and body goes two ways,
and the body is an integral part of how we think.

Prof. Sian Beilock, a psychology professor at University of

Chicago and a leading expert on the brain science behind
human performance, believes the body-mind connection
starts early. She provides the latest scientific evidence
about the body’s influence on our psyche.

Beilock said, “If we can understand the science behind how

the body affects the brain, we will be in a great position to
ensure that we're always putting our best foot forward
when it matters the most.“

Science Daily - Source: University of Chicago, 7 January

2015
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 OUR OWN BODY MIND COMMUNICATION

Their research proves that the spirit, mind and

emotions are a unified field of intelligence.

They demonstrate how our internal chemicals, the

neuropeptides and their receptions, are the biological
messengers of our awareness, manifesting as our
emotions, beliefs and expectations and influencing
how we respond and experience our world.

This awareness alerts every part of our body almost

simultaneously.

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 OUR BODY MIND FORMATION

The late Dr Ida Rolf, a biochemist and physiologist

during her many years of examining muscle tissue
and cell structure, noticed that physical and
emotional traumas seem to tighten and rigidify the
muscular and fascial tissues of the body – tense,
hard, rigid, frozen muscles, soft, flaccid , protective
tissues

When this happens, the body tends to move out

of state of natural alignment and vitality and into a
condition of overall inflexibility and gravitational
imbalance – bad, weak, aggressive standing
posture

In addition, the continual rigidification of the body

also serves to limit the range of emotional
flexibility – lack of emotional sensitivity, overly
sensitive

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According to Dr. Ida Rolf: As individual
experiencing fear, grief, or anger, too often
carries his body in an attitude which the world
recognises as the outward manifestation of
that particular emotion.

If he persists and consistently re-establishes it,

thus forming what is referred to as a “habit
pattern”, the muscular arrangement becomes
set.

Some muscles shorten and thicken, others are

invaded by connective tissue, others become
immobilised by consolidation of the tissue
involved.

Once this happened, the physical attitude is

set it can no longer be changed. Now what the
individual feels is no longer an emotion, but
has become his attitude.

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 MAJOR BODY MIND SPLITS
Analysis of several major splits that can be observed in the body mind, which will allow you to begin to see some of
the ways in which the shape of the physical body is reflective of the psychological body that is housed within it.

Right/Left Front/Back Side Front/Back

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 Right/Left Split

The right side of the body mind
is considered the “masculine”
side and as having to do with
logic and rational thought and
with such aspects of personality
of assertiveness, aggressiveness,
and authoritarianism.
The left side of the body mind is usually
considered to be related to the feminine
aspects of the character. Personality
constructs such as emotionality, passivity,
creative thought, and holistic expression.

The most obvious displays of

The easiest way to right/left preferences occurs
detect the right/left when emotions are being
differences is simply to released and acted out.
observe people while
they are expressing
themselves.

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 Top/Bottom Split
One of the easiest ways to
The top half of the body mind on the
tell how a person relates to
other hand, has to do with seeing,
these aspects of life is to
hearing, speaking, thinking,
observe the way his/her
expressing, communicating, and
weight is distributed
breathing.
throughout the his/her body.
The top half is concerned with
socializing, outward expression,
interpersonal communications, self-
assertion, aspirations and actions.
The bottom half of the body
mind functionally perceived, is Psychologically, the
the part of the human being bottom half is oriented
that makes contact with the towards privacy,
earth. support, introspection,
emotional stability,
It is concerned with stabilising, dependency and
moving, balance, supporting, motion/stasis.
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Head Tilt
Top Bottom Split %

• Muscle tone Throat

• Tissue distribution
Upper Arm Heart

Stomach
Sacral Lower Arm
Hips

Thighs
Legs

Stance & Foot Point

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Head tilt to the right

 Lean towards masculine energy, and is disposed

towards an active, think more rationally (left brain), and
pulling away from listening to the feminine side.

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Head tilt to the left

 Leans towards the female energy and is introspective,

could be defensive, playful or pulling away from active
participation or action.

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Head held up high and pulled back

 May show a sense of arrogance, often have sense of ego,

pride or defiance.

 The elevated focus can often overlook things and miss point
of view,

 May have a “head in the cloud” attitude that needs more

grounding.

 There is a mental drawing away from the body so there is

less communication with the feelings and emotions that
can be cold and calculating.

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 Neck
The size of the head in comparison to the rest of the body will indicate the balances of mental energy in the
body mind. The head carries all the 5 senses. All body major parts are represented in the face. It shows the
mental, emotional & physical distribution of energy of the body-mind, the balance left/right brain function and
personality.
Neck pushed forward

 A straight forward person, ready to

stick your neck out.

 Too often they go head first into a

situation.

 Have a high visual input and processing

system.

 A visionary and searcher ready to

counter events, however at the risk of
emotions.

 The weight of the head carried so far

out causes muscular tension in the neck
and shoulders.
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Head bent forward with focus of energy to the ground.

 The attitude towards reality is one of defeat, submission or

maybe defensive or deceitful due to insecurity and a poor
self image.

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 The Chest & Shoulders

Expanded chest is large-overdeveloped &

over-charged to the detriment to the pelvis
or hips.

 Very expressive, more active

 Likes to work in a team
 Lessen sensitivity & gut feelings
 May express feelings of power, control or
rage
 Difficult to share true feelings that are
buried deep inside
 Have a need to control
 If there is hard muscles, the person is
thick skinned with insecurities hidden at
the back

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Narrow contracted chest often lacks of
depth, low in energy, the emotions are
being withheld from a very early age

 Less expressive, more passive

 Prefer to work alone or quietly
 Shut down of emotion
 Lack of tissue results in inflexibility of
emotions
 May find hard to give love
 May find it hard to give out love energy
& often has a sense of emptiness with
deflated ego
 Actions motivated by sense of fear &
inferiority rather confidence & self-
motivation
 Passive aggression with a chromic
sense of fear maybe evident in
behaviour patterns.
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Retracted or pulled-back

 Torn between the feelings of hitting

out and holding back.

 Tissue seem to be frozen in this

mode.

 Its like saying “Stop me from hitting

out, holding back the expression of
anger.

 Accompanied by tight waist,

stomach & diaphragm, jaw, lips and
locked knees.

 Have a response of confusion,

frustration & helplessness.

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 Shoulders
Shoulders are carriers and expressers of our thoughts, feelings and our sense of responsibility.
They show how we carry ourselves through the world and express or hold back our
masculine/feminine energy through our right/left arms.

Square Shoulders

 Convey a sense of power,

self-assurance & self-esteem

 Ability to “shoulder the

burden”

 Concerned with appearance

 Wants to appear more

powerful & dynamic

 Can over balance into an

inflated ego ad self-image

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 Sloping shoulder can be uneven sloping more on 1
side.

 Feel that they take more responsibility than they

can handle – overburdened

 Burden themselves with other people’s problems

& expectations

 Right side is lower than the left, indicates a

predominantly masculine manner regards to
responsibilities & interpersonal, indicates a
controlling, assertive quality of personal action

 Lower left shoulder reflects a receptive “feminine”

style of interpersonal motion

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Forward, hunched & rotated

 Curve around the front of the body, enfold the chest

 Hollowness can be seen below the clavicle & shoulder

 Shows a chronic attitude of fear of being hurt due to

past experiences

 Vulnerable & withdrawn

 Right shoulder rotated forward: shows forceful assertive

manner & mental drive & have analytical mind

 Right shoulder pulled back: shows a fear of his own

assertiveness & an uncertain of what action to take

 Left shoulder rotated forward: is over expressive of

his emotions &n highly sensitive with a creative mind

 Left shoulder pulled back: a frozen sense of expressing

emotions freely
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Raised

 Considerably higher than they should

naturally be.

 Indicate frozen sense of fear, insecurity

or embarrassment .

 Retracting the head & neck into the shoulders creates a

false sense of protection & sense of withdrawal.

 Psycho-emotional response is unconscious fear

of expressing personal needs & emotions.

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Breathing high in the chest.

 The diaphragm is sucked up at inhalation. There is lack of oxygen, low energy, very little
chest expansion as a high degree of stress and emotion is retained in this region.

Shallow quick breathing

 Shows there is discomfort and anxiety. The psychosomatic response is to increase heart
rate and the breathing is spasmodic. Not enough toxic waste is cleared. When this
accumulates there is a loss of energy and increase of stress.

Rigid muscles around the diaphragm and the lower rib

 This causes tension in the upper back, neck and shoulders, desensitised feelings and
chronic tension with unawareness of its presence.

Breathing deeply emphasises feelings while poor breathing desensitise feelings.

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 The Arms & Hands
Reach out and express action, taking, holding, pushing, protecting and feeling, when expressing thoughts and
feelings of the body-mind. The upper arms relate to the expression of the energy of the area of the heart and
chest region. The forearm relates to area of the lower emotions, the stomach and the spleen.
The hands, while they are sensors and feelers are heavily influence by the mind.

Weak Underdeveloped Arms

 Lack of ability to reach out and take hold of life

 Cold clammy hands have a sense of powerlessness in

relationships to people, things and a lack of initiative.

 When the upper arms are weak there will, most likely, be a
similar weakness in the heart and chest region.

 When the forearms are weak, stomach & spleen energy is low.

 Large hands with weak arms occur when the emotions are
dominated by a strong mind.

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Fat Overdeveloped Arms

 Sluggish movement with difficulty in initiating

action and
expressing their heartfelt feelings.

 When they do reach out lack of fluidity and

precision.

 The blocking of expression creates the heavy

insensitive tissue condition.

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Overdeveloped Muscled Arms

 A high sense of physical power usually to compensate for

a lack of emotional sensitivity and personal insecurity.

 Accompanied by suppressed anger and tight shoulders

and neck.

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 This region is dominated by issues of

confidence and expression of personal identity
and personal needs. The psychosomatic
responses here are sensations of internal fire
expressed or unexpressed.

 The most vulnerable area, with unprotected

soft tissue & inadequate structural support
except for the spine in the lumbar region.

 Enlargement of the upper half with tense

diaphragm and intercostal muscles of the rib
cage may have a lot of suppressed fire or
frustration. Poor breathing – into lower belly.

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Abdominal Region –Lower Area

 Flat tight belly or a tight waist lacking tissue growth

have very little energy at the level of raw emotions
and gut feelings or an expression of them.

 Often deeply felt fear and anger is held in here.

 The tight waist shuts the flow of emotions upwards

or downwards between the chest/heart region
and the lower emotions.

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 Thighs

Thighs when sprung apart

 With the inner thigh muscles shortened,

create energy blocked. This indicate
a low energy base.

Thighs squeeze together protectively

 Unconsciously blocked upward energy flow.

 This blocked & stagnant energy is disguised as

soft flabby tissue, an insensitive layer covering
deeply buried rage, anger, frustrations & other
emotional issues not dealt with.

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 Over-developed thighs
 Too grounded or feeling
being stuck
 Suppression of emotions
creates a retention of
fluids in the muscle tissue
 Fatty protective tissue covers
the inner tension

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 Knees

 The knees are related to personal identity,

self-confidence, progress, protection,
movement & change.

 When its held back & locked-in, indicates

they are holding back action for fear of
stepping out or a need to hold your
ground.

 This rigidity in personality shows a

tightness in the jaw, muscular tension into
the elbows, lower back, thighs & calves as
well as around the knee cap. Further
stress in the neck and shoulder.

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 Leg Type

Weak under-developed legs

 Lack muscle tone have difficulty in

grounding.

 Psychosomatic response is a feeling lack of

support, direction & understanding.

 This weakness is replaced by a forcefulness

in arms, neck & jaw.

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Thin tight legs

 They are go-getters with high energetic flow & vitality.

 They often have conflicts in the joints and have locked

knees.

 High burn of energy can create tiredness & tension in the

legs, desensitising their sense of grounding.

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Fat, over-developed legs

 Show a sluggishness in initiating action.

 The psychosomatic response is a feeling of being stuck.

 The suppression of emotions creates a holding of fluids within the

muscle tissue.

 The fatty protective layer expresses their outer-softness, covering its

inner tension.

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Massive or over-muscled legs

 Show a restriction of their awareness of their physical

power, in conflict with a sensitive personality.

 Movement & fluidity is also not graceful when tense or

rigid.

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 The Ankles & Calves
The major point of articulation, provides drive, spring & movement to the entire body. Ankle relates to stability,
balance and energy flow.

 When calves muscles are thin

& tight, indicates a quick
nervous temperament that
likes to move & think quickly.

 Slim, strong ankles show

this one is quick, positive
and have drive.

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 The Ankles & Calves
 When the calves muscles are
overdeveloped with strong muscles they
have a tendency to hold and grip on to
things in life with some stubbornness.

 When calves are heavy & sluggish this

indicates an accumulation of blocked
energy, fluids & sluggish lymphatic system.

 This is caused by a lack of fluidity of

movement in the ankles of heel-diggers,
clutching feet and the lead foot.

 Heavy ankles indicate that

there may be a sluggishness &
lack of drive with an
accumulation of fluids & toxins
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Front – Back Split
%
Angle of Gaze

Cervical
The back side of your body
The front sides appears to reflect mind, on the other hand,
the social self, the conscious self. reflects the private and
Thoracic
This is what is identified as “me”. unconscious elements of your
self. This side often becomes
the store house for all the
Lumbar
This side appears to be primarily aspects of your life that you
responsible for aspects of Hip Angle don’t want to deal or you don’t
“myself” that you are aware of Coccyx want other people to see.
and that are active ingredients in
your day-to-day Literally, unwanted emotion
living:sadness,happiness,longing, especially the so-called
caring,loving,communicating,desi “negative” emotion, gets stored
ring are all emotional fields that Knees and hidden in the back of the
activate motion and body mind – along your spine
development in the front of your Calves and in the backs of your legs.
body mind.
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 Back
Head Tilt

Shoulder Height/Roll

Upper Body Twist

Hips

Leg Frame
Thighs

Knees
Calves

Ankles

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 Upper Back & Lower Back

Kyphosis is the backward curvature of the spine

 Hunched shoulders, hump back appearance

 Protective tissues, withdraw energy from the heart
 Head thrust forward
 Disassociates the person from expressing suppressed
feelings & emotions
 The mind clearly have its way

Lordosis is an excessive curvature of the lumbar area

 Cocked pelvis & locked knees with pulled back elbow
& shoulders.
 Head pushed forward by a strong determined mind aiming
too high, busting the back to achieve this or trying to please others
 May not able to express own creativity due to desensitised tissue
at the back of the neck
 If the lower back muscles are tight, the person is compulsive in nature
 Lack of self-assertive and self-expression

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 Pelvis

Forward tilt: Sacrum tucked under and pubis thrust out.

 Low physical energy. This is created by lack of muscles tissue

and tone in the buttock area, may have low energy in the legs.

 Problems with grounding and balance.

 Underdeveloped or rigid legs and pelvis

 Lack of ability to stay grounded or focused in emotional activity

 Feelings are constricted and contained

 Energetic energy comes from the upper body and head

 Overdevelop chest to express control

 Think and rationalise

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 Check your own posture as it tells a lot about your habits and attitude!

Forward tilt
 Underdeveloped or rigid legs and pelvis
 Lack of ability to stay grounded or focused
in emotional activity
 Feelings are constricted and contained
 Energetic energy comes from the upper body and head
 Overdevelop chest to express control
 Think and rationalise
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Tilted back: Sacrum cocked back and up, pubis tucked
under.

 High energy being held back. Excessive drawing in the

spinal curvature in the lower back region creates
armouring in the muscles and tissues.

 This frozen posture & tension is normally accompanied

by over—developed legs, thighs due to the need of
security.

 The psychosomatic response can result in tight

diaphragm, poor breathing pattern and a weak chest
region. Abundance of withheld feelings create
condition of frustration or temper towards others.

 This reflects an undeveloped ability of self-expression

& self-assertion.

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 Feet

Healthy grounded feet have 3 distinct point of

contacts and sufficient arch. It is a platform,
foundation and a sense of firmness and well being.
When the weight is carried on the balls of the feet
there is support, drive and spring in the steps that
generates a sense of confidence and freedom.

Flat foot lose ground easily and when

push-tested. This indicates a difficulty
putting down roots or standing still.
They have ease in motion but not
much stability. They may have
difficulty in staying in a relationship or
taking on responsibilities and have a
nervous need to move. May have tight
or overdeveloped back.

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Lead feet need to be grounded and stable. Status and
position in life is important. Have difficulty in motion
and change. They are more reliable and set than
creative.

Tip-toers walk very lightly on their feet hardly

putting any weight on their heels. They are highly
imaginative, artistic, floaters and dreamers with
not enough grounding due to high arches. Push-
test easily over balance forward.

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Clutching feet indicates an unresolved emotional crisis
possible in movement or running away. May have over
developed thighs, tightness in the back of the legs to
compensate for the lack of stability, fluidity and movement.

A heel digger shows an exaggerated determination,

a false sense of security or stability. The chronic
fear causes them to dig in their heels. The respond
is transmitted to a clutched jaw, a tightened belly
and locked knees. Shortened breathe, discomfort,
anxiety and stress. The counter effects are a rigid
pelvis, a restricted chest, lower back problems,
with the nervous system and stomach affected.
Push-test: backwards
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 Torso/Limb Split
Our limbs on the other hand are
parts of ourselves that we extend
from our cores outward to
perform the function of moving,
acting, making contact, and
communicating.
While our arms extend outward
from our chest and shoulders to
connect us to people, things and
activities.
Torso is part of the body that can be
compared to the “core” of yourself. It
corresponds to aspects of your self
that are self-serving, self-reflecting,
self-understanding, and self-
protecting.
Your torso focus on your “being” as
compared to your limbs , which are
concerned with your “doing”.

Our legs extend downward from

our pelvis to ground us with the
earth.

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 Torso/Limb Split
Most obvious examples of the
torso/limbs split are that in which
the arms and legs are weak while the
torso is full and well-developed.

The 1st possibility relates to a

situation in which the person has
filled himself up with his own
feelings and passions but has
difficulty expressing or mobilising
himself in order to actualise these
feelings – “do-er or be-er”

Or the arms and legs are vital

and strong, with the torso being
frail and underdeveloped.

On the other hand, the person

with a thin torso and
overdeveloped arms and legs
tend to be more of a
“communicator”.
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 Explore Your Own Mindfulness Body Mind Exercise

 Take a few minutes to explore the overall form of your own

body-mind.

 You can do it at home and study parts of your body-mind that

were shaped & influenced by your habits or attitude.

 As you look at yourself, try to be non-judgemental and avoid

commenting about yourself about things you need to be doing
for yourself (like dieting or exercising) or changes that affected
your posture (like aging or illness).

 Simply view yourself and allow yourself to get a sense of the way
you are shaped and moulded in every part of your body.

 Pay particular attention to the relationship that exists between

the right and left side of your body.

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 Explore Your Own Mindfulness Body Mind Exercise

 Does one side appear to be larger or more powerful than the

other?

 Is one side more healthy looking than the other?

 How about the top and bottom halves of your body ? Do they
seem proportionately related, or is one of the halves larger and
heavier than the other?

 Take a few moments to explore your body with respect of areas

of strength and weakness.

 As you look into yourself, see if you can make a mental map,
charting points of vitality and weakness.

 Take time to sense how you feel about the different aspects of
your body, which part you feel more intimate or more stranger to
other parts.
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 Tips to for Positive Body Mind Relationships

 Make Mindfulness as your daily routine practise and

manage your Emotions intelligently

 Practice deep breathing 10 minutes or more in a day

especially when under stress

 Practise visualisation and positive self-talk to re-

boot your mind

 Meditate if you can daily between 15 – 20 minutes

 Exercise regularly

 Quit smoking and drinking alcohol

 Eat balance healthy diet

 Elevate your mind, deepen your spirit

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 Tips to for Positive Body Mind Relationships
 Keep repetitive negative thoughts away

 Have gratitude

 Draw your vision board, set small bite goals and ACT
on it!

 Celebrate each time you achieve

 Stop procrastinating by managing your FEAR!

 Learn new things daily to create new neuropaths in

your brain

 Unleash your creativity by looking inside your heart.

The answer is inside YOU!

 Focus provides CLARITY, Balance provides DESIRE,

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