EDMUNDO G.

VILLARAZA, LPT
Master of Arts in Teaching Social Studies
Talakag National High School
Senior High School Department
San Isidro, Talakag, Bukidnon
Overview: Modernization and the Filipino Family
In a developing country like the Philippines, it is inevitable that modernization will affect
all the aspect of life. However, in spite of the media-driven impact of Western ideas, the
Filipino family retains many of its traditions. Though more women are questioning the double
standard of morality, most are satisfied with the present order. Filipinas feel they really run the
show, wielding control by subtle means. Although the man is the authority figure, he makes few
decisions without consulting the woman. Men acknowledge female power by announcing, often
with better laughter, that they are “under the saya.” Many social scientist claim that the
Filipino family is in transition. In the traditional family, the individual’s personality and outlook
in life were dominated by the wishes of the parents and elders. Mutual assistance and
cooperation underscore proper behavior. On the other hand, the modern family is characterized
by attitudes, values, interest and goals directed towards individual performance and
achievements. In transition, the Filipino family exhibits characteristics both traditional and
modern. In particular, the role of women is changing rapidly. More have joined the labor force.
In growing numbers, they are escaping the drudgery of housekeeping.
THE FILIPINO FAMILY
HOW TO HAVE A
HAPPY FAMILY
1. Respect Each Other’s.

Do this by not just by giving them respect, but by

listening to what they say and trying to best to make them
happy. Realize that you may be able to choose your friends,
but you’re born to your family. If there’s nothing you can
do to please others, you’ll be happier if you just accept it
for now and focus on pleasing yourself. Making others happy
is secondary to being happy yourself. And things do change
over time.
 2. Be honest but bear in mind that they don’t
always need to know everything.

If you get along well, you can open up,

but if you don’t, avoid tender subjects can
keep the peace. Sometimes saying nothing
can be better for a family relationship than
saying everything. Family is forever. Why
fight about the little things?
 3. Feel free to communicate with each other
and every person in your family.

Listen to them when they want to say

something; try to be with them when they
need you. Bear in mind that the needs of
your family don’t outweigh your own. Give
them your time and love, not your life.
 4. Try to compromise whenever and
wherever it’s possible.

When you see that the people who you love most are
happy, you will have a feeling of great happiness. You might have
to compromise a lot in life; family is the first environment to
begin learning this important skill, amongst people who know you
best and can guide you with their reactions, thoughts and
suggestions. Even the things they don’t tell you become a learning
experience.
 5. Give occasional gifts to your family
members.

Surprise gifts can be great because most people love

them. The best gifts tend to the ones you make yourself, or put
a lot of thought into. Also appreciated are gifts of your time;
doing task around the house that haven’t been done for a while
such as painting touch-ups, restoring missing door handles and
etc.
6. Eat together.

Modern-day life makes this virtually impossible to do,

however, it really does change your family life dramatically
—for the better. Realize that life is not always going to go
smoothly. Try to face the “ups and downs” in your family
life with positive thinking and a cool mind. But your family
doesn’t have the right to make you miserable just because
they’re family. Try to get along, but it doesn’t work, let it
go.
7. Dedicate a slot, it may be once a week or
once a month in which you have a “Family Time”

This could be anything, watching a movie together,

playing a game, going out a trip, but make sure it is
something everyone will enjoy.
8. Make time for siblings.

They know you best, and they will tell you the whole
truth, even when you don’t want to hear it. As we grow up,
our relationships with siblings may not be as strong as we
think, but when you’re older you may find yourself grateful
for the work you put in now. Be supportive, encouraging
and honest.
9. Accept that your relationship with your
family depends on both you and them.

If they can’t meet you halfway, you

will be happier if you don’t spend all of your
energy making all the effort.
Tips to Have a Happy Family

• Be Patient.
• Compromise is the most valuable tool you
have.
• Sometimes families are just dysfunctional.
It happens. You come first.
Warnings

Family members are never entitled to be

abusive. If they are, don’t waste your time.
They can’t always be won over with patience
and kindness. Stay out of toxic situations when
you can.
WHAT IS MEANT BY RESPONSIBLE
PARENTHOOD

Responsible Parenthood is the present

government policy. Family planning programs
initiated by health agencies are up and running
despite church opposition. Today’s family averages
between four and five children, although the ideal
family size is much smaller.
WHAT IS MEANT BY RESPONSIBLE
PARENTHOOD

Name of Office: POPCOM

RESPONSIBLE PARENTHOOD, as defined in the Directional Plan
of POPCOM, is the will and ability of parents to respond to the
needs and aspirations of the family and children. It is shared
responsibility of the husband and wife to determine and
achieve the desired number, spacing and timing of their
children according to their own family life inspirations, taking
into account psychological preparedness, health status, socio-
cultural and economic concerns.
 THANK YOU and GOD BLESS
US ALL…..
EDMUNDO G. VILLARAZA, LPT
Master of Arts in Teaching Social Studies
Talakag National High School
Senior High School Department
San Isidro, Talakag, Bukidnon