Habits have a

tremendous gravity
pull
 Lift off takes a lot of effort,
but once we break out of the gravity
pull,
our freedom takes on a whole new
dimension
Ready for take
off ?
Sow a thought, reap an action;
Saw an action, reap a habit;
Sow a habit, reap a character;
Sow a character, reap a destiny.
 WHAT IS A HABIT?

A habit is the intersection of

KNOWLEDGE
SKILL
And
DESIRE
 Habit 1: Be Proactive
Change starts from within,
and highly effective people
make the decision to improve
their lives through the things
that they can influence rather
than by simply reacting to
external forces.
 Habit 1:
Be proactive

“You are respons-able: able

to choose your respons!”
 There are two (2) types of people---

REACTIVE and PROACTIVE

REACTIVE – often affected by their

physical environment and by
circumstances and events.

PROACTIVE – have the ability to

subordinate an impulse to a value.
(They “carry their own weather.”)
Reactive Language Proactive Language

>There’s nothing I can Let’s look at alternatives.

I can choose a different
do.
approach.
That’s just the way I I can control my own
am. feelings.
He makes me so mad. I can create an effective
They won’t allow that. presentation.
I’ll have to do this. I will choose an
appropriate response.
I can’t
I choose.
I must. I prefer.
If only- I will.
Circle of Concern Vs Circle of Influence

Circle
Circle

Circle Circle
Of Of
influence influence

Of Concern
Of Concern
 Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

Develop a principle-centered
personal mission statement.
Extend the mission statement
into long-term goals based on
personal principles.
 PLAN DAILY
PLAN WEEKLY
SET GOALS
IDENTIFY VALUES
 Be Objective – Conscious

Based on the Principle – All things are created twice.

First Creation --- mental (the vision)
Second Creation --- physical (the implementation)

LEADERSHIP – first creation.

MANAGEMENT – second creation.

LEADERSHIP – What are the things I want to

accomplish?
MANAGEMENT – How can I best accomplish what
I want?
Every individual and every organization should have a MISSION
STATEMENT, based on your various centers.

ALTERNATIVE CENTERS

Spouse centeredness Pleasure centeredness

Family centeredness Friend centeredness
Money centeredness Enemy centeredness
Work centeredness Church centeredness
Possession centeredness Self-
centeredness

PRINCIPLE CENTEREDNESS –
Let’s center our lives on correct principles.
 Principle-Centeredness
FAMILY P SPACE

R
SELF I WORK

N
MONEY C POSSESSIONS

I
CHURCH
P PLEASURE

L
E FRIEND
ENEMY
S
 Habit 3: Put First Things First

Spend time doing what fits into your

personal mission, observing the proper
balance between production and
building production capacity. Identify
the key roles that you take on in life,
and make time for each of them.
 What is the difference between URGENT
and IMPORTANT?

Habit 3 is the personal fruit, the practical

fulfillment of Habit 1 and 2.

Habit 1: “You’re the Creator. You’re in charge”

Habit 2; The first creation (mental) –your vision
Habit 3: The second creation (physical) -
implementation
 Four Generations of TIME
MANAGEMENT
1st Generation – notes and checklists
2nd Generation – calendars and
appointment books
3nd Generation – current time
management (prioritization)
4th Generation – just emerging. Time
management is a misnomer, the
challenge – is not to manage time but to
manage ourselves.
LONG – range
planning

SHORT – term
planning

WEEKLY planning

DAILY planning

DAY – sectional
planning
The key to time management is
not to prioritize what’s on your
schedule but to schedule your
priorities
Habit 4:
Think
Win/win
 Habit 4: Think Win/Win
Seek agreements and relationships that are
mutually beneficial. In cases where a "win/win"
deal cannot be achieved, accept the fact that
agreeing to make "no deal" may be the best
alternative. In developing an organizational
culture, be sure to reward win/win behavior
among employees and avoid in advertantly
rewarding win/lose behavior.
 Win/win is not a technique; it’s the total
philosophy of human interaction

ALTERNATIVES

Win/Lose
Lose/Win
Lose
Lose/Lose
Win
Win/Win
No deal

Which is the best? “ It depends on your values.”

You can only achieve win/win
“

solutions
with win/win processes”
It’s not your way or my
way, it’s a better way
 Habit 5:
Seek first to understand,
then to be understood
 Habit 5: Seek First to
Understand, Then to Be
Understood
First seek to understand the other person, and only
then try to be understood. Stephen Covey presents
this habit as the most important principle of
interpersonal relations. Effective listening is not
simply echoing what the other person has said
through the lens of one's own experience. Rather, it is
putting oneself in the perspective of the other person,
listening empathically for both feeling and meaning.
“We have such a tendency to fix things up
with good advice, but often we fail to take
the time to diagnose, to really deeply
understand another human being first”
 Five Levels of Listening

 1st level – ignoring (not really listening)

 2nd level – pretending to listen.
 3rd level – selective listening (hearing
certain parts)
 4th level – attentive listening (really paying
attention)
 5th level – the highest level – emphatic
listening. Listening with intent to
understand, really understand.
 EMPHATIC LISTENING
It is getting inside another person’s
frame of reference. You look out
through it, your see the world the way
the other person sees the world you
understand his perception, you
understand how he feels.

Diagnose before you prescribe.

 Habit 6: Synergize
Through trustful communication, find
ways to leverage individual differences
to create a whole that is greater than
the sum of the parts. Through mutual
trust and understanding, one often can
solve conflicts and find a better solution
than would have been obtained through
either person's own solution.
 Habit 6:
Synergize

“The whole is greater

than the sum of its parts”
 “When we are left to our
own experiences,
we constantly suffer from a
shortage of data”
 SYNERGIZE (Creative Cooperation)

SYNERGY is the highest activity in all life

– the true test and manifestation of all of
the other habits put together.
SYNERGY is the essence of principle-
centered leadership. It catalyzes, unifies
and unleashes the greatest powers within
people. All the habits covered so far
prepare us to create the miracle of
synergy
 SYNERGY means:
The whole is greater than the sum of
its parts.
It is the application of the principles
of creative cooperation.
Look for the third alternative
The “middle way”.
 “ The person who is truly effective has the
humility to recognize his own perceptual
limitations and to appreciate the rich resources
available through interaction with the hearts and
minds of other human beings”
In order to have
influence,
you have to open
yourself up
to bé influenced
 Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Take time out from production
to build production capacity
through personal renewal of the
physical, mental,
social/emotional, and spiritual
dimensions. Maintain a balance
among these dimensions.
 Sharpen the Saw (Self-renewal)
Habit 7 is taking the time to sharpen the saw.
It surrounds the other habits because it is the
habit that makes all the other’s possible.

Habit 7 is preserving and enhancing the greatest

asset you have, -YOU. It’s renewing the 4
dimensions of your nature, - Physical, spiritual,
mental, and social/emotional.
The Four Dimensions of Renewal
Physical
Exercise, Nutrition, Stress
Management

Mental Social/Emotional
Reading, Visualizing, Sincere, Empathy, Synergy,
Planning, Writing Intrinsic Security

Spiritual
Value Classification and Commitment,
Study and Meditation
 Read,
write,
relax,
exercise,
play, love,
get
involved,
meditate …
The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to
Greatness
The eighth habit is to
"Find your voice and
inspire others to find
theirs".
 Discover Your Voice – Unopened
Birth-Gifts
Each individual is born with the potential to be great. What you do
with this potential is up to you. You must remember that the more
you use and expand your present talents, the more capacity you are
given, and the greater your ability becomes.

Three Most Important Gifts

1. FREEDOM AND POWER TO CHOOSE. You have the power to

direct your own life based on your own values.
2. NATURAL LAWS or PRINCIPLES. These are universal, timeless,
inarguable, principles that transcend culture and geography.
These principles include kindness, fairness, and honesty.
3. Four intelligences / Capacities.
 Four Intelligences / Capacities
You can develop the four intelligences by assuming the following:

Mental Intelligence (IQ) – For the mind – assume that the half-life
of your profession is two years; now prepare accordingly.

Physical Intelligence (PQ) – For the body – assume that you have
a heart attack; now live accordingly.

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) – For the heart – assume that

everything you say about another can be overheard: now speak
accordingly.

Spiritual Intelligence (SQ) – For the spirit – assume that you have
to attend a one-on-one meeting with God every quarter; now live
accordingly.
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