SESSION 2

Sexuality, Love, and Romantic Relationship

Objectives:
At the end of this module, the participants will be able to:
 Be aware of his/her own sexuality;
 Discuss the meaning of love and the misconceptions about
love;
 Learn how to handle a healthy romantic relationship that is
based on love and respect; and
 Strengthen self-awareness, creative thinking and
interpersonal relationship
Sexuality
In our culture, sex and sex-related
subjects are taboo. We do not openly
discuss these things because we were
not oriented to freely talk about this.
Sexuality is important for us to
understand because this is an important
component to appreciate sexual
tendencies and behavior that will affect
the sexual health of the adolescent
 Activity
Top of Mind
Sex means differently to different people. Images and ideas are created when
people hear about sex.
Write in the metacards what comes into your mind when you hear the word “sex”
.
Post the metacards on the board.
Did the words come easily or with difficulty?
Where did you get the words, description or images?
Importance of
Understanding
Sexuality
◦ An important component of
appreciating sexual behaviors that
will have implications on the sexual
health of adolescents.

◦ Being able for the adolescents to talk

openly and honestly about sexuality
helps to sort out feelings, develop
sexual standards, understand the
ideas of others have the correct
information for their decision –
making in relation to sexual health.
Five Major Components of
Sexuality
1. Sex includes the biological concerns on
the anatomy and physiology of the
reproductive system, growth and
development of the human body and the
gender - either male or female.
 2. Sexual Orientation
This refers to the gender (that is, male or female) to
which a person is attracted.
No one fully understands exactly what determines a
person's sexual orientation, but it is likely explained
by a variety of biological and genetic factors.
Types of Sexual Orientation
Heterosexual (straight).
Homosexual (gay or lesbian)..
Bisexual.
Being gay is also not considered a mental disorder or
abnormality.
Despite myths and misconceptions, there
is no evidence that being gay is caused by early
childhood experiences, parenting styles, or the way
someone is raised.
3. Gender • This refers to “one’s sense of oneself as male,
female, or transgender” (American
Identity Psychological Association, 2006).
• Gender identity is how we feel about and
express our gender and gender roles —
clothing, behavior, and personal appearance.
4. Sexual Identity
This is how one thinks of oneself in terms of whom is
someone romantically or sexually attracted to.
Sexual identity and sexual behavior are closely related to
sexual orientation, but they are distinguished,
with identity referring to an individual's conception of
themselves.
This also refers to the feelings about the body and about
being a man and a woman, relationships and intimacy,
sexual response, sexual awakening and other sexual
concerns
5. Values and
Attitudes, Feelings
and Emotions

• Life experiences
influence our
attitudes, feelings,
and values towards
self and others.
Circles of Sexuality
Circle #1—Sensuality
Sensuality
Body Image
Experiencing
Pleasure
Physical Attraction
Fantasy
Circle #2—Sexual Intimacy
1.Sensuality
Body Image
Experiencing
Pleasure
Physical Attraction
Fantasy

Circles 2.Sexual Intimacy

of Sharing
Caring
sexuality
Loving or Liking
Emotional Risk
Taking
Vulnerability
Circle #3—Sexual Identity
1.Sensuality
Body Image
Experiencing
Pleasure
Physical Attraction
Fantasy
2. Sexual Intimacy

Circles of Sharing
Caring
sexuality Loving or Liking
3. Sexual Emotional Risk Taking
Vulnerability
Identity
Gender Identity
Gender Role
Gender Bias
Sexual
Orientation
Circle #4—Reproduction and Sexual
Health
Sensuality
Body Image
Experiencing Pleasure Sexual Intimacy
Physical Attraction
Sharing
Fantasy
Caring
Loving or Liking
Emotional Risk Taking
Vulnerability

Circles of
sexuality Sexual Identity
Gender Identity
Gender Role
Gender Bias

4.Reproduction and Sexual Orientation

Sexual Health
Feelings and Attitudes
Sexual Intercourse
Reproductive and
sexual anatomy
Sexual Reproduction
Circle #5—Sexualization

Sensuality
Body Image
Experiencing Pleasure
Physical Attraction Sexual Intimacy
5. Sexualization Fantasy
Sharing
Caring
Loving or Liking

Flirting Emotional Risk Taking

Vulnerability

Circles
Seduction of
Sexual Identity
Sexual Harassment sexuality Gender Identity
Gender Role
Gender Bias
Rape Reproduction and Sexual
Health
Sexual Orientation

Feelings and Attitudes

Sexual Intercourse
Reproductive and sexual
anatomy
Sexual Reproduction
Choices and Decisions those Adolescents Make
Related to their Own Sexuality

◦ Choices that will shape their decisions about

friendship, relationships, family, school and
career.
◦ Choices that will shape their future and type
of life they will have.
◦ Choices and decisions that you may reflect the
values, beliefs and priorities of adolescents
◦ Decisions on what are right and how to do
what is right.
Three Important Things that Adolescent Should
Remember about Sexuality

If you don’t feel ready, don’t do it!

If you have mixed feelings and
under a lot of pressure from peers
and friends, don’t do it!
If you have doubts, don’t do it!
WHAT IS
TRUE
LOVE? ….

LOVE … begins with

loving oneself
St. Paul
Love is:
 Knowing and accepting oneself - your
values in life, strengths, weaknesses,
aspirations, also accepting oneself including
imperfections .....
 Nurturing oneself (pangangalaga)
nurture your physical, mental, psychological,
spiritual growth and development
 Valuing oneself (pagpapahalaga)
 Respecting oneself (Paggalang)
… kung ikaw ay
Nagmamahal …
True Love, “the will to extend
one’s self for the purpose of
nurturing growth”
M. Scott Peck

True Love, “to be supremely

concerned for the good of the
other person”
Erich Fromm ,
―kung ikaw ay nagmamahal ....
wala kang gagawin na pwedeng makasama sa ‘yong
minamahal
halimbawa:
◦ Pananakit
◦ Sobrang possesiveness
◦ Pag pasok sa early sex ng hindi pa handa
◦ Pananakit
◦ Impluwensyang mag bisyo – alak, sigarilyo,
droga
◦ Etc
 Exercise

“Paano ko Maipapakita ang Pagmamahal ko sa Aking Sarili ;

Paano ko Maipapakita and Pagmamahal ko sa Aking

Minamahal”
•Divide the group into 2
•Give each group a Manila paper,
•Divide the Manila Paper into 2
•Write your responses in the 2 columns
•Allow 15 minutes to complete task
Mga Maling Akala Sa Love
MISCONCEPTION 1: FALLING IN LOVE Is LOVE
• Falling in love is not yet TRUE LOVE because it is temporary.

• Often a thrilling “KILIG” moments” experience. More of

infatuation

Caution:
– sobrang PDA at intimacy lalo na kung bago pa lang ang
relationship
 Misconception 2: MYTH OF ROMANTIC LOVE

 REAL LOVE is NOT a like a romantic

fairy tale “living happily ever after”

― myth na may isang taong itinadhana para

sa ‘yo kaya forever na yon

―What if ang akala mong itinadhana sa yo ay

isang abusado? Magtitiis ka ba?
 MISCONCEPTION 3: PASSIVE or EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY

EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY
nourishes infantilism,
rather than growth

- It is anti –love, which is

nurturing growth
 “PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-IBIG?”
•Instruction:
― I will read some situations

―Think if the situation reflects PAG-IBIG or MALING AKALA SA

PAG-IBIG
–What effect, if any, do they have on each person? How does it
affect the relationship
PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-IBIG

Mamahalin at pagsisilbihan sya

habang buhay kahit madalas nya
akong binubogbog, dahil siya ang
itinadhana sa akin ng bituin at ng
Maykapal
PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-IBIG

“Hindi ako
mabubuhay ng wala
ka, kasi mahal na
mahal kita”
 PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-IBIG

 Mahal ko sya at susuportahan ko sya na matupad ang mga

pangarap nya.

 In love at kilig na kilig ako sa girlfriend / boyfriend ko kasi sya

ang pinaka –popular sa school / lugar namin

 Magpapakamatay ako pag iniwan ako ng boyfriend/girlfriend

ko.
 KEY POINTS!!
In summary:
Sexuality is an important aspect of the adolescent.
Decisions to make related to sexuality may bring about
positive or negative situations in the life of the adolescent
Love is not a temporary emotion, not a romance, or
dependency by which we are overwhelmed.
It is a commitment to action, an intellectual and thoughtful
decision.
Resources:
Adolescent and Youth Reproductive Health Manual – IMAP,
Inc.
Usapang Barkadahan – Module 4 - Jhpiego