What Is Marriage ? Man and Woman A Defense

WHAT IS MARRIAGE
MAN & WOMAN: A DEFENSE

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-Antonio Bernard Part 25
“Redefining MARRIAGE”
With the rise of feminism and the LGBT Movement many countries are on the verge of
redefining a basic social institution called marriage , but what is Marriage ? , is it just a
permanent legal transaction authorised by the state in which any two persons can join
hands in holy matrimony and cast loose at pleasure any time as they so please ,or is it
about the romance which involves a mere emotional bond base upon sex ?
"Marriage exists to unite a man and a woman as husband and wife to then be
equipped to be mother and father to any children that that union produces. It’s
based on the anthropological truth that men and women are distinct and
complementary. It’s based on the biological fact that reproduction requires a
man and a woman. It’s based on the sociological reality that children deserve a
mother and a father.”
- Ryan T. Anderson, “Marriage Matters, and Redefining It Has Social Costs”https://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2014/01/11880/
"Whenever a child is born, a mother will always be close by. That’s a fact of biology.
The question for culture and the question for law is whether a father will be close
by. And if so, for how long? Marriage is the institution that different cultures and
societies across time and place developed to maximize the likelihood that that man
would commit to that woman and then the two of them would take responsibility to
raise that child.”
This conjugal definition of marriage precedes Christianity and evolved independently of
Judaeo-Christian tradition. Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Xenophanes, Musonius Rufus and
Plutarch all accepted definitions of marriage that excluded same-sex relationships. They
did so in societies that tolerated (and even promoted) same-sex relationships, so their
arguments cannot be attributed as homophobic or dismissed as the products of religious
bigotry.
The principle that marriage is the foundation of society
reflects a “2,400 year philosophical tradition that has
distinguished those uniquely comprehensive unions
consummated by coitus from all others.”
- Girgis, WHAT IS MARRIAGE? ,page.50
In fact, “legal and philosophical traditions have,
significantly, long termed [coitus] the generative act,” as
without coitus, organic conception is impossible.”
“Many cultures and thinkers have understood marriage as a stable sexual union
of man and woman, apt for family life. It is historically impossible to attribute
these cultural and intellectual traditions to any one religion, or to hostility
toward people identifying as homosexual. They provide a nonsectarian rational
basis for concluding that the conjugal union of husband and wife has
distinctive value. And they confound the idea that only animus could motivate
such a view. ”
For millennia, cultures around the world have regulated male-female sexual unions in
particular, with a view to children’s needs. As one historian observes, “Marriage, as
the socially recognized linking of a specific man to a specific woman and her
offspring, can be found in all societies. Through marriage, children can be assured of
being born to both a man and a woman who will care for them as they mature.”
-G. Robina Quale, A History of Marriage Systems 2 (1988).
Likewise in this country, courts have held “the procreation of children under
the shield and sanction of the law” is a “principal end[] of marriage,” Sharon v.
Sharon, 75 Cal. 1, 33 (1888) (citation omitted), which in turn “exists as a
protected legal institution primarily because of societal values associated with
the propagation of the human race,” Singer v. Hara, 522 P.2d 1187, 1195
(Wash. App. 1974)
Plato
Major intellectual traditions
have affirmed the special value of male-
female bonds. Plato wrote favorably of
legislating to have people “couple, male
and female, and lovingly pair together,
and live the rest of their lives” together.
-Plato, 4 The Dialogues of Plato 407 (Benjamin
Jowett trans. & ed., Oxford Univ. 1953) (360 B.C.).
Aristotle
For Aristotle, the foundation of political
community was “the family group,” by
which he “meant the nuclear family.”
-Alberto Moffi, Family and Property Law, in
Cambridge Companion to Ancient Greek Law 254
(Michael Gagarin & David Cohen eds. 2005).
In Aristotle’s view, indeed, “between

man and wife friendship seems to exist
by nature,” and their conjugal union
has primacy even over political union.
-Aristotle, Ethics, in 2 The Complete Works of Aristotle
1836 (Jonathan Barnes ed., rev. Oxford trans. 1984).
Greek historian Plutarch
Likewise, the ancient Greek historian
Plutarch wrote approvingly of marriage
as “a union of life between man and
woman for the delights of love and the
begetting of children.”
-Plutarch, Life of Solon, in 20 Plutarch’s
Lives 4 (Loeb ed. 1961).
He considered marriage a distinct form

of friendship, specially embodied in
“physical union” of coitus.
-Plutarch, Erotikos 769 (Loeb ed. 1961).
Musonius Rufus
And for Musonius Rufus, the first-
century Roman Stoic, a “husband and
wife” should “come together for the
purpose of making a life in common
and of procreating children, and
furthermore of regarding all things
in common between them . . .
even their own bodies.”
-Musonius Rufus, Discourses XIIIA, in Cora E. Lutz, Musonius Rufus “The Roman Socrates,” Yale Classical
Studies (1947) https://sites.google.com/site/thestoiclife/the_teachers/musonius- rufus/lectures/13-0.
Musonius Rufus Socrates Plutarch
Not one of these thinkers was Jewish or Christian, or even influenced by
Judaism or Christianity. Nor were they ignorant of same-sex sexual
relations, which were common, for example, between adult and adolescent
males in Greece. No one imagines that these great thinkers were motivated
by sectarian religious concerns, ignorance, or hostility of any type toward
anyone. Yet they reasoned their way to the view that male-female sexual
bonds have distinctive and profoundly important value.
Xenophanes
Plato
Aristotle
Indeed, the anthropological evidence of a nearly perfect global consensus on sexual
complementarity in marriage supports broader conclusions: First, no particular religion is
uniquely responsible for this view. And second, it cannot be ascribed simply to animus
against people identifying as homosexual, gay or lesbian, or same-sex attracted. After all, it
has prevailed in societies that have spanned the spectrum of attitudes toward
homosexuality – including ones favorable toward same-sex acts, and others lacking
anything like our concept of gay identity.
Truly, as the court of appeals noted, “[i]t is not society’s laws
or for that matter any religion’s laws, but nature’s laws (that
men and women complement each other biologically), that
created the policy imperative.” 14-556 Pet. App. 34a (Pet. App.).
Camille Paglia
-Camille Paglia, PhD, University Professor of Humanities
& Media Studies at the University of the Arts, stated in her
1994 book titled Vamps and Tramps: New Essays:
“[I]n nature, procreation is the single, relentless

rule. That is the norm. Our sexual bodies were
designed for reproduction. Penis fits vagina: no
fancy linguistic game-playing can change that
biologic fact... No one is 'born gay.' The idea is
ridiculous... Thus homosexuality, in my view,
is an adaptation, not an inborn trait.”
What differentiate a Marriage from a
friendship or any other Relationship
“Important philosophical and legal traditions have long distinguished friendships of
all kinds from those special relationships that extend two people’s union along the
bodily dimension of their being and that are uniquely apt for, and enriched by,
reproduction and childrearing. The three great philosophers of antiquity − Socrates,
Plato, and Aristotle − as well as Xenophanes and Stoics such as Musonius Rufus
defended this view −
in some cases, amid highly homoerotic cultures.”
“Marriage is distinguished from every other form of friendship inasmuch as it is
comprehensive. It involves a sharing of lives and resources, and a union of minds and
wills… But on the conjugal view, it also includes organic bodily union. This is
because the body is a real part of the person, not just his costume, vehicle, or
property.”
-Marriage: Merely a Social Construct? By SHERIF GIRGIS, RYAN T. ANDERSON AND ROBERT P. GEORGE
“Human beings are not properly understood as nonbodily persons—minds, ghosts,
consciousnesses—that inhabit and use nonpersonal bodies. After all, if someone
ruins your car, he vandalizes your property, but if he amputates your leg, he injures
you. Because the body is an inherent part of the human person, there is a difference
in kind between vandalism and violation; between destruction of property and
mutilation of bodies.”
“Likewise, because our bodies are truly aspects of us as persons, any union of two people
that did not involve organic bodily union would not be comprehensive—it would leave out
an important part of each person’s being. Because persons are body-mind composites, a
bodily union extends the relationship of two friends along an entirely new dimension of
their being as persons. If two people want to unite in the comprehensive way proper to
marriage, they must (among other things) unite organically—that is, in the bodily
dimension of their being.”
“But what is it about sexual intercourse that makes it uniquely capable of creating bodily
union? People’s bodies can touch and interact in all sorts of ways, so why does only sexual
union make bodies in any significant sense “one flesh”? Our organs—our heart and stomach,
for example—are parts of one body because they are coordinated, along with other parts, for
a common biological purpose of the whole: our biological life. It follows that for two
individuals to unite organically, and thus bodily, their bodies must be coordinated for some
biological purpose of the whole.”
“They perform the first step of the complex reproductive process. Thus, their bodies become,
in a strong sense, one—they are biologically united, and do not merely rub together—in
coitus (and only in coitus), similarly to the way in which one’s heart, lungs, and other organs
form a unity: by coordinating for the biological good of the whole. In this case, the whole is
made up of the man and woman as a couple, and the biological good of that whole is their
reproduction..”
“The bond and covenant of
marriage was established by
God in creation, and our
Lord Jesus Christ adorned
this manner of life by his
presence and first miracle at
a wedding in Cana of Galilee.
It signifies to us the mystery

of the union between Christ
and his Church, and Holy
Scripture commends it to be
honored among all people.”
"The Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage,"
from The Book of Common Prayer
“The union of husband and
wife in heart, body, and
mind is intended by God for
their mutual joy; for the help
and comfort given one
another in prosperity and
adversity; and, when it is
God's will, for the
procreation of children and
their nurture in the
knowledge and love of the
Lord.”
"The Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage,"
from The Book of Common Prayer
Marriage is society's best way of ensuring the
well-being of children. State recognition of marriage
protects children, …by encouraging men and
women to commit permanently and exclusively to
each other and take responsibility for their children.
Laws on marriage work by promoting a true vision of

the institution, making sense of marital norms as a
coherent whole. Law affects culture. Culture affects
beliefs. Beliefs affect actions. The law teaches, and
it shapes the public understanding of what marriage
is and what it demands of spouses.
The state’s interest in marriage is not that it cares
about my love life, or your love life, or anyone’s love
life just for the sake of romance. The state’s interest
in marriage is ensuring that those kids have fathers
who are involved in their lives.
But when this doesn’t happen, social costs run high.

As the marriage culture collapses, child poverty
rises. Crime rises. Social mobility decreases.
And welfare spending—which bankrupts so many
states and the federal government—takes off.
If you care about social justice and limited
government, if you care about freedom and the
poor, then you have to care about marriage. All of
these ends are better served by having the state
define marriage correctly rather than the state trying
to pick up the pieces of a broken marriage culture.
The state can encourage men and women to

commit to each other and take responsibility for their
children while leaving other consenting adults free to
live and to love as they choose, all without
redefining the fundamental institution of marriage.
FATHERS absentee
& societal DAMAGE
“5 Behold, I will send you Elijah the
prophet before the coming of the great
and dreadful day of the Lord:6 And he
shall turn the heart of the fathers to the
children, and the heart of the children to
their fathers, lest I come and smite the
earth with a curse.”
Malachi 4:5-6 (KJV)
The statistics on the importance of marriage penetrate American life to the extent that
President Obama can refer to them as well known:
"We know the statistics -- that children who grow up without a father are five
times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime; nine times more likely
to drop out of schools and twenty times more likely to end up in prison,"
Obama said less than five months before he was elected president in 2008.
The statistics on the importance of marriage penetrate American life to the extent that
President Obama can refer to them as well known:
“They are more likely to have behavioral problems, or run away from home, or
become teenage parents themselves. And the foundations of our community
are weaker because of it,” he added.
“President Obama sums it up pretty well. We’ve seen in the past fifty years, since the
war on poverty began, that the family has collapsed. At one point in America, virtually
every child was given the gift of a married mother and father. Today, 40 percent of all
Americans, 50 percent of Hispanics, and 70 percent of African Americans are born to
single moms—and the consequences for those children are quite serious.”
REDEIFINING MARRIAGE
“But how can the law teach that fathers are essential if it redefines marriage to
make fathers optional? Redefining marriage diminishes the social pressures for
husbands to remain with their wives and children, and for men and women to
marry before having children. Redefining marriage to include same-sex
relationships makes marriage primarily about emotional union, more about
adults' desires than children's needs.”
“First, it fundamentally reorients the institution of marriage away from the needs of
children toward the desires of adults. It no longer makes marriage about ensuring
the type of family life that is ideal for kids; it makes it more about adult romance. If
one of the biggest social problems we face right now in the United States is
absentee dads, how will we insist that fathers are essential when the law redefines
marriage to make fathers optional?”
If that's how we understand marriage, marital norms make

no sense as a matter of principle. Why require an
emotional union to be permanent? Or limited to two
persons? Or sexually
"Second, if you redefine marriage, so as to say that the male-female aspect is
irrational and arbitrary, what principle for policy and for law will retain the
other three historic components of marriage? In the United States, it’s always
been (1) a monogamous union, (2) a sexually exclusive union, and (3) a
permanent union. We’ve already seen new words created to challenge each and
every one of those items.”
THROUPLE
MARIAGE
“Throuple” is a three-person couple. New York Magazine reports about it. Here’s the question: if I
were to sue and say that I demand marriage equality for my throuple, what principle would deny
marriage equality to the throuple once you say that the male-female aspect of marriage is irrational
and arbitrary? The way that we got to monogamy is that it’s one man and one woman who can
unite in the type of action that can create new life and who can provide that new life with one mom
and one dad. Once you say that the male-female aspect is irrational and arbitrary, you will have no
principled reason to retain the number two.”
WEDLEASE
MARIAGE
The term “wedlease” was introduced in the Washington Post in 2013. A

wedlease is a play on the term wedlock. It’s for a temporary marriage. If
marriage is primarily about adult romance, and romance can come, and it can
go, why should the law presume it to be permanent? Why not issue expressly
temporary marriage licenses?”
MONOGAMISH
MARIAGE
“monogamish.” Monogamish was introduced in the New York Times in 2011.

The term suggests we should retain the number two, but that spouses should
be free to have sexually open relationships. That it should be two people
getting married, but they should be free to have sex outside of that marriage,
provided there’s no coercion or deceit.”
SAME-SEX
MARRIAGE
“Same-sex marriage would further undercut the idea that procreation is intrinsically connected
to marriage. It would undermine the idea that children need both a mother and a father,
further weakening the societal norm that men should take responsibility for the children they
beget. Finally, same-sex marriage would likely corrode marital norms of sexual fidelity, since
gay-marriage advocates and gay couples tend to downplay the importance of sexual fidelity in
their definition of marriage.”
- Marriage and the Public Good: Ten Principles. The Witherspoon Institute. Kindle Edition.
SEX AND CULTURE
“Now, whatever you think about group marriage, whatever you think about
temporary marriage, whatever you think about sexually open marriage, as
far as adults living and loving how they choose, think about the social
consequences if that’s the future direction in which marriage redefinition
would go.”
SEX AND CULTURE
“For every additional sexual partner a man has and the shorter-lived
those relationships are, the greater the chances that a man creates
children with multiple women without commitment either to those women
or to those kids.
It increases the likelihood of creating fragmented families, and then big
government will step in to pick up the pieces with a host of welfare
MARRIAGE AND
CULTURE
“ [Traditional] marriage laws
reinforce the idea that the union of
husband and wife is, on the whole, the
most appropriate environment for
rearing children—an ideal supported
by the best available social science.”
- Sherif Girgis, Ryan T. Anderson, Robert P. George. What is Marriage? Man and Woman: A Defense, p. 58, 8
MARRIAGE AND
CULTURE
“Recognizing same-sex relationships as
marriage would legally abolish that ideal.
No civil institution would reinforce the notion
that men and women typically have different
strengths as parents; that boys and girls benefit
from fathers and mothers in different ways…”
MARRIAGE AND
CULTURE
“Redefining marriage would thus
soften the social pressures and lower
the incentives—already diminished by
these last few decades—for husbands
to stay with their wives and children, or
for men and women to marry before
having children. All this would harm
children’s development into happy,
productive, upright adults.”
HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAGE
MATTERS
“The burden of social science evidence supports the
idea that gender-differentiated parenting is important
for human development and that the contribution of
fathers to childrearing is unique and irreplaceable,"
Rutgers University sociologist David Popenoe
explains."We should disavow the notion that
'mommies can make good daddies,' just as we
should disavow the popular notion ... that
'daddies can make good mommies,' " Popenoe
concludes. "The two sexes are different to the
core, and each is necessary -- culturally and
biologically -- for the optimal development
of a human being.”
- -Ryan T. Anderson , Why Marriage Matters Most. Jul 10th, 2013
MATTERS
“Government recognizes marriage
because it is an institution that benefits
society in a way no other relationship
does. Marriage is society's least
restrictive means of ensuring the well-
being of children. State recognition
protects children by encouraging men
and women to commit to each other and
take responsibility for their children.
Social science confirms this.”
MATTERS
“The best available research evidence
shows that children fare best on virtually
every examined indicator when reared by
their wedded biological parents. Studies that
control for other factors, including poverty
and genetics, suggest that children
reared in intact homes do best on
educational achievement, emotional
health, familial and sexual development,
and delinquency and incarceration.”
MATTERS
“ "It is not simply the presence of two parents ...
but the presence of two biological parents that
seems to support children's development," a study
published by the left-leaning research institution
Child Trends concluded: "Research clearly
demonstrates that family structure matters for
children, and the family structure that helps children
the most is a family headed by two biological
parents in a low-conflict marriage. Children in
single-parent families, children born to unmarried
mothers, and children in stepfamilies or cohabiting
relationships face higher risks of poor outcomes.”
MATTERS
“ A study in the Journal of Marriage and Family
concluded that "the advantage of marriage appears
to exist primarily when the child is the biological
offspring of both parents.” Promoting marriage as
the union of a man and a woman doesn't ban any type of
relationship: Adults are free to make choices, and they
don't need government sanction or license to do so. All
Americans have the freedom to live as they choose, but
no one should redefine marriage for everyone else. While
respecting everyone's liberty, government rightly
recognizes, protects and promotes marriage as the ideal
institution for childbearing and childrearing.”

In 1989, a book called ‘Heather Has Two Mommies’ was released amidst
a storm of controversy. Google books calls it "the first lesbian-themed
children's book ever published… it represented a startling first in
children’s literature —a story about the daughter of lesbians.”
http:// en.wikipedia.org/ wiki/ Heather_Has_Two_Mom mies
“The book was designed to present a positive image of gay
parenting that might help change public opinion. In 2015, the
book was re-released, but in an interesting twist, the girl who was
the subject of the book, Heather Barwick, now 31 years old and a
married mother of four, released an open letter explaining how
much pain it had actually caused her to be raised in that
environment.”
http:// thefederalist.com/ 2015/ 03/ 17/ dear-gaycommunity-your-kids-are-hurting/

“She says in the opening paragraphs of her letter to the world, "Do
you remember that book, 'Heather Has Two Mommies'? That was
my life." She continues, "Growing up, and even into my 20s, I
supported and advocated for gay marriage. It’s only with some time
and distance from my childhood that I’m able to reflect on my
experiences and recognize the long-term consequences that
same-sex parenting had on me.”

“And it’s only now, as I watch my children loving and being loved
by their father each day, that I can see the beauty and wisdom in
traditional marriage and parenting. Same-sex marriage and
parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while
telling
him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all
the same. But it’s not.”

“A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting. My father’s absence
created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I
loved my mom’s partner, but another mom could never have
replaced the father I lost. Same-sex marriage and parenting
withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling
him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all the same. But it’s
not. A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting.”

“I grew up surrounded by women who said they didn’t need or
want a man. Yet, as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy.
It is a strange and confusing thing to walk around with this
deep-down unquenchable ache for a father, for a man, in a
community that says that men are unnecessary.”

“There were times I felt so angry with my dad for not being there
for me, and then times I felt angry with myself for even wanting a
father to begin with. There are parts of me that still grieve over that
loss today. I’m not saying that you can’t be good parents. You can.
I had one of the best. I’m also not saying that being raised by
straight parents means everything will turn out okay. We know
there are so many different ways that the family unit can break
down and cause kids to suffer: divorce, abandonment, infidelity,
abuse, death, etc.”

“But by and large, the best and most successful family structure is
one in which kids are being raised by both their mother and father.
Gay marriage doesn’t just redefine marriage, but also parenting. It
promotes and normalizes a family structure that necessarily denies
us something precious and foundational. It denies us something we
need and long for, while at the same time tells us that we don’t
need what we naturally crave. That we will be okay. But we’re not.
We’re hurting.”

Dolce & Gabbana
On March 16 2015, the famous designers Dolce &
Gabbana, caused a huge stir when they said, "We oppose
gay adoptions. The only family is the traditional one... No
chemical offsprings and rented uterus: life has a natural
flow, there are things that should not be changed...
You are born to a father and mother
-or at least that's how it should be."
Dolce & Gabbana
This statement was particularly remarkable
considering that both Dolce and Gabbana are
gay themselves. Yet, even they recognised that
children ideally need both parents.
"It should be noted that children necessarily have different experiences with their mothers
than with their fathers, for the physical and psychological differences between the two
parents are greater than those between two individuals of same sex: mothers and fathers
do not have the same odour, voice, face, or muscle tone, and do not give out the same
messages.”
- Daniel Paquette, “Theorizing the Father-Child Relationship: Mechanisms and Developmental Outcomes,” Human
Development, 47 (2004): 193-219, p. 200.
There is no such thing as "parenting." There is mothering and there is fathering. Although
men and women are each capable of providing their children with a good upbringing,
typically there are differences in how mothers and fathers interact with their children and
the functional roles that they play.
-Ryan T. Anderson ,Why Marriage Matters Most Jul 10th, 2013
1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 HONOR YOUR FATHER AND
MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3 SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL
WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH. 4 Fathers, do not provoke your
children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
(Ephesians 6:1-4)
For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and
be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis
2:24)
“Every one of you shall revere his mother and his father… I am
the Lord your God.” (Leviticus 19:3)
And David went from there to Mizpah of Moab; and he
said to the king of Moab, “Please let my father and my
mother come and stay with you until I know what God will
do for me.” (1 Samuel 22:3)
Elisha left the oxen standing there, ran after Elijah, and said to him,
“First let me go and kiss my father and mother good-bye, and then I
will go with you!” Elijah replied, “Go on back, but think about what
I have done to you.”
(1 Kings 19:20)
My son, keep your father’s commandment, and do not forsake
your mother’s teaching. (Proverbs 6:20)
Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your
mother when she is old. (Proverbs 23:22)
The eye that mocks a father and scorns to obey a mother will
be picked out by the ravens of the valley and eaten by the
vultures. (Proverbs 30:17)
Father and mother are treated with contempt… (Ezekiel 22:7)

8 But we know that the Law is good, if one uses it lawfully, 9 realizing the fact that law is
not made for a righteous person, but for those who are lawless and rebellious, for the
ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who kill their fathers or
mothers, for murderers 10 and sexually immoral men and homosexuals and slave
traders and liars and perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound teaching, 11
according to the glorious gospel of the blessed God, with which I have been entrusted.
(1 Timothy 1:8-11)
“Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are His.
And why this union? Because He was seeking godly offspring. So
guard yourself in your spirit, and do not be faithless to the wife of
your youth.”(Malachi 2:15)
The Family
1. Marriage increases the likelihood that fathers and mothers have good relationships with
their children.
2. Children are most likely to enjoy family stability when they are born into a married family.
3. Children are less likely to thrive in complex households.
4. Cohabitation is not the functional equivalent of marriage.
5. Growing up outside an intact marriage increases the likelihood that children will themselves
divorce or become unwed parents.
6. Marriage is a virtually universal human institution.
7. Marriage, and a normative commitment to marriage, foster high-quality relationships
between adults, as well as between parents and children.
8. Marriage has important biosocial consequences for adults and children.
Economics
9. Divorce and unmarried childbearing increase poverty for both children and mothers,
and cohabitation is less likely to alleviate poverty than is marriage.
10. Married couples seem to build more wealth on average than singles or cohabiting
couples.
11.Marriage reduces poverty and material hardship for disadvantaged women and their
children. 12.Minorities benefit economically from marriage also.
13. Married men earn more money than do single men with similar education and job
histories.
14. Parental divorce (or failure to marry) appears to increase children’s risk of school
failure.
Physical Health and Longevity
16. Children who live with their own two married parents enjoy better physical health,
on average, than do children in other family forms.
17. Parental marriage is associated with a sharply lower risk of infant mortality.
18. Marriage is associated with reduced rates of alcohol and sub- stance abuse for both adults
and teens.
19. Married people, especially married men, have longer life expectancies than do otherwise
similar singles.
20. Marriage is associated with better health and lower rates of injury, illness, and disability
for both men and women.
Mental Health and Emotional Well-Being
22. Children whose parents divorce have higher rates of psychological distress and
mental illness.
23. Cohabitation is associated with higher levels of psychological problems among

children.
24. Family breakdown appears to increase significantly the risk of suicide.

Crime and Domestic Violence
26. Boys raised in non-intact families are more likely to engage in delinquent and criminal
behavior.
27. Marriage appears to reduce the risk that adults will be either perpetrators or victims of crime.
28. Married women appear to have a lower risk of experiencing domestic violence than do
cohabiting or dating women.
29. A child who is not living with his or her own two married parents is at greater risk of child abuse.
30. There is a growing marriage gap between college-educated Americans and less-educated Amer
“We should disavow the notion that ‘mommies can make good daddies,’ just as we should
disavow the popular notion of radical feminists that ‘daddies can make good mommies’…The
two sexes are different to the core, and each is necessary—culturally and biologically—for
the optimal development of the human being.”
- David Popenoe, Life Without Father: Compelling New Evidence That Fatherhood and Marriage Are
Indispensable for the Good of Children and Society, 197.
“ What therefore God hath joined together,
let not man put asunder.”
(Mark 10:9)
Among the Jews a man was permitted to put away his wife for the most trivial offenses, and the woman
was then at liberty to marry again. This practice led to great wretchedness and sin. In the Sermon on the
Mount Jesus declared plainly that there could be no dissolution of the marriage tie except for
unfaithfulness to the marriage vow. “Every one,” He said, “that putteth away his wife, saving for the
cause of fornication, maketh her an adulteress: and whosoever shall marry her when she is put away
committeth adultery.”
Adventist Home, page 340.3
When the Pharisees afterward questioned Him concerning the lawfulness of divorce, Jesus
pointed His hearers back to the marriage institution as ordained at creation. “Because of the
hardness of your hearts,” He said, Moses “suffered you to put away your wives: but from the
beginning it was not so.” He referred them to the blessed days of Eden when God pronounced all
things “very good. ”
Then marriage and the Sabbath had their origin, twin institutions for the glory of God in the benefit of
humanity. Then, as the Creator joined the hands of the holy pair in wedlock, saying, A man shall “leave
his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one,” He enunciated the law
of marriage for all the children of Adam to the close of time. That which the eternal Father Himself had
pronounced good was the law of highest blessing and development for man. ”

REFERENCES BELOW
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-Antonio Bernard , dindinbernard1@hotmail.com
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What Is Marriage ? Man and Woman A Defense

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WHAT IS MARRIAGE

MAN & WOMAN: A DEFENSE

In Aristotle’s view, indeed, “between

He considered marriage a distinct form

“[I]n nature, procreation is the single, relentless

It signifies to us the mystery

Laws on marriage work by promoting a true vision of

But when this doesn’t happen, social costs run high.

The state can encourage men and women to

If that's how we understand marriage, marital norms make

The term “wedlease” was introduced in the Washington Post in 2013. A

“monogamish.” Monogamish was introduced in the New York Times in 2011.

- -Ryan T. Anderson , Why Marriage Matters Most. Jul 10th, 2013

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Father and mother are treated with contempt… (Ezekiel 22:7)

23. Cohabitation is associated with higher levels of psychological problems among

24. Family breakdown appears to increase significantly the risk of suicide.

Adventist Home, page 340.4

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