Welcome to

8 STEP
(STudent Empowerment Program)
of Highly Effective College Students

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 Challenges

What are the biggest

challenges you face as a
student?

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 How to Get the Most from this Program

 Learn it
 Live it
 Give it

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 The Four Concepts

 Concept 1—Effective habits are based on

true principles.
 Concept 2—Effective habits bring positive
results.
 Concept 3—Paradigms change habits.
 Concept 4—The 7 Habits lead to success.
®

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 Principles

Principles are
natural laws or
fundamental truths.

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Knowledge, Skill, Desire

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 Paradigm

A paradigm is the way an

individual perceives,
understands, and interprets
the surrounding world—
a mental map.

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 See-Do-Get
See

Do

Get
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 Maturity Continuum ®

®
Sharpen the Saw
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INTERDEPENDENCE
Seek First to Understand,
® Synergize
®

Then to Be Understood Public 6

5 Victory
Think ®
Win-Win
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INDEPENDENCE
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Put First ®
Things First
Private 2
® Victory
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Be Proactive Begin with ®
the End in Mind
DEPENDENCE

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 STEP 1

STEP 1
Be Proactive
®

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 STEP 1: See-Do-Get
I am responsible for my choices.
See

Do
I am I choose
in control. to act,
Get not react.

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 Key Questions

 What is proactivity and reactivity?

 How can I gain more control over my life?

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Stimulus-Response

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REACTIVITY (Stimulus-Response)

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What happens to a bottle of soda
when you shake it up?

It EXPLODES!
Discussion
Starter:

Sometimes things go wrong, and we

feel shaken up. As a result, we might
EXPLODE on someone or something.
This is called being REACTIVE. Has
this ever happened to you? Explain
what happened and why. Was this a
good way to let go of all of your
feelings? Why or why not?
PROACTIVITY (Stimulus-Response)

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2004 Franklin
FranklinCovey
Covey Co.
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 When you are
PROACTIVE,
you make a choice about
how you react to the
things that happen in
your life. You act like a
water bottle. You might
get shaken up or mad,
but you stay calm and
don’t explode!
 Discussion
Starter:
Is it hard to stay calm
(like a water bottle) even when
things don’t go your way?
Why or why not?
What steps could you take to be
more PROACTIVE and calm
when things aren’t going well?
 Proactive People

 Stop and Pause—Understand why you feel

the way you do.
 Think—Make decisions based on your
principles and beliefs.
 Do—Act upon your proactive choice. Be out
of the scene for a minute or more

© 2004 FranklinCovey
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Where do you fall?

Very Very
Reactive Proactive

How could you be

more proactive?
How do you feel on days
like this?
 What
about
sunny
days like
this?
If you could “carry the weather
with you”….

you could have a

good day no matter
what comes your way.
Discussion
Starter:

Do you think it is possible to carry your

weather with you? What do you think
this means? How would your life be
different if you could carry happiness or
peace with you no matter what things
happen?
 Control

Things you
can’t control

Things you
Focus on things you can can control or
change or influence change
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Expanding Your Influence

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Circle of Influence
Things you
Things you
CAN’T control
CAN control
or change:
or change:
•Other people
(teacher,room •Your attitude
mate,friend,dorm •Your mood
manager,parent)
•Your reaction to
•The weather good and bad
•Things you did things that happen
wrong in the past •How you treat
•How other people other people
treat you
•Homework
Can you think of other
examples from your life?
Be Proactive
• Change how you handle things.
• Make a choice to be positive
• Focus on those things that YOU can
change.
• Make a positive difference in your
family, your class, your school and the
world!
 APPLICATION

Reflect on STEP 1
 What insights did you gain from this STEP?
Apply STEP 1
 Next time you receive a grade that you think is
unfair, don’t get upset or blow it off. Make an
appointment with your instructor to discuss it
and see what you can learn.
 Identify something in your CIRCLE OF CONCERN
that you are always worrying about. Decide now
to let go.
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 STEP 2

STEP 2
Begin With the
End in Mind®

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 STEP 2: See-Do-Get
I visualize results.
See

Do
I live I have
according a mission
to my statement
Get
mission. that documents
my purpose in life.
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 Key Questions

 Why is it important to have a plan?

 How do I create a Personal Mission
Statement ?®

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•I plan ahead and set goals.
•I do things that have meaning and
make a difference.
•I am an important part of my
classroom.
•I look for ways to be a good citizen.
 Discover Yourself!
 What are three of my dreams?
 What kind of career would I like to have?
 What kind of skills do I need to achieve my dreams and
have the career I desire?
 What kind of education or educational experiences do I
need to have to achieve my dreams and have the career I
desire?
 What are my greatest interests?
 What do I hope to achieve in 5-10 years?
 What are all of the intangible things I value? (for
example, strong relationships, success, good health,
honesty, etc.)?
 What are the five intangible things I value most?

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 Mission Statements

 Represent the best within you.

 Are the fulfillment of your unique gifts
and capacity to contribute.
 Deal with values and vision.
 Are written to inspire you, not to
impress anyone else.
 Describe who you want to be.

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 Mission Statement, Part 1:
Write your name in a circle. Out from the circle, write words
that describe you.

artistic athletic

Ben

kind

reader
Mission Statement, Part 2:
Now think about what kind of person you WANT to be.
Make a list.

I want to be a:
1.Hard worker
2.Good student
3.Kind person
4.Talented artist
 Mission Statement, Part 3:
Use the two lists to write a mission statement. This is a
sentence or paragraph about the person you want to be. Here
are some example:

My mission is to:
•Laugh a lot
•Learn as much I can
•Work hard at home, school and in my
sports
•Be kind to others
•Take good care of myself.
•To get better at my art.
 Journal Entry or
Discussion
Starter:
How does saying “no”
sometimes help you with
“beginning with the end in
mind”? What things do
you have to say no to?
 How good are you at
beginning with the end in
mind?

I always
I only
keep the
think
end in
about
mind.
today.
Why did you rate
yourself this way?
 APPLICATION

Reflect on STEP 2
 What insights did you gain from this STEP?
Apply STEP 2
 Go to your college guidance counselor and
discuss career opportunities
 Take an aptitude test to help you evaluate your
interest and abilities
 Determine the 3 most important skills you need
to be successful in college and in your future
profession. Work one of them this week/month
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 STEP 3

STEP 3
Put First Things First
®

Put First Things First ®

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 STEP 3: See-Do-Get
I focus on what’s
See important.

Do
I achieve I plan
my goals. my time
Get according to
my priorities.
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 Key Questions

 Which activities support what matters

most to me?
 How do I stay focused on what matters
most?

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Life Management Quadrants

• Study for tomorrow’s • Go on a date with a

exam. friend.
• Pay overdue cell-phone • Work on an essay due
bill. in 30 days.
• Work on project due • Call home.
today. • Visit with academic
• Visit a roommate or advisor.
family member who has • Make to do list&check
been in in an accident.

• Engage in idle • Engage in too much

conversations. TV, Web surfing or
• Respond to all instant video games.
messages. • Engage in time-
• Respond to all phone wasters.
calls. • Become absorbed in
• Spend time on trivial escape activities.
questions. • Procrastinate.

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 Saying Yes and No

Yes

No

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 Goal Definition

goal n 1: the object to which

effort or ambition is directed; the
destination of a journey

Oxford English Dictionary

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 Keys to Achieving Your Goals

1. Create goals based on your values.

2. Write down your goals.
3. Give your goals deadlines.
4. Break down your goals into
manageable tasks.

5. Schedule your tasks in your planner.

6. Commit daily to achieving these tasks.
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Sample Goal Planning

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Planning Your Tasks/Planning Process

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 Going for
Your Goals

At Home Goals At School Goals

Set two or three goals for

at home and for at
school.
 Big Things and Little Things:
Putting first things first means planning your time around the most
important, BIG things in your life. Then, you can get to the little
things that take your time.

Big, Important Small Things, Less

Things That Important Things
Take Your Time That Take Your Time
 Time Wasters:
Brainstorm some things that you do that
wastes a lot of your time. Sometimes these
things are fun and relaxing. If you do them
too much though, they may get in the way of
the important things.
 Organizing Your Days
Write out your regular schedule for a
full day, from start to finish. Is it
organized? Do you waste time, or put
first things first?
 Making it Happen
Now choose one goal for home, and one goal for school. Write
your goals in a circle. Out from the circle, write things that you
can do to help you achieve those goals.

Play x games Make flash

on the cards.
computer.

Memorize my
multiplication
facts.

Practice in
the bus on
Have the way to
somebody school.
quiz me daily.
Where do you fall?

I always I never to
put first set goals or
things put first
first! things first.
How could you be
better at putting
first things first?
 APPLICATION

Reflect on STEP 3
 What insights did you gain from this STEP?
Apply STEP 3
 Identify an important test or assignment that is
due in a week. Work on it in advance.
 Spend more time in Quadrant II by identifying &
eliminating your biggest time-wasters

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 Reteach/Review

 Person 1
Review one key point from Foundational
Principles
 Person 2
Review STEP 1
 Person 3
Review STEP 2
 Person 4
Review STEP 3

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 Public Victory ®

Public
Victory

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 STEP 4

STEP 4
Think
ThinkWin-Win
®

Win-Win ®

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 STEP 4: See-Do-Get
I get better results by cooperating
See rather than
competing.

Do
I have I persist
more in looking
trusting Get for win-win
relationships. outcomes.
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 Is this picture a Discussion
good one for Starter:
Think Win-Win?
Why or why not?
If so, defend your
answer. If not,
design a better
one and explain
your thinking.
 Key Questions

 How do I balance my needs against

someone else’s needs?
 What choices help me create win-win
situations?

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 Four Paradigms

 Win-Lose
 Lose-Win
 Lose-Lose
 Win-Win

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Think Win-Win Road Blocks
•I’ll step on you to get ahead.
•I am a loser. I can’t do anything.
•At least I am better than her/him.
•I’ll let someone else win again.
 Have you ever Discussion
“stepped on” Starter:
somebody else
to win? Have you
pushed someone
aside so you
could get
something good?
How does this
feel? Give an
example.
 Human
Doormat:
Do you always let other people
win? Do you not raise your hand
to answer a question because you
know somebody will answer? Do
you let people jump in front of
you? Do you let people treat you
poorly? (If so, you are not
practicing Think Win-Win.)
Describe a time when
you let people “step on
you” to win.
 ROLE PLAY:
You are having lunch with some friends at the market. It
was so crowded and the service is slow. You are feeling
pressed for time because you have a class that starts in 20
minutes. The server boy brought everyone’s orders 15
minutes ago, and they are almost finished eating. You
asked the server boy to change your sandwich to
accommodate your vegetarian diet. When he finally
delivers it, no modifications have been made.
1. High courage, Low consideration
2. Low courage, High consideration
3. Low courage, Low consideration
4. High courage, High Consideration
 Relationship Bank Account
Deposits are actions that build trust Withdrawals are actions that weaken trust
ACTIVITY: DEPOSITS & WITHDRAWALS
1. Identify Deposits & Withdrawals (Mark D to the Deposits and W for the Withdrawals)
1.___Calling my mother on her birthday
2.___Cancelling a date at a last minute
3.___Taking a credit for the group paper
4.___Helping a classmate/roommate with his/her studies
5.___Letting my roommate use my laptop
6.___Showing up on time for a work/task/event/class
7.___Talking about a roommate/someone behind his/her back
8.___Sharing a secret my significant ither told me in confidence
9.___Telling my friends beforehand that I will be late to the party
10.__Telling my boss the day before about my vacation
11.__Listening to my friend talk about his/her problem
12.__Not apologizing to my sister/brother/family member/parent/friend
2. Improve Relationship Bank Account:
Identify a relationship you would like to improve.
Write down a deposit you will make in that person’s relationship bank account this week.
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Where do you fall?

Very Good! Very Bad! I

I want don’t like to
everyone to see other
do well. people win.

How could you be

better at Think
Win-Win?
 APPLICATION

Reflect on STEP 4
 What insights did you gain from this STEP?
Apply STEP 4
 Identify a relationship you would like to improve.
Write down a deposit you will make in that
person’s relationship bank account this week.Then
write down one withdrawal you will avoid.
 Without caring whether you win or lose, play a
card, board or computer game with others just
for the fun of it.
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 STEP 5

STEP 5
Seek First to Understand,
Then to Be Understood ®

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 STEP 5: See-Do-Get
If I listen to understand, I’ll
See be understood.

Do
I use
Empathic
I gain Listening ®

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 Key Questions

 What barriers affect communication?

 How does Empathic Listening strengthen
communication?

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 Common Barriers to Listening

It is hard to listen if:

 You’re worried about problems.
 You listen faster than people speak.
 You’re tired or bored.
 You’re thinking about what you’re going to
say back to the other person.
 You’re distracted.

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 Listening Road Blocks
Spacing Out:
Your mind wanders when others
talk.
Pretend Listening:
You don’t really pay attention to
the other person, but you
pretend to. You say “yeah,”,
“uh-huh,” and “cool.”

Selective Selfish Listening:

Listening: You always bring the
conversation back to you and
You listen only to the parts that your life. You say things like “I
interest you. had that happen too” and “I
know how you feel.”
 How You Communicate
Words you use

How you
say words/ Nonverbals/
sounds you body language
make
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 We all have times when
we are poor listeners.
Which “Listening Road
Discussion Block” do you most
Starter: often use? Explain why
this happens.
 I’m All Ears
Everybody wants to be listened to. When people feel like you listen, they are
more likely to like you. So, be a good listener, and you’ll have lots of friends.

What are some ways that you Who is a good listener? Create
can show people that you ARE a list of people that you know
listening? that listen well.
 Levels of Listening

1. Ignoring -putting forth no effort

2. Pretend -appearing as if listening
3. Selective -hearing only what interest you
4. Attentive -pay more attention,focused,polite

5. Empathic -listen with eyes,heart,ears

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 Steps to Empathic Listening

1. Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears.

2. Stand in the other person’s shoes.
3. Practice mirroring.

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 Mirroring Technique

1. Repeat back what the person said-words only

2. Say it in different way;express the meaning in
own words.
3. Know when to use mirroring
COMMENT NON-EMPATHIC EMPATHIC
I feel sick Go to the clinic You’re not feeling
well?

My professor stinks I’m glad I don’t have You seems to sound

him frustrated

I can’t get an Tell the Dean So you think it takes

appointment with my longer than it should?
advisor
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Listen With Your Eyes:

Sometimes you have to listen

with your eyes as much as
you listen with your ears.
People say a lot with their
body language and facial
expressions.
 Emotion Charades:
Find a partner. Practice ‘listening with your eyes”.
Choose an emotion to try to express just with your face
and body. You can not use words.

•Angry •Impatient •Confused

•Sad •Scared •Flattered
•Embarrassed •Worried •Nervous
•Tired •Relaxed •Annoyed
•Happy •Frustrated •Interested
•Thinking •Surprised
•Bored •Stressed
Are you a good listener?

Very Not Such

Good a Great
Listener Listener

How could you be

a better listener?
 APPLICATION

Reflect on STEP 5
 What insights did you gain from this STEP?
Apply STEP 5
 See how long you can keep eye contact with
someone while they are talking to you.
 Which of the following poor listening styles do you
have the biggest problem with: ignoring,
pretending, selective? Try to go 1 day without
listening poorly.

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 STEP 6

STEP 6
Synergize
®

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 STEP 6: See-Do-Get
I value differences in others.
See

Do
I achieve
better I seek
results. the Third
Get Alternative.
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 Key Questions

 What does synergy mean?

 What are the advantages of valuing
differences?
 How do I achieve synergy?

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What does this quote
mean? Is it true? Is it
a good thing or a bad
thing?
“Everyone is in love
with his own ideas.”
~Carl Gustav Discussion
Starter:
Journal Entry
or “I have never in my
Discussion life learned anything
Starter:
from any man who
agreed with me.”
~Dudley Field Malone

How can having

someone disagree
with you help you
learn? Explain your
thoughts.
 Synergy Practice Rules

 Write down all of the 10 body parts

that have only three letters in
their name.
 No crude answers allowed.
 No partial words allowed.

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 Synergy

Synergy is when two or more people:

 Produce more together than the sum

of what they could produce
separately.
 Use their differences to produce
something that neither one could
have produced alone.

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Synergy Model

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 People Who Value Differences
 Act as role models.
 Act with courage and consideration.
 Do not prejudge others.
 Discuss conflicts privately with the person or
persons involved.
 Are direct and honest.
 Desire success for others.
 Have a strong self-image.
 Enjoy the rewards of hard work.
 Make sure their words and actions show respect
for all team members.
 Listen to understand.
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Getting to Synergy Action Plan ®

Define the Problem or Opportunity

Their Way
(Seek first to understand the ideas of others.)

My Way
(Seek to be understood by sharing your ideas.)

Brainstorm
(Create new options and ideas.)

High Way
(Find the best solution.)
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How does everyone
being different make
things harder?
How can you
overcome these
challenges? Would
it be easier if
everyone had the
same personality,
looks, talents and
interests?
 Celebrate Differences:
Pair up with someone you don’t usually work/play with.
Come up with at least five differences and five things you have
in common.

Ways Differences:
Differences: You Are
Student 2 Student 1
Alike
Where do you fall?

I work I’d rather

well with work by
others. myself.

How could you be

better at working
with others?
 APPLICATION

Reflect on STEP 6
 What insights did you gain from this STEP?
Apply STEP 6
 When you meet a classmate/neighbor with a
disability or impairment, don’t feel sorry for that
person or avoid him or her because you don’t
know what to say. Instead, go out of your way to
get acquainted.
 The next time you have disagreement with someone, try
to find the Third Alternative by having win-win attitude,
seek first to understand & synergize
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 STEP 7

STEP 7
Sharpen the
Sharpen the Saw
Saw
®
®

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 STEP 7: See-Do-Get
I continually improve as I take time
See for myself.

Do
I am I set
recharged. and achieve
Get goals and plan
time for myself.
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 Key Questions

 How do I Sharpen the Saw?

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 Invest in Yourself!

“The single most powerful investment we

can ever make in life is investment in
ourselves, in the only instrument we have
with which to deal with life and to
contribute.”

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 Four Dimensions

Body Mind

Heart Soul

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 Body: Brain:
Exercise, Be Healthy, Sleep, Relax Learn, Read, Write

Soul: Heart:
Journal, Think, Pray Serve, Laugh, Be a Friend
 Discussion
Starter:
A man has been working
hard to saw through a
tree for over three hours.
He still hasn’t cut through
the tree trunk. What
might be wrong with the
man’s saw? What should
he do?
I take care of my body by eating right,
exercising, and getting sleep. I spend
time with family and friends. I learn in
lots of ways and lots of places.
 Discussion
Starter:

What do you do to take

care of your body?
What do you NOT do?
Could you make any
improvements?
 Discussion
Starter:

How you are working to

improve your brain? What
could you stop doing?
What could you start
doing? Can you think of
someone who really works
on this area of their life?
 Brain Food
What are your plans for
“feeding” your brain? Make a
list of things you want to learn
or things that you want to do
that will teach you.
 Discussion
Starter:

How you are working to

improve your soul? What
things do you do that
make you the most
happy?
 Feeding Your Soul
What feeds your soul?
What inspires you
and gives you peace?
What are some
songs, books or
movies that make you
want to be a better
person? Is there a
person that makes
YOU want to be
better?
 Discussion
Starter:

Does the heart matter?

Are you serving/helping
anyone? What things do
you do to make friends
and/or to make other
people happy? Can you
think of someone that
really is good at this?
 Your Saw is Your Life
What makes your saw What makes your saw
sharp? dull?
 How good are you at
sharpening the saw?

My saw My saw is
is very very dull!
sharp!

What steps could

you take to
sharpen your
saw?
 APPLICATION

Reflect on STEP 7
 What insights did you gain from this STEP?
Apply STEP 7
 Start an exercise program today. Do it faithfully
for 30 days. Choose something you really enjoy.
 Take time each day to meditate, reflect on your
life or have a journal. Do what works for you. Or
have a quiet time upon waking up and before
going to sleep.

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FORGET ME NOT!

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 FORGET ME NOT!

YOU are not a product

of YOUR
circumstances.
YOU are a product
of YOUR decisions. 120
THANK YOU & GODBLES

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