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Women =
– speak approximately 3 times as many words
per day as men = approximately 5000 words
per day or more
Men =
– speak approximately one-third as many
words per day as women = approximately
1700 words per day or less
Women = Men =
• Maintaining an • Using playful opposition
appearance of equality (joking, banter, teasing,
• Taking into etc.)
consideration the • Avoiding the “one-down”
impact of the interaction position in the interaction /
on the other person / maintaining their status on
people’s feelings and the hierarchy
situation • Playing up their status /
• Downplaying their power / position of
authority to get things authority
done without having to • Being blunt, direct, and
be aggressive straight-forward
• Being diplomatic and
indirect
Problem: Solution:
– misunderstandings – blend both masculine and
are caused by feminine traits
• Be diplomatic AND direct
differences in style and straight-forward.
• Women may be • Say what you mean—do
viewed as less not ‘beat around the
confident and bush’ or ‘sugar-coat’
competent than they communication
really are • Use influence and
• Men may be viewed legitimate power /
as hostile or arrogant authority to gain
understanding and
when they really are cooperation
not
Women = Men =
• Willing to admit that • Less likely to admit that
they are not they are not
knowledgeable knowledgeable
• Not concerned about • Admitting that they do
creating a negative not know / Asking for
impression help puts them in a
• More likely than men ‘one-down’ position
to ask questions in and ruins their
public reputation
• Women who do ask • Men who do ask
questions in public are questions in public are
more focused on more focused on the
gaining information interaction and about
positive impression
management
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Asking Questions in Public
Problem & Solution for the Female Communicator
Problem: Solution:
– Women are not aware that they – Understand and be aware of the
can be viewed as weak; asking negative perception that does
questions can be viewed as exist.
negative and a sign of – Do your research and educate
incompetence yourself, and then ask informed
• Admitting ignorance or asking questions sparingly.
for help makes a person appear
to be incompetent / creates a – Clarify information on an as
negative impression / causes a needed basis
person to be judged as less – Use reflective listening skills
capable
– Find a mentor or guide that you
• Admitting ignorance or asking trust who can privately answer
for help can prevent major
problems and avert potential your questions and clarify
catastrophes information for you without judging
• Admitting ignorance or asking you negatively.
for help can mean that a person – ALWAYS ask for help whenever
is searching for knowledge and the wrong outcome might lead to
information—this is positive. disastrous consequences.
Women = Men =
• More likely to downplay • More likely to downplay their
their own certainty own doubts
• Being certain = being • Being certain = being
aggressive = being ‘un- aggressive = being a ‘man’
lady-like’ • Self-confidence is a positive
• Females modify their trait in males therefore men
speech taking into account are likely to boast and exhibit
the impact they have on the self-confident behavior.
other person’s feelings • Men are likely to ‘toot their
• Self-confidence is viewed own horns’ and brag about
as a negative trait in their accomplishments and
females therefore women not be judged negatively for
are reluctant to reveal the this behavior by society.
confidence that they do
have.
• Women are reluctant to
‘toot their own horns’ or
brag about their
accomplishments
Women = Men =
• More likely to be fair • More likely to try to win or
rather than try to win beat the competitor at all
costs to avoid a ‘one-down’
• ‘Beating’ the position or damage to their
competition is not the reputation
main objective • Likely to begin specifically
• Likely to begin vaguely and negotiate out from there
and work her way into • Unlikely to invite others to
specifics share perspective; rather
• Likely to invite others to expect others to state their
issues, ideas, etc. if they
share their perspective have any (part of the game)
• Likely to consider the • Unlikely to consider the
competitors personal competitors feelings and
feelings and pleas and pleas or the impact that the
the impact that the conclusion will have on them
conclusion will have on • Usually expect balanced
them negotiations / “give & take” or
‘tit for tat’--back and forth
negotiations
Problem = Solution =
Women and men have • Understand that men EXPECT
different expectations about you to negotiate.
how a negotiation is • Understand that many / most
supposed to play out. situations in life will require
• A negotiation begun negotiation skills.
vaguely may be viewed as
a sign of weakness and an • Be aware that a negotiation is
invitation for the competitor to be played like a ‘game’ and
to take control the goal is to WIN the game!
• A negotiation begun with a • Be prepared to negotiate.
specific claim may be
viewed as a nonnegotiable • Negotiate specifically, not
demand and may end the vaguely, & allow for flexibility.
negotiation process
completely • Be fair and kind but do not be
• Many women do not taken advantage of for being
understand that winning the kind and fair.
negotiation is the goal.
• Try to create a ‘win-win’ for all.
Women = Men =
• Social constraints against • Social organization is
females giving direction hierarchical for men /
exist in the USA. someone is in the ‘one-up”
• Women who tell others position and someone is in
what to do are called the ‘one-down’ position on
‘bossy’ the ladder ALL OF THE
• More likely to phrase ideas TIME!
as ‘suggestions’ rather • Men are expected to give
than directives directives and ‘boss’ the
• More likely to explain other lower-status members
directives in terms of the around
good they will do for the • More likely to state their
group overall opinions strongly and create
• More likely to be concerned an impression of confidence
with being liked by the • Less likely to be concerned
group about being ‘liked’; rather
• More likely to allow concerned about being
someone else to take credit ‘respected and admired’
for their accomplishments • More likely to talk about their
positive accomplishments and
‘toot their own horn’ / be
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Leadership
Problems & Solutions for the Female Communicator
Problem = Solution =
Society in the USA expects • Behave like a 24 / 7 professional
men and women to play by and adopt traits typical of leaders
– Be self-confident & certain
different rules. – Be caring / empathetic / fair
• Leaders are viewed – Be charismatic
as less competent • DO NOT phrase directives as
and less self-assured suggestions—give directions /
when phrasing orders as needed
directives as • State your opinions and back
‘suggestions’ them up with facts and
• Men are more likely to information.
behave in ways that • Be more concerned with being
get them recognized RESPECTED and less concerned
as “leaders” in the with being POPULAR and LIKED
by others.
workplace
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