Amour Propre

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 Self-love

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Do you struggle
with self-
esteem?
 What do you think are the causes of struggling with
self-esteem?
 Uninvolved/Negligent Parents

 Everyone deserves a loving family, but some young

people have the misfortune of not getting adequate
support at home. This can cause significant self-
esteem problems for young people, as those who are
supposed to care for them most may not seem to.
 Negative Peers

 Being part of a social group that brings you down –

by not respecting you, by pressuring you to do things
you’re not comfortable with, by not valuing your
thoughts and feeling etc. – can cause you to feel like
something is wrong with you, or that the only way for
you to be liked is to do what others want and not
listen to your own heart and mind.
 Body Image

The University of Washington’s Teen Health and the

Media reports that 53% of girls surveyed were
unhappy with their bodies. In the book, I’m Like, SO
Fat! It reports that 50% of teen girls and 30% of teen
boys practice unhealthy behaviors in an effort to lose
weight, including skipping meals, vomiting, smoking
cigarettes, fasting and using laxatives.
 Body image is a huge factor in young people’s self
esteem, especially that of a young women. From the
moment we’re born, we’re surrounded by unrealistic
images of what women should look like, what the
“ideal” body type is.
 Social media is one of the things that we can’t let go
in a day. And it has given way to a narcissistic world
where we’re updated with status updates, photos and
humble brags that can make us lose our own sense of
self worth.
Example #1 – BODY SHAPE
Example #2 – SKIN COLOR
Example #3 – ACNE
 Small Fish, Big Pond

 Young people go through the infamous “existential

crisis” – a time when the meaning of his or her life is
called into question.
 “Why am I here? What do I matter?”
 Unrealistic Goals

 Some young people expect too much of themselves in

terms of school achievement, extracurricular
involvement and/or social status.
 Those who struggle academically may think they
should be getting straight A’s all the time
 Those who perform well academically may try to take
on too many other activities and expect to be “the
best” at all of them.
 Young people who crave popularity may expect
everyone to like them.
 Negative Thought Patterns

 If you have often felt that you’re worthless or

inferior, if you constantly think negative thoughts
and say negative things about yourself, then you’re
likely to go on feeling and thinking the same way
unless you break the cycle by challenging your
negative thoughts and feelings about yourself.
 Take away the condition

 “I’ll love myself when..”

 “I would love myself more if…”
 “I love myself but…”

“I love myself”

 REMEMBER!

You don’t need anyone else’s

approval.
You don’t need to lose 10
pounds first.
You don’t need to justify
yourself to anyone.
 So it’s not choosing one or the other. It’s just
choosing yourself. You love yoursef in the past and
who you’ll be in the future, but the important thing is
that you love and create space for yourself right now,
in this moment.
 The next time you find yourself saying, “I’ll love
myself when I lose 10 pounds”. STOP. Remember,
YOU ARE EVERY BIT WORTH LOVING RIGHT
NOW.
 Watch your language and the things you say
about yourself

 Watch your words and what you say to yourself,

because that will become your destiny.
 Also, be mindful of what you said about others as
well. Because when we say in a judgemental or
negative way about others we’re really reflecting and
showing how we truly feel about ourselves in the
world.
 REMEMBER!

 IF YOU WANT TO LOVE YOURSELF MORE, STOP

HATING HOW MUCH YOU HATE YOUR ARMS OR
THIGHS OR WHATEVER IT IS, WHICH BRINGS
ME TO MY NEXT POINT…
 Focus on what you love about yourself

 Instead of focusing on what you don’t like about

yourself, focus on the things you do love about
yourself.
 When you feel good about loving parts of yourself
you start loving the other parts of yourself, too.
 Choose yourself on a daily basis

 Self love is choosing yourself on a daily basis, even

when it’s hard. Even when it’s comfortable. Even
when it’s easier to hate yourself. Even when other
people give you a hard time.
 It’s putting your own happiness, sanity, and love
first. You’re basically saying to yourself, “I am
worthy. I am loved”, which you are.
 There will be a lot of emotions and feelings that will
surface. Doubt, shame, worry, hope, inspiration, etc.
feel them and then let the ones that are not serving
to go.
 Allow yourself the space to forgive, heal nd love
again.
 REMEMBER!

 IT DOESN’T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT AND THAT

THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.
 THIS ISN’T A RACE OR COMPETITION, SO
EMBRACE WHERE YOU ARE IN YOUR OWN
JOURNEY.
 IT IS POSSIBLE TO HAVE A HEALTHY, AMAZING
RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF.
GO OUT BE
WHO YOU
ARE! 