Effective Parenting

for a healthy Child

Group No. 13
Pallavi Mittal N039
Sumit Gupta N073
Sunil Jhakar N075
Supriya Naskar N078
Vikram P Singh N080
Animesh Kumar N082
Dr.Sushil Bharti H015
What is Parenting?

• What do we mean by Parenting?

Parenting Styles

The way children are nurtured today,

influences the type of people they become
tomorrow!
Parenting Styles
 Permissive
Parenting Style
High Love and Low Limits
Permissive Parents
• Hold few expectations or standards
for the child’s behavior

• Rarely punish inappropriate

behavior

• Impose little respect for order &

routine

• Are non-controlling and

lack discipline

• Let children walk over them.

 Authoritarian
Parenting Style
Low Love and High Limits
Authoritarian Parents
• One way Communication(Instructional
teaching).
• Convey less emotional warmth.

• Establish rules without regarding child’s

needs.

• Have high & unrealistic expectations

from the child.

• Rarely provide affection and

encouragement.

• Value unquestioned obedience.

 Authoritative
Parenting Style
High Love and High Limits
 Authoritative Parents
• Two way communication.

• Loving, supportive environment

• Reasonable expectations from the

child.

• Consistent rules.

• Combine control with encouragement.

Objectives:
 Toprovide parents, the strategies which will
help them develop and maintain a healthy
relationship with their child.

 Natural Powers

 Parenting Strategies

 Success Stories
Making Decisions About Parenthood
 Clear understanding
 Planning
 Emotional Maturity
 Desire & Drive
 Financial Planning
 Management Skills
 Passion & Commitment
 Ability to design positive atmosphere
 Highest Degree of Work Ethics
 Invisible Powers
 Power of Spoken Words (Communication)

 Power of Imaginations (Dreams)

 Power of Subconscious mind

 Power of Life (Energy System)

 Power of Submission (Natural System)

 Video Clip 1

What message is the video trying to

convey?
 New Responsibilities
 Raising a child is more than a day-to-
day assignment…
It is LIFE-LONG commitment!!
 A child needs - - - -
Financial care LOVE

Physical care Support

Guidance
Parenting Strategies
 Challenge Vs. Support (Over-protective?)
 Parents’ life-style and Relationship
 Parents to adapt to meet children needs.
 Affection, acceptance, understanding,
encouragement
 Nature and Nurture work together
 Quality Time: Close, friendly & responsive
 Emotional Adjustments: Personal
Freedom
 Working Parents: Spirit
Meeting Children’s Needs
 Basic Needs for life
 Nutrition
 Immunization
 Health & Safety
 Growth Monitoring
 Begin teaching them language
 Foster intellectual growth by taking an
active role in their schooling
 Opportunities for them to love and be
loved.
 Nurturing
 Parenting: A Learning Process
 Parents: A Coach, friend and facilitator for Opportunities,
Freedom, learning.
 Parenting – caring for children and helping them develop. A
foundation to lead towards learning and achievement.
 A uniquely creative, intensive personalized and long lasting care.
 Create an atmosphere at home by integrating the head, heart
and hand of the child.
 Giving “extra Quality time” which is meaningful results into Long-
term bonding, and emotional well being. Success lies with “extra
mile”.
 Having Reasonable Expectations (Avoid comparison).
 Good conversation with child is balance between what you want
from him and what they want to tell you. Children will always
come first in life.
 Regular communication between parents and teachers.
Act your age!!
 Communication Strategy
 Communication within Parents, child,
teachers, friends and extended family.
 Long-term bonding and confidence
 Emotional well-being
 Be positive and polite
 Give praise and love
 Limit the directions
 Talk about what’s meaningful
 Good conversation: exchange views
 Interactive: Games, Shopping, Cooking
 Appreciating strengths and working on
weaknesses
 Managing Tantrums (Power Plays)
 How do you approach Common Problems?
Sr. No. I II III
Demand a consistent Identify the appropriate Talk and play until children
1
bedtime. bedtime, then enforce it. get tired.
Insist on having the Identify appropriate chores, Clean children's rooms and
2
house clean. then assign them. pick up after them.
Ask if homework was done or
Do step by step Review homework before
3 assume it had been
monitoring of homework. play.
completed.
Insist of having a set
Schedule reading time for
4 number of books read by Buy an occasional book.
school work and fun.
a certain time.
See expression of anger Allow expression of anger Allow unmodulated
5
as disrespect. within limits. expression of anger.
Insist on meeting all Encourage children to invite Show little interest in meeting
6
friends. friends over. friends.
Interpretation:
If you checked most of the
If you opt items mostly in
items in column II, you have If you opted most of the
column I, you may focus
internalised a well-balanced items in column III, you may
too much on structure
approach to parenting. You focus too much on process,
with your children and
provide structure when your on letting your child has too
rigid on getting things
child needs it most and allow much freedom without setting
done in a certain way and
freedom to your child to limits.
by certain time.
maintain his individuality.
Elementary School (5-8 Years)
 Selection of suitable school for your child.
 Getting your child to follow instructions is the first step
towards success in school.
 Most successful students are the ones who behave
well in class, follow instructions, accept criticism and
get along well with their classmates. Students who
possess positive social skills have a better chance of
doing well academically.
 A/C to Psychologists, child’s friends are the child’s
chosen family and if these friends are accommodating,
he feels confident and happy.
Factors Affecting in shaping up a kid
The factors which carves out parenting style and
children’s Behaviors

• Family structure
• Social values and civilization
• Role models Change effect
• Literature effect
• Expectation of parents
• Peer Pressure
Parenting of Child(0 to 8 years) in 80’s
Family Structure in 80’s
• Combined families lead to teamwork and accommodative nature
• Parents had several kids leads to collective bring-up
• All needs of kids never met, bigger one take charges,
• Clothes, school bags etc. usually on sharing basis.
• This lead to inculcate compromising nature
Social Values & Civilization
Social values and Civilization in 80’s:
• Traditional and hardworking way to achieve goals.
• High moral values, low unethical practices.
• Literature and roles models where presented as very sensitive to
society.
• Life style was simple collaborative on model, readiness to help other
was very high.
• Same culture caused inbuilt values in persons character
Social Values & Civilization
Social values post 2000:
• Smart way to get work done.
• More purchasing power.
• Self centric approach.
• Less exposure to moral values, its what ever being transmitted by TV’s
and mass communication medium has severe effect on kids bring-up.
• Change in mindset towards life and its standard.
• Aggressive approach and short-tempered behavior.
Literature and Role model
Literature Effect
- Malgudi days to Nobita ,ShinChain
- Panch tantra kee kahaniya
- Tenalirama
- Comic characters etc.
- Ex: Eedgah ke Hameed kee education and
motivational kahani.
Todays Literature:
• Yo-Yo Honey Singh’s – Char Bottle Vodka,
Kaam Mera Rojka
• Hai laude kadak laude literature in FM.
• Type of news and TV programs heavily
affecting child's behavior
Business Opportunities- 0 to 8 years
Kids Skill development industry
Various skill development industry likewise, Art,
Music, Mathematics etc. has take a key role and
lead to development of skill development industry..

Creche industry:
Thousands of professional Creche are being run for working parents.
These Creches are integrated child development program.

Professional outdoor classes for various activities

School’s and other player in education identified need of students
and parents and they grabbed business opportunities out of that,
purchasing power of parents lead to professional approach and
education for various activities.
Business Opportunities out of this
Professional medical services

Kids Entertainment Industry

Kids Nutrition Industry

Apparel Industry

Primary School industry

Primary Education
How to overcome Problem
Parents has become role model for kids
• Kids mostly follow their parents behavior and approach towards
society so parents has to act as role model for kids via behavior,
approach towards other, approach towards society.
• Teaching the stories of high moral values personalities, motivate
kids to choose role model out of that and try to follow moral value
of them.
• Filtered access to literature, TV, Internet.
• Explaining them the moral values of families, why and how they are
important.
• Enforcing various learning with mutual consent.
• Avoid putting parents expectation pressure on kids, also stop
comparing with others.
Parenting of Child(8 to 16years)

 Healthy Child
 IMR
 MMR
 Parenting starts 9 Months Back
 Folic acid need or Thyroid disorder etc
 From 8-12 children to 1 or 2
 Lifestyle changes, etc causing health problems
 Increase in Cesarean Deliveries
Parenting of Child(8 to 16years)
 8 Years

 Doli Incapax

 Section 82 says nothing is an offence which is done by a

child under seven years of age.

 Section 83 says nothing is an offence which is done by a

child above seven years of age and under twelve, who
has not attained sufficient maturity of understanding to
judge of the nature and consequences of his conduct on
that occasion.
 Puberty Age:- arrogance, confusion, irritation, stress
 Too Much Pampering
 Too much Hardness
 Lord Buddha…… Middle Path
 Give the child the freedom required along with an
eye to see their course…and help when they need
 Right Medicine at Right Time

 16…. Solah baras ki bali umar ko salam

Parenting of Child(16 and above)
This is a time of changes for how teenagers think, feel, and
interact with others, and how their bodies grow. Most girls
will be physically mature by now, and most will have
completed puberty. Boys might still be maturing physically
during this time. Your teen might have concerns about their
body size, shape, or weight. Eating disorders also can be
common, especially among girls. During this time, your teen is
developing his unique personality and opinions. Relationships
with friends are important, yet your teen will have other
interests as he develops a more dear sense of who he is. This
is also an important time to prepare for more independence
and responsibility many teenagers start working and many
will be leaving home soon after high school.
Emotional & Social Changes
Children in this age group might:
Have more interest in romantic relationships and sexuality, Go
through less conflict with parents.
Show more independence from parents.
Have a deeper capacity for caring and sharing and for
developing more Intimate relationships.
Spend less time with parents and more time with friends.
feel a lot of sadness or depression, which can lead to poor
grades at school, alcohol or drug use, unsafe sex, and other
problems.
Thinking & Learning
Children in this age group might:
• Learn more defined work habits.
• Show more concern about future school and work plans.
• Be better able to give reasons for their own choices.
including about what is right or wrong.
Positive Parenting Tips
• Respect your teen`s opinion. Listen to them without playing
down their concerns.
• Encourage your teen to develop solutions to problems or
conflicts. Help your teenager learn to make good decisions.
Create opportunities for him to use his own judgment, and
be available for advice and support.
• If your teen engage in interactive internet media such as
games, chat rooms, and instant messaging, encourage
them to make good decisions about what she posts and the
amount of time she spent on these activities.
• If your teen works, use the opportunity to talk about
expectations, responsibilities, dealing difficult situations..
• Respect your teen's need for privacy.
Positive Parenting Tips
• Encourage your teen to get enough sleep and exercise, and
to eat healthy, balanced meals.
• Encourage your teen to have meals with the family. Eating
together will help your teen make better choices about the
foods she eats, promote healthy weight, and spend quality
with them.
• In addition, a teen who eats meals with the family is more
likely to have better grades and less likely to smoke, drink,
or use drugs. She is also less likely to go into fights, think
about suicide, or engage in sexual activity
Conclusion:
• Parenting is tough, frustrating, fun, enriching and confusing.
As a parent, you will probably feel many different emotions
every day about your parenting style and child. You don’t
have to be a perfect parent- you have to be good enough.
• Set empathetic limits- consistently.
• Listen attentively to your child.
• Appreciate your child regularly, and specifically when
he/she is actually achieve something good.
• Work on identifying emotions- and developing personal
strategies for them. (Example- Your child likes to sit in her
room and color when she/he is upset).
• PLAY together!
• Eat together!
References:
 Shrimad Bhagwad Gita
 Effective Parenting by Dr. Shyama Chona,
Hay House India, 2015.
 Models of Human Development by
Sigmund Freud
 Wings of Fire by Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam
 Ignited Minds by Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam
 The Power of Your Subconscious Mind-
Joseph Murphy