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MBA 09053
Sankar Rajan MBA 09091 Saraswat Bhattacharya MBA 09093 Vinay Gupta MBA 09121 Vivek Ramdas MBA 09123
WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO BE
HAPPY
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SO WHAT IS HAPPINESS
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The True meaning of happiness is: A rich, full and meaningful life , where are actions come from our values close to our heart
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We can control but we have very little control over our inner mind Culture teach us to control our feelings, thoughts etc
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DIFFUSION TECHNIQUE
Relate to your thought in a new way accept it The mind is a great story teller hence we all fall prey to cognitive fusion
Thoughts= words in our heads y Images =pictures inside our head y Sensation feelings inside our body
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WHAT IS DIFFUSION
Diffusion is all about seeing them for what they really are and making peace with them; allowing them to be there without fighting them
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A Significant event
EXPANSION
Making room for unpleasant feeling sensation and urges The key :observe and be aware of yourself
Step 1:observe y Step2 breath y Step3 Allow and acknowledge those feelings
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URGE SURFING
OBSERVE
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CONNECTION
Connection means fully living in the present; focusing on and engaging on fully whatever we do Being in present The simple 5 things technique Connecting with morning routine:)
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VALUES
Values are ideas and beliefs we hold dear to heart- how we want to live be treated and so on. Be in connect with your values- and make clear what is important to you
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What sort of person do you want to be? What personal strengths or qualities do you want to develop? 1. Work/Education: includes workplace, career, education, skills development, etc. 2. Relationships: includes your partner, children, parents, relatives, friends, co-workers, and other social contacts. 3. Personal Growth/Health: may include religion, spirituality, creativity, life skills, meditation, yoga, nature; exercise, nutrition, and/or addressing health risk factors like smoking, alcohol, drugs or overeating etc 4. Leisure: how you play, relax, stimulate, or enjoy yourself; activities for rest, recreation, fun and creativity. THE BULLS EYE: make an X in each area of the dart board, to represent where you stand today
COMMITTED ACTION
Take effective actions - Guided by values Take actions again and again
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Pleasure Temptations
Sins/ Unethical
Path to excellence
Hurting anyone deeply and deep love cannot be together
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WHAT IS AWARENESS
Awareness
L ve / N eg , Neur tic
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Knowledge
Discipline
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Success is not an accident Balancing Ones Ambition Getting out of unrealistic Measures
Discipline,
Strict measures
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Being
Doing
Having
Unhealthy Process
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Doing
Being
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Excellence happens because ones being (sum total of his strengths, interests and innate talents) Flows into his doing (the work or profession that he has chosen) The havings or the rewards associated with the work in terms of promotions, monetary rewards, name, fame, respect etc. accrue to him because of his outstanding work quality 39
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Task Competence
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IDENTIFYING YOURSELF
Normal Self Narcissistic Self
Real Person: Weak , Vulnerable Artificial Person: Superhero, Sky high ego We may give more credit to ourselves than required Bottom-line: Find out our own weakness and address the problem
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INTEGRATED PERSON
Spirit (Spiritual)
Enjoys what he does; encourages & supports growth of others
Invests constantly in their chosen vocation; deals with information very effectively
Body (Physiological)
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Object
The quality of the selfs attention to the experience which ensures happiness or lack of it This is one of the main reason even rich people may not H H H be happy H H U U H E.g. Enjoying a cup of coffee, Natural beauty etc. U H Paying attention to each H and every pleasurable activity can go a very long way to enjoy our material prosperity and adding to our overall happiness and gratitude Mind as a bucket which accumulates happiness as H and unhappines s as U levels.
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One needs to be constantly aware of what is happening in ones life on a moment-to-moment basis. This helps one to collect Hs from pleasurable experiences and to avoid Us as much as possible. An awareness of this fact may help one to sort out many of ones bad habits, which generate unpleasantness
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Frustration Procrastination Pressure Jealousy Greed Anger Guilt Revenge Anxiety Worry
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X+Y+Z+W= Happiness
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Hard optimism is all about not thinking negative. Think positive vs Eliminating negative thoughts. An attitude of positive expectancy energizes us, calls out our potential and heightens our awareness of opportunity. A negative frame of mind saps your energy as well as the energy of people around you, weakens your confidence, hurts your creativity and problem solving skills.
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Hard optimism doesnt come from merely repeating positive statements to ourselves to ourselves. It comes when we change how we deal with our negative thoughts and feelings. Positive thinking is important but nonnegative thinking is the essence of hard optimism. Optimism or pessimism - ultimately its your choice
What an interesting life I had. And how I wish I had realized it sooner.
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Is optimism inherited? To a certain extent. But it can also be developed over time i.e. shaped by your early upbringing plus the influence of lifes ups and downs.
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significantly once they enter puberty. Females have greater emotional range than men i.e. more optimism and pessimism. Fate doesnt determine our emotional fortune. Fate is one thing, but how we choose to face it is quite another.
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Circumstances are going to affect your attitude. DNA also has its say in who you are and how you feel. But your own consciousness bats last. Change the way you look at life and you literally shape a different life for yourself.
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How optimists interpret bad events : Transient External Specific to the situation i.e. not pervasive. How optimists interpret good events : Long lasting Internal Pervasive
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Why pessimists bog down in bad events? They habitually accuse themselves of being the root cause of their troubles. Pessimists expect that bad events will be permanent. Pessimists convince themselves that bad effects will be pervasive.
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Pessimists warped explanations for good events : Success gets attributed to external factors. Good fortune is a random event i.e. temporary. Causes of good events are specific in nature.
Whenever he thought about it he felt terrible. And so, at last, he came to a fateful decision. He decided not to think about it.
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Kill negative thinking while its young. When worry first sets in take a moment to reflect on past successes. Deliberately change your inner voice from problem talk to solution talk. If youre hit with the urge to complain put it on hold until youve scanned for good news.
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Resist the urge to commiserate with others. It is not rewarding and just sucks all the optimism out of the air. Beware of falling into the trap of criticizing. Never catastrophize. Catastrophizing is a feeding frenzy of brooding about the past and imagining worst-case scenarios for the future.
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Optical illusion Ugly old woman vs Beautiful young woman. Positive reappraisal refers to deliberate switching of your attention from worst-case to best-case thinking. Eyeing adversity from a positive angle opens up our field of view. We start looking at the situation with a broader and longer-term perspective.
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People who practice positive reappraisal have a way of emerging from difficulties stronger, happier and better off than before. How you construe a situation literally helps create the reality. Learn to exploit adversity.
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Research shows that hope plays a surprisingly potent role in giving people a measurable advantage in realms as diverse as academic achievement, bearing up in onerous jobs and coping with tragic illness. Hope helps move us in the direction of our goals and ambitions.
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Under the influence of hope we think in terms of possibilities, answers and solutions instead of limits, losses and fears. When hope fades -: We lose confidence. Our willpower starts to slip. We quit stretching, lower our sights and start calculating fallback positions.
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Most of us make the mistake of counting on hope to just happen. We should realize that this is a skill we should develop. Always give hope a fighting chance.
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
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IT IS A DELIBERATE EFFORT.
Myth is that to try to culture happiness may seem to destroy spontaneity of nature. Todays world is not that peaceful & romantic. World became complex and pressures are great and confusing. Deliberate effort must be made to culture essential ingredients of happiness. Self awareness and acknowledgement is the key.
Its very real. So real that brains Pleasure centre can be stimulated externally. Natural purpose is like the sugar coating on pill to make man do necessary thing to survive. Over indulgence is like a child eating a full bottle of iron pill and gets poisoned. Greed, selfishness and self indulgent is the consequence. No natural cut off to it. So its us who have to balance.
Excitement
Highly short ter. Soon wears off and demands more and more effort. Boredom, ingredient for further unhappiness, is created by excitement. Most of the time counter productive, blunt our senses. Have to be cultured very carefully.
Enthusiasm
Opposite of apathy, so life enhancing. Can be attached to anything. Not that counter productive without balance. But excessive enthusiasm can lead to frequent switching of interest. Possibility of being carried away, unable to invest effort and interest in absence of it.
Joy
Pleasure of more aesthetic and intellectual type. Circumstances arouse joy may be recognized, but not easily produced on demand. A combination of circumstances and mood.
Interest
Permanent source of pleasure. Distinct source of happiness in itself. Durable, dependable and permanent.
Relief
Freedom from fear and worry, freedom from guilt, freedom from pressure. Though brief, covers specific moments of happiness, but still very important. In todays world, relief from complexity and confusion is real happiness. Relief from being able to make a difficult effective decision is also real happiness.
Peace
More than just the absence of discomfort. More than just relief, complacency and smugness. Proper functioning of human system. No excess friction or strain, unconstrained happiness.
Probably not possible to induce happiness. Individual can generate or choose circumstances which themselves generate. Identifying the situations that cause moods swings. To smooth them out, rather more acknowledging them. One days depression never fails persuit of happiness.
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