Forgiveness leads To Anger management for healthy living.

Submitted by: Owais Ahmad Bhat Section-C A1802011124

To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.

FORGIVENESS
Forgiveness is a non-verbal concept that cannot be adequately captured in words. We can best know what forgiveness is when we experience forgiving. Words can help to point in the right direction, though, and in particular clarify what forgiveness is not. Metaphors can also have a helpful function in providing understanding where words fail. It involves a process of dissolving feelings of anger, resentment and/or hatred towards an individual who is perceived to have selfishly or maliciously done one deliberate harm, by means of the cultivation of some degree of compassion towards the offender, and/or the acceptance of such positive feelings should they happen to evolve naturally in the victims experience.

Understanding Total Forgiveness:

Forgiveness is not just a decision that you can make in your mind. Forgiveness requires an emotional and physical release to be complete. Your body is capable of holding onto anger long after your mind thinks it has forgiven. Forgiveness does not absolve the wrongdoer--you don't have that kind of power. Forgiving doesn't mean you have decided that what the wrongdoer did is okay. You don't have to wait for the wrongdoer to change for you to forgive. You won't be able to forgive until you have fully examined the depth and extent of your wounds. You won't be able to forgive until you have acknowledged the full depths of your anger. Forgiveness is for you. Love and forgiveness are good for your health. Total forgiveness allows you to be more loving and joyful

The power of forgiveness ....

It is a gift given to the offender that they do not deserve. The offender need not know it has been given. It is a private, spiritual experience of letting go of anger and resentment and offering loving kindness to the transcendental, unchanging part of the offenders being. It is given freely by the person who is doing the forgiving. Forgiveness means making a commitment to ending the feelings of anger, resentment or hatred that are harboured towards that individual.

The Five Stages Of Forgiveness.

1. Develop a clear understanding of the wrongdoing or harm that was done to you and who is reponsible. Be aware that the love and forgiveness you are looking for will also depend on you recognizing your own responsibility for what happened. 2. Identify and acknowledge all of your feelings in response to what happened, including pain, fear and anger primarily. Writing about these feelings can be extremely helpful for emotional healing. 3. Talk through these feelings with a trusted confidant--a good friend or trusted counselor. 4. Fully release all negative emotions, including anger, fear and sorrow. You must give full, complete and healthy expression to your anger to arrive at love and forgiveness. 5. Choose joy, peace and well being for yourself.

The effects of unforgiveness

Psychiatrists find that people who feel incapable of or unwilling to forgive past hurts experience greater levels of anxiety and depression. They are also at a higher cardiovascular disease and cancer. risk of

Psychological and physical symptoms such as stress-related backache, insomnia and stomach aches are common.

ANGER
Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Anger can be a good thing. It can give you a way to express negative feelings, for example, or motivate you to find solutions to problems. But excessive anger can cause problems. Increased blood pressure and other physical changes associated with anger make it difficult to think straight and harm your physical and mental health.

Speak when you are angry- and ull make the best speech youll ever regret.

Anger Management Tips

Find a safe spot. Yelling at friends or family members, slamming doors, and breaking crockery doesn't solve any problem and frequently escalates angry situations between people. Yet, sometimes you just need to vent. Finding a safe spot to act our your anger can relieve the majority of your stress, calming you enough to solve the real problem at hand. Go to a basement room and scream your head off! Take an empty jar to your basement and break it, (remember to sweep up when you're done). Stomp on a few aluminum cans. Throw a tennis ball at the garage wall. Buy a punching bag. Breath Deep. Anger often begins when we feel weaker than we really are. Molehills loom like mountains. Taking a few deep breaths calms you, makes you feel stronger both mentally and physically, and can cut those mountains down to size!

Contd
Count to ten. Sounds simple, but counting to ten is an anger management tip that has worked for centuries! The Roman poet Horace (65 - 8 BCE) said, "When angry, count ten before you speak; if very angry, one hundred." Counting to ten (or one hundred) helps you to step back from the situation, buys time for you to examine the problem and decide on an effective, rational way to express your anger. Give yourself a break. It's easier to think when you're calm than when you're agitated. Leave the room, take a walk, 'whistle a happy tune'. Then come back to the problem, examine it, and solve it. Look for the sweet spot. Learn to act and not react. Although every cloud doesn't have a silver lining, when life hands you a lemon, you can make lemonade and when you get angry, you can find a positive way to express it!

LearN tO FOrGIVe & MOVe ON