Work life balance

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Presented by-
Nidhi Sharma
Identify with the contribution not
task
 Input- output rule
“ Even if you are on the right track you’ll
get run over if you just sit there”- Rogers
 Criteria to eliminate tasks & redeploy your time-
4. If you stop doing this for two weeks will anyone
care?
5. Is the reason you began doing this still valid
today?
6. Does this take up disproportionate amount of
time compared to the result
7. Is there someone else who would love to do
this?
8. Can you get better at this & reduce the time
reqd?
 Leverage
• Reducing complex to the basics
2. Ask why?
3. Ask for objective information
4. Ask for evidence
• Working hard & not smart
“ Life & work are about success, not perfection. The
fact demands that you be willing to live with moderate
degrees of ambiguity. Once you are comfortable with
that , you’ll be working far smarter and with less
effort”
• How to have more time than what you need?
8. Plan your day, but with flexibility
9. Make a list
10. Eliminate the non essential
11. Delegate
12. Combine downtime with uptime
13. Get tough
• Four choices for Action-

Timing

Cause Corrective Preventive

Factors

Effect Adaptive Contingent

• “ Seek to remove the causes of problems and prevent

future causes from occuring. That’s leverage”
 Innovation & Risk
“ We’re here to make waves, not to stick our toes in the
water”

• The time to take prudent risk is when you are having

hard times or moderate success. The time to take
stronger risk is when you are doing wonderfully well
• People who say they’ve never failed are in one of the
three positions
 They’ve never tried anything worthwhile
 They’ve failed and they don’t realize it
 They’re lying
Reinventing yourself
• Reinvention doesn’t
necessarily replace
who you are & what
you do, but it provides
for new dimensions &
attitudes
Reinvent yourself with
foll in mind-
• Sincere interest in the
new field
• Look at it as a
 “ Try building on your success, not
correcting weaknesses. Correcting
weaknesses is hard work & improving on
clear strengths is smart work”
 Balance at rest
 Life balance
isn’t abt the
presence or
lack of activity,
but rather how
that activity is
distributed
 Success
provides
 A momentum
and habit of
learning
 Self esteem
It is the acquisition of
skills, the
appreciation of that
success to motivate
us for the
acquisition of more
skills in a self
perpetuating cycle

 External locus
of control
 Creating personal challenges
 The challenge to exceed prior
performance
 The challenge to master something
 The challenge to try something new

“ Life is about success, not perfection.

A major component of success in
your life is to continually create
personal challenges that you pursue
with relish”
 If you don’t reward yourself, you
reward no one
 Discretionary time
 Personal space & soirituality
 Finance & health
Short term & Long term personal
rewards
 The reward of giving
 The reward of permission
 The reward of a gift
 The reward of a change
 The reward of a respite
 The reward of congratulations
Instantiating your dreams
 Positive dreams reflect your aspirations,
unused talents & vicarious needs.
Negative dreams are about revenge &
vindication. The latter can be positive if
they serve to exorcise feelings that will
therefore not influence actual behavior.
The former are always constructive and
can be used to influence behavior.

Making your dreams come true

 Recognize the validity of the dream or
aspiration
 Ask yourself what obstacles are in route to
progress towards fulfillment
 Strive for progress, not perfection

How Stress can help you
 Identify the stress causing
situations
 Evaluate whether the stress is
significant enough to take action
 Estimate what the likely result of
you making a different decision
might be
 Select a course of action
 Act at the next available opportunity
 Assess the result
 There are 2 primary causes of stress in our
workplace & personal lives
 Not knowing what may happen tomorrow
 The belief that we have no control over what may
happen

“Our need to control is deep seated & emotional & is a

combination of fear of the unknown & mistrust of
other’s judgments. We must surrender that need &
accept that we control very little”
 Balance in Relationships
Influencing others is an art form
 Power & coercion
 Normative pressure
 Enlightened self interest
If you want to influence someone you must determine
what is in the other person’s self interest and appeal
to it in such a way that both of your interests are
served

• Intelligent tradeoffs
• Never negotiate away a “must”
• Try to never squash someone else’s must
• Never make a negotiation about "ego”
• Another way to view self interest and influence
others while maintaining balance in relationships
are- values, attitudes, behavior sequence
 Avoiding generalizing specifics
The phenomenon consists of taking a single piece of
perceived evidence and utilizing it as universal truth
The closer we are emotionally to others , the more
probability that we will generalize specifics as we
ignore the context or proportion
 Communicating in the light of the
 Cognitive interference
day
 Environmental
interference

Key aspects of being

honest & authentic in
Relationships
 Show a willingness to listen &
accept feedback
 Admit it when you are wrong

 Never deliberately support a

specious argument just to salvage

your ego
 Keep your mouth shut
 Don’t poison the communication with history, biases &
precedents
Admit it when there is confusion or misunderstanding

Meta talk

 It is a process aimed at reviewing, analyzing &

deciphering how you talk to each other. It
involve
 The Timing of talk

 The location of talk

 The use of Language

 Cause vs Blame
 Its easy to assign blame.
It’s difficult to remove it.
And it’s impossible to
eliminate the blemish
you’ve created for
yourself by resorting to
the tactic to begin with
 Cause is different from
blame in that it is a
combination of elements
that caused the problem.
 Selective openness & receptivity
 Feedback requires
active listening
Feedback checklist
 Do I have a trusting
relationship with the
person
 Is the feedback
specific, timely &
useful
 Does the feedback
contain evidence or
supposition?
 Is there a major issue
involved?

Self possession & control of one’s
Fate
To balance our lives we need to situation ally &
frequently reinforce & renew our “tethers” to various
levels of need. It’;s quite possible to be self actualizing
while we simultaneously require a need to improve our
physical well being or security
The invidious nature of guilt
Recognize guilt for what it is
Separate guilt from culpability &
responsibility
Allow yourself temporary emotional
guilt, then go to pragmatic zero
tolerance
 The courage to stand alone
“ Many people take
refuge in a crowd &
solace in the
anonymity. This will
always mean that
you’re driven by the
herd mentality. True life
balance is about
individual choice, not
for its own success. At
a certain level of
success every person
is an island
The fallacy of perception